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A 'Clippy'-Style Chatbot -- and Other Creepy Online Dating Innovations (yahoo.com)
An anonymous reader quotes Yahoo Finance:
The dating site eharmony is hoping to launch a chatbot to stop people from ghosting, or cutting off communication with potential matches, CEO Grant Langston exclusively tells Yahoo Finance. The would-be feature, which eharmony has yet to start development on, would pop up in the user interface after an online conversation with another user drops off after several days or weeks. The dating bot could analyze information on both users' dating profiles and recommend they reinitiate contact by prompting them to "Say something" or suggesting something more helpful... . "It's astounding really how many people need help. We think we can do that in an automated way..."
Langston acknowledges the business has a lot to troubleshoot with the feature before it eventually rolls it out, including addressing possible user concerns around user privacy. While having a feature like the date bot could hypothetically increase the odds of a user scoring that first date, it could also unnerve some other users wondering how their prospective suitor knew to ask about their favorite musician, movie or music to begin with. Such concerns could theoretically call for privacy options regulating what kind of profile information the bot can grab and serve up as an icebreaker. The dating site could also decide to generally reign in what the dating bot suggests based on user testing. "Just because you can doesn't necessarily mean you should do," adds Langston.
Meanwhile, a Michigan-based startup has launched what one alternative newsweekly describes as a "Yelp for humans" -- a new browser extension that syncs with a user's pre-existing dating profile on sites like Match.com, OkCupid, PlentyOf Fish, eHarmony, Zoosk or Badoo. "Once installed, a user can leave anonymous comments regarding someone's profile based on dates or interactions gone wrong and those comments can be viewed by other DateAha! users to better inform whether or not the person is a total creep."
And of course, Facebook is testing a new dating app in two more countries, People reports. In order to use the new online dating service, Facebook users will be tasked with creating a new profile that will exist separately from the one that all of your friends and family can see... The dating service will send you suggested matches based "on your preferences, interests, and things you do on Facebook," but the app won't try to make a love connection with any of your Facebook friends (or anybody you have blocked), Facebook promises... You will also have the ability to block or hide anybody -- including specific friends of friends -- from your suggested matches.
Langston acknowledges the business has a lot to troubleshoot with the feature before it eventually rolls it out, including addressing possible user concerns around user privacy. While having a feature like the date bot could hypothetically increase the odds of a user scoring that first date, it could also unnerve some other users wondering how their prospective suitor knew to ask about their favorite musician, movie or music to begin with. Such concerns could theoretically call for privacy options regulating what kind of profile information the bot can grab and serve up as an icebreaker. The dating site could also decide to generally reign in what the dating bot suggests based on user testing. "Just because you can doesn't necessarily mean you should do," adds Langston.
Meanwhile, a Michigan-based startup has launched what one alternative newsweekly describes as a "Yelp for humans" -- a new browser extension that syncs with a user's pre-existing dating profile on sites like Match.com, OkCupid, PlentyOf Fish, eHarmony, Zoosk or Badoo. "Once installed, a user can leave anonymous comments regarding someone's profile based on dates or interactions gone wrong and those comments can be viewed by other DateAha! users to better inform whether or not the person is a total creep."
And of course, Facebook is testing a new dating app in two more countries, People reports. In order to use the new online dating service, Facebook users will be tasked with creating a new profile that will exist separately from the one that all of your friends and family can see... The dating service will send you suggested matches based "on your preferences, interests, and things you do on Facebook," but the app won't try to make a love connection with any of your Facebook friends (or anybody you have blocked), Facebook promises... You will also have the ability to block or hide anybody -- including specific friends of friends -- from your suggested matches.
Only a complete virgin loser like APK would use an internet dating site.
"Yelp for Humans" will lead to a lawsuit if not a class action. That's not even accounting for trolls, bots, or other bad actors who could hijack such a system.
"i see you're trying to get laid"
"Have you tried sending flowers? She likes tulips."
It is a shame that so many people feel they can not simply be normal fools when trying to date. Some of the best lines come from people that feel uncomfortable, but are as normal as anyone else. It is those uncomfortable moments that people share together that help them feel closer. If you can both get through them together, it's certainly worth the date.
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Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen. -- Henry Cloud
"Hi! I'm Caspy the friendly ghostbot. It looks like you're writing a message to someone you were trying to ghost. Are you sure?"
Clearly, there are so few comments thus far because it's a Saturday night and Slashdotters must be out on dates.
Either that, or playing Red Dead Redemption 2.
But in the end, aren't those one and the same?!
No, no they are not.
Corruption is convincing someone that the selfless ideal is the same as their selfish ideal.
When one party has been ghosted, that means there is an unanswered question. They should encourage answering that question before trying to get more questions.
On the other hand there is room for some automated coaching without being creepy. Like advice on how to ask better questions and how to answer questions in a way that drives the conversation forward and not stopping it.
If you want to give conversation topics it might work in the form of announcing it to both parties. Like "do you know you were both to Disneyland this summer?"
don't even bother.. the real heartfelt moms seem to prefer in person eye to eye volunteer mothering, which is the actual remedy for our fatal malady.
they seem to spread it on the thickest where it does the most good. look there, lend them a hand. we can only pretend to not feel it. that's the spirit..
So basically assisted dating.. .this is straight out of the 'White Christmas' episode of Black Mirror.
Is there an incredulous emoticon? Something more then annoyed will do.
It sucks. Because people can so "easily" connect with so little effort, no one takes the matches or the dates seriously... at least not anymore.
Back around 2008-2009, you could actually send someone a message and *gasp* get a response!
These days, conversations frequently fizzle out without a single clue as to why. It's almost like if you don't say the -right- thing in each message, you're dropped, But hey, all's fair in love/war (at least for another couple years), and I'm not sure I want software nudging along.
Remember the "Yelp for humans" called Peeple and how fantastically well that went down? Yeah, DateAha! is totally less easily abused guys. Totally. There DEFINITELY won't be "he's a pedo that fucks barn animals on the side" comments and other mean girl style trolling on there, no sirree! These folks are S-M-R-T.
Try boys.
At least for a guy like me: not particularly tall, not particularly muscular, geeky. Perhaps others on this site can identify.
Women don't find me dreamy. They fling themselves at men that are tall, muscular, and in positions of power....even if those men are taken. But they ignore me.
And the women that are left? Most of the ones online are foreign scammers. Those that remain are very obese and/or single moms looking for a meal ticket. The rare and precious few that aren't in those categories.....usually have something about them that drives men away (including me). The most common "somethings" that I have encountered are: feels like she is settling for you and so you should be overcome with gratitude and obsess over her and spend lavishly on her, or, she is an insufferable feminist that feels like she should do nothing for you while you do everything for her. Or they know that tech careers pay well, so they just want your money.
It is better to be single than in an unhappy relationship, and the available options just aren't acceptable.
I think some guys are cut out for relationships and breeding, and others (like me) just aren't.
The dating site eharmony is hoping to launch a chatbot to stop people from ghosting, ...
They have "ghostbot" for that - or, if you *really* want to ignore them, you can use "catbot".
It must have been something you assimilated. . . .
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Facebook users will be tasked with creating a new profile that will exist separately from the one that all of your friends and family can see.
Sure, that will be true until Facebook leaks it one way or another.