There's no secret. Just like anything else in life it takes practice to get results.
It's like the first time you walk into a gym or play soccer or play WoW or juggle chainsaws. It's intimidating at first but you have to get out there and do it to get any good at it. Some people are born with innate talent that allows them to excel at being social. It helps to have natural charisma or good looks. However, the rest of us can improve by doing and doing over and over again till we get better.
You're not going to get good at making friends or meeting girls or being the life of the party by sitting on the sidelines. In the beginning you won't know what you're doing, you may embarrass yourself, make a complete fool of yourself, or set something on fire by accident but in the long run you only lose if you stop trying. With time you'll learn that it's not good to bring up your anime fetish while talking to girls or debate the finer points of Java vs.NET while at a Super Bowl party. And hey who knows maybe one day you'll be sleeping with your girlfriends best friend (or sister or... mother) or getting high fives from your mates for doing lines of coke off a stripper's ass.
Starting out is simple. Just go someplace where there are many people having a good time (someplace not online) and introduce yourself. Alcohol helps.
Anyway, Malcolm Gladwell says it takes 10 years or 10,000 hours to become accomplished at anything. So you better get started.
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There's no secret. Just like anything else in life it takes practice to get results.
.NET while at a Super Bowl party. And hey who knows maybe one day you'll be sleeping with your girlfriends best friend (or sister or... mother) or getting high fives from your mates for doing lines of coke off a stripper's ass.
It's like the first time you walk into a gym or play soccer or play WoW or juggle chainsaws. It's intimidating at first but you have to get out there and do it to get any good at it. Some people are born with innate talent that allows them to excel at being social. It helps to have natural charisma or good looks. However, the rest of us can improve by doing and doing over and over again till we get better.
You're not going to get good at making friends or meeting girls or being the life of the party by sitting on the sidelines. In the beginning you won't know what you're doing, you may embarrass yourself, make a complete fool of yourself, or set something on fire by accident but in the long run you only lose if you stop trying. With time you'll learn that it's not good to bring up your anime fetish while talking to girls or debate the finer points of Java vs
Starting out is simple. Just go someplace where there are many people having a good time (someplace not online) and introduce yourself. Alcohol helps.
Anyway, Malcolm Gladwell says it takes 10 years or 10,000 hours to become accomplished at anything. So you better get started.