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Online Dating Advice?
frankgod asks: "I'm a 25/M/US geek who managed to get through school with my singleness intact. I plan on staying single for a while into the future, but I am considering online dating in addition to other methods of meeting local women for casual dating. Any advice on particular sites and tweaking profiles or search results? I've looked at eHarmony , Lavalife (sparse local results) and Match.com (seems to be best of the bunch.)"
What-r-u-nuts? Get married NOW. That way, you can get that much close to your second marrage; the one that you will be happy with. (Just don't have kids in the first one.)
(Go ahead...mod this as funny. The old guys know I'm not joking.)
A firewall can not protect you from yourself. Turn off what you do not need. Do not use the firewall to do your work.
Go to parties - have your male friends bring their women friends from work and vise versa - that way you avoid the whole "Don't sh*t where you eat" thing.
Join a band - that's good for a number or two per show you play out. This worked very well for me. The success of Billy Joel, Lyle Lovett and Ric Ocasek should provide enough incentive.
Adult education classes - Don't take ANYTHING geek related - that's why you're having trouble in the first place. Take art history - it'll make you more well rounded.
Practice makes perfect, after MANY failures you'll find out what works for you. Always hit on the best looking women in the place - women like confidence. You'll get shot down, but do you really care what some stranger thinks - you shouldn't, so get over it and don't be embarrassed.
Make it a rule that you attempt to get a number EVERYTIME you go out at night - no excuses. Even if she's only a 5 or 6, she may have friends who are a 8,9 or a 10 that you can meet later on if you stay friends. Work out your moves on the low stress situation with the 5 or 6 so that when it really counts, you'll be ok.
Have fun!
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Just because someone is a single parent doesn't make them inelligable for the human race, neither does being divorced for that matter. However being a single parent does limit your social time and mean that you want to maximise the potential outcome of any date. Hence a reliance on on-line or other dating services. As to all desparate to get married - isn't this the oldest cliche in the book, the myth that all women want a stableand secure relationship whereas all men just want a quick shag. Whist this myth is patently untrue and unfair it does have a basis in reality and would be nearer the truth with those chosing dating services. At the end of the day you have to remember that the people you meet through ANY means will have their own agenda.
init 11 - for when you need that edge.