I have a few observations and points to add to this whole discussion.
1. Guys, you have to go out, but more importantly, you must WANT to be out! Have fun. People do not like to be around people that aren't enjoying themselves.
2. Be confident. This may be difficult at first. Believe me, this isn't that big of a deal. I would guesstimate that 80% of most women will not blow you off. If they do, you may be in an environment that is not for you. (see #1. Like Roblimo says, smile, and use a slight touch to see if she is comfortable around you. If she tousches you back, you're in luck.
3. Pay attention. I know that I have a tendency to monopolize a conversation and then realize that the other person didn't add to the conversation because I didn't let them! Ask questions, and remember, be at ease. This isn't the time to get nervous.
4. Don't judge a book by it's cover. I have standards that I ususlly won't compromise, BUT like the article says, the people to pay attention to are the people that are not talking to anyone else (duh!). If you see a Woman dancing by herself, she will probably dance with you, even if it is only for fun. If you come on too strong, Women will OFTEN blow you out of the water. This is kind of a situation you have to watch and see what the person is doing. Many times Women that go out in packs only want a "girls night out".
5. The total opposite of that is the situation where a Woman WANTS an aggressive guy to dance with, and approach her. In this case, go for it. She will probably look back at you (if you approach form the rear), and dance with you. This does not give you the right to take liberties and do dumb shit like smack her ass or grab her else where. You can tell VERY quickly how far she wants you to go. In my experience, the Women will actually take your hands and put em where they want em. Sometimes you won't believe where they put em'.
6. Read the body language. If you have gotten this far, and are dancing closely with a woman, be strong, not abusive. In my opinion, women still like men to be men, but responsive the her needs.
7. Follow up! When you are done dancing, Talk to her! Actually, you could try to talk to her a LITTLE while dancing. Many times with this kills the mood. Buy her something to drink. Find a common ground. Listen. Compliment. Do not use dumb ass pickup lines. Smile. Be calm, and dance again!
8. Get the email address (or phone #)! The last thing is to pull her to the side, and talk again. prepare for the future! The easiest "line" to get her to give you the #? easy "Hey, how can I reach you in the future?" or something like that. easy.
9. Do not comare her to a computer in your mind, because she's not like a computer you've ever met.
Now your mileage WILL vary. I live in the Northeast, in NJ. I live near the shore, and went to college 10 mins. from NYC. I am in a fraternity. I HAVE partied alot, and am probably not your average geek, BUT around here, the above is usually how it goes. (NO NJ JOKES PLEASE:) )
Have a good time. The chase is the fun part.
Oh yeah. Once you actually meet her, it is different to keep her. I would actually venture to agree that it is harder to keep a girlfriend that to meet one.
Saw the movie. I thought it was a little hyped, for the movie I actually saw. It was original, but was lacking in its lack of explanation or visuals.
What kind of movie scares me?
8mm scared me. Acutally, it scared the s*it out of me. The reality that there are people that sick in the world scares me much more that some made up witch any day.
If you haven't seen 8mm, rent it on an empty stomach.
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I have a few observations and points to add to this whole discussion.
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1. Guys, you have to go out, but more importantly, you must WANT to be out! Have fun. People do not like to be around people that aren't enjoying themselves.
2. Be confident. This may be difficult at first. Believe me, this isn't that big of a deal. I would guesstimate that 80% of most women will not blow you off. If they do, you may be in an environment that is not for you. (see #1. Like Roblimo says, smile, and use a slight touch to see if she is comfortable around you. If she tousches you back, you're in luck.
3. Pay attention. I know that I have a tendency to monopolize a conversation and then realize that the other person didn't add to the conversation because I didn't let them! Ask questions, and remember, be at ease. This isn't the time to get nervous.
4. Don't judge a book by it's cover. I have standards that I ususlly won't compromise, BUT like the article says, the people to pay attention to are the people that are not talking to anyone else (duh!). If you see a Woman dancing by herself, she will probably dance with you, even if it is only for fun. If you come on too strong, Women will OFTEN blow you out of the water. This is kind of a situation you have to watch and see what the person is doing. Many times Women that go out in packs only want a "girls night out".
5. The total opposite of that is the situation where a Woman WANTS an aggressive guy to dance with, and approach her. In this case, go for it. She will probably look back at you (if you approach form the rear), and dance with you. This does not give you the right to take liberties and do dumb shit like smack her ass or grab her else where. You can tell VERY quickly how far she wants you to go. In my experience, the Women will actually take your hands and put em where they want em. Sometimes you won't believe where they put em'.
6. Read the body language. If you have gotten this far, and are dancing closely with a woman, be strong, not abusive. In my opinion, women still like men to be men, but responsive the her needs.
7. Follow up! When you are done dancing, Talk to her! Actually, you could try to talk to her a LITTLE while dancing. Many times with this kills the mood. Buy her something to drink. Find a common ground. Listen. Compliment. Do not use dumb ass pickup lines. Smile. Be calm, and dance again!
8. Get the email address (or phone #)! The last thing is to pull her to the side, and talk again. prepare for the future! The easiest "line" to get her to give you the #? easy "Hey, how can I reach you in the future?" or something like that. easy.
9. Do not comare her to a computer in your mind, because she's not like a computer you've ever met.
Now your mileage WILL vary. I live in the Northeast, in NJ. I live near the shore, and went to college 10 mins. from NYC. I am in a fraternity. I HAVE partied alot, and am probably not your average geek, BUT around here, the above is usually how it goes. (NO NJ JOKES PLEASE
Have a good time. The chase is the fun part.
Oh yeah. Once you actually meet her, it is different to keep her. I would actually venture to agree that it is harder to keep a girlfriend that to meet one.
Saw the movie. I thought it was a little hyped, for the movie I actually saw. It was original, but was lacking in its lack of explanation or visuals.
What kind of movie scares me?
8mm scared me. Acutally, it scared the s*it out of me. The reality that there are people that sick in the world scares me much more that some made up witch any day.
If you haven't seen 8mm, rent it on an empty stomach.