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Schools To Put Time Limits On Hugs
An increasing number of US schools are using time limits to battle the latest threat to our children, the epidemic of teenage hugging. Gabrielle Brown, a freshman at Fiorello H. LaGuardia High School, says that this perilous form of physical intimacy, which involves closing or holding the arms around another person or group of persons, has become so popular that students easily slip into its dark embrace. Brown says, "If somebody were to not hug someone, to never hug anybody, people might be just a little wary of them and think they are weird or peculiar." Noreen Hajinlian, principal of George G. White School adds, "Touching and physical contact is very dangerous territory." For her sake, I hope Noreen will be spared the horror of learning what usually happens on prom night.
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The OP is sensationalized, but he brings up a good point.
Yes, I agree that moderation is needed, but sometimes people just need a hug. Take, for example, the needs of anyone who has had a really bad day. Why would you have a limit to what you can share with others? We're -humans-. Most of us don't run off a clock (despite doing so most of our adult lives).
If my husband, or for argument's sake, a boyfriend or friend said to me: "you have half an hour" without a good reason, I'd be out of there sooner than that, whether my issue was resolved or not! Obviously, I prefer relationships and friendships that actually include people caring, not just sharing.
Making rules like this (even on a single facility level) makes a social stigma. Are you prepared to deal with situations where people snap because of the remoteness of their emotional contact? I'm guessing "no". Are you setting yourself up to be the "bad guy" who unwittingly hurts someone in need? Likely so.
I'm an advocate of treating kids like they're grown-ups in training. Time limits and such are the things of childhood; and while they're teaching tools, they're not rules to live the rest of your life by. If you want moderation, teach it; it's a good thing. Use ideas and philosophies that make sense. A 12-year-old is able to understand more than you think, and it's relatively simple to understand "hug them until they're not crying". It seems to be a good middle ground.
Oh, and my high school sweetheart was the product of me simply being there for him. Those are happy memories, and I wouldn't ever want trade those memories in for any idea that could use some perspective, no matter how "deeply thought out" it is.
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What is the more dangerous : a person with a weapon in a college ? a person giving a hug to another in a college ? a person shooting with a weapon in a college ? a person kissing another in a college ? a person killing other for "fun" with a weapon ? a person discovering sex for "fun" with other youg people of its age ?
Name it like you want, but at the end the question is violence against sexuality so to be straight : War vs Sex !
And the very core of the issue : War = cool, Sex = bad.
I am not one of those hippies, but sometime I wonder how we have arrived at this point. Hey people, you know we are not yet in gattaca, and the vast majority of you have been made thru sex, and yes there is a high probability that this includes hugs ;-)
In hugs, you can trust.
Come on now, what could possible be wrong with hugs? Humans need physical contact, and too many people don't get any at all (not an innuendo for sex, just no physical contact. Barely a handshake).
I read the article, saw no actual reason to restrict it. And I can't think of one. Other than a deadly, infectious disease, but then they shouldn't be at school in the first place. In fact, for almost everything else, it's good for them to spread some bacteria and build up their immune systems.
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Sorry, that is all i have too say. I prefer young people hugging each other and not feeling lonely instead of doing stupid things because they feel lonely. Whom you hug and where is a highly personal thing and i dint think that it is the task of the school to regulate it.
"Touching and physical contact is very dangerous territory." I'd say it's just the opposite: the dangerous thing is equating all touching and physical contact to sex.
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