"The Epilepsy Foundation", and of course they have branches in every State and many geographical regions within States (LA has a branch, Eastern Pennsylvania, Michigan, Northern Cal, Idaho, etc..). Need me to Google that for you or can you do that all by yourself?
Since I am one of the biggest mouth pieces against what you are doing, I'll chime in and attempt to clarify a few points. Your follow up is not going to change my opinion very much, but since you took a great amount of time attempting to clarify I will try and return in kind.
when my wife unexpectedly had her first seizure in more than NINE YEARS.
If you married an epileptic person you are already brave, so hang in there. One of the many things that you should already know is that it's a very unpredictable condition. That she was seizure free for 9 years is great, but it's not relevant to my concerns. What is a concern is that you have an infant and 2 year old, and your wife seems to be in a flux with control medication.
Teaching your children what to do in case of a fire doesn't mean you are making them responsible for fire fighting.
No, but we are not talking about teaching your kid to dial 911. We are teaching your kid to dial _you_ and then you having to dial 911.. or you are trying to teach the kid both. Further, this is not a fire. This is "mommy" and the 2 year old _WILL_ panic if mom has a seizure. If you were there for her last one, you would have already seen it. At 2 years old a kid probably would not be able to dial 911 either. The expected capacity for something like this is maybe 4 years old, and that is really pushing the border.
Second, the cameras I installed have motion and noise threshold alerts, so I get automatic notification from them...[snipped because it does not matter]
What is your drive time from work to home? I'm assuming that is what is going on, you are at the office and mom is at home. Mom is holding the infant for feeding and has a seizure, how long does it take for you to get home and pull the infant to safety? Toddler goes to hug mommy and make her feel better, how long for you to be there to prevent harm to the 2 year old when that happens? If it's not a 2 minute drive, you are too late and may have two dead kids. Reality sucks, but that is reality.
Third, this is not the only solution in place. We have neighbors, friends and family who check in regularly and I expect that will greatly increase since this episode. But that doesn't guarantee that someone is going to be there when an episode occurs, or even that they would arrive in a short period of time. Again, I'm trying to prepare for worst case scenarios.
Knowing her current situation, that is called negligence. Sorry, but this is not about how fast someone can get your wife to the hospital. It's how fast can your infant and toddler be pulled out of harms way. You know the current situation, and you have two very small children at risk.
Day care or private nursing is not an option unless someone else is footing the bill. Day care is not even a money problem, it's more a problem of "the devil you know is better than the devil you don't."
I provided a few solutions above, but will repeat. 1) Exchange Student/AuPair. 2) Call a Government Social Welfare person and see if there are any programs to assist you. 3) Plenty of foundations for Epilepsy, call and see if you can get a grant 4) Find a Church and see if there are volunteers (less worry about devils this way *I'll save offending certain religions, but most are actually good*)
Back to what I said above, the "devil" you currently have is a wife with a medical condition that puts two very small children at risk. Make friends and have her make friends, bring in other parents with kids about the same age. In person company is much better than Facebook and WebCams, and playmates for your kids is extremely beneficial.
Once your wife is back to stable, not much _should_ really change. The randomness of epilepsy is probably the worst thing about it (I don't intend that as cold, none of it is good). If you are not there, it is always going to be safer t
And your infant is there too, while your 98 year old grandfather is prone to forgetting what his name is and his medication is not working any more? Come on now, you have to try and make it apples to apples.
Actually I need to correct myself too, because it's no just the 2 year old at home alone with a person that puts them in jeopardy. There is an infant in the equation as well, so this is much worse.
What is _his_ drive time from work to home? Mom has a seizure and there is a 2 year old with no capable/coherent adult present for that duration. I'm not confident you know much about, or have researched the potential severity of an epileptic seizure. It's not like mom having to throw up and leaving the kid for a minute to do so.. seizures have a long recovery time and frequently require hospitalization. Seizures are not just emotionally traumatic, the victim can flail violently enough to throw furniture, break their own bones, and cause severe physical injury to anyone close to them.
The only person lying is you, though perhaps due to ignorance and not considering the complete situation. He is not improving a bad situation, he is putting a 2 year old in danger with his current arrangement and a panic button won't change that fact.
Nobody is asking for the nurse for the adult with epilepsy. People are asking for an adult because of the sole 2 year old at home with an epileptic currently having difficulties with their medication and suffering seizures.
