Totally agree about the self-built statement. My husband is a computer geek, and I am a physical (civil) and literary geek.
For the computer geek:
1. All source code in a marriage comes with errors. You will spend the rest of your life finding and adjusting for this.
2. All source code comes with memory and power leaks. some are good, some are bad. The books you read talk about men retreating and "sports widows". Anything can take the place of sports. For you, it might be coding projects. For her, it WILL be reading (you said she is a literary geek). With patience, you will learn when each is using regular activity as a retreat.
3. If you are both true geeks, as are I and my husband, You are both usually right in any given argument. So don't bother to fight. Listen to each other's argument, walk away, and think about it. That way you can see the logic in the other person's thought. If someone is wrong about something, this gives you a chance to say so. Again, note the self-built statement above.
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Totally agree about the self-built statement. My husband is a computer geek, and I am a physical (civil) and literary geek. For the computer geek: 1. All source code in a marriage comes with errors. You will spend the rest of your life finding and adjusting for this. 2. All source code comes with memory and power leaks. some are good, some are bad. The books you read talk about men retreating and "sports widows". Anything can take the place of sports. For you, it might be coding projects. For her, it WILL be reading (you said she is a literary geek). With patience, you will learn when each is using regular activity as a retreat. 3. If you are both true geeks, as are I and my husband, You are both usually right in any given argument. So don't bother to fight. Listen to each other's argument, walk away, and think about it. That way you can see the logic in the other person's thought. If someone is wrong about something, this gives you a chance to say so. Again, note the self-built statement above.