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The Average Age For a Child Getting Their First Smartphone Is Now 10.3 Years (techcrunch.com)

An anonymous reader writes: A TechCrunch article, citing a report on Influence Central, states that the average age for a child getting their smartphone is now 10.3 years. The report adds that 64% of kids have access to the Internet via their own laptop or tablet, compared to just 42% in 2012. Also, 39% of kids get a social media account at 11.4 years, and 11% get a social media account when they were younger than 10.

175 comments

  1. Where? Im guessing you're not talking about... by friesofdoom · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Zimbabwe, right?

    1. Re:Where? Im guessing you're not talking about... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      TFA Says USA. TFS at least, and preferably TFH(eadline) should say the same.

      Lazy editing from Slashdot - quelle surprise.

  2. Is it bad? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    So, this is a news headline.

    A kid with smarphone @ 10 is "bad". Explain...

  3. Whaddayno. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    That's about the same average age for getting an STD!

  4. This worries me by tom229 · · Score: 5, Insightful

    My son is 3 and I have another on the way. This stuff really concerns me. When I was growing up I had to work a fast food job just to afford what we call a "dumb" phone now - at age 16. My sons will have, in their pocket, full access to the breadth of the internet by the age of 10, or be social outcasts for not. What does this mean for their generation? I like to be optimistic, but it can't be good.

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    1. Re:This worries me by AuMatar · · Score: 2, Insightful

      The exact same comment was made for TV, the car, the locomotive, and the music of Beethoven. I wouldn't be surprised if it was made for math and the written language as well. We somehow all survived.

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      I still have more fans than freaks. WTF is wrong with you people?
    2. Re:This worries me by ebusinessmedia1 · · Score: 1

      There will be advantages and disadvantages. What's missing fromall this are powerful filters that permit parents to control who pre-teens (and even teens) can gain access to on their phones. Marketers are using technology that is incredibly powerful to reach this young demographic. Parents have no way to counteract that. Access to information is a cool thing, but what *kind* of information. DO you really want your 10-year-old son accessing the most extreme pRon sites? Trust me, many kids will go there, and we are now beginning to see some of the problems that result from just this kind of access. Also, look at the studies that point to vastly increased risks for anxiety and depression among teens who are heavy users of social media. Frankly, I think Internet access is a good thing, but it's still the Wild West out there. Parents are losing the battle to marketers.

    3. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Being honest, the fact that it has gotten to this point already with phones as expensive as they are, I expect it to get worse by the time your kid is 8. The sad thing is that by not getting them a phone, then both them and you may become social outcasts for not protecting your child.

    4. Re:This worries me by wile_e_wonka · · Score: 2

      Keep in mind that "average" is just that. And it isn't a wealth versus poverty issue--plenty of wealthy parents take a stand against giving kids smart phones at a young age. That said, keep in mind that I think in most cases we aren't talking about a parent deciding to go out a buy an iPhone for a 10 year old. We're talking about parents upgrading their phone and giving their old phone to their kid instead of selling it, and adding a line to the family plan for $10 per month.

      My oldest will be 10 next year and I can guaranty you he will not have a smart phone for several years. That said, my wife's parents did buy him an iPad mini and my old lap top is essentially his now....

    5. Re:This worries me by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I have a 10 year old son right now, he will be 11 in a few months.

      He doesn't have a smart phone and isn't getting one until he is 16.

      He also doesn't have unlimited access to the Internet at home and for the time being, I can control that. In a few years it will be harder to control, but it has to come off at some point.

      Giving a 10 year old unlimited access to the Internet at 10 is beyond stupid, most kids can't handle it and it won't end well.

      Yes, there are exceptions, but they are the exceptions that prove the rule. Just remember that you're the Dad, not society, so do what you think is right for your kids, everyone else be dammed.

    6. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Mostly it juts means that they are less likely to at some point be in a dark ally trying to get something (porn, candy, etc.) from a guy with a white van, because they can catfish from their couch rather than having to meet up to take delivery.

    7. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      As our children began to venture farther and farther away from the home (i.e: to go to the park, friends' houses etc.) my wife wanted them to have some sort of cell phone (not necessarily a "smart" phone) so that we could check up on them, call them if they needed to come home, etc. They're also useful at shopping malls etc. (i.e: texting to find out where they are / set up meet-up locations etc.) Did parents get along fine without cell phones for that purpose? Sure, but it has made it a lot easier. A smart phone could potentially also be useful if something bad happened (i.e: if they went missing). They were a bit older than "10.3" years when they got their first phones, and at first it was one shared phone (for 2 children). But I have to admit it's been worth-while and I can see why parents might get their children phones those types of reasons. They don't necessarily need to be state-of-the art "smart" phones with data plans etc.

    8. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      And it's fucking true with TVs and cars to this day. 10 year olds don't need to be driving cars!

    9. Re:This worries me by Anne+Thwacks · · Score: 1
      written language as well

      You do realise people can write porn without even having to learn to spell!

      You don't actually need ChromeOS for porn. Hell, you can even draw it in the sand with a stick.

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    10. Re:This worries me by irrational_design · · Score: 1

      They won't be social outcasts. I don't allow my teenagers to have a smart phone/tablet/etc. unless they want to buy and pay for it themselves (shocker - they don't) and they are far from social outcasts.

    11. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      But I'm sure you didn't save up for your first bike, and that your parents got it for you. Phones/smartphones of today are the bikes of yesteryear, they provide the means to gather friends together, and provide entertainment.

    12. Re:This worries me by wbr1 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      There is an order of magnitude difference between TV. Or the works of Beethoven, and everything mankind has done or knows or lies about. The good and the bad. Beheadings, or Bartók, it's all there for good or ill. I won't guess what the net effect will be, but there is no substitute for parenting. Don't use the radio, or the TV, or the phone as a babysitter with no other input. THAT is the recipe for disaster.

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    13. Re:This worries me by Locke2005 · · Score: 2

      Welcome to the world of "I have to turn my ringer off at school, and I never remember to turn it back on after school, so I never answer the phone when you call anyway!"

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      I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
    14. Re:This worries me by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      There are statues of women with big boobs dating back thousands of years... yes, porn has been around forever! I believe they have found 1000 year old dildos as well.

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    15. Re:This worries me by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      It means your sons will never have the experience of losing a bar bet, because they can always google the correct answer first!

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    16. Re: This worries me by johnsmithperson123 · · Score: 1

      Oh, and soon it will be if you don't get them an iPhone or Samsung. Some kids BREAK things, people.

    17. Re:This worries me by LiquidAvatar · · Score: 1

      I'm a tech nerd, but I had similar reservations. Up until my first son was 2, we let him watch children's television and generally were the normal American household. A friend of mine told me about Waldorf education and so we went to some seminars at a local school. I'm not really onboard with the spiritual philosophy, but I've been totally won over by their educational philosophy. They stress the importance of social development for young children, introducing scholastic skills later than public schools. They strongly discourage the use of most entertainment technologies during this period, as the human connection is so important to children.

      After the seminars, we reduced TV time to 30 minutes per week (one show on Saturday morning). The first week or two were tough, as we all had to develop new routines, but it made a huge difference for us. Our son made very swift leaps in his communication ability and his imaginative play. We're lucky enough to live near a character school that follows the Waldorf educational philosophy, so we've been able to join in a community of like-minded parents. How does this tie into your worry about having internet access or becoming a social outcast? Well, there are communities where the average kid doesn't have that level of internet access, but you do have to find them.

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      It is difficult to free fools from the chains they revere.
      -Voltaire
    18. Re: This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      But there is an important difference between snickering at statues and watching effectively unlimited 4K smut under the covers all night long at the age of ten.

      Have some humanity and let kids be kids.

      Parent children by parental standards not children's standards.

      Personally I think phones are toys, not tools. I would rather accept the risk my child is alone and lost in the big bad world, than the certainty of psychological and emotional impairment or development issues caused by premature exposure to adult content.

    19. Re: This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Great post and I have the same attitude and will do the same as my baby grows up into an adult.

    20. Re: This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      It means you have to start integrating general internet and social media safety at a fairly early age.

    21. Re:This worries me by DRJlaw · · Score: 1

      Giving a 10 year old unlimited access to the Internet at 10 is beyond stupid, most kids can't handle it and it won't end well. ... Just remember that you're the Dad, not society, so do what you think is right for your kids, everyone else be dammed.

      Congratulations. I don't consider it beyond stupid, my 10 year old can handle it, and you're damned.

    22. Re:This worries me by TapeCutter · · Score: 1

      My sons will have, in their pocket, full access to the breadth of the internet by the age of 10

      I have 3 grandkids and another 2 on the way, the only thing resembling a mobile phone in my childhood was Captain Kirk's communicator. I think the fact a 10yo can have a communicator in his pocket is fucking awesome, the fact that it can also access mankind's knowledge base is doubly awesome

      Disclaimer - I haven't had a mobile phone for over a decade now.

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      And did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage? - Pink Floyd.
    23. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Those studies are backwards. I suffer from depression and anxiety, the worse I get the more often I go on social media. Social media is a coping strategy. It doesn't work in the long term as it doesn't raise your ability to handle yourself, but it gives that illusion when you use it.

      Your 10 year old son won't be accessing extreme porn sites if you teach them about reproduction and sex before hand. My parents taught me nothing about sex and I had to go find it online. So yes, I found them but not because I was looking for porn. It was because I didn't have a clue what porn was, what females looked like under their clothing, and if I rubbed myself in a certain way was I injuring myself or was I broken somehow? I didn't know and was afraid to ask, so I went online to find out. It is far easier to find porn than real sexual education. Even most of the sex ed sites don't show you real, labeled photos. Instead they show you poor diagrams which still leaves you wondering what does it actually look like. My penis doesn't look like that, so how far off are the female diagrams? How do I find actual images?

