I believe you are confusing LED headlamps with HID or Xenon headlamps. VW and Audi are the only ones using LED.
I have Xenon on my Audi. They don't blind oncoming drivers because they continuously auto-level while I'm driving. It's a German/EU headlamp law that HID/Xeon headlamps must auto-level to avoid blinding oncoming traffic. They also rotate with my steering into turns which is kinda cool. The trouble is, that American manufacturers have started putting Xenon/HID on domestic cars and there is no law about keeping them aligned or auto leveling. So, we get Cadillac Escalades with mis-aligned Xenon headlights 4 feet off the ground totally blinding oncoming traffic. Or even worse, the Escalade has a load in the back, causing the headlights to aim even higher since they don't auto level.
Dood, that is a Windows limitation and has nothing to do with Parallels. The builders of Windows XP, in all their greedy wisdom do not allow concurrent users on the same running kernel like you can do in a unix environment. To run mulitple concurrent users of Windows on the same running install you either need Windows Server 2003 (3 concurrent users I think) or a much better solution, Citrix Metaframe (many concurrent users).
It's pretty amazing that the situation of how your marriage ended parallels mine exactly.
At the time it all ended, I was doing most of the parenting, going to grad school, and holding down two jobs. Then she would get pissed at me because I had homework to do after I put our son to bed. I always tried to explain to her that it wasn't going to be like this forever, but right now that's the way it has to be.
Her selfish drunken abusiveness was too much to handle anymore. Trust me, I wanted it to work. I stuck it out and held our family together with band aids and string for two years. I begged her to get help but as a typical alcoholic she would just externalize all the problems and blame them on me. It just got to the point where enough was enough. I didn't want our son to be caught in the middle of her anger anymore. Making the decision to pull the trigger and call the cops on her the night it all ended was the hardest decision I ever had to make. Ironically, it all happened about two months before I completed my Grad school and things would have been potentially better. I don't think she wanted us to succeed, I think she wanted it all to fail.
I ended up with full legal and physical custody of our son. I let her have the house. I'm now a full time single parent with a very good IT job. Between work and my son, I'm am extremely busy all the time but it sure seems alot easier than trying to figure out how to handle or deflect the abusiveness in the household on a nightly basis.
And regardless of what the other fools in this thread say, you are right, you can't fix an alcoholic if they don't want to be fixed. It took the loss of custody for her to straighten out to any large degree. I certainly didn't want that to happen to her or our family, in fact I offered her a much more amicable proposition, but she decided to be bullheaded and continue on fighting me in court. In the end the courts said she should have zero custody. And she is still extremely bullheaded about most things. Some people you just can't fix and they will fight with you and act contrary to what is best for themselves and the family simply for the sake of being a pain in the ass and a waste of time for everyone.
And did my job and school have anything to do with it? Maybe, from her point of view it did. But the courts obviously recognized that there were much bigger problems with her than my extreme schedule as it was at the time. And any effort I made to try an fix my external responsibilities to give her and myself more time were usually completely disregarded. She just wanted to be angry and that's the way it was gonna be.
I'm glad you shared your story. Us single full time dads are an exception to the stereotype. It's sad really. Usually I have to repeat myself when I tell people about the custody situation and they still don't get it. And like I said, it should have never had to happen, but it did. The best we can do now is try and make life for the kids as positive as possible.
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I believe you are confusing LED headlamps with HID or Xenon headlamps. VW and Audi are the only ones using LED. I have Xenon on my Audi. They don't blind oncoming drivers because they continuously auto-level while I'm driving. It's a German/EU headlamp law that HID/Xeon headlamps must auto-level to avoid blinding oncoming traffic. They also rotate with my steering into turns which is kinda cool. The trouble is, that American manufacturers have started putting Xenon/HID on domestic cars and there is no law about keeping them aligned or auto leveling. So, we get Cadillac Escalades with mis-aligned Xenon headlights 4 feet off the ground totally blinding oncoming traffic. Or even worse, the Escalade has a load in the back, causing the headlights to aim even higher since they don't auto level.
Dood, that is a Windows limitation and has nothing to do with Parallels. The builders of Windows XP, in all their greedy wisdom do not allow concurrent users on the same running kernel like you can do in a unix environment. To run mulitple concurrent users of Windows on the same running install you either need Windows Server 2003 (3 concurrent users I think) or a much better solution, Citrix Metaframe (many concurrent users).
It's pretty amazing that the situation of how your marriage ended parallels mine exactly.
At the time it all ended, I was doing most of the parenting, going to grad school, and holding down two jobs. Then she would get pissed at me because I had homework to do after I put our son to bed. I always tried to explain to her that it wasn't going to be like this forever, but right now that's the way it has to be.
Her selfish drunken abusiveness was too much to handle anymore. Trust me, I wanted it to work. I stuck it out and held our family together with band aids and string for two years. I begged her to get help but as a typical alcoholic she would just externalize all the problems and blame them on me. It just got to the point where enough was enough. I didn't want our son to be caught in the middle of her anger anymore. Making the decision to pull the trigger and call the cops on her the night it all ended was the hardest decision I ever had to make. Ironically, it all happened about two months before I completed my Grad school and things would have been potentially better. I don't think she wanted us to succeed, I think she wanted it all to fail.
I ended up with full legal and physical custody of our son. I let her have the house. I'm now a full time single parent with a very good IT job. Between work and my son, I'm am extremely busy all the time but it sure seems alot easier than trying to figure out how to handle or deflect the abusiveness in the household on a nightly basis.
And regardless of what the other fools in this thread say, you are right, you can't fix an alcoholic if they don't want to be fixed. It took the loss of custody for her to straighten out to any large degree. I certainly didn't want that to happen to her or our family, in fact I offered her a much more amicable proposition, but she decided to be bullheaded and continue on fighting me in court. In the end the courts said she should have zero custody. And she is still extremely bullheaded about most things. Some people you just can't fix and they will fight with you and act contrary to what is best for themselves and the family simply for the sake of being a pain in the ass and a waste of time for everyone.
And did my job and school have anything to do with it? Maybe, from her point of view it did. But the courts obviously recognized that there were much bigger problems with her than my extreme schedule as it was at the time. And any effort I made to try an fix my external responsibilities to give her and myself more time were usually completely disregarded. She just wanted to be angry and that's the way it was gonna be.
I'm glad you shared your story. Us single full time dads are an exception to the stereotype. It's sad really. Usually I have to repeat myself when I tell people about the custody situation and they still don't get it. And like I said, it should have never had to happen, but it did. The best we can do now is try and make life for the kids as positive as possible.