Remember these are just my personal opinion that I have observed myself, they may not ( will not ) agree with anyone elses.
I've been reading though the comments on this article and it sounds like the majority of people have had success with online romances. I congrat all the lucky people out there. Though most of us who have had bad experiences with online romances keep quiet about it due to embarassing circumstances. I've never had a relationship with a woman outside of the internet. ( Not to say I haven't met women off the internet and proceeded with a relationship with them in real life. There was one, but I'll get to that later. )
I run my own IRC network, a small network dedicated to anime ( though the conversations rarly touch the subject ). Generally a comfortable atmosphere for people to just talk and have fun. I don't imagine that allot of Cybersex goes on around the IRC network, though I don't monitor it. ( I believe that everyone deserves their privacy. )
People are allot more trusting online even though everyone is pretty much anonymous. Women who spend time online chatting allot seem to very easily give up their phone numbers so that they can talk to someone on the phone. This is a bad idea as I've seen women getting totally harassed by a guy who they thaught was nice online, but then started to constantly calling them.
Heh, even in my bad luck. What most guys have feared has happened to me. I talked to this person online who said that she was a woman in real life, but then later I found out that she was a guy and was planning a sex change in 2 years. This was really awkward, and I just couldn't work it out. In my mind, I was in a relationship with another guy (even though he was scheduled for a sex change, things might have been different if they already had it done.) I think he was honest and everything, and was going to go though with the operation. But it was all too weird, recieving a valentine from him and talking to him on the phone.
Other things I've encountered online are women that that are swayed too easily, they have a new boyfriend every other week. I've been a horrible victim of this too all too often. I had known her for about a year and a half before I finally told her that I was interested. We talked on the phone many, many times and visited eachother once a year. This relationship went off and on for 2 years, we she broke off the relationship 3 or 4 times ( most times not even telling me, just cut all communications with me and my finding that she's off with another bf. ) Yeah, I'm stupid for continuing to get back together with her, but I just couldn't help myself. I was very interested in her. ( No, I didn't stalk her or anything )
Anyway, it's been 2-3 years since that relationship with her and it is still difficult to think about it. I've not had a relationship since then. I'm over it, I just have no-where else to look since I have given up on the idea of online romances. ( I'm not a total introvert, I go to the bar once and a while. Though I don't believe that I'd find a girl that I'm interested in there either. )
Online romances don't seem all that bad as there are many couples on the server to that have had very successful relationships happen. But some of us are just not smooth talkers. ( I spend most of the time just watching the channel scroll. I'm not the type of person to message a woman online because I imagine that there's already a bunch of guys already talking to her, and she dosen't need another. ) But oh well...
I think it's best not to look for love online, rather look for friendship.
-- Keiichi/Happosai on a small irc network
PS - I'm not great with writing in general, so please be nice about any grammar or spelling errors that you encountered. I just hope that I get my message across.
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Remember these are just my personal opinion that I have observed myself, they may not ( will not ) agree with anyone elses.
I've been reading though the comments on this article and it sounds like the majority of people have had success with online romances. I congrat all the lucky people out there. Though most of us who have had bad experiences with online romances keep quiet about it due to embarassing circumstances.
I've never had a relationship with a woman outside of the internet. ( Not to say I haven't met women off the internet and proceeded with a relationship with them in real life. There was one, but I'll get to that later. )
I run my own IRC network, a small network dedicated to anime ( though the conversations rarly touch the subject ). Generally a comfortable atmosphere for people to just talk and have fun. I don't imagine that allot of Cybersex goes on around the IRC network, though I don't monitor it. ( I believe that everyone deserves their privacy. )
People are allot more trusting online even though everyone is pretty much anonymous. Women who spend time online chatting allot seem to very easily give up their phone numbers so that they can talk to someone on the phone. This is a bad idea as I've seen women getting totally harassed by a guy who they thaught was nice online, but then started to constantly calling them.
Heh, even in my bad luck. What most guys have feared has happened to me. I talked to this person online who said that she was a woman in real life, but then later I found out that she was a guy and was planning a sex change in 2 years. This was really awkward, and I just couldn't work it out. In my mind, I was in a relationship with another guy (even though he was scheduled for a sex change, things might have been different if they already had it done.) I think he was honest and everything, and was going to go though with the operation. But it was all too weird, recieving a valentine from him and talking to him on the phone.
Other things I've encountered online are women that that are swayed too easily, they have a new boyfriend every other week. I've been a horrible victim of this too all too often. I had known her for about a year and a half before I finally told her that I was interested. We talked on the phone many, many times and visited eachother once a year. This relationship went off and on for 2 years, we she broke off the relationship 3 or 4 times ( most times not even telling me, just cut all communications with me and my finding that she's off with another bf. ) Yeah, I'm stupid for continuing to get back together with her, but I just couldn't help myself. I was very interested in her. ( No, I didn't stalk her or anything )
Anyway, it's been 2-3 years since that relationship with her and it is still difficult to think about it. I've not had a relationship since then. I'm over it, I just have no-where else to look since I have given up on the idea of online romances. ( I'm not a total introvert, I go to the bar once and a while. Though I don't believe that I'd find a girl that I'm interested in there either. )
Online romances don't seem all that bad as there are many couples on the server to that have had very successful relationships happen. But some of us are just not smooth talkers. ( I spend most of the time just watching the channel scroll. I'm not the type of person to message a woman online because I imagine that there's already a bunch of guys already talking to her, and she dosen't need another. ) But oh well...
I think it's best not to look for love online, rather look for friendship.
--
Keiichi/Happosai on a small irc network
PS - I'm not great with writing in general, so please be nice about any grammar or spelling errors that you encountered. I just hope that I get my message across.