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Researchers Say Women Secretly Desire Hairy Geeks

Posted by samzenpus on from the do-you-want-the-moustache-on-or-off? dept.

jasper_amsterdam writes "The Daily Mail has a story about a study looking into women's preference for men. More specifically, about how women say they want one kind of man, but really want another. From the article: 'Most women claim to be attracted to tall, dark and handsome men, but a new study has revealed that facial stubble and a geeky personality are their biggest secret turn-ons. Despite complaining that it looks unkempt and feels rough to touch, the unshaven look on a man is actually a turn-on for 41 per cent of women. A slightly geeky personality came second, proving that women really do like a guy who knows their stuff when it comes to technology. A hairy chest was voted third, followed by a man who loves to read or cries at a soppy film.'"

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  1. My research by Some.Net(Guy) · · Score: 2, Insightful

    has proven the opposite to be true. What kind of women are they interviewing?

    1. Re:My research by MrEricSir · · Score: 5, Insightful

      The research mentioned in the article isn't really research at all. It's based on a poll, which would assume that women know what they want. This is not a good assumption.

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    2. Re:My research by ukemike · · Score: 4, Funny

      Canadians.

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    3. Re:My research by PitaBred · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Pretty much all women need a personality to go along with those attributes listed. Being smart and hairy while being otherwise uninteresting and unengaging isn't really going to get you very far with the ladies.

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    4. Re:My research by Kozar_The_Malignant · · Score: 3, Insightful

      >My wife has basically told me to never touch her.

      This is a no-brainer. Get a new wife. Seriously. Life is too short. Or is she OK with you having a GF on the side?

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    5. Re:My research by Beardo+the+Bearded · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Honestly Kozar, I'm not even sure if I still love her anymore. I feel like I'm always under attack for something. Last night she said that she didn't want to hang out with me and I said I'd clean. Once the cleaning was well underway, she was upset that she didn't get to spend any fun time with anyone all day. (This was after saying that she didn't want to do the couples councelling homework because she was in a bad mood and it would go badly for me.) I'm giving her a lot of slack because of her meds and some underlying medical issues, but I've just felt like she's taking all her stresses out on me. I don't feel much of anything for her -- love, hate, anger, compassion, or anything. I mean, I still care about her, but I don't think I'd be sad if she left.

      You know what? I'm scared of the logistics and I don't know if I'm more afraid of the logistics or of losing her. I can't afford to buy another house or keep paying the mortgage if I'm not staying there. We've got two kids and I don't know how I'm supposed to give them a good example -- stick together or cut your losses when it seems hopeless? Maybe I'm more concerned with how the kids would react if we weren't together anymore.

      It's been years since she's been interested in sex, and the dozen times a year for the last three years have been about the same as when I'm on my own. I haven't considered anything on the side, but she's convinced that I am having an affair. The morning after a family vacation, she said, "Are you stepping out on me?" "What? No, of course not." "Well, you would say that." I've lost a lot of weight, and she's basically the only one who hasn't noticed. (Hell, a strange girl at a bar grabbed my butt, which was the most touching I'd had in a long time.)

      We're going to councelling, but it seems to be the two of them ganging up on me. I haven't been able to express my emotions for years -- biting my tongue instead of saying anything mean -- and they're both telling me that I'm disconnected from my emotions. I'm sad; she has depression. I had some heart palpitations; she had a year-long period. Whatever I bring up, it's always worse for her.

      But then, her councellor (a different person than the couples therapist) told her that we were in a great relationship, about 8 months ago. Apparently that's all changed since then, and I've been a blank wall for the last ten plus years.

      But then, she has supported me without hesitation through school, work... you know what, she didn't. She put up with it, but was always complaining that my marks weren't good enough or that I wasn't looking hard enough for work. The same with the weight loss (I weighed 250# when we met, and I'm 165# now). She hasn't been very happy about that either.

      Although it sounds ridiculous to mention this online to a complete stranger, the two of us did meet online, long before it was trendy or even acceptable.

      I know, tl;dr. That's why I didn't make this coherent. Where's that pesky copy editor that's been asking for freelance work?

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    6. Re:My research by hairyfeet · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Dude, bail. Seriously as someone who grew up with parents that stayed together "for the kids" my sister and I could NOT have been happier than when they finally decided to call it a day and divorce. They get along better now than they ever did when they were married, it is just so much better.

      It took me years to figure out how to have a stable relationship and it wasn't nothing but me emulating my father, who was unhappy and cold and distant. there isn't any "fault" in these things and the fact that they are "ganging up on you" just shows that you are on a dead end street anyway.

