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Tor Project Confirms Sexual Misconduct By Developer Jacob Appelbaum (theverge.com)

An anonymous reader quotes a report from The Verge: The Tor Project, a nonprofit known for its online anonymity software, says it has verified claims that former employee Jacob Appelbaum engaged in "sexually aggressive behavior" with people inside and outside of its organization. "We have confirmed that the events did take place as reported," Shari Steele, Tor's executive director, tells The Verge. In a blog post today, Steele says that Tor began an investigation into Appelbaum's behavior after several people came forward with allegations of misconduct in late May. In a statement made in June, he said the allegations were "entirely false." He resigned from the Tor Project in May. "I want to thank all the people who broke the silence around Jacob's behavior," Steele writes. "It is because of you that this issue has now been addressed. I am grateful you spoke up, and I acknowledge and appreciate your courage." Steele says that Tor is now implementing a new anti-harassment policy, as well as a process for submitting complaints and having them reviewed. The changes will be put in place this week. Tor also announced last month that it would replace its entire board of directors.

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  1. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    This is a case of hipster he said she said. SJW 'logic' likely applies.

    http://jacobappelbaum.net/ This site reeks of typical SJW style faux fear of intimidation.

  2. Hatchet jobs aside by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Tor is backdoored. You can see that from the ease with which the Feds locate sites and users. Thus its one and only use: bringing free, anonymous, speech to people in repressive regimes, its ended.

    When a company first sacks someone facing no charges, then hires a PI to confirm their reason for sacking, even though he's not claiming wrongful dismissal. That pretty much tells you that the organization is stuff full of bad actors. They go beyond any allegations and into a hatchet job.

    And those bad actors delivered exactly what is expected. Good people gone, bad people in, product *demonstrably* no longer works for its primary purpose. When outside universities can point out 100 fake attack nodes, that Tor Project somehow didn't notice, that tells you they are more bad than good in there.

    So a new thing has to be made, and that new thing has to be made from trustable people. And that is Jacob.

    These "we slept together and he licked my muff and that's rape because I didn't agree before hand he could lick my muff, only share the bed"... these are Assange style attacks, they were disclosed in the Snowden leaks, and they just make him more, demonstrably honest:

    https://theintercept.com/2014/02/24/jtrig-manipulation/

    "By publishing these stories one by one, our NBC reporting highlighted some of the key, discrete revelations: the monitoring of YouTube and Blogger, the targeting of Anonymous with the very same DDoS attacks they accuse “hacktivists” of using, the use of “honey traps” (luring people into compromising situations using sex) and destructive viruses. "

    Anonymous, secure, free speech trumps any of this shit, and a secure network delivered by a trusted person is necessary now. That's not Tor.

    1. Re:Hatchet jobs aside by nonsequitor · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I personally know some of the people that came forward, they had no agenda other than stopping a serial sexual predator / harrasser. I was sad when I heard the story break, but not surprised because Jake's an asshole if you're not somebody. Where somebody is defined as a person whose work he can steal, someone to intoxicate and lure into bed, or someone that can enhance his reputation.

      Shame on you for suggesting otherwise, and shame on the mods who modded you up.

      Whether or not Tor is backdoored or otherwise compromised is a totally different issue. As for something new made by trustable people, Jacob doesn't have the technical ability to do a project like this on his own, he's a charming sociopath that worms his way into the circles of people that can. Good for Tor to give him the boot and cleaning house of the people who turned a blind eye to his misconduct.

    2. Re:Hatchet jobs aside by quantaman · · Score: 2

      Tor is backdoored. You can see that from the ease with which the Feds locate sites and users.

      Tor is open source, the project just manages the sources. You might be able sneak in some subtle exploits if you're in charge... but if the Feds are finding people it's more likely they've just set up a bunch of fake nodes.

      When a company first sacks someone facing no charges, then hires a PI to confirm their reason for sacking, even though he's not claiming wrongful dismissal. That pretty much tells you that the organization is stuff full of bad actors.

