Instant Messaging For Introverts
adamengst tips an article up on TidBITS that explores the persistent reluctance of many nerds to embrace fully new communications media such as IM and Twitter. In this thoughtful article Joe Kissell explores, from the inside, the mind of the introvert and how this personality style often struggles with new "always-on" media. The result is a sometimes exasperated incomprehension on the part of the more extroverted. Well worth a read.
I just stay invisible on IM most of the time. If someone is on that I want to talk to, I can message them. My close friends and family know that if I am around I'll answer them even if they can't see them.
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I also don't feel the need to instantly answer, even on private work related IM. If it's urgent sure, but urgent matters warrant a phone call generally. I place IM somewhere in between email and phone for the sense of urgency factor. Of course the actual content and context of the message matters and everything in life should be taken case by case
People stress themselves out too much with the 'OMG I JUST GOT IM'ED I'D BETTER ANSWER RIGHT AWAY'.
I don't believe introverts regard IM the same way as face-to-face communications. I know a lot of people that are socially very shy in public, that practically live in IM or WOW etc.
I work for the Department of Redundancy Department.
I only get on the IM networks when I have lots of time to blow off -- e.g. practically never. But I would do IRC at work in a heartbeat if only I could get most of my co-workers to use it.
I don't know exactly why it works, but somehow IRC (especially with a good GUI client) takes the edge of IM just enough that it becomes a useful communication tool rather than constant interruptions. But you can still DCC someone to get IM-like functionality, even with file transfers.