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Star Wars Widows
Mycroft-X writes "Here
is a link to a Salon story about the sacrifices fans are making for their Star Wars habit. "
Figured I better post something besides to poll question
to talk about this little movie thing. No, I still haven't
seen it. Damn conferences.
I only read the first page of the article, but it seemed heavily biased against the male gender. As if obsession with the Star Wars saga was only limited to men. I have some female family members that are more obsessed than me.
I don't like the author hinting that the men were rejecting their mates because they were indifferent, or did not like, or had not seen Star Wars. When I choose a mate, if they fall in said category they would need to have a lot of highly redeeming qualities in other categories to make up for this shortcoming. Star Wars is a big part of my life. It's the second religion I was raised on. If someone does not understand and/or is not open to understanding this (which, apparently the "Star Wars Widows" are not), a large part of common ground between us would be non-existent. Do you really want a mate have nothing in common with you?
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... maybe there wouldn't be so many Star Wars widows if the original movies had had the sense to include a main female character other than Leia, who spends the original trilogy with her spine disintegrating.
Having been dragged to TPM by my boyfriend last night, I can honestly say that this was improved this time around. But it doesn't make up entirely for having had to sit through the originals multiple times and endure the endless discussions of exactly what is in stock toy-wise at Toys R Us (he works there).
Then again, he puts up with my Amber obsession; I guess I can deal with his SW obsession, and even joke about it a bit. (Anakin Skywalker, shadow of Brand?? *grin*)
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then these women would be widowed by something else. The men aren't getting what they need at home, so they go searching.
/. readership is college age a presumably pre-married, I will give a little free advice. If you find your future mate to be obsessing over something other than you, take a good long look at yourself. What inner need is the partner trying to fill with the object of the obsession. Then ask yourself, why the hell ain't I filling that need. It may turn out that you can't fill it. In which case, you need to get out of the way, or even encourage your partner (i.e., join him/her). Too many good marriages end nowadays because people who've pledged to love one another refuse to look deep inside their partner, find out what is missing, and then reach deep inside themselves to give of what they have.
I've been married for a decade, so I can talk from 'some' experience. Whenever I've had an 'obsession' that has pulled on our relationship, it has been because the relationship was weakening--not because computer, trucks or boats are/were so great. A little work on the relationship (talking, working together, etc.), and my priorities quickly changed.
Since a major part of the
The one case in the article where the girlfriend had never seen the movie, the guy finally got her to watch it, and then she says its 'OK'. The relationship was doomed from the start, because the girl obviously didn't give a shit. My wife's an aerobics instructor. I'd rather play Doom and drink vodka. But still I drag my fat, uncoordinated ass into the gym to take a kickboxing class. Afterwards, I tell my wife what I think she did well--and not so well. I show interest in what she loves. She even condescends to help me work on my car or computer on occassion. I like to create things, she knows that, and will push me to make things she likes. We've learned to work so well together that I'm positive that we'll be married another decade or four.
To sum it up without making an over generalization. The Star Wars Widows could actually be Black Widows. It's just that in their case they killed their mates by ignoring them.
Of course, the guys in the article could just be jerks who don't realize that they're married...
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If there is one thing I find darkly humorous in the entire Phantom Menace saga, it's been Taco. Poor Rob, split between Tux and the Dark Side, sharp and poignant words signifying each additional step towards the coming Linux Expo...someone should definitely catalog Rob's sayings. Maybe he needs professional help.
Star Wars Widows indeed.
...walking away, imagining Tux with a light saber cutting down the now Darth Taco for abandoning his calling as SlashDiety of the Linux Expo...
Quitting while he's (theoretically) ahead...
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