      Or the project is under intense scrutiny and suspicion so they want to cover their bases.

      And that is Jacob.

      These "we slept together and he licked my muff and that's rape because I didn't agree before hand he could lick my muff, only share the bed"...

      It's about consent, and sharing a bed with someone doesn't give you consent.

      Now in many cases that's an indication that they are interested, and in that case you can try to get consent. But just because you think they are interested in sex and you can get consent doesn't give you the right to shove your hand down their pants while they're asleep.

      these are Assange style attacks, they were disclosed in the Snowden leaks, and they just make him more, demonstrably honest:

      https://theintercept.com/2014/02/24/jtrig-manipulation/

      That's a theory, it's a theory to watch out for, it's possibly the reason why they hired the PI you were so concerned about, but the fact he was accused of misconduct isn't evidence that he was framed.

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    3. Re:Hatchet jobs aside by nonsequitor · · Score: 4, Informative

      Jacob is that you? Notice I am not posting anonymously.

      I didn't go into specifics because I wasn't there. There was no hearsay in my post. I've known Jacob since ~2007, so I can call him an ass without it being hearsay. I also did not go into specific details of any one story because they are not my stories, but I know several of the people who came forward and I know their only motivation was to stop Jacob from continuing to abuse people.

    4. Re:Hatchet jobs aside by AmiMoJo · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Tor is backdoored.

      No. You don't understand what Tor is or what the vulnerabilities used by attackers are.

      Tor is secure. Where people have been located, it was due to bugs on the bundled browser and not following best security practices like disabling Javascript and not using a maximized browser window (to thwart canvas based fingerprinting). But the underlying network itself is secure.

      Don't mistake compromised Tor exit notes as flaws in the network. Tor was designed on the assumption that exit nodes would be compromised and are inherently untrustworthy. Even if you use Tor, you still need to encrypt the traffic leaving the exit node because, as the documentation makes extremely clear, the exit node can see everything that passes in and out of it.

      Once you understand what Tor is and the limits of what it does, you can see that it is highly effective and has proven secure.

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    5. Re: Hatchet jobs aside by damienl451 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      No one with an idea of what a healthy consensual relationship looks like would describe the "bath" story as you did. When someone repeatedly says "no", you're not supposed to keep insisting as if "no" was just an invitation to keep asking. That's textbook rapist "she said no but her body was saying yes", "she was just playing hard to get". It's also not "romantic" to grab someone and start washing them when they've clearly said that they didn't want to take a bath with you. It's fascinating how the same BS keeps popping up all the time. "She was wearing a miniskirt, so she clearly wanted me to fondle her". "Why would she show cleavage if she didn't want me to grope her boobs". Rapists all over the world have been using this excuse that their victim was somehow messaging her availability, e.g. by not respecting whatever standard of decency they decided was appropriate. If someone offers to share a bed and specifically warns you that they're not interested in having sex with you, you just can't claim ignorance and say that you thought it was an invitation to have sex. And even if they don't, why not just ask?

    6. Re:Hatchet jobs aside by gweihir · · Score: 2

      Actually, there is no evidence Tor is backdoored at all. The known attacks have all been explained nicely by verifiable vulnerabilities in other places and by entirely plausible user error. Seriously, stop spreading FUD.

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    7. Re:Hatchet jobs aside by cryptizard · · Score: 3, Informative

      Good people gone, bad people in

      Did you even read who the new board of directors is? Matt Blaze, an extremely respected academic cryptographer. Cindy Cohn, the director of the EFF. Bruce Schneier, a folk hero on Slashdot and no friend of the federal government. Stop fearmongering please.

    8. Re:Hatchet jobs aside by Khyber · · Score: 2

      "I personally know some of the people that came forward, they had no agenda other than stopping a serial sexual predator / harrasser."

      That sure as fuck isn't what I'm reading STRAIGHT FROM A SUPPOSED VICTIM'S MOUTH.

