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Joining Your Online and Offline Lives

The Escapist this week is running an article entitled Anonymity is not Enough. The article explores the increasing overlap between online and offline lives. From the article: "Freed from accountability for their actions, some players seek to experiment with the more annoying sides of their online identities, becoming in-game griefers or forum trolls. On a more serious level, some use the protection of the screen to pull off scams that can cost unsuspecting players real money, or to stalk other players online (and sometimes offline as well). And for those honest virtual businessmen out there, anonymity can sometimes make it difficult to build the kind of solid reputation of trust that any smart customer looks for."

42 comments

  1. Forum trolls? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0, Funny

    What the fuck are those and why does linux suck so much anyway you fags.

    1. Re:Forum trolls? by SoCalDissident · · Score: 2, Funny

      If only we could make people wear (Score:-1, Troll) T-shirts, it would save us a ton of time, especially at work. Better yet, a tattoo... -1, redudant T-shirt for twins...? or, a (Score:-1, OffTopic) bumper sticker for distracted cell phone talking SUV drivers... I would RTFA, but it's blocked by my work filter. So, not only does my job interfere with my offline life, but also with my online one...

  2. Offline life... by Ekarderif · · Score: 1

    For most of /., it's hard to overlap into something that doesn't exist.

  3. Obligatory Penny Arcade by mazarin5 · · Score: 1

    Obligatory PA: http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2004/03/19 Fortnuately, real life is missing that anonymity, and has real consequences to real bullshit.

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    1. Re:Obligatory Penny Arcade by benjamindees · · Score: 1

      Perhaps that's because "real" bullshit in "real" life is more than just printed words.

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      "I assumed blithely that there were no elves out there in the darkness"
  4. MOD PARENT UP by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Really, what more is there to say on this entire subject?

    +5 Sublime.

  5. How DARE you. by C10H14N2 · · Score: 1

    I'll have you know, I'm out at a bar on Mardi Gras RIGHT NOW. ...god, the shame, it's actually true. Damn, WiFi, damn it to hell.

    1. Re:How DARE you. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0
      > I'll have you know, I'm out at a bar on Mardi Gras RIGHT NOW. ...god, the shame, it's actually true. Damn, WiFi, damn it to hell.

      Well then, redeem yourself. Put that WiFi to good use, set up a feed, and...

      "...SHOW US SOMEBODY ELSE'S TITS!"

    2. Re:How DARE you. by Schitzoflink · · Score: 1

      When at Mardi Gras you shouldn't be able to use a computer, Step away from the machine and go get an Avalanche, if you are on Bourbon st. heading towards Canal St they are at the bar on the left one street away from Canal Street. Follow this with a Grenade (don't remember where that is) then repeat untill you can barely walk.

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      Mr. T carries a postage stamp in his wallet at all times on the back is a list of all the fools he doesn't pity
  6. Another interesting effect by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Freed from accountability for their actions, some players seek to experiment with the more annoying sides of their online identities, becoming in-game griefers or forum trolls.

    Sometimes habits picked up online leak out into offline life. This can include troll-like behavior, but is certainly not limited to trolling.

    A case in point: in many online forums, people express themselves in ways much more vulgar than they ever would in real life. People gradually adopt expressions like "bitch", "cunt", (and so on) which they would never say out loud.

    Or, at least, these people think they would never say these phrases out loud. But quite a lot of the process of word choice is performed at an unconscious mind, so before you know it, you can end up with Senior White House Correspondents accidentally using expressions like sloppy seconds.

    1. Re:Another interesting effect by __aaclcg7560 · · Score: 1

      It never ceases to amaze me when I learn something new on Slashdot. Sloppy seconds, indeed.

    2. Re:Another interesting effect by TheCarp · · Score: 1

      I have to ask... ho wmuch is this a bad thing?

      Perhaps this skew starts to happen because, freed from simple accountability (that is to say that as it becomes harder to associate you with your online identity, the bar is raised for holding you accountable, thus lowering the bar of what behaviour is safe for you to engage in)... people realise that some of our social norms, like not using phrases like "sloppy seconds" is well... silly.

