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Parenting and a Career in Coding?
el topher asks: "After 5+ years of being married, my wife and I have been blessed by her becoming pregnant. I've professionally been a programmer for a while now and am now concerned that commercial software development is not a good job for a dad to have. Thinking back on all the software development groups I've been in, it seems most of the coders were not parents, and the coders that were parents seemed to have trouble with things like dealing with unplanned death marches and not being there for their family. So my question to the programmers with kids out there: How does a programming career jive with family life? I'd especially like to hear about parents who have been coding for a while and the situations in this area they've faced."
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It is because of loser assholes like you that I have pretty much given up on Slashdot. Not matter what question is asked, or information posted, some lame MF has to go "WTF?" It's called life. Get the fuck over it. Maybe we can get some replies on slashdot from people that aren't from lame MF's like you.
as the proud parent of a cat, a dog, a snake, 2 rats and a sugar glider, w/ a PITA old lady who lives w/ me, and being a systems administrator/programmer/architect, I can kind of feel your pain.
;) ).
My job is very catch-all, high-stress : manage a very large ( > 4000 CPU ) cluster, do design, research, programming, etc., bearing a 10-person workload w/ 3 seniors and 2 very junior juniors.
Shit, this afternoon my boss, who knows everyone in the group is burnt out, had the balls to ask me if something for a non-production system would be ready by Monday, WTF?!?
Anyways, then I have to come home, cook dinner, feed and play w/ 6 animals, and help out w/ some of the cleaning up and whatnot. While oftentimes doing extra work from home.
The only thing that makes it worth it is the thrill of doing some kick-ass hack at work, or coming home and playing w/ all of my loving animals ( I guess I can lump the old lady in there when she's not bitching
Anyways, back to the point : how do you juggle all of these, stay sane, and take care of it all?
Drinking, my friend. Heavy fucking drinking.
PC moderators can suck my White pierced, tattooed dick. If you think pride == hate, s/dick/Aryan meat mallet/g.
...but you didn't have the baby because you were blessed. It was because...well...let's say we keep the secret between you and me.
Doesn't it make you feel good to know that our freedoms are protected by politicans, lawyers and journalists.