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90% of Gaming Addiction Patients Not Addicted
phorm writes "BBC is carrying an article which states that 90% of visitors to Europe's 'video game addiction clinic' are not, in fact, addicted. The problem is a social one rather than a psychological issue. In other words, the patients have turned to heavy gaming because they felt they didn't fit in elsewhere, or that they fit in better 'in the game' than elsewhere in 'the real world.' This has been discussed before, with arguments ranging from gaming being a good way to socialize, the clinical definition of gaming addiction, and claims than males are wired for video-game addiction."
"Homework or a few minutes of e-mail, not a big deal... Wasting four hours on a video game because you need to "relax"... It gives a clear message: I'm not wanted. And when it's my boyfriend doing that, then it's elevate to not only aren't I wanted, but that I'm less attractive than a hunk of circuits and plastic. So yeah, most girls are going to be rightly pissed about that!"
Aren't you injecting you're views into his life? What if he started demanding you stop speaking to your friends other than hello/goodbye? Stop writing so much into it. He doesn't see that much in it which is insensitive and you're being oversensitive/overreacting, short version, you're both being selfish. If you don't tell him how you feel, don't beat-around-the-bush about it, you'll never get past it and he'll never know. You might be lucky and he'll be sensitive enough to notice later but I wouldn't count on it or him saying anything about it. Guys tend to accept point blank and not read into anything so stop playing word games and tell him bluntly what you think and why.
Like any of us, give him something more interesting and you won't have so many problems. Just remember, he's doing his thing and you're doing yours. We're creatures of habit, let him have a reason to change the habit.