      I mean, these rules of social norms really serve no purpose. However in the "real world" where you may expect to be held "accountable" for certain things, one may be more conservative out of fear of reprisal than they really need to be. Perhaps in the relative anarchy of the "digital world", its not so much that we are getting more vulgar, but that we are realising that our standards for vulgarity are arbitrary and not really useful in any real way.

      I always liked Chomsky's definition of anarchism as "the tendancy in human thought to oppose uneccissary forms of order". It seems appropriate here. Maybe some of the social norms that have grown up in the old climate just arn't as important as we assumed them to be, and the new more free situation of the internet is allowing people to transend these arbitrary rules that have long since ceased to have any real value (if they ever did)

      Its like the people who want to give kids shit for "swearing". They say stupid things like "if you have to swear then you must have a small vocabulary"... so we are complaining about the size of ones vocabulary, and the implied answer is to remove words that function perfectly adequetly for expressing what we use them for... huh?

      Why can't I get up in a buisness meeting and say "well this companies product is a peice of shit and we shouldn't choose it because..."

      Sure I could have used a number o fphrases in my summary statement, but lets face it, everybody knows what shit is, and everybody knows what you do with shit... its a PERFECT analogy for what I think the product is worth and what we should do with it.

      -Steve

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      "I opened my eyes, and everything went dark again"
  7. What offline lives? by ErikTheRed · · Score: 1

    The problem I see the most of is that many people have litereally no lives offline - their entire social world is in some Internet forum or chat room or such. A good number of these people have very limited social skills, and are very difficult to deal with.

    It would be interesting to see some research done with regards to various forms of sociopathy and other psychological disorders that are expressed and / or magnified through "living online" (and this isn't being all holier-than-thou - there aren't a whole lot of people that are 100% psychologicially "well", whatever that is - I certainly won't claim to be).

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    1. Re:What offline lives? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Something that has happened to me recently was that a friend, who had been a bubbly and outgoing person with many real life contacts and interactions, has gotten herself lost in an online (text-based) roleplaying game. She no longer has an offline life, as she gets up every morning and gets on the computer, prefering to live in that online world than to interact in the real world.

      I haven't seen her in more than two months now, because she'd rather be in her online game than going out or even just saying 'hello' to visitors of the other housemates. Not to mention she was three quarters of an hour late to my birthday party because her character was having sex... Despite the fact that she has a real life boyfriend who is always willing...

      She has no real life friends left, and rumour has it her housemates (and live-in boyfriend) are getting sick of the fact that she never speaks to them. Her life is falling apart, but it's okay because she's still got her sword of smiting and the other characters love 'her'.

    2. Re:What offline lives? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I agree with you but I think there has been a significant shift in who games and who does not. Yes, there are parents and housewives out there gaming, but there are also 10 and 11 year olds trying to play with these adults...

      But real life is not equal to online life. There is no kiddie table on the internet.

    3. Re:What offline lives? by snarlydwarf · · Score: 1

      Well, I had an offline life, but I found it worth more on ebay than holding onto it.

      I'm starting a new life now, and once I get a few more levels, I'll powerlevel people in real life for gold.

    4. Re:What offline lives? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Maybe you're the problem, whiny little prick.

    5. Re:What offline lives? by ockegheim · · Score: 1

      Conversely, my dwarf warrior has been suffering because my offline life has been too busy. She's in a friendly guild and is at an interesting stage of her life, but I'm not online enough.

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      I’m old enough to remember 16K of memory being described as “whopping”
    6. Re:What offline lives? by Schitzoflink · · Score: 1

      Have you had an intervention? Sounds like an addiction.

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      Mr. T carries a postage stamp in his wallet at all times on the back is a list of all the fools he doesn't pity
    7. Re:What offline lives? by Sage+Gaspar · · Score: 1

      I've actually done much the same during this, my last semester at college. It's lead me to done a lot of soul searching myself. What kind of life is this? Is it right? Is it good? Can it be natural or fulfilling?

