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Displaced IT Workers Being Silenced
dcblogs writes A major problem with the H-1B debate is the absence of displaced IT workers in news media accounts. Much of the reporting is one-sided — and there's a reason for this. An IT worker who is fired because he or she has been replaced by a foreign, visa-holding employee of an offshore outsourcing firm will sign a severance agreement. This severance agreement will likely include a non-disparagement clause that will make the fired worker extremely cautious about what they say on Facebook, let alone to the media. On-the-record interviews with displaced workers are difficult to get. While a restrictive severance package may be one handcuff, some are simply fearful of jeopardizing future job prospects by talking to reporters. Now silenced, displaced IT workers become invisible and easy to ignore. This situation has a major impact on how the news media covers the H-1B issue and offshore outsourcing issues generally.
Hi there Anon
If I understand what you mean when you talk about " going down on her" and that you like going down south on her" , as being that you enjoy rimming her (oral-anal contact)...and please forgive me if I''ve misunderstood you, then the first thing that I''d encourage the two of you to consider, would be that you go for hepatitis shots. Much as there''s a low risk of HIV transmission taking place during rimming someone, there is a high risk when it comes to hepatitis. It doesn''t imply that the either of you have it, but at least you''ll know that from a safety perspective, you will have peace of mind.
I don''t want to make you feel as if I''m rubbing my sexuality in your face, because I''m not and I''m making this post with the greatest of respect, but I decided to respond to you because of being a man and because I''ve experienced things from " both sides of the fence" . There''s a > very big difference between what one goes through (including on an emotional level) when one " tops" and when one " bottoms" .
When it comes to the realm of anal contact, a lot of times there isn''t the awareness of the emotional investment that takes place during such contact. Within the gay/bi realm, on many instances the person''s first time ends in disaster...not because of an accident but because the person isn''t aware of the giant leap of faith that takes place and the subsequent need to be emotionally prepared for it. Either it leads to the person getting cold feet at the last minute and running the risk of being raped or being accused of being a tease, or else the experience is rather clinical because it''s safer to remove one''s emotions out of the mix, or else once the deed is done, the person tends to be wracked with shame, embarrassment and guilt and either he''ll put on his clothes and bolt or else he''ll chase the person out of his home.
On a more personal level, much as I love anal sex and at times I crave it, it''s something that doesn''t happen overnight. Part of it comes from my need for my sexual experiences to be meaningful but the greater part comes from the amount of emotional vulnerability that comes with such contact. I have to really, REALLY care deeply for a person in order to be willing to have anal sex with him...most especially when it means that I will bottom. When it comes to rimming, there has only been one time when I came to a place where I was able to lower my guards and allow someone to pleasure me in that way. It leaves me feeling completely exposed (not just physically but emotionally too), extremely vulnerable and very insecure...and it takes a lot of patience and effort from both sides in order for me to be able to lower my guards.
It may sound rather nuts to you, but there are a lot of risks involved some of them may come from an emotional and not a rational place, but they are there nonetheless. What if there''s an accident? Especially since he''ll be putting his mouth " there" !!! Can you imagine his reaction? His reaction/disgust would make me want to die a thousand deaths because I''d be so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I wouldn''t be able to look him in the eye afterwards. I cringe at how he''d see me.
It may sound like overkill but accidents do happen, even if one prepares beforehand by means of douching and most especially if one resorts to using enemas. Sometimes one can be over enthusiastic and in the process, water reaches the upper colon (which doesn''t need to be cleansed and is very harmful/invasive) and loosens fecal matter. Sometimes it can take an hour or two (sometimes longer) before it reaches the lower colon. So, much as the person may have prepared beforehand, there''s still an unexpected accident.
Added to which, the mind does play games on us at times. Think about how you react whenever you prick your finger and it bleeds. Most times, the reaction is one of putting that finger into one''s mouth etc. However, have an open gash on your body and you''ll think twice about putting your mouth anywhere close to it...much