You make many valid points.
Every child is going to make bad choices when they are young, I do not think they should be 'life choices', choices that COULD effect them negatively for the rest of their lives. I would rather them learn from me and my wife and what we have experience in our lives to help my child.
For example, when I was about 14 or so, because of peer pressure I took some drugs and was so high, that I was not in control of myself. Not being in control of my actions scared me so, that I never took drugs again. Well, when my son was about 14 or so, I shared with him that whole experience and mention to him how after that I was able to fight off peer pressure and made my own decision as to drugs.
To me, that is what parents should do, guide their children so that they can lead a very happy life. To me, if we dont, that I think we have failed as parents.
And yes, parents should avoid extremes in either direction, otherwise children will be unable to make inform choices when they are growing and when they get older.
And again you are right, if a child or adult makes a mistake, then within reason, the parent should accept and help them, that is what love is.
Your point is well taken. The issue is legally and one of morality.
Legally, I think the answer is clear, a 15 and 16 year old having sex is statutory rape:http://www.sexlaws.org/what_is_statutory_rape.
Morally, that is a different issue, morality changes what is bad today, will be good tomorrow. That is the way the world is turning. What makes this different to ME is that there are many people who seems to think there is nothing wrong with this. It is O.K. We as a society of people are accepting more and more of this kind of conduct and saying it is O.K. To ME this is sad.
Over time, children need to learn about their bodies and sexuality, to say that they need to 'experiment if they want to actually understand how things work', is a little too much for ME. I would be VERY uncomfortable if my 15 year daughter came home and told me she participated in a 'experiment' today. Only to find out later, that she regretted this later in life. Just my opinion, I realize you have a different one.
I dont think there is no 'magic' number, I personally have trouble calling an 18 years old and adult. If you really want to know my opinion I would say 35 is an adult. But you would laugh and insult me more.
I stated my honest opinion about a matter then you imply that I am mentality retarded for it. At least I respect you and your opinion.
"correct", may not have been the most accurate word to use, but the fact is, this type of behavior is, IN MY OPINION, abnormal. CHILDREN taking pictures of themselves and sending it to others. One thing for adults to do this.
I am not advocating sheltering their lives until they become adults. However, I do not believe that this is the kind of experience that children need.
While you may not agree with me, and may not vote for me for any kind of office, would you vote for someone who shared nude pictures of themselves and sent them around?
Their lives are ruined maybe because they have decided to take pictures of themselves and send them.
I think the sad part of this, is that they are willing to do this. Lets correct this type of behavior now before they do worst later in live, then maybe we can better their lives.
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You make many valid points. Every child is going to make bad choices when they are young, I do not think they should be 'life choices', choices that COULD effect them negatively for the rest of their lives. I would rather them learn from me and my wife and what we have experience in our lives to help my child. For example, when I was about 14 or so, because of peer pressure I took some drugs and was so high, that I was not in control of myself. Not being in control of my actions scared me so, that I never took drugs again. Well, when my son was about 14 or so, I shared with him that whole experience and mention to him how after that I was able to fight off peer pressure and made my own decision as to drugs. To me, that is what parents should do, guide their children so that they can lead a very happy life. To me, if we dont, that I think we have failed as parents. And yes, parents should avoid extremes in either direction, otherwise children will be unable to make inform choices when they are growing and when they get older. And again you are right, if a child or adult makes a mistake, then within reason, the parent should accept and help them, that is what love is.
Your point is well taken. The issue is legally and one of morality. Legally, I think the answer is clear, a 15 and 16 year old having sex is statutory rape:http://www.sexlaws.org/what_is_statutory_rape. Morally, that is a different issue, morality changes what is bad today, will be good tomorrow. That is the way the world is turning. What makes this different to ME is that there are many people who seems to think there is nothing wrong with this. It is O.K. We as a society of people are accepting more and more of this kind of conduct and saying it is O.K. To ME this is sad. Over time, children need to learn about their bodies and sexuality, to say that they need to 'experiment if they want to actually understand how things work', is a little too much for ME. I would be VERY uncomfortable if my 15 year daughter came home and told me she participated in a 'experiment' today. Only to find out later, that she regretted this later in life. Just my opinion, I realize you have a different one.
I dont think there is no 'magic' number, I personally have trouble calling an 18 years old and adult. If you really want to know my opinion I would say 35 is an adult. But you would laugh and insult me more. I stated my honest opinion about a matter then you imply that I am mentality retarded for it. At least I respect you and your opinion.
I dont think that they should be punish for the rest of their lives for being stupid as a child.
"correct", may not have been the most accurate word to use, but the fact is, this type of behavior is, IN MY OPINION, abnormal. CHILDREN taking pictures of themselves and sending it to others. One thing for adults to do this. I am not advocating sheltering their lives until they become adults. However, I do not believe that this is the kind of experience that children need. While you may not agree with me, and may not vote for me for any kind of office, would you vote for someone who shared nude pictures of themselves and sent them around?
Their lives are ruined.
Their lives are ruined maybe because they have decided to take pictures of themselves and send them. I think the sad part of this, is that they are willing to do this. Lets correct this type of behavior now before they do worst later in live, then maybe we can better their lives.