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AMD Offers Women Geek Dating Advice
Blacklaw writes "It appears AMD has decided to branch out from integrated circuits and enter the romance market with a handy guide for girls to land themselves a geeky guy. From the article: 'In a blog post written by Leslie Sobon, the company's vice president of marketing, Sobon describes her life in the largely male-dominated world of technology as being "mostly surrounded by guys all day," but says: "I can tell you that — in general — technical guys are pretty cool," and offers advice on how girls can land a geek guy. Although clearly meant in a lighthearted way, Sobon's missive serves to patronize both her company's customers — who, we learn, are socially inept and bad dressers — and women, who apparently can't understand technology and need to find a nice man who can "fix the TV, your PC, and the sprinkler system" along with other magical item s far too complex for the poor female brain to comprehend.'"
We are both into the same nerdy things (comics, video games, movies, etc) but we are into different TYPES of comics, video games, movies, etc. This allowed us to expand each other's exposure to our favorites, while still the same things. It gave us a lot to bond over during the early part of our relationship, and that helped us reach the point where we got married.
The overlap in the details of our common interests got the ball rolling, and the differences in the details of our common interests kept it rolling.
Living With a Nerd
Well, if you read the actual blog post instead of that jackass written article, you will find the blog is actually pretty light and makes little, if any offensive comments or insinuations. Really, it's pretty cut and dry and somewhat silly. So, after three posts, I've decided Gareth Halfacree is a total douchebag, and the author of the blog itself, Leslie Sobon comes off as pretty date-able. Also, I posted three separate times because everything is better in triplicates, and work is extremely slow today.
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Make the women want you!
Girls work on their appearance. They work on their relationship skills. The ones that don't aren't the ones I like. Or that you would like.. really.
The men that are the most eager to please and that think they NEED a woman and are therefore desperate are the least desirable to women.
These guys that fall over women, get nervous, worry about every little emotional thing.. they get insecure jealous and needy and it's all down hill from there.
The guys that are more selective about their women (not just on looks), that take things slow and don't just jump into bed, those guys are the ones any sane woman would want.
It's really about being yourself and being confident about that self and not compromising yourself so that you are unhappy.That's how to get women. Being nicely groomed helps. Being funny and non-intimidated helps.. but deep down that all stems from confidence. I don't care if you're super geek. I am and I do fine.
A Girl's Guide to Geek Guys
http://www.neystadt.org/john/humor/Girls-Guide-To-Geek-Guys.htm
One might think that gay men and lesbians don't have these kinds of problems, but in fact they can have the worst of both worlds. Based on their upbringing two women may end up with both waiting for the other one to make the first move. Likewise, two compatible men may end up too hung up about each other's appearance to ever strike up a conversation.
This is the first post I wish I could mod above +5. Maybe +12 or +100 is more suitable. Especially note Point 6. I believe that is what killed my last serious relationship. Also note that moving in together initially will make point 6 even more pertinent.
>> My fiancee takes the stance that it's easier for men since we don't have to go through as much effort. Jewelry, shoes, bras, lingerie, worrying about safety and a host of other variables make it "easier" for men to date and catch a partner. When we started dating, I threw a bag in my truck and drove six hours to her house on a whim on her invite, if it hadn't worked out I'd have bailed to my buddy's house. Not that simple for a woman in her view.
I kind of feel like disagreeing with your fiancée there.
I'm a male-to-female transsexual... So I got to experience grooming myself both as a man and a woman. I can get dressed up in nice clothes, makeup, etc. in about an hour, less if I'm in a rush, and that's largely because I'm still not that good at makeup and it takes me a long time. So, I put in one hour of work, and I make heads turn, get whistled at, get hit on by tons of men at nightclubs. Arguably if I was better at makeup, I could do this in 30 mins. Putting on a bra, I can tell you, isn't very difficult. Jewelry? takes seconds to put on. Same thing for high heels. I don't find them very comfortable, but just t go out for an evening dancing, it's not a problem. I take a cab to and from the club, also mostly resolves the safety issue (and I don't usually go alone). Lingerie? I try to wear pretty underthings, but I think most men won't pick a girl based on whether or not she wears exotic lingerie in bed.
Now, grooming yourself as a man takes *some* time too. You also have to pick clothes you think are fashionable. You might also want to do something with your hair. Some men also wear jewelry. Not to mention, being considered a sexy woman is largely a matter of restricting the amount of food you eat. Being considered a sexy man (enough to distinguish yourself from the others) can require hours and hours working out at the gym. And then... Men often have to pay for women whenever doing an activity that requires paying, and do pretty demanding things for them. You just told us you drove *SIX HOURS* on a whim to date this girl? That means you were spending something around 33% of your awake time that day just for the privilege to see her, not to mention the gas. Do you think it took her more than an hour to make herself pretty?
In terms of dating, I think men clearly have to put in more effort. They are expected to do most of the courting, to pay for the girl, to come get her at home, to call her back, to compliment her, to think of interesting activities, etc. In terms of trying to just have casual sex with people, I think the asymmetry is even worse. Like I said, I'm a transsexual, so I have to be extra careful. When I go to nightclubs, I never leave with someone I didn't go to the club with. But, if I were a more anatomically standard girl, and I wanted to get laid with men, I could conceivably leave with a different guy each time, almost 100% success rate. I don't even think I'd have to spend more than an hour looking for someone. Guys? If they want to find a girl to get laid with at a nightclub, they have to come back over and over. I don't know what their success rate is, but it's probably no better than 25% of the time.