      If your 4 year old doesn't know differences between males and females you're failing as a parent. Kids should be taught before their hormones are kicked into high gear. Some people are black, some are white, some have beards, some have breasts, some have a penis. Kids don't care about anyone of that, its just the way things are. When they hit puberty and know it then its "oh, I'm going through that now". The problem is when teenagers hit puberty without knowing any of that. Then they find porn and become obsessed with it. What is this secret, forbidden thing no adults want me to know which feels pretty good? They're definitely going to be hooked on that.

      The GP can't even spell "porn" properly. Sexual education, and the sexual maturity that goes along with it, has completely failed.

      By the way, I first started noticing differences between males and females from newspaper advertisements. Those eventually lead me to porn sites. Ads should be called 'gateway drugs' to porn.

    24. Re:This worries me by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 2

      my 10 year old can handle it

      Maybe... there are likely exceptions out there, perhaps you're one of them...

      MORE likely you're not and you'll regret it in 20 years, but only time will tell. :)

      There is some NASTY stuff online... goat sex, BDSM, etc. that he'll run across that a 10 year old brain isn't ready to handle. Hell, I'm 40 and I don't want to see that stuff. :)

      Further, most 10 year olds don't understand how creepy and messed up some people in the world really are, they will end up talking to someone who will not have their best interests at heart.

      But it is your kid, so do as you like, just own the results. :)

    25. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      My parents restricted Internet access, computer access, and put the computer in a public viewable space. That never stopped me from downloading a ton of porn. Education on how reproduction actually worked and what it actually looked like instead of simple drawings would have been good enough for me, but no. I had to actively work against my parents every moment I was on the computer (looking for those few moments when they weren't looking and I could quickly add a new link to a hidden background downloader utility) because they wanted to keep me a kid instead of helping me grow up. It took them 6 years until I accidentally downloaded a virus and then they discovered half of my hidden files (never found the other half).

      You're the Dad. You should have prepared your kid from the world, not hidden it from him. It's Mom's job to cuddle him. If he doesn't already know everything about sex, you've missed the best times to teach him. He should know all about puberty before it happens.

    26. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Ha at 10 I was using renegade on the c64 to copy farm house cartoon porn from friends. I control what my son watches, he is 5 and I let him roam free on youtube watching lego jurassic park incessantly, to the point just last week he decided he wanted to play it (after about 15 weeks of watching some crazy guy do walk thrus on his ps4), it is really difficult for a youngen to play this game, but he is learning it so fast. I am proud of my son, I continuously teach him logic and soon I will teach him how to program. Being the right kind of controlling is how I like to do things. I hate being restricted and he does too, and why the ipad is such a good punishment device :)

    27. Re:This worries me by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 1

      My parents restricted Internet access, computer access, and put the computer in a public viewable space. That never stopped me from downloading a ton of porn.

      Then they didn't do a very good job... Or you were 15 and just went to someone else's house. :)

      Our computers are password protected and Internet access is on a white-list... My kids are 10 and under and while they are smart, there are limits to what they can do without me knowing about it, at least in my house...

      I had to actively work against my parents every moment I was on the computer

      Ahh, in other words you didn't give a crap about your parents, their rules, or their efforts to raise you. What a punk ass worthless fuck...

    28. Re:This worries me by axewolf · · Score: 1

      The exact same comment was made for TV, the car, the locomotive, and the music of Beethoven. I wouldn't be surprised if it was made for math and the written language as well. We somehow all survived.

      NO. WRONG.
      Are you like, retarded?
      None of that stuff is even comparable. And if it is, I don't think anyone is interested in reading the voluminous account of the mental gymnastics required to make them so.

      The same comment WAS made for the TV....and it remains to be seen that ANY of us have survived. Define survival. There are countless casualties of TV. There are people who have no personality, only a congealed amalgam of affectations. And there are people who eschew all that. To be honest, the average 'productive member of society' is deep in the former end of this spectrum of soullessness: Parroting lines from all kinds of shows ("SICK REFERENCES BRO, HAHALOL"), making vicarious experiences centerpieces of daily conversation, et cetera.

      Make no mistake, smart phones are making retarded people. If you care about your children, you will keep them far away from that shit. Move somewhere where people are like-minded. There is no need to become melodramatic and fear social rejection. Give your children the environment they need to keep their god-given faculties about them at any cost.

    29. Re: This worries me by kellymcdonald78 · · Score: 1

      My kids are 8 and 9, they arnt social outcasts and don't have their own phone or tablet, they won't have them either for another 4-5 years

    30. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Not to mention, at least when I grew up, a kid was lucky at 10 if their allowance was enough to afford a monthly cell phone bill not to mention whatever up front fee you have to pay. Not they got the phone does that mean they don't want money for candy, to go to the movies, to collect cards or whatever? It has become just another bill we accept as just something that needs to be paid.

      I say, if anything give the kid a dumb phone ... a couple hours a day without access to the internet won't hurt them while still giving the paranoid parent GPS/ready access to call their kid.

    31. Re:This worries me by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 1

      Ha at 10 I was using renegade on the c64 to copy farm house cartoon porn from friends.

      When the C64 was current, it is likely that your parents were not tech savvy... Sadly, many parents still aren't...

      I am, have done this for a long time, and keep the house fairly well locked down.

      From time to time, they'll surprise me, but I have monitoring in place to catch it.

    32. Re:This worries me by tom229 · · Score: 1

      So true.

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    33. Re:This worries me by Nethemas+the+Great · · Score: 1

      *shrug* Not sure what the issue is, other than household incomes creating haves and have nots. For my daughter--which will turn three next month--having her own Android tablet has been a huge boon for her language and social skills. Obviously installing nanny apps, and playing an attentive role in what she's doing on there is critical. From my perspective I see it as a very important tool for her development.

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    34. Re:This worries me by tom229 · · Score: 1

      You're not sure? Use your imagination.

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    35. Re:This worries me by rtb61 · · Score: 1

      Seriously countries should get together to create a supervised children only internet, linking together children, education facilities and licensed adults who supervise. The whole of idea of children on an adult internet exposed in an uncontrolled manner to adult content and adult advertising and in fact any manipulative advertising that could psychological harm children.

      A complete separate range of encrypted protocols to which unlicensed adults are legally denied access and which is meant to promote the health and well being of children, provide a sound venue for education as well as broader community accepted forms of entertainment and approved advertisements.

      Right now the only thing blocking it is, extraordinarily corrupt politicians and the corrupt corporations (junk food and junk content and junk products), that back them. So yes, the solution is children should not use an internet designed for adults, it's just fucking common sense.

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    36. Re:This worries me by Nostalgia4Infinity · · Score: 1

      I bought my daughter a tablet at 2, a used galaxy s3 at 5. She's turning 7 this month, about to complete first grade and is reading at 3.8 grade level, her math is at 2.6 grade level.

    37. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      just because its available, does not mean you have to give it to your kids at such a young age

    38. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You know, some of us could read before age 10. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm as much of a luddite as the rest of you, but acting like access to the internet is somehow going to ruin your kids is ridiculous. While I have no interest in something like a smart phone, let alone a smart phone for a kid, treating kids (over a certain age) as idiots that need to be kept safe from themselves is ridiculous. I mean, maybe for a 10 year old that's somewhat true, but there are a lot of people on here saying that their kid can have a phone when they are 16, or when they pay rent.

      Kids are not stupid, so when they see you on your phone they're going to want to know what you're keeping from them. I can't help but laugh at everyone saying that won't let their kid have (xyz popular item), because the odds are that you are making your child an expert in obtaining that item- and probably an expert at lying to you as well. If you give them fewer rights than you give yourself, they'll probably give you the respect that you deserve.

    39. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Trust is a key issue for me. My parents trusted me to stay out of trouble about as much as most parents would, I suppose, and sure I overstepped a few occasions - who doesn't? I think my child will mostly be ready for the nasty harm that WILL come his way, the internet is just full of nutjobs and people wanting to ruin your life. I believe in teaching my son the difference between right and wrong and how that affects our relationship as a family unit. He will see things when I am not around and I want him to be ready to handle himself when they do. Coddling him will not raise him like I want him to be, a predator of learning.

    40. Re:This worries me by umafuckit · · Score: 1

      I was recently in a poor and secluded village in China. They barely have education in this place and I met at least one youngish adult who couldn't read. Nonetheless, all of the kids (of about 10 years old) were out in the street in the evening interacting with their phones and not each other. The older generation said that a lot of the traditions of the village have been wiped out because of this. The kids no longer do what kids in that place used to do. This has, as you might imagine, happened more or less over night (although TV has played a role too, and that's been there for longer). Sad in a way.

    41. Re:This worries me by sociocapitalist · · Score: 3, Insightful

      I have a 10 year old son right now, he will be 11 in a few months.

      He doesn't have a smart phone and isn't getting one until he is 16.

      He also doesn't have unlimited access to the Internet at home and for the time being, I can control that. In a few years it will be harder to control, but it has to come off at some point.

      Giving a 10 year old unlimited access to the Internet at 10 is beyond stupid, most kids can't handle it and it won't end well.

      Yes, there are exceptions, but they are the exceptions that prove the rule. Just remember that you're the Dad, not society, so do what you think is right for your kids, everyone else be dammed.

      You can't control what your 10 year old is going to have access to when he isn't home.