The dog may not be enough to prevent negligence charges if something happens to the child given the known condition of his wife and state of her medications. IANAL, but even if I was a Lawyer I would advise adult supervision until she was back to stabilized with medication.
There are plenty of solutions that don't cost that much money or any money at all. I'm sure a local church would have people that may volunteer, I'm sure there are foundations he could apply for assistance with.. how about a Ou pair or exchange student? Going on Government aid until the child is old enough to be responsible is a perfectly viable solution until something else can be worked. A rigged up web cam and a panic button that a 2 year old is in charge of is insane!
Instead of requesting that you get modded a troll or flame bait, how about we charge you as an accomplice if his actions are deemed criminal negligence and it was your idea that got his 2 year old killed?
This is not about just his wife, this is about being a parent and the absolutely horrid situation he is forcing a TWO YEAR OLD to live in! I really hate to resort to ad hominem, but you are an absolute fucking idiot!
Sounds like you always assume the best in people and can't see the whole equation played out. Optimism is good, but in this case there is a 2 year old in the equation that seems to be constantly overlooked in this thread. Web cams don't make good baby sitters, in fact I'd be curious to know if he would be guilty of a crime if something was to happen to his wife given he knew the current medial needs of her.
Epileptic people do not have the same seizure every time, severity ranges and is NOT PREDICTABLE!
Read a couple of my other responses in the thread. Defending this person is lunacy.
Your questions are absolutely not relevant! This is not a person that "may" have an accident, this is a person with a medical condition that causes seizures. The later is KNOWN, it is well documented, it is well researched. Pulling some bullshit out of your ass about "well someone could fall down" does not do away with facts.
It's a 2 year old! Good grief, you have never been around a 2 year old before? A 2 year old is supposed to play and learn, not be responsible for the goddamn panic button if mom starts to die. (Yes, to a 2 year old no matter how severe the seizure it will be traumatic and appear to be mom dying).
His "extra" fail safe" is a panic button on top of web cams. Where is the adult to make sure the 2 year old does not try to hug mommy when she is having convulsions. Which of course has the added bonus of possibly killing both the mom and the kid, causing permanent injury to one or both.. and who is all that guilt going to sit on if something goes wrong? Oh gee, if the 2 year old lives they get to feel all the guilt because dad could not think of a better solution than to leave a 2 year old alone with an epileptic... Do you not know anything at all about epilepsy and are posting from pure ignorance?
While we are at it, is the 2 year old also responsible to ensure that the room is clear of obstacles that may harm the mom/child when seizures start? Rolling mom onto her side while mom is flailing?
One of your kids having seizures near adults (parent) is not even close to the same thing as an adult having seizures next to a sole small child. Your persnoal anecdote is useless.
Wholly fuck! I believe this is the the sickest thread I have ever read on Slashdot! (TFA and responses)
There are plenty of agencies that can help! Reach out to one, or many, of those. Don't ask for bullshit solutions to a problem that puts a 2 year old into this type of situation.
Why are YOU defending such shitty actions? Think really long and hard about that, because that make you just as big of an idiot as person who made the original post.
I'm glad he wants to work for a living, society needs people to be responsible. His first responsibility as a parent is that 2 year old Daughter.
Obviously _YOU_ did not read TFA. TFA is only the summary, so let me quote and highlight the relevant portions for you.
My wife is epileptic. Her seizures have been well controlled by medication until recently. My concern is that we have a toddler and infant at home. I've set up cameras so I can monitor the house, but I'm looking for a solution that my 2 year old daughter can hit a button to tell me to look at them if necessary.
Good grief man, if your wife is having episodes get another ADULT into the house! It is completely irresponsible for you to put that weight on a TWO YEAR OLD! Cameras or no cameras, your response time is not sufficient. Assuming your two year old hits the button who is going to comfort the two year old and get her out of harms way if your wife has a violent seizure? How are you going to deal with the trauma and guilt that kid is going to feel if something bad happens? Even if they hit the button that trauma will be there!
Don't worry, I'm absolutely disgusted that you would put your wife in that predicament as well. This is absolutely horrifying no matter how I try to consider your supposed dilemma. I say "supposed" because I really hope this is a gag, but it sure seems like you are serious and it's not April 1st yet.
See how that works? My question comes off as rude because I'm not asking for clarification on your statements. You did not apologize for your arrogance, you attempted to excuse it and deflect it. Thank you for the wonderful demonstration of your personality.
Update 2:15pm ET, Feb. 10: It gets worse. The Verge has uncovered emails that contain Social Security numbers, home addresses, and other personal information from Floridians.
