Strong words from an Anonymous Coward with poor reading comprehension (if you'd read my comment carefully, you'd have realized that I'm not a mother and have no particular desire to be one -- but don't let the facts get in the way of that good old-fashioned misogynist ragefest you're enjoying there). I hope someday you heal from whatever deep, untreated pain is causing you to lash out at women like this.
zero interest in dating girls their own age, because those girls all seem to be obsessed with marriage and having kids -- something they have zero interest in. Their college-age fsckbuddies view pregnancy as a major social disaster, use birth control, and run to their local abortion clinic at the slightest hint of pregnancy.
I think what you mean is that they *assume* women their age are so obsessed. There's actually an emerging trend of thirtysomething women who are less concerned about marriage per se than about partnership, and who have no particular desire for children (or, at least, for biological children -- which negates most of the pressure of that pesky "biological clock" people so enjoy clucking their tongues about). We're well aware of how much people give up by having kids, and just because we have ovaries doesn't magically render us incapable of a hint of selfishness. And the majority of my female friends who've gotten abortions have done so in their thirties. As a thirtysomething woman, were I to wake up pregnant (in spite of the precautions I take to prevent it), that's where I'd go, myself.
I suspect such men's preference for younger women stems less from the rational "I want people who want the same things I want" point of view you seem happy to infer on their behalf, and more from a troublingly immature "I don't want to have to deal with women as people, so I'll date someone too young to know who she is yet" perspective.
Thirtysomething women, meanwhile, increasingly find themselves forced to choose between having a child by artificial insemination (and rendering themselves un-dateable and likely to be single until their kid(s) are in college)
When I hear people talking this way about dating someone who has a child, I certainly agree that there's an undateable person in the equation -- and it's not the one with the kid.
As an aside, I always find it entertaining when people decide on a particular way of viewing human nature, come up with a halfway-believable attribution to evolutionary pressures, and call it "evolutionary psychology." It's kind of like a college freshman who's decided he's a "philosopher" because he just learned why the cogito is important.
This experiment is in fact the reason I never pursued a degree in physics. What a relief to finally be able to explain my career choices to my friends and family.
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Strong words from an Anonymous Coward with poor reading comprehension (if you'd read my comment carefully, you'd have realized that I'm not a mother and have no particular desire to be one -- but don't let the facts get in the way of that good old-fashioned misogynist ragefest you're enjoying there). I hope someday you heal from whatever deep, untreated pain is causing you to lash out at women like this.
zero interest in dating girls their own age, because those girls all seem to be obsessed with marriage and having kids -- something they have zero interest in. Their college-age fsckbuddies view pregnancy as a major social disaster, use birth control, and run to their local abortion clinic at the slightest hint of pregnancy.
I think what you mean is that they *assume* women their age are so obsessed. There's actually an emerging trend of thirtysomething women who are less concerned about marriage per se than about partnership, and who have no particular desire for children (or, at least, for biological children -- which negates most of the pressure of that pesky "biological clock" people so enjoy clucking their tongues about). We're well aware of how much people give up by having kids, and just because we have ovaries doesn't magically render us incapable of a hint of selfishness. And the majority of my female friends who've gotten abortions have done so in their thirties. As a thirtysomething woman, were I to wake up pregnant (in spite of the precautions I take to prevent it), that's where I'd go, myself. I suspect such men's preference for younger women stems less from the rational "I want people who want the same things I want" point of view you seem happy to infer on their behalf, and more from a troublingly immature "I don't want to have to deal with women as people, so I'll date someone too young to know who she is yet" perspective.
Thirtysomething women, meanwhile, increasingly find themselves forced to choose between having a child by artificial insemination (and rendering themselves un-dateable and likely to be single until their kid(s) are in college)
When I hear people talking this way about dating someone who has a child, I certainly agree that there's an undateable person in the equation -- and it's not the one with the kid. As an aside, I always find it entertaining when people decide on a particular way of viewing human nature, come up with a halfway-believable attribution to evolutionary pressures, and call it "evolutionary psychology." It's kind of like a college freshman who's decided he's a "philosopher" because he just learned why the cogito is important.
This experiment is in fact the reason I never pursued a degree in physics. What a relief to finally be able to explain my career choices to my friends and family.