      I've chosen rather to discuss with my son what to expect and he is aware that there is a lot on the net that would upset him. As such he polices himself better than I ever could, regardless of where he is.

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    42. Re:This worries me by quenda · · Score: 1

      Seriously countries should get together to create a supervised children only internet, linking together children, education facilities and licensed adults ...

      Eh? I was waiting for the punchline, but it never came. Are you really serious!?
      My children seem to have no trouble avoiding "adult" content on the internet, just as they avoid it on TV. I don't have to password-protect Game of Thrones in the media server.
      Perhaps you are one of those people who want to treat teenagers as children, instead of the young adults that biology has made them?

    43. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Can you disprove this may yield higher currency profits?

    44. Re:This worries me by wbr1 · · Score: 1

      Of course he is. Because putting the liquor, porn, and guns on the high shelf always keeps it from kids. So an internet license with your own unlock code and encryption will keep the internet away from kids.. right? Right?

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    45. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Of course he is. Because putting the liquor, porn, and guns on the high shelf always keeps it from kids. So an internet license with your own unlock code and encryption will keep the internet away from kids.. right? Right?

      Lock down the kids phones and force them through a child safe proxy with only a whitelist, as well as a child safe search engine. Sure a few percent might be jail broken, but it is better than not doing it.

      Of course, I do think actual adults should not ever be filtered.

    46. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I believe, at this age and time, you and your kid are the exception!
      I am sorry for your kid!
      [An anonymous troll]

    47. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I have a 10 year old son right now, he will be 11 in a few months.

      He doesn't have a smart phone and isn't getting one until he is 16.

      I got unrestricted internet access when I was 12 back in 96 in a old dial-up and turned out ok, my parents try blocking me when I was 13, and that just made me hack my way up to do as I pleased, I'm a computer programmer now

      There is some NASTY stuff online... goat sex, BDSM, etc. that he'll run across that a 10 year old brain isn't ready to handle. Hell, I'm 40 and I don't want to see that stuff. :)

      everybody watch porn at some point, some is disgusting and you just don't want to see it anymore, I got mine from internet when I was 13, my friends did from old magazines or rentals by older friends, if you want to get porn you'll find a way

    48. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Make no mistake, smart phones are making retarded people. If you care about your children, you will keep them far away from that shit. Move somewhere where people are like-minded. There is no need to become melodramatic and fear social rejection. Give your children the environment they need to keep their god-given faculties about them at any cost.

      My oldest kid is 8 years old and in 3rd grade, has been using a tablet/smartphone since he was 2 and a half, at the beginning he just used it for playing games, but now he does homework with it, I taught him to keep his accounting on gnucash so he can manage his expenses and savings (which I double at the end of the year), he's 5 of 35 on his class with an avg score of 4.5 out of 5 (he gets 4.9 in math/science, but 4 religion because is an atheist like me)
      I got into computers when I was 12 and make a living out of it
      my other son is just 4 and also had his first tablet at 2 but right now only uses it for playing games and learning to read

      guess it all depends on how you use the technology and not the tech per se

    49. Re:This worries me by Marble+River · · Score: 1

      I didn't get a locomotive until I was 13 and I turned out OK.

    50. Re:This worries me by Agent0013 · · Score: 1

      His idea was to allow only kids and licenced adults. That is the funniest part. How is my kid going to have access to a kid internet, but I won't be able to get on? Perhaps if all children are taken from their homes at birth to be raised in large warehouses or something, but I don't see many people accepting that route either.

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    51. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Do real shit with your kids. Chop wood, weld, explode things. Who gives a fuck what other kids think of them; they will be fine later on.

    52. Re:This worries me by dave420 · · Score: 1

      "The kids no longer do what kids in that place used to do" - die from malnourishment and/or easily-treated disease?

    53. Re:This worries me by bluefoxlucid · · Score: 1

      Think of the pornography!

    54. Re:This worries me by bluefoxlucid · · Score: 1

      Socrates made the argument about written language; Plato wrote down the knowledge of Socrates after he died because Socrates wouldn't allow it.

    55. Re:This worries me by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 1

      You can't control what your 10 year old is going to have access to when he isn't home.

      Sure I can... He is home, then he is at school, or he is at a friends house of someone I trust...

      He is 10, not 15... For now, I do have more or less total control over his world...

      That won't last long however, he has one more year in elementary school, then it starts to go.

      I've chosen rather to discuss with my son what to expect

      You talk to your 10 year old about goat sex? Pedophiles? Worse?

    56. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      That's great! She'll be able to enlist when she's ten and join the NSA when she's 14!

    57. Re:This worries me by nycsubway · · Score: 1

      I completely agree. I have a 9 year old girl, a 5 year old boy and a 3 year old girl. Although I was working in fast food at 16, I didn't get a cellular phone until I was 24. Payphones or the house phone were the only way to communicate. It's very different than when we were growing up. I think that creates the fear: that a social norm in our generation can be fundamentally different in our children's generation. Our grandparents would say "wow, back in my day we had a party-line if we had a phone at all" and there's a lot truth to how upsetting seeing the world change completely in span of a decade can be, especially when you consider how that change impacts your understanding of your children. Our grandparent's generation saw change to the quality of life and removal of hardship: things they considered necessary to being a stronger person. How can someone become strong and independent if technology makes everything easier?

      For our generation its basically the social relationships that are affected. We've removed the threat of crippling diseases, and most hunger. There are lot of benefits to having a constant connection to the outside world, but... there's a lot of downsides. Never really being alone, but also never really getting close to someone. Stretches of isolation or boredom are gone, replaced with constant insignificant communication via text message. You aren't ever really alone, so some people don't feel the need to communicate anymore than superficially. Being stuck with someone: waiting in line, working on a team, not being in a cubicle... things to which you can't bring a newspaper, but could easily bring a cell phone. That forced conversation, which often turns out pretty beneficial, is gone. Deep conversations are less frequent, the thoughtfulness required to write a meaningful letter, replaced by 140 character text messages. Conversation is abbreviated and less meaningful. I'm not sure that's a good thing for the kids to be doing, much like removal of all hardship wasn't necessarily a good thing for our previous generations.

      This whole thing makes me think of a Star Trek NG episode, in which Q brings Piccard to his home. All of the Q's live forever and can control anything, so they've already experienced everything possible and have no challenges to overcome. They're sitting there in silence. That's basically what happens when you take away all hardship and preempt all communication with tweets. It gets really really boring. Nothing to overcome and nothing to talk about.

    58. Re:This worries me by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I've chosen rather to discuss with my son what to expect

      You talk to your 10 year old about goat sex? Pedophiles? Worse?

      It's a difficult conversation, but there are many helpful books and brochures.

    59. Re: This worries me by JonBoy47 · · Score: 1

      The original article mentions that the survey asked parents how old the kid was when they gave them the phone, but didn't ask if the phone had service or not.

      It's really common for parents to hand-me-down their old, no longer activated phones to their kids. It's also really cheap and easy to buy pre-paid Android phones and not even activate them.

    60. Re:This worries me by sociocapitalist · · Score: 1

      You can't control what your 10 year old is going to have access to when he isn't home.

      Sure I can... He is home, then he is at school, or he is at a friends house of someone I trust...

      He is 10, not 15... For now, I do have more or less total control over his world...

      That won't last long however, he has one more year in elementary school, then it starts to go.

      Emphasis mine.

      I know that at 10 my son had at least one friend who was looking at more than he should have been - and it was my son that told me about it (as I said policing himself better than I could). So maybe your son will tell you - maybe not.

      I've chosen rather to discuss with my son what to expect

      You talk to your 10 year old about goat sex? Pedophiles? Worse?

      Of course not in detail but yes, absolutely. He understands that people 'do things' together and that it's called sex and that usually this is nice and some is abnormal and can be very upsetting for him to see and so forth. And yes I give vague examples.

      So far the worst thing I've seen in the search history is "naked women" which I find to be healthy enough curiousity for a pre-teen, not something to be worried about at all.

      --
      blindly antisocialist = antisocial
    61. Re:This worries me by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 1

      My son is not allowed into other people's homes. Too many people do not secure their guns or their internet. At least one neighbor on the street that I know of keeps a loaded shotgun under their bed unsecured. And of course other parents do give unrestricted access to the Internet to their kids. That is why my kids don't go into other people's homes.

      Electronic devices are not allowed at school either. No phones, no tablets, and the schools devices are locked down.

      He really doesn't have any place to be exposed to any of it.

      One more year of elementary school, then that starts to go, since kids are allowed to have phones in junior high. I will spend the summer before junior high discussing this stuff. He isn't ready for it now.

    62. Re:This worries me by sociocapitalist · · Score: 1

      My son is not allowed into other people's homes. Too many people do not secure their guns or their internet. At least one neighbor on the street that I know of keeps a loaded shotgun under their bed unsecured. And of course other parents do give unrestricted access to the Internet to their kids. That is why my kids don't go into other people's homes.

      Electronic devices are not allowed at school either. No phones, no tablets, and the schools devices are locked down.

      He really doesn't have any place to be exposed to any of it.

      One more year of elementary school, then that starts to go, since kids are allowed to have phones in junior high. I will spend the summer before junior high discussing this stuff. He isn't ready for it now.

      Well I hope he has siblings then, as otherwise it must be a pretty lonely time.

      My experience growing up in the US was that everything that was bad, forbidden, out of reach, blocked...was thus waaaay more interesting than it should have been. This is why I prefer to expose my son to everything that he might encounter, in moderation and with discussion, instead of it just happening to him all at once when he gets free of a closed ecosystem of control.

      You'll raise your kid the way you think best, of course. I'm just providing my own viewpoint for comparison.

