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Women Get Lots of Info From Male Faces
dtjohnson writes "Researchers
at UC Santa Barbara have found
that women have a remarkable ability to assess a man's testosterone
levels and his interest in fathering children by looking at his facial
features. Sixty-nine percent of the women were able to correctly
judge a man's interest in having children merely by looking at cues on
photograph's of his facial features. Saliva samples were also
taken from each man in the study and tested for testosterone with a
$2,000-a-pop test. The women in the study were able to correctly
identify the men with the highest testosterone levels just by looking
at their photographs. Of course, the study did not look at
what men were able to tell about women by looking at photographs
of their female body parts."
So what we have here is researchers have discovered what physical attributes of men women find attractive (whether they want short term or long term relationships). Just as it is known what physical attributes of women men find attractive.
So women don't just want a "nice on the inside" type of man.
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A group of 29 undergraduate students hardly seems enough to be able to generalize the results to the entire female gender.
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Women are able to judge someone with aggressive genes that can father a strong child, then pick a sucker to stand with her to raise them.
Seriously, if you have to make major alterations to your lifestyle in order to keep your wife/girfriend happy, then you chose the wrong wife/girlfriend.
Your signifigant other and you should share goals and lifestyles; you should click into each other's lives with little to no behavioural modification for either party.
Your primary disagreements should be about *timing*, not philosophy - ie, you both want to do X, and the only real question is "when?". If you want X and she wants Y... problem.
Note that I'm talking in broad strokes here. Both of you will have to modifiy little bits of your behaviour as "social grease" to help make it easier to get along. There is plenty of give and take in a good marriage. But the give and take should be over small stuff, not major life issues & choices.
I was one of those guys who tried to overhaul his personality to fit the needs and wants of the Girl of the Moment, and that only ever led to tears. Once I decided to be me, and to find a girl that fit me the way I was (and vice versa) I met my wife and I've been blissfully happy (on the marital front at least) ever since.
I think a lot of guys, particularly technical, goal-oriented guys, get focussed on "making the relationship work" and start making these big personal sacrifices to that end, thinking that it gets them points. It doesn't. If you have to make radical alterations to who you are in order to keep your girlfriend, then let her go and find one who likes you as you are.
DG
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