      What I've found is that people who I considered my closest friends, I really don't care about so much as use for company and entertainment, and validation that I'm a good enough human being to be their friend.

      Even if I get off my addiction at some point, I really doubt I'll go back to partying and socializing the way I did before. I just don't think human-to-human interaction has the meaning that I once attached to it. And I think society will eventually head in that direction, we just have a myriad of taboos standing in the way.

    8. Re:What offline lives? by elrous0 · · Score: 1
      I just wish getting gold in real life were as simple as killing a bunch of sword-wielding skeletons.

      -Eric

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      SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
  8. Or in other words... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Printing out your pr0n!!??

  9. MOD PARENT UP!!!!! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    truth!

  10. I'm online, that's it. by GoNINzo · · Score: 1
    I rarely hide my real identity, even putting my regular name alongside my characters in game. I think it helps establish some level of trust with the people i'm playing with, though most rarely return the thought. It also helps that goninzo is unique to me, I'm the only one who (currently) uses it, and that's very rare on the internet these days.

    What scares me is not people's anonymity, but usually two other things associated with it. The first is lack of anonymity, which can ruin a perfectly good game or discussion or quite a few other things. If people want to be assholes in a game or such, and they're sometimes allowed within the game's structure, then they can use in game mechanics to get back at them. But as soon as someone personalizes an experience, and takes it out on the person's real life, then it's not quite so much fun anymore. The PA comic below is a great example of that, tracking down the person's work and telling them that the person traffics in child pornography... not so fun. Or when a company uses it to track your online usage habits, tracking it back to you, and then direct marketing to you. Good times. heh

    The other is the astroturfing. The assuming of multiple identities within a community for the expressed purpose of saying how great something is. Once this becomes common, it will become harder to decide what's getting good word of mouth and what someone is just spending money to make it seem like word of mouth. After all, with software, as soon as you bought it, you have very little recourse if it turns out to be the next Diakatana.

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    Gonzo Granzeau
    "Nothing the god of biomechanics wouldn't let you into heaven for.." -Roy Batty
  11. Bad title by Daetrin · · Score: 1
    It's not a "joining" of online and offline lives which is important, it's a consistency within your online life (or a subset thereof.) The article itself mentions the difference between the two.

    The anonymity between your online and offline life can be important. If i'm a gay-leather-fetishist or a homophobic-neo-nazi i may want to be able to express myself online without having to deal with the negative social repercusions in my real life, and i think that's an important aspect of the net that we shouldn't get rid of. However the members of those two online communities want to be sure that someone who shows up in a new forum (in the figuartive sense) is actually a member of their community and not a troll from the other one. Therefore what's needed is a way to build up a social context to "prove" your online identity is real. People who were concerned about who they admited to certain forums online could restrict them to people who had such cohesive identies and had shown themselves to be trustworthy. And of course if you're using such an idenitiy you can't spout the first thing that comes to mind without worrying about the social consequences.

    Of course there would still be nothing stopping someone from taking the time to build up a false online idenitiy, or maintain two or more different online identities, but there's really not much stopping people from doing that in real life either. Nothing is perfect afterall.

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  12. If you have 20 minutes... by Eightyford · · Score: 1

    If you have 20 minutes to waste, this is a fun read that takes you through the author's experience with the game Eve Online. The author is a jackass for trying to pull off the scam, but the story is very engaging. I liked it, and I've never played Eve Online, let alone any othe MMORPG.

  13. juggling act by amrust · · Score: 1
    When I played FFXI, it was often times a real pain to get many player's schedules to coincide for missions and quests, and constantly deal with the changes in plans for someone you know in-game. As you moved up in level, it took more and more peoples' collective effort to get anything done.

    Try explaining to your wife that "YES... I KNOW I told you we both could go out for dinner this evening. But that was before I found out the healer (or DD, or puller, or Tank, or whatever) had a flat tire and couldn't make it home in time to level last night, remember? So we postponed it to TONIGHT. Sorry, Honey! Didn't you get the link to the guild calendar I emailed to you?"