      --
      blindly antisocialist = antisocial
    63. Re:This worries me by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 1

      Well I hope he has siblings then, as otherwise it must be a pretty lonely time.

      He does, but he also plays with friends. Either they come here, or they play at the bounce house (a local business that has way cool massive bounce toys), or we take them to the mall (which has a kids play area), etc.

      My point is that he doesn't play with other kids in their homes without our supervision.

      As far as "forbidden", keep in mind that my son already has his own rifle and I've let him shoot my handgun as well. These are not "forbidden", they are just serious things that require a serious approach and are not toys.

      Even my 5 year old has been able to shoot his brothers rifle once (with Dad's help of course), it takes the fear and mystery out of it. It also allows me to explain the difference between video games and real life, because I can't put the watermelon back together again after we destroy it with a gun.

    64. Re:This worries me by sociocapitalist · · Score: 1

      Well I hope he has siblings then, as otherwise it must be a pretty lonely time.

      He does, but he also plays with friends. Either they come here, or they play at the bounce house (a local business that has way cool massive bounce toys), or we take them to the mall (which has a kids play area), etc.

      My point is that he doesn't play with other kids in their homes without our supervision.

      As far as "forbidden", keep in mind that my son already has his own rifle and I've let him shoot my handgun as well. These are not "forbidden", they are just serious things that require a serious approach and are not toys.

      Even my 5 year old has been able to shoot his brothers rifle once (with Dad's help of course), it takes the fear and mystery out of it. It also allows me to explain the difference between video games and real life, because I can't put the watermelon back together again after we destroy it with a gun.

      Sounds reasonable to me.

      Cheers

      --
      blindly antisocialist = antisocial
  5. Hmm..... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    My kid is seven and he has an iPhone. Not sure what the issue is............????

    1. Re:Hmm..... by Jhon · · Score: 1

      What 7 year old needs a $400+ phone? "Smart phones" in particular are huge distractions. My 16 year old has an iphone 5 and when home it's not in use (my rules) until after homework and dinner. Then it's back on the table for charging at 10pm. My 13 year old uses a little nokia candy-bar phone with a flip keyboard.

    2. Re:Hmm..... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You sound like a huge asshole. Your kids probably hate you.

    3. Re:Hmm..... by fluffernutter · · Score: 4, Insightful

      The issue is that a kid should be experiencing life a little bit before they learn to distract it away with a phone? I know if my kids had smartphones that would be the end of conversations in the car and at restaurants and I happen to like talking to my kids.

      --
      Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
    4. Re:Hmm..... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

      Moderators, please delete this comment. My seven-year old made this comment from his iPhone and has been severely reprimanded. No access until after homework and dinner tonight.

    5. Re:Hmm..... by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 1

      Ignore the stupid ACs, who are probably trolling anyway...

      You're doing the right thing...

    6. Re:Hmm..... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You can get new "Smart phones" for less than $100.

    7. Re:Hmm..... by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      Would you like me to tell you how many phones my kids has lost and broken? If you can afford to give your kid a new phone every few months when they screw up, then more power too you. (Strangely, she's had the $600 iPhone for about 2.5 years now without breaking it. She has lost it and used Find My Phone to track it down more than once, though, Once dropped it out of her purse on the sidewalk, but apparently nobody picked it up.

      --
      I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
    8. Re:Hmm..... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The issue is that a kid should be experiencing life a little bit before they learn to distract it away with a phone? I know if my kids had smartphones that would be the end of conversations in the car and at restaurants and I happen to like talking to my kids.

      I can see this argument from yesteryear:

      The issue is that a kid should be experiencing life a little bit before they learn to distract it away with a COMPUTER? I know if my kids had COMPUTERS that would be the end of conversations AT HOME and I happen to like talking to my kids.

      The issue is that a kid should be experiencing life a little bit before they learn to distract it away with a COMICBOOK? I know if my kids had COMICBOOKS that would be the end of conversations in the car and at restaurants and I happen to like talking to my kids.

      The issue is that a kid should be experiencing life a little bit before they learn to distract it away with a BIKE? I know if my kids had BIKES that would be the end of conversations AT HOME and I happen to like talking to my kids.

    9. Re:Hmm..... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      My kids have their own tablets. They have phones too but no sim card. (They're our old android 2.3 phones and event he kids don't use them much).

      We still take them to the park to ride bikes, they do karate, my daughter does dance. Conversations in the car aren't a problem. They get motion sick reading in the car so the most they do is watch videos on long trips.

      How you and the kids use the tech is up to you. You don't have to let it be their babysitter.

    10. Re:Hmm..... by fluffernutter · · Score: 1

      And.. as a result society is more selfish and narcissistic then they were before. You can continue the trend if you want, it's your kids. I'm just saying society would be better if we didn't in general.

      --
      Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
    11. Re:Hmm..... by fluffernutter · · Score: 1

      Well true, there is moderation. You don't have to be Amish. I was talking more about the parents that almost look relieved to have an addictive distraction for their kids.

      --
      Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
    12. Re: Hmm..... by kellymcdonald78 · · Score: 1

      You know what we do with our kids on long car rides? Have them look out the window and see the amazing world outside. When they get bored with that they play imagination games with each other

    13. Re:Hmm..... by phlack · · Score: 1

      In my case, the phone problem pretty much belongs to my wife. She has either lost or destroyed 5 phones so far. (Tracking software helped recover most, but they were usually in bad shape) Insurance covered 4 of them (they definitely did NOT make money off of her). Now I just get her not-so-high-end phones...cheaper than paying the insurance premiums and deductibles when she has a loss. She loses credit cards too. Yes, she isn't very aware of her surroundings sometimes. My 13 year old daughter lost her phone once (and I still think it's in the house somewhere). Luckily it was a cheap android (intentional on my part). I then got her another very cheap android telling her "This one is on me. The next one is on you". She doesn't use it much, though. Myself and my 16 year old son have yet to lose a phone. That's why he has his precious iPhone...because he's responsible. Eventually I'll upgrade my Nexus 5 (2013) but it's still serving me well right now.

    14. Re:Hmm..... by dave420 · · Score: 1

      Or you are and the OP are the assholes. I guess it's 50/50...

    15. Re: Hmm..... by fluffernutter · · Score: 1

      We have an entertainment system in our vehicle but our kids aren't allowed to use it unless we're having a ride that is more than a couple hours and then they are allowed to watch one movie and take a break and read. We play games otherwise as well.

      --
      Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
    16. Re:Hmm..... by fluffernutter · · Score: 1

      Also, none of the things you mentioned is a several hundred dollar device that fits in a pocket and can get easily broken or stolen. Nor do any of those things go with them inside the school. Having this new distraction at school is the biggest problem. Teachers try to control it but it's not something that is controllable. My kids have friends that are chatting with one another in the morning before school, at school, and until 11:30 at night. We're not sure if their parents are aware how much they are on the things, or if they simply don't care.

      --
      Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
  6. It's a real problem for some parents. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Look, this is actually a very real problem for some parents.

    My son plays baseball. Last week I was talking to one of the other fathers during a game. He was explaining to me how he can either get his son a Chromebook or a smart phone. He was saying that if he got his son a Chromebook that it would be cheaper, but he didn't want to subject his son to ChromeOS. His son would probably also get laughed at at school for having a Chromebook instead of a smart phone. So he was likely going to get his son a smart phone instead of a Chromebook. His reasoning was that if his son needs to use a mobile device in order to function in our modern world, he'd rather have his son using Android instead of ChromeOS. He didn't think that Android would necessarily be a good influence on his kid, but he did think it would be better than making his kid use ChromeOS.

    1. Re:It's a real problem for some parents. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I got laughed at in school and beat in grade school. Now 30 years late I am retired, travel the world and own a few businesses. While getting laughed at may suck, it beats getting the crap kicked out of you and prepares you for real life.

    2. Re: It's a real problem for some parents. by johnsmithperson123 · · Score: 2

      "Subjected" to Chrome OS? Honestly. I think children should be exposed to a variety of OSs and software, not living in a Windows-only or Mac-exclusive or Android-preferred or even LinuxLand home. People don't get how to understand multiple interfaces and different software and such these days.

    3. Re:It's a real problem for some parents. by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      Get the right software, and you can track every place your son goes to with a smartphone, They are unlikely to take the chrome book with them everywhere. As someone who worries when I don't know where my daughter is, I prefer she carry a smartphone. However, she also owns an iPad and a MacBook, because "both" is always a choice too.

      --
      I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
    4. Re: It's a real problem for some parents. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Nearly all kids in school that my daughter attends seem to preder chromebooks. She actually had the choice between an ipad and mbp for the end of the year, and surprised me by just wanting a cheapish chromebook.

      Crazy, but the schools are already so integrated with google that it gives her what she needs.

  7. *Facepalm* by eepok · · Score: 4, Insightful

    I will not trust my child with a private computer, digital camera, or cell phone until high school. And even then, it will be for very low values of "trust". I was young. I know what we would have done with those tools had we had them. I'm not letting my child's life get screwed up by such indiscretions.

    Want photos? Excellent. Here's a camera, film, and some batteries. Remember, these will have to be developed down the street.
    Want to use the computer. Fine. It's my computer. My lock down. And it's in the dining room.
    Want to use a phone to call someone? Cool. Here's the land line.
    *Need* a cell phone? Alright, here's one with three buttons: Mom, Dad, and Police.
    Oh, you bought one yourself? Neat! It's mine now.

    You hate me? I'm so very sad. No child has ever hated a parent before.

