I think it's not really uncommon that people don't realize how much work goes into things that they think that they "want to do," and also I think people have a hard time accepting the reality of their own abilities (at any given moment). One thing I remember feeling as an undergrad was the feeling that if I couldn't learn to produce something as amazing or brilliant as the people around me whom I admired, then there was no point in producing something at all. Also, it always seemed like people were doing something that I just couldn't fathom, i.e. they used their magical powers to do things that I could not.
Eventually I started to think instead that what set the people I admired apart from other people is just that they took the time to do stuff that either I don't find as enjoyable as they do or that just isn't that enjoyable, period. And that part of why I don't enjoy it is that if I fess up, I'm not actually all that good at it yet. When I did well in classes, it was not because what I made showed showed my glowing, brilliant genius, but because I put time into projects, and spent a lot of time doing slightly dull things to try and make something I could be happy with. Even after that, though, I had to admit that the result of my hard work was just not quite as incredible as others'. (As a side note, there were also people who probably worked as hard as me and had worse results than myself.)
I think it is a problem of perspective for some; that is, I don't blame people for not wanting to do work when they don't view it as contributing to something that they want to achieve. The devil is in the details, as it were, but why would you choose to spend time on details when you don't realize that those details matter? And why would you stick with a job when it's neither enjoyable in and of itself nor something that seems to contribute to anything you want to do (ignoring that you might want to stay alive, eat food, etc.)?
Some people may crash to Earth, and that is a good thing, because overall it's a pretty cool place sometimes.
For perspective and clarity, I am a recent narcissistic college grad in the workplace.
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I think it's not really uncommon that people don't realize how much work goes into things that they think that they "want to do," and also I think people have a hard time accepting the reality of their own abilities (at any given moment). One thing I remember feeling as an undergrad was the feeling that if I couldn't learn to produce something as amazing or brilliant as the people around me whom I admired, then there was no point in producing something at all. Also, it always seemed like people were doing something that I just couldn't fathom, i.e. they used their magical powers to do things that I could not.
Eventually I started to think instead that what set the people I admired apart from other people is just that they took the time to do stuff that either I don't find as enjoyable as they do or that just isn't that enjoyable, period. And that part of why I don't enjoy it is that if I fess up, I'm not actually all that good at it yet. When I did well in classes, it was not because what I made showed showed my glowing, brilliant genius, but because I put time into projects, and spent a lot of time doing slightly dull things to try and make something I could be happy with. Even after that, though, I had to admit that the result of my hard work was just not quite as incredible as others'. (As a side note, there were also people who probably worked as hard as me and had worse results than myself.)
I think it is a problem of perspective for some; that is, I don't blame people for not wanting to do work when they don't view it as contributing to something that they want to achieve. The devil is in the details, as it were, but why would you choose to spend time on details when you don't realize that those details matter? And why would you stick with a job when it's neither enjoyable in and of itself nor something that seems to contribute to anything you want to do (ignoring that you might want to stay alive, eat food, etc.)?
Some people may crash to Earth, and that is a good thing, because overall it's a pretty cool place sometimes.
For perspective and clarity, I am a recent narcissistic college grad in the workplace.