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    9. Re:Hatchet jobs aside by Kjella · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Tor is secure. Where people have been located, it was due to bugs on the bundled browser and not following best security practices like disabling Javascript and not using a maximized browser window (to thwart canvas based fingerprinting). But the underlying network itself is secure.

      That or share too much information about yourself or your other online activity or download malicious content. It doesn't even have to be malware as such but say an MP3 where your media player tries to download cover art, any kind of functionality that could lead to non-TOR traffic. Or socially engineer you to visit a popular YouTube video in your ordinary browser using a special URL. It could be they have a exploit on core TOR, but in that case I'm guessing it's in the NSA vaults along with the AES backdoor.

      People don't understand the power of profiling and combinatorics. For example say you look at my posting history, I've probably casually mentioned my age a few times - let's say you have my birthday pinned down to a month even though I never said when it was. My sex too in some context, I presume. And I've at one point mentioned my country, my hometown (>150k) and that I used to live in the capital (>600k). If you have a post saying "I'm moving back home soon" that's enough to pinpoint me, if you have access to the right registry.

      How does that work? Well you have ~145k registered domestic moves. Only ~49k are between different parts of the country. In total there's about ~9k for my hometown, those are all public statistics. So about (49/145)*9k = 3k long-distance moves to my town, for argument we'll assume all are from the capital. If average lifespan is 80, my month is roughly 1/(80*12) of the total population so ~3 moves of people my age and ~1.5 if you add sex. If soon means the coming month you're down to 1.5/12 = ~1/8. Even with some non-uniformity and whatnot it'll probably be one, at most two.

      People don't stop to think about these things, particularly when it appears to happen in "private", but services get compromised. Or are honeypots to begin with. And even if you use PGP or some other secure channel, what used to be a buddy today can be compromised tomorrow. And this gets more and more important as we leave more and more "real world" electronic traces, like that concert you were at - were you also tagged on Facebook? In the past it would have been almost useless information, today a few such tidbits of information can easily lead to just having a handful of suspects to investigate closer.

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    10. Re:Hatchet jobs aside by AmiMoJo · · Score: 2

      That's why I recommend using the Tails live CD. No danger of running anything else or automatic updates etc. Everything goes through Tor, and there is no permanent storage so no trace left after you power off. You still have to be careful, but it eliminates most of the problems associated with running Tor on a normal OS.

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  3. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

    This is a case of hipster he said she said. SJW 'logic' likely applies.

    http://jacobappelbaum.net/ This site reeks of typical SJW style faux fear of intimidation.

    You used the "hipster" word, therefore you concede that you are completely full of shit.

  4. Rule of thumb: not so much. by SeattleLawGuy · · Score: 3, Insightful

    This kind of accusation is usually BS to frame politically dangerous people.

    Um. No. Seriously and respectfully ask some of your female friends what kind of misconduct they've experienced in the workplace. You may be amazed.

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    1. Re: Rule of thumb: not so much. by MightyMartian · · Score: 2

      Their attitudes rather explain why. They clearly hate women, and it stems from their own fear of women.

      For chrissakes all but one of my bosses has been a woman. I have worked with women as my supervisors and women working under me, and women in equal positions. I've never had one accuse me of anything untoward, nor have I ever seen any of them behave in a dishonorable fashion towards me.

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    2. Re: Rule of thumb: not so much. by MightyMartian · · Score: 4, Interesting

      The only troublesome events I've had with other coworkers was in some of the management positions I held where I had to take some disciplinary action for tardiness or poor work. Once I had to terminate someone, and I have to say that of all the hard things I've had to do in my professional and personal life, that was just about the hardest thing I ever had to do. The individual was a very nice person, someone who I personally liked a lot, but for a lot of reasons, some of them not their fault, they just couldn't do the job, and after multiple chances, the management team decided they had to go, and I, being direct supervisor, was the lucky recipient of that task.

      Now I have seen some pretty deplorable behavior between other workers. I've seen bullying, both subtle and not so subtle, and have seen two coworkers enter a sexual relationship. None of these were my supervisors, and I wasn't their's, so it did not affect me personally, but I'd say that good people and shitty people are pretty much evenly divided between men and women.