    1. Re:*Facepalm* by Jhon · · Score: 3, Interesting

      I'm not that strict with the phones or anything else -- but I'm not far behind.

      My kids have RDP terminals in their rooms with just enough bandwidth to run word/excel. The main computer is in the dining room (on wheels when we need the full space for guests). All homework is done at the dining room table.

      Only my son (16) has a smart phone and he pays for service himself. The phone, however, is mine. He's not allowed to "own" a phone until he pays rent. Phones aren't allowed in the house during the week except early evening (after homework/dinner and before 10pm). Weekends are a bit more generous.

      The cool thing is I wrote a chore tracker which they need to fill out every day or they automagically lose internet access on all their devices (except access to the tracker). They just need to fill out if they did a task and if not provide a reason. It wont cut them off if they dont do their choirs -- just if they dont report it. I can cut them off or return access from my phone anywhere with an internet connection. They're pretty honest about filling it out and know if they lie and get caught it's a week without internet.

    2. Re:*Facepalm* by Thud457 · · Score: 1

      Funny that they have limited phones adapted for seniors, but people are supposed to give their children full-auto 662 horsepower unrestricted iPhones.

      And they should be cheap, too. They're always losing them or forgetting and putting them in the washer. (unclear who I'm talking about here...)

      --

      the preceding comment is my own and in no way reflects the opinion of the Joint Chiefs of Staff

    3. Re:*Facepalm* by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You can be the bad cop all you want. But I'm going to share something with you. Not to tell you that you're doing wrong, but...

      As a child, I told my father that I hated him many times. In retrospect, it was one of the most regrettable things I ever did; I think that the last time I did it was at age 19. I think I must have done it at least 100 times.

      Today, he still reminds me sometimes that I did that. He will never allow me to forget, and I know that in retrospect, it did, indeed, make him very sad. So, if you're at all like my father, don't make the mistake of thinking that you won't feel sad if and when your child curses you and says that he hates you.

      Yes, many children hate their parents, but I guaran-damn-tee you that you will feel different when it is your child.

      Now, that being said, FUCK YOU, you authoritarian TWAT ASSHOLE!!! I hope you get run over by a truck real soon. I fucking HATE you; you're the worst parent ever.

      Now you see how that made you feel? I'm a complete stranger on the internet and I told you that I hate you. How does that feel coming from a stranger? Now, imagine it coming from your child, and genuinely felt.

      God help me when my little one becomes a teenager.

      Oh, and did I meantion, FUCK YOU?

    4. Re:*Facepalm* by Jhon · · Score: 1

      My son's service is limited by his resources. About $8 per month on Freedompop -- He's got about 500MB of data per month. Phone service sucks (it's VOIP) but outgoing calls uses sprint's cell network which are very good. There's other things for which he'd like to use is money.

      And the phone is off ebay -- basically $100.

      My daughter (13), on the other hand, was a $19 nokia t-mobile prepay. I paid $100 for minutes on t-mobile way-back-when and have dropped $10/year (yes year) to keep the phone active. Still has over $90 worth of minutes/texts the phone 3 years later. She barely uses it.

      But you are absolutely right. I've seen some of my son's friends with iphone 6s' and cracked screens already. Thats crazy money to spend on a kid or even a young adult. My son cracked his screen -- he paid $50 of his own money to repair at a ubreakifix shop. Since then, he's been ultra careful with his phone.

    5. Re:*Facepalm* by irrational_design · · Score: 1

      We are the same. We actually switched from wireless phones in the house to one hardwired phone in the kitchen when the kids got old enough that it became a problem. The only computer they can use in the kitchen where we can monitor what they are doing (and we have to unlock it before they can use it). We have a TV, but all it is hooked up to is a DVD player. No internet access to the TV. You want to go to a friends house and do I don't know what? Let's invite them over here instead. Etc. I'm absolutely flabbergasted at guardians who let their kids have unsupervised media access. I hesitate to call them parents since it sure doesn't look like parenting to me.

    6. Re:*Facepalm* by david_thornley · · Score: 1

      C'mon. A camera with film? At least make it digital. It's a lot cheaper and easier to use in the long run. Do they even make such a restricted cell phone? We thought it would be useful for my son to be able to call us if necessary, and discussed not getting it out at school.

      The problem with being too restrictive a parent is that you may push your kid(s) to do things outside the home that may be worse from your point of view and may not be supervised at all. You have to let them screw up sometimes, or they're not going to learn what they should. Your job is to make sure they don't screw up too bad, and that's easier if they're at home when they do at least some dumb things. Think about it.

      One thing I do hope you do is stay flexible. You say your child isn't in high school yet. Your child will be different then, and different rules will be appropriate.

      --
      "When you have eliminated the unacceptable, whatever is left, however improbable, must be the truthiness" - Holmes
    7. Re:*Facepalm* by eepok · · Score: 1

      Wow. Insightful but unpopular opinion gets troll tag. Funny how this "troll" post has so many people relating to it.

    8. Re:*Facepalm* by Ormy · · Score: 1

      I will not trust my child...

      Then it's unlikey your child will thrive in the real world. Trust is the basis of any relationship and should be the default position with your own children. When it comes to risks of serious bodily harm (i.e. just giving a child a gun) maybe some restraint is needed but what actual damage can really be done with a smartphone? Yes there's some sick shit on the internet but there are some pretty sick people in the real world too and 10-12yrs old is the perfect time to start learning that lesson.

      Shelter your kids if that's what you think is best. My kids will have free reign to climb trees and fall down, to be shocked and disgusted by something on the internet, to lash out in anger and regret it afterwards, to break the law and deal with the consequences. I will always be watching of course, ready to intervene if they're in REAL trouble, but otherwise I would not seek to restrict nor augment my kids' experiences at all, just be there for them at the end.

    9. Re:*Facepalm* by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      Damn. You're forcing your kids to download porn OUT ON THE STREETS?!? That's HARSH!

      --
      I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
    10. Re:*Facepalm* by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm sorry but you sound like someone who hasnt raised any kids or has and their kids are spoiled brats with elevated sense of privilege.

      If you have a 10-12 yr old how about I introduce them to sexual offenders? From what you said they are at the perfect age to learn lessons from sexual offenders.

      If and when your kids fall down and go to the emergency room, what better opportunity to teach them not to mooch off others by paying for the hospital bill yourself and not rely on insurance, which would raise every body else's premiums.

      Your fallacy is that you think you can always watch them and intervene at the appropriate moment.

      You can be there for your kids, dont expect any sympathy or subsidies from others when something bad happens that you didn't adequately prepare or mitigate for.

    11. Re:*Facepalm* by Jhon · · Score: 1

      "Shelter your kids..."

      Excellent advice!

      "...they're in REAL trouble"

      I know what you mean!

      See what I did there? Maybe next time you can address a full sentence instead of just a snip.

       

    12. Re:*Facepalm* by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Funny. Most 16 year olds are much more dangerous with cameras and networks than any 10 year old I've ever met.

    13. Re:*Facepalm* by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      At least give her a mirror so she can see what she looks like. What's wrong with letting someone see themselves from different angles? Sure, don't give them a networked camera, but a standard digital camera can be very educational to a curious person.

      I don't hate you. But that you weren't able to build a strong trusting relationship with your offspring is saddening. I take it you don't let them play with any friends.

    14. Re:*Facepalm* by CronoCloud · · Score: 1

      The cool thing is I wrote a chore tracker which they need to fill out every day or they automagically lose internet access on all their devices (except access to the tracker).

      I'm reminded of that Jira for kids parody video.

      "We have to finish the dishes scrum"

      "There, I've commited the last of the dishes to the drying rack"

      "We should do some quality control to see if we got them clean enough"

      "No time!"

    15. Re: *Facepalm* by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm honestly not trying to tell you how to raise your kids. But wouldn't too little tech be a bad thing as well? Obviously a different bad, but technology is here to stay and kids are going to need to know how to use it proper eventually.

      For example, would you not consider a cheap $20 digital camera instead of a film based one?
      Even if the archiving and optional printing of pictures would be done on your PC and on your terms?
      Film is fine if that is specifically desired of course, but for the most part digital cameras are where everyone will be at for a long time to come.

      I'd also hope there would be at least some room in there for building trust to move ahead in tech before they hit 18...
      (I realize that may be an "exception to the rule" sort of thing and you just didn't feel the need to mention it - and fair enough - but I thought it was mention worthy none the less)

      To me it's a little like sex-ed in a way, in that sheltering kids from tech completely and totally until they hit 18 and then just tossing them out into the real world with the expectation of now knowing everything needed to be safe. That method can be just as dangerous as unfettered and unsupervised access to everything without a parents guidance.

      And if I'm mistaken in interpreting you then I am very sorry, but that's kind of how your post came across to at least my eyes.

      Anyway, raising a kid in today's world is a pretty scary cluster fuck and totally different to when I was brought up. I make no claims to being perfect either, so far be it from me for this to come off sounding like a correction. Please take it as nothing more than a friendly suggestion from someone in the same boat. And good luck!

    16. Re:*Facepalm* by Kjella · · Score: 1

      I will not trust my child with a private computer, digital camera, or cell phone until high school. (...) You hate me? I'm so very sad. No child has ever hated a parent before.

      All kids do at some point, that doesn't change the fact that some parents really are being unreasonable. It's not proof you're doing it right. And kids have a pretty good idea what normal is, if nine out of ten in their class gets to have something or do something they will know you are being very uptight, it's not like they're asking for ice cream for dinner or bedtime to be after midnight. That's when your kids will start lying to you, when they were at a friend's house they weren't playing Civilization it was Call of Duty. They weren't watching Harry Potter, they were looking at The Dark Knight. They weren't just doing homework they also talked to people on Facebook. And they did get ice cream on a Tuesday.