Releasing PII data is a Federal crime, and there should be criminal charges filed in addition to civil charges by anyone with PII data exposed by this. I'm not saying there will be any charges or case filed, but that there should be (In other words, I know how the good'ole boy network is).
Don't you know that every single 0 or 1 that traverses that cable gets a full body massage with a happy ending? Your bits arrive smiling, so of course it sounds better!
Read TFA. Microsoft is doing what EVERY SINGLE SECURITY PROFESSIONAL TELLS YOU NOT TO DO! Caching passwords on a remote server. I don't care how many times you claim to encrypt the password, and I don't care what encryption algorithm they claim to use. You never, ever under any circumstances cache a users password. This is simply inexcusable and Microsoft deserves every bit of heat they get for this.
If I was told that a client sent an auth string and received a Kerberos ticket that got cached, I would not have the same opinion or harsh criticisms. This is plain old idiocy and laziness!
The wording being necessary for compromise to found the country is not the same thing as wording being beautiful. Re-read the post without arrogance. I chose my words intentionally, you should try to read them as written.
Your demonstrated lack of command with language and metaphor can only be seen as ironic . If your only measure for success is how much cash you made last year, you are a sociopath. My claim is exemplified by your metaphor which portrays humans as something you can eat or discard as you desire. Seek professional help.
The Constitution and Bill of Rights is in my opinion beautifully written with the exception of claiming some people are not full people. Take away that wording and it's worth trying again in just about identical fashion.
The unfortunate side is that History is cyclical because no matter how good the design people corrupt the system for gain. So in a few hundred years we will be back to the same point again.
An all out revolt is probably the only way this will change at this point. Society has been on a downward spiral for a while now. Historically the only way to recover was lots of bloodshed. People in power never want to relinquish power or money, which is essence is what the mass surveillance is all about. Squashing descent, getting a leg up on any one selling things you want to sell, putting competition out of business, etc..
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"The Epilepsy Foundation", and of course they have branches in every State and many geographical regions within States (LA has a branch, Eastern Pennsylvania, Michigan, Northern Cal, Idaho, etc..). Need me to Google that for you or can you do that all by yourself?
Since I am one of the biggest mouth pieces against what you are doing, I'll chime in and attempt to clarify a few points. Your follow up is not going to change my opinion very much, but since you took a great amount of time attempting to clarify I will try and return in kind.
when my wife unexpectedly had her first seizure in more than NINE YEARS.
If you married an epileptic person you are already brave, so hang in there. One of the many things that you should already know is that it's a very unpredictable condition. That she was seizure free for 9 years is great, but it's not relevant to my concerns. What is a concern is that you have an infant and 2 year old, and your wife seems to be in a flux with control medication.
Teaching your children what to do in case of a fire doesn't mean you are making them responsible for fire fighting.
No, but we are not talking about teaching your kid to dial 911. We are teaching your kid to dial _you_ and then you having to dial 911.. or you are trying to teach the kid both. Further, this is not a fire. This is "mommy" and the 2 year old _WILL_ panic if mom has a seizure. If you were there for her last one, you would have already seen it. At 2 years old a kid probably would not be able to dial 911 either. The expected capacity for something like this is maybe 4 years old, and that is really pushing the border.
Second, the cameras I installed have motion and noise threshold alerts, so I get automatic notification from them...[snipped because it does not matter]
What is your drive time from work to home? I'm assuming that is what is going on, you are at the office and mom is at home. Mom is holding the infant for feeding and has a seizure, how long does it take for you to get home and pull the infant to safety? Toddler goes to hug mommy and make her feel better, how long for you to be there to prevent harm to the 2 year old when that happens? If it's not a 2 minute drive, you are too late and may have two dead kids. Reality sucks, but that is reality.
Third, this is not the only solution in place. We have neighbors, friends and family who check in regularly and I expect that will greatly increase since this episode. But that doesn't guarantee that someone is going to be there when an episode occurs, or even that they would arrive in a short period of time. Again, I'm trying to prepare for worst case scenarios.
Knowing her current situation, that is called negligence. Sorry, but this is not about how fast someone can get your wife to the hospital. It's how fast can your infant and toddler be pulled out of harms way. You know the current situation, and you have two very small children at risk.
Day care or private nursing is not an option unless someone else is footing the bill. Day care is not even a money problem, it's more a problem of "the devil you know is better than the devil you don't."