      The worst boss I ever had was a man, however. A petulant, ill tempered asshole who took out his shitty marriage on his employees, to the point where, after a ten minute session of the most vile berating because she had forgot to make a new pot of coffee, she just ran out the door in tears. She came back an hour later, and actually fucking apologized to that creep, mainly because she was a single mother with a young child, and couldn't afford to be unemployed. That certainly taught me a good deal about situations of relative power and impotence, and while not sexual abuse, was a kind of hostility and abuse where I did see people stick with the job, simply because they needed to pay the bills.

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  5. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Some of the accusations sound legit, some not so much. Lovecruft's claims she was fondeled after agreeing to sleep in the same bed as JA. What adult in their right mind sleeps in the same bed with another grown person of the opposite sex, then gets suprised to be frisked? Maybe I just wasn't raised the same way. I wouldn't even share a hotel room with another adult besides a explicit SO.

    There were other claims which are still contested, such as the Nick Farr incident. The "victim" came out and said people blew things out of proportion and people misinterpreted what they saw.

    More drama than Shakespeare.

  6. Let's be certain first,.. by AbRASiON · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Ever since gamergate my concepts of fair reporting, harassment, he said she said have been seriously adjusted. There was totally horrible people, saying horrible things, but it seems only one side of the story is ever reported, making people more and more jaded and cynical of the media.

    Stories such as Linus specifically having to avoid spending any time with females one on one as he's been "targeted for take down". Situations of outright false claims against people, proven clear and still people write incorrect articles about them, deliberately.

    This story may well be correct, however in the very very least, I will no longer blindly leap into "condemn them, silence them!!" mode as is intended. I am particularly skeptical when a "harassment policy" is put in place too, as those have been going a general indicator of people "meddling in the name of righteousness " regardless if there was even a problem in the first place.

    Be wise and if you read the article at least try to find multiple sources and preferably the other side of the story. At least GG taught me take stuff on the Internet with again of salt finally.

    P.s off topic , I used to see posts whining about how awful Slashdot mobile is, I thought the people were exaggerating. They aren't, it's a warcrime.

    1. Re:Let's be certain first,.. by AbRASiON · · Score: 4, Informative

      Regardless of your stance on the situation itself, my point was that it revealed to me just how the media work, they all seem to copy each other,run with the groupthink and any analysis,questioning, critical opinions, in almost ANY capacity are discarded as "hate speech" and the person branded as not with listening to.

      I don't particular want to reference it either, specifically due to dismissive replies like yours. however it did appear to be the awakening bell for a large quantity of quantity of people to at least try and investigate things and not blindly trust everything written.

    2. Re:Let's be certain first,.. by lucm · · Score: 4, Insightful

      This is a two-way street. Sure, "targets" like Linus have to be careful, but it's becoming even more difficult for actual victims of male semi-celebrities because they are called liars and sluts on top of having gone thru an unpleasant experience.

      Have you seen how people treated the women who made those complaints against Assange?

      For some reason when it's tech-related celebrities there's a cloud of immunity and endless waves of defenders that have no more information, just strong opinions. We laugh at people who still defend Bill Cosby, but when it comes to Assange, Applebaum or even Gore it's a different story. It's smear campaigns, NSA operations, corporate greed, etc. It's never a fucking immature asshole who crosses the line.

      It's as if in tech there's saints and serial killers, nothing in between. Girl goes to a bar with a guy and guy puts his hands down her pants? He's just "hitting on her", she shouldn't have gone there if she didn't want it. Girl parties with guy, goes home with him, has safe sex with him, then wakes up from a booze blackout to find him fucking her without a condom? She asked for it, she shouldn't have been in his bed if she didn't want to give him a blank check to fuck her bareback while she's passed out. And/or she's a NSA shill.