      And if they know that all hell will break loose and they'll be grounded for a week if you find out, it's not going to scare them straight. It'll only confirm their belief that you're being an asshole and that if they want to have fun and do the same stupid shit other kids to they have to do it in secret. It sounds like you think you can flip a switch when they start high school and start trusting them then but it'll be like letting a dog that's been yanked around off the leash, it's going to run and keep running. If the kids feel your parenting is something they should try to get away from as much and as quickly as possible, you're doing it wrong. Being a parent is more than being a prison guard and they're not on parole. It's a learning process from a dependent child to an independent adult and you're the teacher.

      --
      Live today, because you never know what tomorrow brings
    17. Re:*Facepalm* by sociocapitalist · · Score: 1

      I will not trust my child with a private computer, digital camera, or cell phone until high school. And even then, it will be for very low values of "trust". I was young. I know what we would have done with those tools had we had them. I'm not letting my child's life get screwed up by such indiscretions.

      Want photos? Excellent. Here's a camera, film, and some batteries. Remember, these will have to be developed down the street.

      Want to use the computer. Fine. It's my computer. My lock down. And it's in the dining room.

      Want to use a phone to call someone? Cool. Here's the land line.

      *Need* a cell phone? Alright, here's one with three buttons: Mom, Dad, and Police.

      Oh, you bought one yourself? Neat! It's mine now.

      You hate me? I'm so very sad. No child has ever hated a parent before.

      Yep, that doesn't sound like a recipe for maximum rebellious action as soon as your child is out of your immediate presence.

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    18. Re:*Facepalm* by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I hated what my parents did to us when we were growing up. There were many good values they brought us as well as material comfort, but that doesn't really weigh up for all the bad parenting brought by their sense of ownership over us.

      I don't need to forgive them though, since I've abandoned every expectation toward my parents and am happier for it.

      So, as previous poster said, but in a different vein: Beware how you "program" your children. They may never forget, are shaped by your power and might even just dismiss you for the rest of their lives.

      I'm not talking here about setting boundaries, which every parent must do, but about abuse and control regimes that imprison and torture children into becoming molded by their ignorant backassward parents.

      If you're not able to expect responsible answers when asking your child what they want, you're doing parenting wrong. Children are NOT to be expected to become little copies of yourself.

    19. Re:*Facepalm* by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I will not trust my child with a private computer, digital camera, or cell phone until high school. ... You hate me? I'm so very sad. No child has ever hated a parent before.

      That probably works for parents. I'm in a position where my brother passed away leaving only my mom and me. My brother's 14 year old son wanted all of my brother's guns. (There were quite a few.) We thought that a really bad idea and the guns are safe with one of my brother's friends until he turns of age, which still seems too soon, but that was the agreement. Of course the kid hasn't really spoken to us since.

      All in all though, I agree parents should set limits, and so should others that care for the same children. Doing so can, however, sadly have consequences.

    20. Re:*Facepalm* by Bob+the+Super+Hamste · · Score: 1

      I don't see the issue with a digital camera. I let my oldest (7 years old) use the first digital camera my wife and I had that is pretty obsolete as it has the form factor of the old point and shoot film cameras and an 8MP sensor with reasonable glass in front of it. It is a good way for him to learn about photography as he does have an interest in it and is a lot cheaper than learning with a film camera as god knows how much film I wasted when I learned. Then again he doesn't get to keep the camera and is supervised when using it.

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      Time to offend someone
    21. Re:*Facepalm* by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Same AC who told his father he hated him 100 times, posting again.

      I was sort of half-trolling half-serious in my previous post, but I'm going to be all-serious here.

      I don't doubt that my father did the very best he could. I wouldn't describe him too terribly authoritarian. I personally have a very nasty stubborn streak and really can't stand being told what to do.

      In retrospect, I think that the thing that bothered me the most was his lack of empathy towards me and the way I felt. He frequently described me as being entitled and ungrateful, not understanding the value of money, for instance. I can't remember him ever saying anything along the lines of, "Son, I know that you're eager to be out and doing your own thing, but you're just not ready for it yet. I remember that I felt the same when I was your age and I know that being a teenage is not easy." If he had said something like that occasionally, I probably would have never told him that I hated him.

      File that under DUH! It is no more possible for a school age child to appreciate the challenge of earning money than it is for a panda bear to understand the challenge of surviving in the arctic. The panda bear and the polar bear live in different worlds. A father and a teenager may live side-by-side, but they are really worlds apart. Personally, I think that the old-fashioned among us who are so critical of today's children are out of touch. As a child, I worked at least as hard at school, if not harder than I've ever worked in an actual job. I had absolutely no choice over where and when to go to school. I spent most of my waking time being in school and doing homework. I was provided food and shelter by my parents, but I had very little discretionary money. If I wanted something that cost more than a few dollars, whether I got it was completely up to the adults in my life. If I didn't like that, I was entitled and ungrateful.

      I hope that this is useful to whoever is reading. I think that empathy is key when dealing with children.

  8. The Borg have it right by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Let's just cut the BS and implant a "chip" into their skulls right after they're born.

  9. cancer/no cancer by OffTheLip · · Score: 1

    Expect "expert" opinions to bounce around on the cancer link and smartphones for years. Adults don't want to believe they have put their children at risk and don't want to give up their smartphone either.

    1. Re:cancer/no cancer by eepok · · Score: 2

      http://bigthink.com/laurie-vaz...

      A group of top cancer researchers out of the University of Sydney pored over 29-years of data to come to that conclusion. They pulled their data from the Australian National Cancer Registry because all cancer diagnoses in Australia have to be legally registered. The team compared “age and gender-specific incidence rates of 19,858 male and 14,222 females diagnosed with brain cancer between 1982 and 2012, and mobile phone usage data from 1987 to 2012,” writes lead researcher Simon Chapman in the study, published by The International Journal of Cancer Epidemiology. The cell phone data begins in 1987 because that’s when they were first widely available in Australia.

      After factoring in age-specific rates of cancer diagnoses, the immense increase of cell phone use, and a 10-year timeframe to develop a diagnosis, the researchers came to a very reassuring conclusion: “We found no increase in brain cancer incidence compatible with the steep increase in mobile phone use.”

    2. Re: cancer/no cancer by johnsmithperson123 · · Score: 2

      However, with the rise of cell phones occurring after that of cancer, cancer causes cell phones.https://xkcd.com/925/

    3. Re: cancer/no cancer by eepok · · Score: 1

      I wish I could mod this funny.

  10. Dang! by dixonpete · · Score: 2

    I'm nearly 53 and I still haven't owned a smartphone.

    1. Re:Dang! by OrangeTide · · Score: 1

      Well you didn't go to school in the 21st century either.

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      “Common sense is not so common.” — Voltaire
    2. Re:Dang! by pr0fessor · · Score: 1

      Well I didn't go to school in the 21st century either but I do have a smart phone and I do see how the world has changed.

      I'm on the fence, I still I haven't decided if I think cell phones and constant internet and social networking is going to kill society or make it better. I'm sure it will be worse before it's better though.

    3. Re:Dang! by OrangeTide · · Score: 1

      It will be self driving cars turned into killbots that will kill society. We will of course record the whole thing on Instagram and Vine, and complain about our new robotic overlords on twitter.

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      “Common sense is not so common.” — Voltaire
    4. Re:Dang! by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      You're missing out dude. Owning a smartphone is like living inside a Star Trek episode.

      Traffic updates. Google street view. Wikipedia wherever you go. Take photos or videos, e.g. for insurance purposes. Video chat with your relatives. Live currency conversion. Bitcoin wallet. Google translate that overlays live video. Use the camera like a mirror or a magnifying glass or to look around corners.

      It even has a torch.

      Not convinced? Most major airports you can rent a burner phone for a month and return it when you're done. Just try it then see if you can go back.

      It's Star Trek, today.

    5. Re:Dang! by pr0fessor · · Score: 1

      A sunspot will throw off GPS navigation briefly and every car will crash simultaneously.

  11. People who say this isn't bad are just dumb by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Just for context, I'm 32 and a computer programmer.

    Cellphones were pretty new when I was a teenager so no one had them

    I owned my first flip-phone (dumb phone) when I was about 23 which would be about 2007 and now I own my first smartphone which I got mid 2015. Oh and I don't have any data.

    You don't need a smartphone to live life, we need to understand that.

    1. Re:People who say this isn't bad are just dumb by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      Yeah but if the kids have a smart phone the parents can stalk them. Plain old flip phones only let the carriers, governments, and whomever the carriers sell the location data to...stalk them.

    2. Re:People who say this isn't bad are just dumb by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You don't need a car either. A good pair of walking shoes and a transit card will do the trick. The Amish prove that you don't *need* most of these modern conveniences.

      On the otherhand if you're 12 years old and want to meet up with your friends after school, then a smartphone is a prerequisite.

    3. Re:People who say this isn't bad are just dumb by dejitaru · · Score: 1

      As a 33 year old computer nerd, I have to ask though, if you feel you didn't need it why did you get it? Maybe you're still new to the game, but it's easy to say you don't need something when you really haven't gotten used to having something (or addicted to it). An example is a cellphone in general. Many people nowadays would feel vulnerable if they left the house without a cellphone because they are afraid if they got into an accident or there was an emergency they had no point of contact. Parents are afraid to let their kids be kids without some form of contact between them. Yet, 15 or so years ago that wasn't even an issue. The more dependent we become on newer technology, the more we feel we can't live without it (which we can).