    I loved the people I played with; such good times. But it created a real juggling act with real-life events. As fun as the game was, it wasn't worth the effort in the long run. I got tired of the overlap, and gave the MMOG world up, last fall. Never looked back. Life is great.

    Your experience may vary.

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    1. Re:juggling act by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The fact that you would even consider trading a date with your wife for time in FFXI should have been enough to tell you that you have a problem. People who have problems managing their online game identities because they clash with their offline responsibilities have their priorities inverted. Online gaming will be there when you're not busy. Real life chances rarely come around more than once.

      What would have happened if your wife had died the day after your raid? Say she had been hit by a car? How would you have felt, knowing that you didn't get that one last date in with her and had fought with her because you were too wrapped up in a game?

    2. Re:juggling act by amrust · · Score: 1

      LOL, I think you got me wrong.

      I used the scenario to describe what schedule conflicts you're presented with, when playing an MMOG. When those types of conflicts came up, and the wife and I had other plans? Tough luck. And my buddies online understood and we adjusted game schedules accordingly. We did it numerous times, both for me and for each other. Some of them had wives or husbands, or wives, or kids, and job changes, too. Real life always came first, for all of us.

      But that's my point, though: When you're moving your gaming schedule to accomodate YOUR real life, that's the way it should be. That works for YOU. Since YOUR real-life schedule is most important. But it goes both ways in MMOGs... you also have to be willing to reschedule your playing time for OTHER PEOPLE's schedules. And be willing to change your gaming plans to accomodate the real-life schedule conflicts of various other people you play the game with. And after awhile, the reschedulings, cancellations and conflicts of trying to get all those other people together, and have their game time coincide with my free time, became too much of a headache while playing. So when it became more 'frustrating' than 'fun' for me most nights, I just quit.

      And others may be able to be there every time, whenever a guild event or etc comes up. Maybe they're life situation is different than mine. Maybe they're single, or whatever? I could see that. But I just personally didn't have the time for it anymore.

      It's a cool game, but it took a LOT of time to quest and level, and stuff like that. Early on, you could get on and do something quick, and get off in an hour or so. But as time went by, and you progressed in level, it took more and more people to do anything fun. And that just compounded the scheduling problems. But they're all probably like that, not just FF.

      Whatever floats your boat, I suppose.

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  14. Using a web-based service to bridge the two by philipkd · · Score: 1

    My friend and I created a website Leetster to create precisely that bridge. Users create profiles in a manner similar to myspace, but providing real life information is highly optional. The site is focused on WoW players, and we have a broad spectrum of profiles from those that go all out with real life info, to those with all WoW-related content, to fake profiles and funnies.

    1. Re:Using a web-based service to bridge the two by queenb**ch · · Score: 1

      Ye gods! Please keep them seperate. The last thing I want is some /.'er showing up at my house, my work, etc. I blog about the in-duh-viduals in my lift as form of therapy. It's likely saved several of them from several varieties of physical abuse at one point or another. However, I don't necessarily know that I'd like them to read it, know who they are and come knocking on my door or stopping at my desk.

      2 cents,

      Queen B

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    2. Re:Using a web-based service to bridge the two by owlman17 · · Score: 1

      Don't you just want to meet that teh l337 h4x0r who keeps trolling you here, in real life so you can show him just what you think of all those l337 h4x0rz? I sometimes have that overwhelming urge.

    3. Re:Using a web-based service to bridge the two by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      they might also find out you are a man

    4. Re:Using a web-based service to bridge the two by elrous0 · · Score: 1
      I just got the mental image of some guys at working sitting by the water cooler one day joking about how I blew it on on the dungeon raid the night before.

      On second thought, considering the age and computer literacy of the people I work with, I'd be more likely to spot an orc by the water cooler.

      -Eric

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      SJW: Someone who has run out of real oppression, and has to fake it.
  15. Mod +5 Troll by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    if any message deserves it, this one does.