      I've always being very skeptical of the whole "rape culture" thing, the switch rape and all that. Always figured it was people aspiring to some kind of heroic role in a society that has no real issues left. But the more I see the posts here about Applebaum and Assange, the more I'm questioning my own assumptions about how civilized we are.

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    3. Re:Let's be certain first,.. by lucm · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Thank you for supporting my point. You start by claiming that those women didn't "suffer" or got extradited (which would have never been an issue for Assange if he had faced the charges in Sweden instead of running away) then you ramble on about honeytraps and Afghanistan. It always come back to the smear campaign scenario.

      Here's a citation.

      The woman, whose name has not been disclosed, said that when the allegations became public she received threats and found it impossible to work.

      She said that she was judged in a "gigantic court of public opinion with anonymous judges and witnesses who guessed wildly".

      http://news.sky.com/story/juli...

      There's also a good article on Slate about this. And many others. All shills and honeypots of course.

      You're one of those anonymous judges and witnesses, thank you for your contribution to making the world a better place.

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    4. Re:Let's be certain first,.. by dbIII · · Score: 2, Funny

      It was a girl writing about a shitty time she had at a convention and a lot of boys that never grew up getting offended by her daring to write that. So nothing of note but a lot was spilled over a small corner of the net and swilled over onto this site - stuff about "Mens Rights Activism" and how the right to insult teenage girls is written into the constitution or something.

    5. Re:Let's be certain first,.. by lucm · · Score: 2

      "Sex without a condom" and "sex without a condom while you are asleep after having sex with a condom the previous night" are two different things. I don't know how you figure that she gave her consent while she was passed out but if that's not rape in your book you can be sure I'll never let you date my daughter.

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  7. Cui Bono and To What End? by s.petry · · Score: 4, Insightful

    There is always a reason, though not always obvious. Tor is now shit, because the good people were chased away. Notice that there are no criminal charges anywhere, just allegations and accusations repeated over and over on any media outlet that would print it. Lead developer gone, whole new board being elected, one should be rather suspicious.

    Now for the tin foil hat: A whole lot of money and effort goes into taking over a project like Tor, and as we saw with the Snowden NSA leaks it is a global exploitation at least after the fact. China, the US, the UK, and just about everyone else suddenly has no problem finding people on Tor networks. All of those same groups can claim ignorance when the cat jumps out of the bag.

    Sometimes it's not easy to see who benefits and a clear goal. That is when you need to look around to see why you are being distracted.

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    1. Re:Cui Bono and To What End? by AmiMoJo · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Tor is now shit, because the good people were chased away.

      Complete bollocks. Name some of these "good people" who have left. The project founders and all the major technical contributors are still there, as well as many new ones.

      China, the US, the UK, and just about everyone else suddenly has no problem finding people on Tor networks.

      Also complete bollocks. The only known instances of this happening were via browser vulnerabilities, not problems with Tor itself. And those vulnerabilities could easily have been mitigated if people has set their browsers up properly, disabling Javascript as recommended.

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    2. Re:Cui Bono and To What End? by gweihir · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Tor is now shit, because the good people were chased away.

      Complete bollocks. Name some of these "good people" who have left. The project founders and all the major technical contributors are still there, as well as many new ones.

      Indeed. Methinks that there is a PsyOps campaign running to make people go to less secure alternatives. If you cannot break it, try to make everybody believe it is broken instead.

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  8. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man by ChunderDownunder · · Score: 3, Interesting

    OP has obviously never backpacked, where mixed gender shared rooms are common.

  9. Really lousy article by tgv · · Score: 3, Insightful

    That is one lousy article. The name of the guy is the only thing revealed, and that is a journalistic no-no IMO: you don't give the full name unless charges have been proven. By a judge. About the nature of his "misconduct", the article is very vague: it's couched in different terms, but it's never made clear what happened, when, where, in what context and who were the victims. It also focuses on the sexual transgressions, and only gives a fleeting reference to people being "humiliated, intimidated, bullied", without explaining why. I understand there is some sort of political battle that largely includes both sides in parallel, and that is not even hinted at. In short, it's bad journalism.

