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Study Show Link Between IT Sabotage, Work Behavior
narramissic writes "According to recent research by the U.S. military and CERT, workers who sabotage corporate systems are almost always IT workers who are disgruntled, paranoid, generally show up late, argue with colleagues, and generally perform poorly."
People will hang out with you as long as you have stuff, but none of them will be friends.
True, but these days, "real friendship" usually stops when the other person realizes that you don't get the bar tab this time around. Most people, if they hear you lost your job, will immediately drop contact with you, hoping unemployment won't spread to you.
The idea that someone will help you out as soon as you can't pay your share is something you see in soupy Christmas commercials. The idea that a friend will "get your back" in a barfight is something in fantasy novels and told to you by people who are wanting to con something from you.
This doesn't mean not to treat people with respect, but always pack your own parachute, do not rely on "friends" for anything, and remember that money in the bank and a nice car is FAR more useful than a friend any day of the week, any week of the year. You can't use friends to pay rent or feed yourself, but when you have money, you can go clubbing and do social things. People who don't get that this is a material world, and don't realize that money talks, and "friendship" walks are just plain naiive, and will learn this lesson the hard way.
I really don't drink more than once or twice a year. But I have been in fights and I've always had friends covering my back. I have one friend that I know will be my friend for life. He has not only covered my back and me his in turn; between us there is no such thing as my money and his money. It doesn't matter if he has no job, I'll buy him dinner. If he shows up in the middle of the night running from the law I'll give him a place to stay and help him avoid it. He's done the same for me.
Unfortunately, people such as he and I are few and far between. People like you are a dime a million. Whether or not money rules the world depends on your priorities in the world.
Being nice certainly doesn't guarantee you'll find any real friends, either. Still, if you don't got friends you're better off being nice...no one around to watch your back.