I provided a few solutions above, but will repeat. 1) Exchange Student/AuPair. 2) Call a Government Social Welfare person and see if there are any programs to assist you. 3) Plenty of foundations for Epilepsy, call and see if you can get a grant 4) Find a Church and see if there are volunteers (less worry about devils this way *I'll save offending certain religions, but most are actually good*)
Back to what I said above, the "devil" you currently have is a wife with a medical condition that puts two very small children at risk. Make friends and have her make friends, bring in other parents with kids about the same age. In person company is much better than Facebook and WebCams, and playmates for your kids is extremely beneficial.
Once your wife is back to stable, not much _should_ really change. The randomness of epilepsy is probably the worst thing about it (I don't intend that as cold, none of it is good). If you are not there, it is always going to be safer t
At least I'm not the only one outraged by this guys post (and a whole lot of people defending him in responses).
And your infant is there too, while your 98 year old grandfather is prone to forgetting what his name is and his medication is not working any more? Come on now, you have to try and make it apples to apples.
Actually I need to correct myself too, because it's no just the 2 year old at home alone with a person that puts them in jeopardy. There is an infant in the equation as well, so this is much worse.
What is _his_ drive time from work to home? Mom has a seizure and there is a 2 year old with no capable/coherent adult present for that duration. I'm not confident you know much about, or have researched the potential severity of an epileptic seizure. It's not like mom having to throw up and leaving the kid for a minute to do so.. seizures have a long recovery time and frequently require hospitalization. Seizures are not just emotionally traumatic, the victim can flail violently enough to throw furniture, break their own bones, and cause severe physical injury to anyone close to them.
The only person lying is you, though perhaps due to ignorance and not considering the complete situation. He is not improving a bad situation, he is putting a 2 year old in danger with his current arrangement and a panic button won't change that fact.
Nobody is asking for the nurse for the adult with epilepsy. People are asking for an adult because of the sole 2 year old at home with an epileptic currently having difficulties with their medication and suffering seizures.
The dog may not be enough to prevent negligence charges if something happens to the child given the known condition of his wife and state of her medications. IANAL, but even if I was a Lawyer I would advise adult supervision until she was back to stabilized with medication.
There are plenty of solutions that don't cost that much money or any money at all. I'm sure a local church would have people that may volunteer, I'm sure there are foundations he could apply for assistance with.. how about a Ou pair or exchange student? Going on Government aid until the child is old enough to be responsible is a perfectly viable solution until something else can be worked. A rigged up web cam and a panic button that a 2 year old is in charge of is insane!
Instead of requesting that you get modded a troll or flame bait, how about we charge you as an accomplice if his actions are deemed criminal negligence and it was your idea that got his 2 year old killed?
This is not about just his wife, this is about being a parent and the absolutely horrid situation he is forcing a TWO YEAR OLD to live in! I really hate to resort to ad hominem, but you are an absolute fucking idiot!
Sounds like you always assume the best in people and can't see the whole equation played out. Optimism is good, but in this case there is a 2 year old in the equation that seems to be constantly overlooked in this thread. Web cams don't make good baby sitters, in fact I'd be curious to know if he would be guilty of a crime if something was to happen to his wife given he knew the current medial needs of her.
Epilepsy isn't some debilitating condition that requires 24/7 care.
A TWO YEAR OLD DOES REQUIRE 24/7 CARE!!
Epileptic people do not have the same seizure every time, severity ranges and is NOT PREDICTABLE!
Read a couple of my other responses in the thread. Defending this person is lunacy.
Your questions are absolutely not relevant! This is not a person that "may" have an accident, this is a person with a medical condition that causes seizures. The later is KNOWN, it is well documented, it is well researched. Pulling some bullshit out of your ass about "well someone could fall down" does not do away with facts.
It's a 2 year old! Good grief, you have never been around a 2 year old before? A 2 year old is supposed to play and learn, not be responsible for the goddamn panic button if mom starts to die. (Yes, to a 2 year old no matter how severe the seizure it will be traumatic and appear to be mom dying).
His "extra" fail safe" is a panic button on top of web cams. Where is the adult to make sure the 2 year old does not try to hug mommy when she is having convulsions. Which of course has the added bonus of possibly killing both the mom and the kid, causing permanent injury to one or both.. and who is all that guilt going to sit on if something goes wrong? Oh gee, if the 2 year old lives they get to feel all the guilt because dad could not think of a better solution than to leave a 2 year old alone with an epileptic... Do you not know anything at all about epilepsy and are posting from pure ignorance?