    1. Re:Really lousy article by nonsequitor · · Score: 3, Informative

      There are a variety of reasons this will never go to court, in part because of Jacob currently residing in Berlin. If you want the full stories, read them here.

      http://jacobappelbaum.net/

  10. "Sexual mistreatment"? by piojo · · Score: 4, Insightful

    What is "sexual mistreatment"? I can't find any info in the article, or the link within that was purported to contain more information.

    Given that this kind of accusation can permanently prevent someone from finding work in their field, I find these articles--lacking details, with no formal legal proceedings--troubling.

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    1. Re:"Sexual mistreatment"? by MightyMartian · · Score: 3, Interesting

      A company doesn't need to wait for formal legal proceedings to terminate someone, particularly if they have an existing set of policies surrounding sexual misconduct.

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    2. Re:"Sexual mistreatment"? by cryptizard · · Score: 2

      Tor has the right to terminate their employees pursuant to their contracts. They do not need to go to a court of law. Why do ACs not understand this?

  11. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man by MightyMartian · · Score: 2, Funny

    But that's impossible. Everyone knows Slashdot posters are the most desirable of all men? How is it possible that she didn't immediately leap across the space, demand sexual gratification from you, and then inevitably go and tell your mutual supervisor that you molested her in a wanton and depraved manner?

    Oh, I forget to mention SJW, so SJW this and SJW that! Women are vile evil creatures out to entrap men and then get them fired!

    SJW....

    SJW...

    SJW .... SJW .... SJW !!!!!

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  12. Re:They don't want one by MightyMartian · · Score: 2, Interesting

    They don't want a court involved for the same reason no corporate or private entity wants a court involved; because the court will find the organization was in the wrong, and will find against it. The whole point of having sexual harassment policies and making them apply to everyone from the CEO to the guy that vacuums the carpet is corporate liability for sexual harassment or assault lies solely on the perpetrator. Even where a board or management has been proven to have insufficiently protected employees from sexual or other kinds of abuse, a strong response is seen as a way of assuring the corporate culture is appropriately modified.

    Where I work, and I am in a senior management position now, sexual harassment, bullying and other anti-social actions are all in the company policies, and those policies constitute part of an employee's employment contract. While serious assaults would be referred to police, actions that while perhaps not criminal in nature, but still in violation of the policies surrounding the most egregious behaviors will inevitably lead to termination (with severance where we deem it inappropriate to have the individual on premises one second longer).

    It sounds to me like Tor hat a right shitty organizational culture which had far too much familiarity between employees, and while I'll wager that they did have the proper policies, non-enforcement can lead to those being little more than a booklet that collects dust in everyone's office. Well, that's bad on them, but at the end of the day, in the world we live in now, at any point one party in a sexual or erotic encounter can terminate that encounter immediately, and if the other party does not comply, then the line is crossed. But really, there should be a zero tolerance for shenanigans. Managers should not be having any kind of sexual encounters with subordinates, even if it is consensual. It's disruptive, bad for general moral, and opens up the organization to significant liabilities. Frankly, if I or one of the other managers had a sexual encounter with a subordinate, and it gets found out, I'd say we'd be out the door in a pretty big hurry.

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  13. Re: Rule of thumb: believe the man by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

    No. You ask; you don't assume there's some unspoken green light just because someone laid down next to you. If you don't get someone's consent and go ahead and grope them anyway, it's absolutely sexual assault.

    You don't get a pass on nonconsensual behaviour just because you thought someone near you was sexually attractive. If you honestly think that you should, then you're a big part of the problem. And if you think it's such a fucking hardship to get consent, then I shudder to think of how you've treated any woman you've ever wanted to date.

  14. Re: Rule of thumb: believe the man by bistromath007 · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Fuck off with this. There is a point beyond which nonconsent needs to be explicit; sharing a bed is exactly that point. "Sleeping with" somebody is used almost solely as euphemism for screwing in our language for a reason. Allowing that kind of intimacy is already saying "let's do this." If that isn't what you mean, you have to actually say so.

