I hear you. I married a woman who has stately clearly that she never loved me. Friends told me after the seperation how she bragged about tricking me into pregnancy. She argued strongly for abortions each time and I talked her out of it twice, once right after proposal and once later after agreeing to wait and save for a house. The last time after 8 years of poverty I did not fight her (two weeks prior to scheduled vasectomy). She thru her arms up, claimed i never loved her and was with another man within three weeks and laughing at me saying she knew I would not make my kids move out of their house. She threatened to have me killed if i took them away from her. So, I gave up living with my kids, my house and ultimatly my career so as to have a life (limited as it was) with my kids. And all because I do not live with a microphone attached to me and she being the Mom automatically gets the kids unless I can prove her lying, raping, embezeling, assaulting ways. I know there are a lot of asshole men out there but I do not believe I have ever read any article about deadbeat moms who steal good lives from their husbands and kids and then use the living with their kids to systematically blame the victim for the problems. And one can say all they want about possible OCPD and such but who can really prove that and lots of luck in getting someone like that to change.
Now it seems that the incentive to struggle and invest in the future via home ownership has become a questionable endeavor in the logical sense of responsibility as a parent. Maybe I should learn how to play craps in Atlantic City or something, might start to make sense as the years roll on and the rights wane on. (oh, and, did I mention that my ex is the niece of a federal judge, mmmmmmm?)
Thanks for the posts but sometimes I just feel like saying "screw you guys I'm going home", oh, wonder if my home is still there.....
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I hear you. I married a woman who has stately clearly that she never loved me. Friends told me after the seperation how she bragged about tricking me into pregnancy. She argued strongly for abortions each time and I talked her out of it twice, once right after proposal and once later after agreeing to wait and save for a house. The last time after 8 years of poverty I did not fight her (two weeks prior to scheduled vasectomy). She thru her arms up, claimed i never loved her and was with another man within three weeks and laughing at me saying she knew I would not make my kids move out of their house. She threatened to have me killed if i took them away from her. So, I gave up living with my kids, my house and ultimatly my career so as to have a life (limited as it was) with my kids. And all because I do not live with a microphone attached to me and she being the Mom automatically gets the kids unless I can prove her lying, raping, embezeling, assaulting ways. I know there are a lot of asshole men out there but I do not believe I have ever read any article about deadbeat moms who steal good lives from their husbands and kids and then use the living with their kids to systematically blame the victim for the problems.
And one can say all they want about possible OCPD and such but who can really prove that and lots of luck in getting someone like that to change.
Now it seems that the incentive to struggle and invest in the future via home ownership has become a questionable endeavor in the logical sense of responsibility as a parent. Maybe I should learn how to play craps in Atlantic City or something, might start to make sense as the years roll on and the rights wane on. (oh, and, did I mention that my ex is the niece of a federal judge, mmmmmmm?)
Thanks for the posts but sometimes I just feel like saying "screw you guys I'm going home", oh, wonder if my home is still there.....