  16. Sounds fun!!! by phorm · · Score: 1

    Actually, that would be a fun idea for a tech business where people know the slashot-eque moderation system. Have a shirt with various moderations where people can "mod" the things you do or say over the day. In the end, see if you have 5 checkmarks for -1 troll, and 10 for +1 Insightful :-)

  17. I don't think so, really by Moraelin · · Score: 2, Insightful

    "Sometimes habits picked up online leak out into offline life. This can include troll-like behavior, but is certainly not limited to trolling."

    I dare say that if someone's line of thinking is "muahahaha, I'm anonymous and have an audience, now I can act like a total fuckwad" (like in the PA comic), then that's their _real_ personality: a total fuckwad. It's not as much something they've picked online, it's something that they really were all along.

    Maybe fear of repercursions kept them from doing that offline before, and forced them to act as if they're someone else. But in the end, it's not that going online made them develop a second personality. It just allowed them to drop the mask and act their real personality.

    "A case in point: in many online forums, people express themselves in ways much more vulgar than they ever would in real life. People gradually adopt expressions like "bitch", "cunt", (and so on) which they would never say out loud.

    Or, at least, these people think they would never say these phrases out loud. But quite a lot of the process of word choice is performed at an unconscious mind, so before you know it, you can end up with Senior White House Correspondents accidentally using expressions like sloppy seconds.
    "

    I'm not entirely sure what the point is there. They definitely didn't learn those words on the forums, unless they've lived under a rock since birth and never, for example, saw a Hollywood movie, heard a joke, went to high school, or generally interacted with humans. That correspondent probably heard that expression before IRL a thousand times.

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    1. Re:I don't think so, really by freeweed · · Score: 1

      Maybe fear of repercursions kept them from doing that offline before, and forced them to act as if they're someone else. But in the end, it's not that going online made them develop a second personality. It just allowed them to drop the mask and act their real personality.

      Personally, I've always thought the same about alcohol.

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  18. Hmmm could work by GafferFish · · Score: 1
    Could work, could work. Transfer the various mod ratings onto a t-shirt and sow a strip of velcro (or noticeboard fabric, it's softer) beside then. Have the numbers on little velcro squares and let people mod as appropiate.

    I must now do this.

    1. Re:Hmmm could work by Schitzoflink · · Score: 1

      What about having the various options listed and they just press a tiny button imbedded in the shirt itself then the shirt would send a WiFi signal to a db that would record your scores throughout the day.

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      Mr. T carries a postage stamp in his wallet at all times on the back is a list of all the fools he doesn't pity
  19. Basically, yes by Moraelin · · Score: 1

    "Personally, I've always thought the same about alcohol."

    Basically, yes, that's the idea. If alcohol "made" someone go punch the neighbour in the face or tell the boss a heartfelt "fuck you", chances are that's what they wanted to do when they were sober too.

    And more importantly: they would have done it without alcohol or the internet too, if a time came when they thought they can get away with it. The history is full, for example, of times of anarchy when a whole bunch of people decided to go take vengeance on their neighbour because it looked like they can get away with it or find an excuse for it.

    That's what I should have probably made clearer in the previous message: when someone starts being an asshole IRL too (or when sober too), chances are it didn't "seep" from their Internet behaviour into RL. Chances are they just don't care about the RL consequences either, or decided that those consequences are small enough to live with.

    I've seen people go through such changes with no alcohol or Internet forums being involved. E.g., a timid "Nice Guy" (TM) geek gets promoted to management and starts acting like a flaming asshole. E.g., a nice manager during the dot-com bubble turns into a flaming asshole once he gets the idea "muahahaha, the bubble is over, I can finally wipe the floor with these guys and they won't quit during _this_ crappy period on the job market." Etc.

    And my take is that they didn't just pick a bad influence on the Internet or at the pub or whatever. That's who they really were deep down inside all along. And what brought it to surface wasn't momentarily confusing RL with an online forum, but just deciding that the pretense isn't really needed any more IRL. They would have done it without the Internet just the same.

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  20. Visible impact by phorm · · Score: 1

    It's better if you can see it... but I suppose having the computer hooked to a projected scoreboard or something like that would be equally amusing.