  15. Steele's husband works for the NSA! by _Mr_Dude_123 · · Score: 4, Interesting

    Did anybody wonder if there is something funny with Shari Steele? - her husband is working with the NSA. and probably works/worked for the NSA: https://bvass.wordpress.com/ta... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/...

  16. Re: Rule of thumb: believe the man by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 4, Insightful

    "No. You ask; you don't assume there's some unspoken green light just because someone laid down next to you. If you don't get someone's consent and go ahead and grope them anyway, it's absolutely sexual assault."

    I shudder to think of the poor service you've been giving your women. You absolutely never ever "ask".

    You touch her hand. You stroke her forearm. You touch her face. You touch your face to hers. You run your hand from her shoulder down do the small of her back while breathing hotly on her neck.

    You run your hand over her hip and down the outside of her thigh, then, at the knee, you come up the middle of her hamstring and over her outer buttock to the small of her back. The next down stroke goes right down the middle and your grab her buttocks *hard* and she gasps.

    Note that you are constantly measuring her physical reaction and will abort at the slightest hint of apprehension on her part, and you still haven't kissed...

    Once you do kiss, it will be amazing, and you will absolutely have consent.

    But Jesus Fucking Christ. You never *ask* (verbally).

    Well, OK, sometimes you can say, "So, you wanna?", and that works too.

  17. Re: Rule of thumb: believe the man by murdocj · · Score: 3, Insightful

    When you start dating you'll understand that you don't get a signed consent form when you have sex. It doesn't generally work that way.

  18. Re:Eric S. Raymond wouldn't have a clue by dbIII · · Score: 2

    Certainly possible he's full of shit, totally

    Read a few things he's written over the years to remove all doubt, especially the "Fisking" idiocy, but that "targetted" thing is even more ridiculous. Somebody he won't name says an org that no longer exists was going to play James Bond honeypot games? Seriously?
    You've been misled by the Lindbergh effect - somebody with fame in one area can push some ideas that are not exactly sane in other areas.

  19. Re: Rule of thumb: believe the man by damienl451 · · Score: 4, Insightful

    The story about the woman who wake up to him fingering her clearly states that she had explained to him on many occasions that he could share her bed as a friend, but that it did not constitute an invitation to have sex. If you go to bed with someone and nothing happens when they're awake and able to consent, why would assume that they're totally down for sex now that they're asleep? Also : even if you're involved with someone, even if you're sleeping in the same bed, this does not mean they're available for sex 24/7. There's such a thing as marital rape.

  20. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man by Shadow+of+Eternity · · Score: 4, Informative

    If by "rare as bigfoot" you mean "a plurality of studies have found them to be at least 20% of accusations" then sure

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  21. You do realize by wiredog · · Score: 2

    that Tor is a US Government supported project, right? The DoS is a big supporter.

  22. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man by K.+S.+Kyosuke · · Score: 2, Insightful

    What adult in their right mind sleeps in the same bed with another grown person of the opposite sex, then gets suprised to be frisked? Maybe I just wasn't raised the same way.

    I should guess you weren't, since the former hardly raised (or raises) an eybrow in certain times and places. Never thought I'd actually ever say that, but perhaps you may be proving the point of people calling for males to be taught to behave in a certain, better way, if you're making such mental leaps as assuming permission to do things that you weren't actually permitted to do, on the basis of your spurious perception?

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  23. Re:The actual abuse exist, but ... by cryptizard · · Score: 2

    Use your brain for a second, look at the new board. Matt Blaze, well-respected cryptographer from academia. Cindy Cohn, director of the EFF. Bruce fucking Schneier, crypo folk hero and no friend of the federal government. They replaced the board for the exact reason they said they did, and then they went out of their way to pick new people that were as unimpeachable as possible.

