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Addiction To Fortnite Cited In Over 200 Divorce Petitions (dailydot.com)
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In just the last 35 weeks, one online divorce site received over 200 petitions citing addiction to Fortnite and other online games as one of the reasons someone wanted a divorce. "[T]he dawn of the digital revolution has introduced new addictions," said a spokesperson for the company, also citing online pornography and social media. "These numbers equate to roughly 5% of the 4,665 petitions we have handled since the beginning of the year and as one of the largest filers of divorce petitions in the UK, is a pretty good indicator."
On the other hand, the A.V. Club notes that the web site's creators "have a vested interest in making divorce seem sexy and cool in a way that only 'You walked in front of the screen and a 10-year-old in Wyoming shot me dead so now I'm taking the house' truly can."
On the other hand, the A.V. Club notes that the web site's creators "have a vested interest in making divorce seem sexy and cool in a way that only 'You walked in front of the screen and a 10-year-old in Wyoming shot me dead so now I'm taking the house' truly can."
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Online games being cited in divorce filings started happening long before the typical Fortnite player was even born.
Either the female* is playing Fortnite, or they're implying that the man will get the house. I either of those concepts hard to believe.
*assuming heterosexual relationship.
Fortnite is not special, neither is alcohol nor weed nor pills nor social networks. The only thing that IS special, is that our reality is intolerable for more and more people, and they find forms of escape. Can you blame them? For many people, life is just going to work, not having anyone they are close to, and if they are a man, knowing that they are never allowed to cry or express frustration (I guess there is some parallel for women, but I'm not a woman so I do not feel like I should say how they feel). Frankly, I suspect that a lot of modern technology and economy are just dedicated to create ways for people to escape the empty lives that they have.
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A friend of mine is hooked. He was in a multi year layoff phase and this summer finally departed from his employer. He got himself a ps4 a few years back and started playing division and WoT. After posting with his employer he's been doing that full time basically.
The thing is I totally get it. A good game and a good clan can keep you hooked for years. It's like surfing, climbing or some other awesome pastime. I was hooked to Argentine tango for 10 years. My life revolved around travelling around and often dancing 5 to 7 times a week, swapping my career for the tango bum life. I met women men usually can only dream of and had the most amazing pr0nstyle sex imaginable. But the big plus of tango that is that it comes with a very special kind of social life, which is why it's so awesome.
I also was hooked to unreal tournament back in 2000 and played that for a year or two a few hours per day.
But here's where I see addiction: I didn't totally void my social life and - this is the most important thing - didn't feel bad about it. So yea it had qualities off addiction, but I didn't use it to avoid uncomfortable situations. I actually made the active decision to live as a Tango bum and a hardcore gamer and kept up with my non addicted peers. Sort of.
My buddy OTOH won't even open the door for me or answer my texts for 3 months on end. Everyone is worried. His landlord, his brother, his mother, me, my daughter -who's uncle he basically is ... And so forth. That's not healthy. AFAIAC he can game for 10 years I a row. He had no family, enough resources and lives alone. Bit out is blatantly obvious that he's in a rut and needs a friendly asskick from his best friend the next the next time I get to see him.
So yeah, divorcing over fortnite? ITotallyGetThat.
We suffer more in our imagination than in reality. - Seneca
Depending on the source, women initiate between 70 and 80% of all divorces in the US. Most of them are "no fault."
Now women are starting to notice more and more that there aren't as many eligible bachelors around as there "should be."
Well, it's quite simple: the opposite sex responds to the way they're treated in the aggregate both consciously and unconsciously.
The whole system is FUBAR because it is the worst combination of conservative white knighting and feminism. It maintains the rules on who pays what and allows women to say "well, I'm just not in lurrrvv with you anymore, so bye--and thanks for half of the shit your bigger paycheck paid for."
No, it isn't -- because you don't get the context.. only "OMG HE SAID ASSUMING HETROSEXUAL!!! ALL PEOPLE/RELATIONSHIPS/THINGS ARE IDENTICAL, POLITICAL THINK OR DIE!!!".
It is well known that in the US (all countries have different laws, you know), that in divorces the female has MASSIVE, I repeat MASSIVE rights / case law / etc, which enables her to get a VASTLY unfair settlement. This historically at least had *some* sense to it, for historically women were seen as weak, pathetic creatures that were incapable of taking care of themselves. And really, even if a woman COULD take care of herself, job options / life choice options were limited.
Fast forward to now, and the laws/case law/judgement weight still exists. So women get preferential treatment, and the laws are vastly slanted in their favour during a divorce. So yes, the concept of "the women would easily get the house, the male never would get the house" and "those concepts hard to believe" makes perfect sense.
I always look to how people, when in a position of power, treat others. This shows what they TRULY believe, what they REALLY think. Either that, or it shows their 'grit', whether or not they would be a 'bully' given the chance.
Women today claim equality, yet in soooo many cases of divorce I've witnessed, they just TAKE TAKE TAKE TAKE. They have the POWER to TAKE, so they do.
Wow. Great feminist there. Using the power of "Oh I'm a woman and so weak and pathetic that I need help" laws, to steal what would morally, and in most other countries legally, be split fairly.
Of course, until I see an equal number of female janitors, garbage collectors, and conversely an equal number of male day care workers, I'll know that women don't truly believe they are equal.
My intuition is that gaming has not made divorce more likely.
What HAS made divorce more likely than ever before is simply this: it is super-easy to do, and there are no harmful consequences.
Once upon a time, if a woman got divorced, she suffered significant social stigma, from men and women alike, and her life sucked pretty bad from then on. Men suffered social stigmas too, of course, but they were more capable of earning a decent living anyway due to the gender imbalance in the working world.
BUT......
Now there is no social stigma at all. Women, in particular, are cheered on by their peers, congratulated for their courage in throwing off oppression. On top of that they get bonus prizes: the courts are still heavily biased in favor of women (despite the fact that women can earn as much as men now, in any field). So women get to walk away with quite a lot more than the man is left with, on top of whatever they earn on their own.
The men get the short end of that stick, financially, but with the social stigma gone many of them are finding even that to be preferable to staying married.
So, divorce is too easy. That means that people don't think about marriage properly when deciding to enter in to it. They no longer consider it a true lifelong commitment, but rather, something to "try out" for a few years and abandon if it doesn't work out. With that attitude, people are simply not vetting their partners well enough, and they are also not trying hard enough to make it work. They just up and quit. And that is the widespread trend.
It is a pretty harmful trend. Kids raised by single parents are far more likely to wind up in jail, and further to repeat the mistakes of their single parents. It is a terrible downward spiral. I am not sure there is any way out of it.
Lastly.....once up on a time marriages were mostly religious. Staying married was an act of obedience to God. These days, people have realized that the religious teachings don't come with any evidence, and are kind of weird. The fall of religion might be a victory for truth and reason, but it has not done marriage any favors at all. Non-religious marriages are more likely to fail than religious marriages, regardless of who is right.
So, there you have it.