Yeah, some good advice. I'm married, and while my wife isn't geeky, the same "rules" apply in all marriages, IMO:
Always communicate.
Never go to bed angry.
Learn to say, "Yes, dear."
Learn to accept the things you don't have in common, rather than just focusing on the things you do have in common.
Remember to always listen, as this is mostly all that is often needed.
Best of luck for your future together! I don't regret getting married for a second.
PS. Also, let her win at things, no matter how good you are. Trust me on this one. Oh, and when you ask her if she's okay and she says, "Nothing's wrong.", give her a hug, because something is definitely wrong!
All good pointers. I'd also point out as a more specific to communication, is to let her share her interests. Ideally both of you will get to. I know my wife and I had some rocky starts where she would shut me down when I was trying to talk economics or physics and I would do the same to her when she started trying to talk about the latest romance novel she read. (I don't know why she likes them. She's such an otherwise intelligent person.) Once we talked about it though we both realized that if we were just a touch more tolerant and let the other get our rambling in about our subjects, we were happier. Great tip for this: While she's talking about that thing you don't care enough about, split your attention. Listen to what she's saying so you can respond appropriately, and then start listing the things you love about her in your head. Later you can use this list to do something romantic for her. I know my wife loves hearing these lists of why I love her. Also, it helps when you get those random questions where she asks, "Sweetie, Why do you love me?" from out of nowhere to have already composed a list. Note: When naming things on this list try and do so only a few at a time, if she hears the whole list at once she might start thinking about what wasn't on it.
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Yeah, some good advice. I'm married, and while my wife isn't geeky, the same "rules" apply in all marriages, IMO:
Best of luck for your future together! I don't regret getting married for a second.
PS. Also, let her win at things, no matter how good you are. Trust me on this one. Oh, and when you ask her if she's okay and she says, "Nothing's wrong.", give her a hug, because something is definitely wrong!
All good pointers. I'd also point out as a more specific to communication, is to let her share her interests. Ideally both of you will get to. I know my wife and I had some rocky starts where she would shut me down when I was trying to talk economics or physics and I would do the same to her when she started trying to talk about the latest romance novel she read. (I don't know why she likes them. She's such an otherwise intelligent person.) Once we talked about it though we both realized that if we were just a touch more tolerant and let the other get our rambling in about our subjects, we were happier. Great tip for this: While she's talking about that thing you don't care enough about, split your attention. Listen to what she's saying so you can respond appropriately, and then start listing the things you love about her in your head. Later you can use this list to do something romantic for her. I know my wife loves hearing these lists of why I love her. Also, it helps when you get those random questions where she asks, "Sweetie, Why do you love me?" from out of nowhere to have already composed a list. Note: When naming things on this list try and do so only a few at a time, if she hears the whole list at once she might start thinking about what wasn't on it.