  24. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man - Bill Clinton by schwit1 · · Score: 2
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/...
    • 1 Juanita Broaddrick
    • 2 Dolly Kyle
    • 3 Paula Jones
    • 4 Kathleen Willey
    • 5 Gennifer Flowers
    • 6 etc
  25. Re: Rule of thumb: believe the man by rastos1 · · Score: 2

    I find your ideas intriguing and would like to subscribe to your newsletter.

  26. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man by Shadow+of+Eternity · · Score: 5, Informative

    Stewart (1981)
    Maclean (1979)
    Gregory and Lees (1996)
    Kanin (1994)
    Jordan (2004)
    Grace et al. (1992)
    Chambers and Millar (1983)
    Philadelphia police study (1968)
    McCahill et al. (1979)

    all rates from 90% down to 18% false. If you extend the floor to 10% then the plurality becomes a majority. The only people pushing the "false accusations don't exist" claim are the same people who support a reversal of the burden of proof, "listen and believe" lynch mobbing, and the mathematically absurd claims that virtually every woman in the united states has been or will be raped.

    In other words ideologues who directly profit in money, prestige, and social influence by controlling women through fear.

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    A bullet may have your name on it but splash damage is addressed "To whom it may concern."
  27. Re:Rule of thumb: believe the man by Shadow+of+Eternity · · Score: 2

    Don't try the cowardly weasel trick of suggesting that all cases dropped due to lack of evidence or similar reasons are false claims - a false claim is a claim that has been proved to be false.

    Congratulations, this is how lynch mobs work. You have the presumption of innocence backwards, it's the accusers job to prove guilt. You're the one relying on the deplorable and frightening weasel trick of claiming that all non-convictions are simply guilty people that got away.

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    A bullet may have your name on it but splash damage is addressed "To whom it may concern."
  28. Re: Rule of thumb: believe the man by ShanghaiBill · · Score: 2

    Sex without consent is rape. Period. No exceptions.

    That is an idealistic fantasy. In real life, it is complicated, "no" often means "yes", and that is especially true the first time a couple has sex. Women have been conditioned to appear chaste, and not too willing. Many women expect the man to take the initiative, and may be offended if he asks them for explicit consent. The first time I had sex with my last girlfriend, she was saying "no, no, no" while giggling and helping me unbutton her clothes. We are now happily married with two kids.

  29. Re: Rule of thumb: believe the man by vel-ex-tech · · Score: 2

    Sorry, that's pressuring a woman into sex. Please check yourself into the nearest university's rape culture presentation as soon as possible.

    You have to do the Schrodinger's Rapist dance correctly to even say "hello" to a woman without it being sexual harassment. I assume if you find the actual article (not at that link) they outline what the exact steps are. I don't really have any reason to go find out for myself.

    But yes, generally I prefer guys use your method with me over whatever the hell you're supposed to do to get consent from a woman without it being rape. Perhaps a lawyer here somewhere can draw up a Durable Consent to Intercourse contract. No, a marriage ring won't work. You need a Durable Consent to Intercourse on top of the ring.

    You should also make sure to have her drug tested and give her a breathalyzer immediately before intercourse, because the presence of any drugs or alcohol automatically makes it date rape. I'm not sure what the BAC limit is, but I'd recommend zero tolerance to be safe. If she fails either test, immediately vacate the premise.

    I think you also need to affirm consent every 15-20 seconds during the act, but I'm not sure on that part. It could be more frequently. If the response is any less than an enthusiastic yes or if there is any ambiguity, immediately stop, put your clothes on, and vacate the premise.

    "So you wanna?" is not likely to elicit an enthusiastic yes, so I doubt it could ever work.

    They cover all of this in rape culture training. This is pretty basic stuff. There are other rules such as avoiding the presence of women after dark, especially a woman who's walking alone. Do not make eye contact. Do not allow her to come within 100 feet of you. If she's attacked, do not attempt to intervene (you'll automatically, by policy, be considered complicit in the attack).

    At least that was my take away from rape culture training. If that prevents women from having a good time, that's their fucking problem. Boo hoo.

    Grand Valley State University if you must know. No, they don't advertise this.