Building a Stable and Clustered J2EE Environment?

royles asks: "I am working with several J2EE Application Servers and all seems fine until I start to scale and cluster. The goal is to ensure a web and EJB session is maintained across a pool of Application Servers. The level of complexity to achieve this straightforward requirement is proving too much. It quickly becomes evident that vendors claims of 'robust and scalable' go straight out the window in favour of extortionate support and consultant costs when the installation becomes large. Anybody else experienced this type of problem? What are other peoples experienceâ(TM)s in this area? Any recommendations on Application servers that âdo what they say on the tinâ(TM)? Any good online resources for achieving a highly scaled and robust solution?"