Some parts of this article were insightful, but I didn't like the 50's bent on it. I am married to a geek husband and have naturally gravitated to intelligent and creative men all of my life. I have dated some really honey boys, but, believe me, they don't compare. I think that it is a myth that men need women to totally coddle them so they can succeed. Just think about how good you will feel about yourself, how independent you will be, if you can do everything for yourself (including laundry). Sure we all have our sick and weak moments when we just want our mommies. Don't forget that you have to love that girl in return and part of that is cuddling her and helping her out with her life goals, too. If not, it's not really love, it's, well, being selfish. And, believe me, women are turned off by that. Has anyone else noticed that people are longing for the old days when relationships were simpler (i.e. the 50s)? Well, a whole lot of housewives were alcoholics then, but that's beside the point. This is the 90's. I want to be known as a person, not as a servile object. I want to succeed and I want my husband to succeed and we can accomplish both. The world is changing, the rules are changing, and we are risk takers. Why can't we change the rules and forget about what makes us comfortable, and make ourselves great? Let's face it, it doesn't matter what you do to most women. It matters who you are, the passion you have for life, the caring you have for others, oh, and a little reading about tantric sex is good. It's funny what happens when you stop thinking about yourself - the world opens up.
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Thank God. I posted before I read your comment and I just have to say that you restore my faith in men (besides my husband).
Some parts of this article were insightful, but I didn't like the 50's bent on it. I am married to a geek husband and have naturally gravitated to intelligent and creative men all of my life. I have dated some really honey boys, but, believe me, they don't compare. I think that it is a myth that men need women to totally coddle them so they can succeed. Just think about how good you will feel about yourself, how independent you will be, if you can do everything for yourself (including laundry). Sure we all have our sick and weak moments when we just want our mommies. Don't forget that you have to love that girl in return and part of that is cuddling her and helping her out with her life goals, too. If not, it's not really love, it's, well, being selfish. And, believe me, women are turned off by that. Has anyone else noticed that people are longing for the old days when relationships were simpler (i.e. the 50s)? Well, a whole lot of housewives were alcoholics then, but that's beside the point. This is the 90's. I want to be known as a person, not as a servile object. I want to succeed and I want my husband to succeed and we can accomplish both. The world is changing, the rules are changing, and we are risk takers. Why can't we change the rules and forget about what makes us comfortable, and make ourselves great? Let's face it, it doesn't matter what you do to most women. It matters who you are, the passion you have for life, the caring you have for others, oh, and a little reading about tantric sex is good. It's funny what happens when you stop thinking about yourself - the world opens up.