    4. Re:People who say this isn't bad are just dumb by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      You will be one of the few of your generation that survives after a solar flare takes out the global electrical infrastructure for a few years.

    5. Re:People who say this isn't bad are just dumb by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      As an ealry-onset Alzheimer's sufferer, I basically DO need a smartphone to live life. I forget appointments and miss my exit when driving without it, and I kind of like being able to google facts I can't remember. Amazon's Alexa has become my best friend as well: "Alexa, Simon says, 'Oh, you're so big!'"

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      I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
    6. Re:People who say this isn't bad are just dumb by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      15 years ago there were payphones.

      And fatalities would have been prevented if a phone and gps were at hand 15 years ago.

      In general the further you go back in history the less safe life was during peace time. Tech makes us safer..

  12. The decay of society right there by damn_registrars · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Also, 39% of kids get a social media account at 11.4 years, and 11% get a social media account when they were younger than 10.

    We are letting the personal information of children be sold for profit. This is a more certain sign of the decay of society than most that I can think of. It doesn't matter how harmless some people may think this is, the bigger problem is that most people don't think of that problem at all. They sign little Johnnie up for a facebook account so that he can see Grandma's wall, and pretty soon Johnnie's personal events are being sold to every company you can think of.

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    1. Re:The decay of society right there by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      The best part is, one isn't even allowed to have a facebook account until age 13. Too bad one can't set up some kind of class-action child abuse suit.

    2. Re:The decay of society right there by dejitaru · · Score: 1

      And no one under 18 are allowed to visit porn sites, but hell, most kids do (I sure did when I was under 18). It's the parents responsibility, not the company's.

    3. Re:The decay of society right there by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      Facebook's business model is to encourage an entire generation to lie about their age in order to get around legal restrictions against collecting data on anyone under 13 without parental permission. Thank you, Facebook, for help us raise an entire generation of liars!

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      I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
    4. Re:The decay of society right there by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      When I was 18, we didn't have no lousy porn sites, we had to steal our dad's Playboy magazines! Oh wait... it was my mom that used to read Playboy. She said she was only reading it for the articles, but I have my doubts!

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      I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
    5. Re:The decay of society right there by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

      We are letting the personal information of children be sold for profit.

      Hey, they should pass a law against collecting data on people under the age of 13! What... they already did that, and all the social media companies' business models are based on encouraging kids to LIE about their age in order to set up an account? Welcome to corporate-owned America!

      --
      I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
  13. Changed my mind. 20 months old, counting with Elmo by raymorris · · Score: 2

    A year or two ago I would have said I'd never buy a little a tablet or smartphone. My one year old daughter ended up at a childcare place where they use ipads, and she got an iPad. Very soon she was counting to ten with Elmo, saying "Caillou throw ball", and other things that most kids don't do until after they are two years old. Now, at 24 months old, she's about 6-9 months ahead on most of her skills. That's "only" 6-9 months, but it's also about 30% ahead.

    We put effort into teaching her, of course, taking her to see her favorite things (airplanes) and talking about them, talking about whatever we see in the world around us. I have to say, though, she has definitely learned from the apps she has on her iPad during car trips and chill time. Which means I have to be mindful of WHICH apps and web sites she's looking at in the next years. She will learn something from whatever she's looking at, so I'll need to pay attention to what she's learning.

  14. Average age for first glasses now 11.3 years by Tailhook · · Score: 1

    Pretty much wrecking the eyes of an entire generation.

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    Maw! Fire up the karma burner!
  15. kids by fluffernutter · · Score: 1

    I find this sad. There must be a lot of parents out there that would do anything else then talk to their kids. Some our best family conversations are in the car, or at a table. I see kids on devices in those situations and I think, what a missed opportunity for a parent to find out about their kids day went. There are so many distractions in life that keep a parent isolated from their kids and this is one I don't need.

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    Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
    1. Re:kids by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      after 3762 days you get sick of dealing the little monsters, and they get sick of you asking about how their day went.

    2. Re:kids by fluffernutter · · Score: 1

      My kids are entering their teen years and I've never gotten sick of talking to them.

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      Laws are rules for the court, but merely a bottom bar to hit for life. Think beyond laws in your actions always.
    3. Re:kids by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      I'm already getting sick of you talking about them.

  16. If this trend continues... by OrangeTide · · Score: 1

    Children will have smart phones before conception!

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    “Common sense is not so common.” — Voltaire
  17. Murphy's law by Thud457 · · Score: 1

    chore tracker

    You sound like a pretty cool dad, empowering them to learn haxxoring and shit.

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    the preceding comment is my own and in no way reflects the opinion of the Joint Chiefs of Staff

  18. Re:Changed my mind. 20 months old, counting with E by Austerity+Empowers · · Score: 1

    My son learned to read at 3 on an iPad and my old motorola droid, my daughter is roughly in the same place. When my son walked in to the doctors office and read the sign "Laboratory Access for Technician Use Only" at the age of 4, refused to enter and the staff laughed hysterically, I decided "More good than harm". Sure, there's a million things I worry about and watch for. A lot of them I worry about in meatspace too. Parenting remains a requirement.

    A lot of people on /. don't like smartphones and wish to project that on others in the form of FUD or strange old-fashioned values whose intent I do not understand.

  19. Re:BS by wonkey_monkey · · Score: 1

    Well that's insightful.

    Perhaps you'd care to explain what, exactly, is BS. Do you not believe the statistics? If not, why not?

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  20. Re:Changed my mind. 20 months old, counting with E by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 4, Interesting

    A year or two ago I would have said I'd never buy a little a tablet or smartphone. My one year old daughter ended up at a childcare place where they use ipads, and she got an iPad. Very soon she was counting to ten with Elmo, saying "Caillou throw ball", and other things that most kids don't do until after they are two years old. Now, at 24 months old, she's about 6-9 months ahead on most of her skills. That's "only" 6-9 months, but it's also about 30% ahead.

    Our kids have an iPad too, but it is locked down. Email, web browsing, the app store, are all turned off.

    To even get apps to update I have to sign in and do it myself.

    Nothing wrong with such a device, so long as you know how to control it.

  21. Almost 50 before I had a smartphone by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Maybe I'm a late bloomer but I didn't have a smartphone until I was almost 50 years old.

    Get off my lawn. If that smartphone comes in my yard again I'm keeping it.

  22. Need more data by Locke2005 · · Score: 1

    What's the average age at which a child breaks their first smart phone? What's the average age at which a child misplaces their cell phone, to never be seen again? One of my daughter's 10 year old friends decided to take her $600 iPhone out with her to play in the snow the only day of the year it snowed in Beaverton. The phone was never seen again.

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    I've abandoned my search for truth; now I'm just looking for some useful delusions.
  23. Re:BS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    "that the average age for a child getting their smartphone is now 10.3 years."
    vs.
    The question asked in their 70 question survey was actually “if you purchased a smartphone/cellphone for your child, what age was the child.”

    The first might be interpreted as most kids typically get smartphones by age 10 or 11. The second says
    nothing about how many kids have cell phones of any kind nor is it just about smartphones. Whether this is bad reporting, bad statistics, or what; it makes me wonder abut the competency of everyone involved.
    Or what agenda they might be pushing.

  24. Not until he/she is paranoid enough by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    My kids are not getting a phone until they are paranoid enough not to carry it around.

  25. My son by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Some years ago my son got his first computer - he was about 8 or so. He used to hang out on the "dark net" whatever that is, and now - 15 years later - he is evading justice in a non-extradition country. Jesus did not intend for children to have fnord technology.

  26. When I was 10 by Snotnose · · Score: 1

    back in '68, I was making simple circuits from Dad's Popular Electronics. This was before breadboards so yeah, I had a soldering iron in my little fist. By the time I was 12/13 I was fixing TVs in the neighborhood (pull all the tubes, ride my bike to Thrifty, test them, buy what was needed, ride bike home, replace tubes, present receipts and get money).

    The little snotnoses were in their 20s when the smartphone came out, and I don't know what the policy is on the grand-snots.

  27. Re:Changed my mind. 20 months old, counting with E by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Handing your kids a locked down tablet is like handing them a really hard puzzle filled with candy. Young minds are more plastic than old ones. Eventually they'll figure it out. And they'll cover their tracks so you won't know.

    I say this not as a threat, but rather to caution you to focus on teaching your kids morals, especially by example. Build up a good internal conscience, and they'll carry it around with them their whole lives. Then you don't have to worry about what they'll do.

  28. In MY day... by jeffb+(2.718) · · Score: 1

    ...the average age for a child to get a smartphone was 40-something. Because that's how old we all were by the time they came on the market.

  29. My daughter got one at 2 by edcheevy · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Now before I'm told how horrible a parent I am, let me explain. Like anything in life or parenting, I think it's about moderation and structure. We gave our daughter one of our older Android phones when she was about 2.5 years. We were embarking on a 5 hour flight with a toddler and a baby so yes, I was looking for distractions. I gave her a locked down phone (no dialing or data connection possible) with two educational apps and one simple drawing app. We play the apps with her and monitor her play. She can also take photos. That's it. It held her interest for a while, as did a number of other activities we brought with us on the plane, but with a limited amount of distraction available she eventually grew bored. She still has access to her phone at home now and she rarely uses it. We've taken it as a backup to many outings but find we only pull it out rarely (specifically dinner at a restaurant, close to or past bedtime, aka the witching hour).

