I feel i can write, having quite a bit of experience with girls who come from the net, I have dated 5 of them, and I feel it's worth mentioning that I have over 7 years of IRC experiences with which to judge from.. of those 1 is my current g/f and is utterly perfect in every way.. the rest were crazed nymphos or psycho/sociopaths withs tons of personal problems.. They call came from IRC.. there are some benefits from this medium and some drawlbacks
drawlbacks:
1.) regardless of what picture they send you it's the one they think makes them look the best, which is usually no where near what they look like.
2.) most girls from IRC have issues which is why they're there ; issues can constitute anything from sociopathic lying about everything to white trash party ho's to sadomasochistic tendencies you don't find out about til it's too late;)nearly all have fucked up family lives and are affected by them.
3.) distance ; most of them don't live anywhere near you so you have drive 3 hours to find out that you've been had
4.) i could give a fuck what society thinks about my personal habits and things, but it's still socially unacceptable to say you're dating someone from the net.. people look at you with suspicion in their eyes.. unless they've done so also or are close friends.. you sometimes hvae to lie to avoid compromising/embarassing situations
of course there are also some major benefits to this setup
benefits:
1.) you can get a very good feel for someone based on their style online, as it's their personality first it's probably healthier than normal relationships.. which can be based on sex and liqour heh.. if you want a serious relationship, which is what i was looking for, this is probably better.. and though i've never tried a dating service or line, and was in fact, not even looking for a girl online it can be a very effective way of finding someone with similar interests/sense of humor/etc
2.) abstraction ; i'm a rather introspective and introverted person and as a result am usually quiet around people i don't know.. being online takes away any of the normal social awkwardness that can come from a real date or whatever
3.) levels of contact ; instead of having to meet someone you don' tlike waste money on them for dinner and then take them home never to be seen or herad from again.. you can escalate the relationship at your leisure.. i talked to my current g/f for over a year before i talked to her on the phone and finally met her and fell very deeply in love with her.. the ability to mutually choose your level of exposure is a VERY desireable characteristic
i'd just like to say, that i've been much happier after more than a year with my now IRL girlfriend than i ever was with a land based one;) but i did have to sort through some apples.. some good ones and some bad ones.. to find the perfect one.. caveat emptor;)
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I feel i can write, having quite a bit of experience with girls who come from the net, I have dated 5 of them, and I feel it's worth mentioning that I have over 7 years of IRC experiences with which to judge from.. of those 1 is my current g/f and is utterly perfect in every way.. the rest were crazed nymphos or psycho/sociopaths withs tons of personal problems.. They call came from IRC.. there are some benefits from this medium and some drawlbacks drawlbacks: 1.) regardless of what picture they send you it's the one they think makes them look the best, which is usually no where near what they look like. 2.) most girls from IRC have issues which is why they're there ; issues can constitute anything from sociopathic lying about everything to white trash party ho's to sadomasochistic tendencies you don't find out about til it's too late ;)nearly all have fucked up family lives and are affected by them.
3.) distance ; most of them don't live anywhere near you so you have drive 3 hours to find out that you've been had
4.) i could give a fuck what society thinks about my personal habits and things, but it's still socially unacceptable to say you're dating someone from the net.. people look at you with suspicion in their eyes.. unless they've done so also or are close friends.. you sometimes hvae to lie to avoid compromising/embarassing situations
of course there are also some major benefits to this setup
benefits:
1.) you can get a very good feel for someone based on their style online, as it's their personality first it's probably healthier than normal relationships.. which can be based on sex and liqour heh.. if you want a serious relationship, which is what i was looking for, this is probably better.. and though i've never tried a dating service or line, and was in fact, not even looking for a girl online it can be a very effective way of finding someone with similar interests/sense of humor/etc
2.) abstraction ; i'm a rather introspective and introverted person and as a result am usually quiet around people i don't know.. being online takes away any of the normal social awkwardness that can come from a real date or whatever
3.) levels of contact ; instead of having to meet someone you don' tlike waste money on them for dinner and then take them home never to be seen or herad from again.. you can escalate the relationship at your leisure.. i talked to my current g/f for over a year before i talked to her on the phone and finally met her and fell very deeply in love with her.. the ability to mutually choose your level of exposure is a VERY desireable characteristic
i'd just like to say, that i've been much happier after more than a year with my now IRL girlfriend than i ever was with a land based one ;) but i did have to sort through some apples.. some good ones and some bad ones.. to find the perfect one.. caveat emptor ;)