      Believe me, as someone who went through it, you aren't doing the kids any favors. Better to see you both move on and find happy loving relationships than to be watching an act put on for their sake. As someone who still struggles not to be a cold blooded bastard with my GF believe me I know of which I speak. A loveless relationship helps nobody, especially not the kids. So bail dude, it will hurt but in the long run you will both be happier and it will be better on the kids.

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    7. Re:My research by atamido · · Score: 2, Funny

      It's based on a poll, which would assume that women know what they want. This is not a good assumption.

      If there has ever been proof that Slashdot needs a special >5 score, it is this statement.

    8. Re:My research by johny42 · · Score: 2, Insightful

      The research mentioned in the article isn't really research at all. It's based on a poll, which would assume that women know what they want. This is not a good assumption.

      Even TFA seems to agree with you:

      More specifically, about how women say they want one kind of man, but really want another.

      So they actually assumed that women don't say what they want and then published a research based on what they said? Good job!

    9. Re:My research by enormouspenis · · Score: 2, Interesting

      I'm sorry but your relationship is over. Your wife is hideously self-centered and from this corner, an objective viewpoint, she does not consider you as an individual worthy of any respect. This is common in Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She is incapable of viewing you as anything other than a support for her Mental Illness. To her you are simply a household appliance--one she will trade in at the drop of a hat if she feels it would be adventageous for her. She is using her illness to control you. The fact that you cannot express your emotions means that you are being psychologically abused. Over time, abused spouses learn not to speak up so they can avoid further abuse. Once in that position you lost any chance of ever having a healthy relatinship with your wife. Abusers do not change without becoming sober and spending years in therapy. She is not motivated to become a loving life partner for you. I'm sorry, but the longer you stay the longer you'll need therapy to recover from the abuse.

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    10. Re:My research by Beardo+the+Bearded · · Score: 2, Informative

      Just posting this has made me feel nothing but relief all day. Last night was the best sleep I can remember having. My massage therapist is going to wonder what happened. :D

      I'm going to look for a counselor for myself to make sure before we get things started... er, stopped?

      Reframing the problem has made the solution simple.

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  2. Women don't know what they want by MosX · · Score: 3, Funny

    So... women don't know what they want. I thought that was a well known fact.

  3. In other news... by jijacob · · Score: 2, Insightful

    In other news, said researchers are hairy geeks that need evidence to prove they are sexually attractive at the bar.

  4. Re:Well fuck me. by ukemike · · Score: 3, Funny

    No no it said a little bit geeky.

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  5. I guess this means ... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Funny

    Richard Stallman is the new Brad Pitt.

    1. Re:I guess this means ... by bhsurfer · · Score: 2, Insightful

      watching stallman playing pitt's part in "burn after reading" would be totally worth the price of admittance.

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  6. um... by wisnoskij · · Score: 3, Insightful

    "the unshaven look on a man is actually a turn-on for 41 per cent of women."
    Could that not mean that most (59%) actually dislike it?
    Without some idea of how many dislike or are neutral for the unshaved look as well I do not see that statistic saying that women in general like unshaven men.

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    1. Re:um... by Alexandra+Erenhart · · Score: 4, Informative

      IMO unshaven does look sexy, but only LOOK. Don't go kissing that man. It's like rubbing sandpaper on your face. Ugh. It's either shaved or with a beard, but no in between!

    2. Re:um... by at_slashdot · · Score: 2, Informative

      Mod parent up (she's a women).

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  7. Re:Well fuck me. by poetmatt · · Score: 2, Funny

    also it's hard to meet women when you wear a mask that says anonymous coward on your dates.

  8. Re:This cracks me up by Wraithlyn · · Score: 2, Funny

    Hey now, not ALL men and women have different tastes. Stop generalizing! ;)

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  9. daily mail by Alinabi · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Oh, yeah, the Daily Mail. The pinnacle of peer reviewed publishing, the hallmark of accuracy :-)

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  10. Re:Hm. I'm a non-hairy geek by Grimbleton · · Score: 2, Funny

    I know the women love my pole.

  11. As a hairy geek who is married by toadlife · · Score: 3, Interesting

    My wife comes from an Italian family where all of the men are extremely hairy, and thinks hairless guys are a huge turnoff because "they look like little boys". She descries the stereotype of all women desiring hairless men and says that many of her friends also like hairy guys too.

    As for the geeky part, I think that goes back to Women's innate desire for a man that will be a "provider". Being geeky is evidence that the man is not a dumb ass, and therefore has earning potential.

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    1. Re:As a hairy geek who is married by toadlife · · Score: 2, Informative

      What? I'd mod you funny for that one.

      Our kids have no chance. They are going to be Sasquatches when they grow up.

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  12. This is absurd by harlequinade · · Score: 5, Funny

    Geek or not, no woman will never be happy until we come factory-installed with an 11-inch schlong that shoots out free money.

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