    If you give a kid a phone with the entirety of the internet and app store available with no structure, sure they'll become overwhelmed or addicted. Same thing goes for most stuff we give kids as they get older (insert car analogy). But I also think it's important to have access to the tools, connectedness, and creativity that computers and smartphones can unlock. So as my kids get older and they demonstrate they are ready, I'll unlock more functionality. But if and when I do, they can expect a lesson in how to use that new functionality safely and responsibly. If they abuse it, they lose it. I think that's about the best you can do. Maybe I'll be singing a different song in 7 years.

  30. /popcorn by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    I, for one, really look forward to reading all of Slashdot's sage parenting advice.

    Despite being overwhelmingly basement-dwelling man-children who don't even understand how babby is formed, they sure have a lot of opinions about whether or not having a smartphone is good for children. I can't wait to hear all of these learned opinions.

  31. Re:Changed my mind. 20 months old, counting with E by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 1

    While that is true, I cannot count on a 5 year old to follow the rules, they just don't work like that. :)

    And as for breaking into an iPad, unless he guesses the pin, I don't think that is possible. I'm open to hearing if that is not true.

  32. So old? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Most children in Finland gets a smartphone at age of 7, when they go to school. Some get earlier. That does not mean the usage or app installation would not be restricted.

  33. Trickle down effect by Chrisq · · Score: 1

    Here son - you might as well have this Iphone 4, your older sister has my Iphone 5 now that I have bought the latest version.

  34. This is a joke, right ? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    One industry I would like to see fail is the wireless industry. Before you blast me please look at the negative impact it has had on society. There are many people who get addicted. I only use my phone to Navigate, work (I have do not disturb configured for 6pm - 6:30am) . I can't imagine dating in this era. I'm lucky I got married before the wireless smartphone industry took off. I tell my sons If mom texted me as often as your girlfriends text you we would have never had the change to get to know each other better, fall deeply in love, and get married. Damn texting all the time. Give me a break. I do a few things to keep would be callers at bay. #1 I live in a rural area.. trees all around. phone signal varies between 1/2 bar and 1 bar. #2. My vehicle requires both hands on the steering wheel at all times, and one now and then availble to shift. #3. My vehicle is load enough to render the bluetooth communications worthless, especially when on the highway with the top off. .. I prefer to drive my vehicle this way. Life is too short to be shackled down to your phone. No matter what industry you work in, you need downtime to enjoy life. Who cares what someone else is doing.. take time to take your dog for a walk, play fetch. spend quality time with your significant other. Go hiking. If you live near the water, go kayaking.. it's a blast. If someone wants to contact you they can find another way. You don't have to respond during the first hour. Plus why stay in constant contact with your family or friends ? Wouldn't it be great to have something to talk about when you see them in person ? The last thing I would want to do is to encourage a wireless phone addiction to my sons.

  35. Re:Changed my mind. 20 months old, counting with E by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    And as for breaking into an iPad, unless he guesses the pin, I don't think that is possible. I'm open to hearing if that is not true.

    Social engineering. Do you always ensure there is no-one looking when you type the pin? Do you always remember to lock it again? What if there's a distraction (possibly caused by the 5-year old) while you are doing something? They don't even need to especially attempt doing it, they might just notice there's a sudden chance they can take.

  36. LOL... old people (I am one of them) by gosand · · Score: 1

    First let me say I am likely older than you. I just say that because I was born in the late 60s. I grew up on farm, obviously didn't have internet, or even cable. I spent a lot of time outside, but as soon as I could get technology, I did. My kids will never know the feeling of riding your bike in the rain for miles with a pocket full of quarters to play arcade games. And that is OK. I am not nostalgic for "the good old days", nor am I angry at "this generation of kids" the way so many other people my age seem to be. I have been involved in technology since before I could drive, and am still amazed at it.

    My oldest is turning 11 in a couple of weeks, and we are giving her one of our old phones. It will mainly be for texting/calling her friends, and keeping in touch with us as she will be going to middle school next year. All three of my kids have computers (all hand-me-downs from friends/family) and tablets (lower-end pretty inexpensive ones) and they are on them quite a bit. They have had their access taken away as they have tested the rules. But nothing too bad. They play a lot of Minecraft with each other locally, they don't really go out on servers. Their main internet influences are probably from youtube and those annoying fucking videos where gamers yak their heads off and you watch them play games. I don't get it. But my parents didn't get heavy metal or computers. But that's OK. I don't need to get what my kids do. I just need to help guide them. Just because they have these things doesn't mean that they can't have OTHER things. What I will help them do is learn how to use and manage this technology, and make good choices.

    My kids are smart. I know every parent may think that, but they are. I also know they are kids, and they are going to make mistakes. I know people who prevent their kids from using not only the internet, but computers. I worry about those people. There is shielding your kids from dangers, but that can be taken to the extreme and be damaging. You can't pretend that the world isn't changing. I think back when I had to do research and write papers in school. It was hard simply because information wasn't readily available. For reference, my senior year of college I wrote a paper for hardware design that was on the soon-to-be-released Pentium processor. My "research" consisted of a few magazine tech articles and comparisons with current architecture. The amount of information my kids have access to is mind-boggling. There will always be bad with the good, but I choose to focus on the good.

    Look, I understand your fears for "their generation" but that happened to us, and to our parents, and their parents. You can try to avoid technology, but it's here. In just my lifetime SO much has happened especially on the technology front that I can't even fathom what my kids will face as they get into high-school, college, and beyond. All I can do is prepare them as best I can, and give them tools to be good people. Other than that - they are on their own. And they will most likely be better equipped to handle all of that than I will be.

    (and if my daughter has a phone, then she will learn responsibility for it... when I was her age I didn't have responsibility for anything. And I can threaten to take it away from her! Viva la parenting)

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    My beliefs do not require that you agree with them.

  37. And they all have cameras. by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    And what they take pictures of, who can access it? *im *ook.

    And there is no such thing as a trustworthy homosexual.

    Ask Jennifer Lawrence.

  38. Re:Changed my mind. 20 months old, counting with E by Outta_the_way_peck! · · Score: 1

    Do you wipe down the screen after typing the pin so they can't figure out which numbers were pressed?

  39. Should I feel bad? by enjar · · Score: 1

    We have two kids, 11 and 8.

    We set up a old smartphone as a "house phone". It's shared on my Ting account. We let the kids use it when they go on walks in the neighborhood. Yesterday we had to leave the 11 year old in the house for the morning so we told her to text us every hour that she was OK. She's been left alone for shorter periods so we were thought she could handle it, but she is right on the cusp of the responsibility to be home alone for a few hours. She's not old enough to be home with her sister, though.

    In terms of a tablet, they both have Kindles and the older one has an iPad the school district owns. The Kindles are dirt cheap, and both kids use them to check out library books. We also use the parental controls so they don't play games all day and have unrestricted Internet access. The Kindles also replaced the portable DVD player we used to take on trips. Now for long car trips we load up their favorite movies on their kindles, unrestrict the apps and they sit in the back of the car with headphones on watching movies, playing games, reading books or listening to podcasts. For those worried about them not having time to bicker and "learn how to share", they do plenty of that at home, where they are not in a steel box hurtling down the highway at 70 MPH distracting the driver.

  40. Get rid of the cell phones- buy a radio instead by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Buy a two-way radio instead. Like say an 8-Watt two way radio. Example: Model BaoFeng UV-5R. They're as little as $60. I think I got two of them for $50 actually so you might find them much much cheaper than this. They work across town and 30 miles out even (may require a repeater).

    * Yes- I'm promoting something that may be illegal where you live. Deal with it. Better than to run around with a tracking device. Sometimes in life you have to practice a little civil disobedience. If the government demands the lock down of cellular modem firmware and all we're left with are a decentralized radio system that works, but is illegal, I she later. The risk is small and the potential fine is not earth-shattering. Just really scary.

    1. Re:Get rid of the cell phones- buy a radio instead by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

      +1 to this.

      CB, FRS, etc are instant communication that is self sustaining. you don't need a network to use it.

      On top of that using digital modulation with encryption is probably more secure than any cellular network with its government backdoor access.

  41. Re:Changed my mind. 20 months old, counting with E by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 1

    Set it to wipe after 10 incorrect tries, then take it away for 2 weeks after the first time they try it.

    That fixed that problem. :)

  42. Re:Changed my mind. 20 months old, counting with E by FlyHelicopters · · Score: 1

    Do you wipe down the screen after typing the pin so they can't figure out which numbers were pressed?

    No, but it doesn't tell them the order, and having it auto-wipe after 10 wrong guesses and having each further guess take longer and longer fixes that.

    That, and being 5 years old and my being lord and ruler of all things in his life, are enough for now.

    I've had my 10 year old try getting past the firewall on the desktop... he lost access to the computer for a week, including homework, everything. I made it quite clear that access to the computer is a privilege and that I can remove it until he is 18 years old if he prefers to not follow my rules. His eyes went rather wide when I said that, we shall see if he tries again...

    Our civilization and way of life depend on rules, even those we don't agree with. You can't rob a bank just because you think Bank of America is a crappy company or screwed us over in the 2008 GFC, we have rules about that. Likewise, you follow my rules in my house or you pay the price, and I can make that price almost as high as I care to.

    When you're paying the bills, you can do as you like, until then, my house and my rules.

    Keep in mind that I'm preparing him for the real world. How many kids have been killed by cops because they ran away? You can't do that, even if you don't like cops. We have rules, if a cop pulls you over or tells you to stop, you have to comply or the rest of your day will just get worse.

  43. Social Networks Media by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 0

    Nobody gets a social media account they get a social network account. The content on the network is the media.

    For fuck sake I'm sick of hearing everything as 'social media' when it isn't.

    Instead of getting social media accounts go get a real life!