I am in a happy geek marriage at the moment so here's the best advice I can give (which is based on the best practices of my field).
Always make sure you have your design done before you begin implementation.
Meaning, make sure you guys discuss how you want your marriage to work before you actually get married. This includes, but is not limited, division of money (joint or separate bank accounts? what purchases are family and what are personal), division of chores (who cooks, who cleans, who calls for Chinese take out), where you both want to be in five years (in terms of career, locations and living space) and what future additions you want to make (pets, children, etc).
There's a lot of excitement in the impending union but if you're not looking a few years down the road, then when you get there, you're going to have problems. My husband is Catholic so we had to go through pre-cana which was mostly about how to live as a unit of two rather then living solo. Most of what we learned, I mentioned above. It's not just about far reaching goals (like I want a house or I want 2.5 cats/dogs/kids), it also is the day to day stuff that you do that now gets done with someone else by your side.
Money is usually the biggie (we have a joint account and separate personal accounts and divide our direct deposits from work among them) but it'll make your future together a lot easier if you actually think about it now.
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I am in a happy geek marriage at the moment so here's the best advice I can give (which is based on the best practices of my field).
Always make sure you have your design done before you begin implementation.
Meaning, make sure you guys discuss how you want your marriage to work before you actually get married. This includes, but is not limited, division of money (joint or separate bank accounts? what purchases are family and what are personal), division of chores (who cooks, who cleans, who calls for Chinese take out), where you both want to be in five years (in terms of career, locations and living space) and what future additions you want to make (pets, children, etc).
There's a lot of excitement in the impending union but if you're not looking a few years down the road, then when you get there, you're going to have problems. My husband is Catholic so we had to go through pre-cana which was mostly about how to live as a unit of two rather then living solo. Most of what we learned, I mentioned above. It's not just about far reaching goals (like I want a house or I want 2.5 cats/dogs/kids), it also is the day to day stuff that you do that now gets done with someone else by your side.
Money is usually the biggie (we have a joint account and separate personal accounts and divide our direct deposits from work among them) but it'll make your future together a lot easier if you actually think about it now.