While we are at it, is the 2 year old also responsible to ensure that the room is clear of obstacles that may harm the mom/child when seizures start? Rolling mom onto her side while mom is flailing?
One of your kids having seizures near adults (parent) is not even close to the same thing as an adult having seizures next to a sole small child. Your persnoal anecdote is useless.
Wholly fuck! I believe this is the the sickest thread I have ever read on Slashdot! (TFA and responses)
There are plenty of agencies that can help! Reach out to one, or many, of those. Don't ask for bullshit solutions to a problem that puts a 2 year old into this type of situation.
Why are YOU defending such shitty actions? Think really long and hard about that, because that make you just as big of an idiot as person who made the original post.
I'm glad he wants to work for a living, society needs people to be responsible. His first responsibility as a parent is that 2 year old Daughter.
Obviously _YOU_ did not read TFA. TFA is only the summary, so let me quote and highlight the relevant portions for you.
My wife is epileptic. Her seizures have been well controlled by medication until recently . My concern is that we have a toddler and infant at home. I've set up cameras so I can monitor the house, but I'm looking for a solution that my 2 year old daughter can hit a button to tell me to look at them if necessary.
Good grief man, if your wife is having episodes get another ADULT into the house! It is completely irresponsible for you to put that weight on a TWO YEAR OLD! Cameras or no cameras, your response time is not sufficient. Assuming your two year old hits the button who is going to comfort the two year old and get her out of harms way if your wife has a violent seizure? How are you going to deal with the trauma and guilt that kid is going to feel if something bad happens? Even if they hit the button that trauma will be there!
Don't worry, I'm absolutely disgusted that you would put your wife in that predicament as well. This is absolutely horrifying no matter how I try to consider your supposed dilemma. I say "supposed" because I really hope this is a gag, but it sure seems like you are serious and it's not April 1st yet.
Sure, you asked a question. Is Banana?
See how that works? My question comes off as rude because I'm not asking for clarification on your statements. You did not apologize for your arrogance, you attempted to excuse it and deflect it. Thank you for the wonderful demonstration of your personality.
Update 2:15pm ET, Feb. 10: It gets worse. The Verge has uncovered emails that contain Social Security numbers, home addresses, and other personal information from Floridians.
Releasing PII data is a Federal crime, and there should be criminal charges filed in addition to civil charges by anyone with PII data exposed by this. I'm not saying there will be any charges or case filed, but that there should be (In other words, I know how the good'ole boy network is).
Don't you know that every single 0 or 1 that traverses that cable gets a full body massage with a happy ending? Your bits arrive smiling, so of course it sounds better!
Read TFA. Microsoft is doing what EVERY SINGLE SECURITY PROFESSIONAL TELLS YOU NOT TO DO! Caching passwords on a remote server. I don't care how many times you claim to encrypt the password, and I don't care what encryption algorithm they claim to use. You never, ever under any circumstances cache a users password. This is simply inexcusable and Microsoft deserves every bit of heat they get for this.
If I was told that a client sent an auth string and received a Kerberos ticket that got cached, I would not have the same opinion or harsh criticisms. This is plain old idiocy and laziness!
I sure do, but I have no confidence you understand my use of the term 'beautiful'. When in doubt ask questions instead of being supercilious.
The wording being necessary for compromise to found the country is not the same thing as wording being beautiful. Re-read the post without arrogance. I chose my words intentionally, you should try to read them as written.
Thanks for the correction! It's late and I'm relying on spell check more than normal. Time to turn in for the evening :)
Your demonstrated lack of command with language and metaphor can only be seen as ironic . If your only measure for success is how much cash you made last year, you are a sociopath. My claim is exemplified by your metaphor which portrays humans as something you can eat or discard as you desire. Seek professional help.
The Constitution and Bill of Rights is in my opinion beautifully written with the exception of claiming some people are not full people. Take away that wording and it's worth trying again in just about identical fashion.
The unfortunate side is that History is cyclical because no matter how good the design people corrupt the system for gain. So in a few hundred years we will be back to the same point again.
An all out revolt is probably the only way this will change at this point. Society has been on a downward spiral for a while now. Historically the only way to recover was lots of bloodshed. People in power never want to relinquish power or money, which is essence is what the mass surveillance is all about. Squashing descent, getting a leg up on any one selling things you want to sell, putting competition out of business, etc..