First I would like to say that what happened to you is a horrible thing and that in no way do I condon what happened. Now on to the important part of things. I will tell you so you need not ask I am a man but by your stadards I have every right to comment on this. I was raped once and I must say I thought I was horrible I was mortified the entire time it happened. I was tied down but I was not beaten just stripped and forced to have sex. It was a woman that did this to me no gender is free from rapist. It was somthing that hurt me and my pride alot. It did for a time cause me to be warry of people but I did get over it. Size does not alwyas make the difference who can rape the other. The woman that raped me was smaller than me in fact.
The reason I am posting is not to add to your logic or reasoning but to defend the "frat boy". From the start you seem to miss his entire point he never says rape is in any way acceptable under any circumstances he deplores it but he is right Rape is not as bad as what can happen. I will agree dealing with rape is difficult but IT CAN BE DELT WITH There are many groups which focus on aid women who survive rape. As for rather dying if you feel that way you are a fool and you might as well end things. Many bad things happen in life and well I have been taken to the cleaners many times but I still go on. I lead a fairly normal and happy life even though I have had some terrible things happen to me. As for the way you move on this arguement you first tell a terrible painstacking story of a woman who was raped. Where as anyone reading this would agree that this was terrible it does nothing to further your arguements. I mean I could sit here and describe what it would be like to be torturted to death but that would make my arguement any more believable it would just pull on a person emotions. After you tell this terrible stroy that might bring a tear you go on to say that most women would preferr death? I hate to say this but are all your friends really that weak willed? Rape is not an end to things just a bad thing that can happen in life. I found out the woman I loved was cheating on my and that hurt alot worse than being raped but at niether time did I wish someone had just killed me. You end you story with a line about "Imagine living everyday in fear of what might happen that night." There are many horrible awful things that you could imagine if you let yourself and there are many things that cause people sadness but to let something rule your life is your mistake not the rapist. Make no mistake what they did is wrong but if you let that take over your life and destroy you then IT IS YOUR OWN FAULT Though this entire story you lead the reader to believe that it is you that went thought this but then you say "but the number of times I hear her cry at night makes me believe that I am better informed than most." Which tells us you have never experianced this only heard about it? And yet you feel that you can end this by telling the Frat boy "The unknowing have no right to rationalize it." To this I HOW DARE YOU, you sit there on your pedistal and tell of one person for there personal thought and tell him he has no right to rationalize because he has not been raped but yet you who have not been raped has every right to tell him he is wrong? I understand hearing a close friend cry can be hard but if you think that makes you an expert or even allows you to understand what happens then you are lying to others and yourself. As far as the conclusions you draw about rape go I would agree with all of them until you say "It is a violation on the most fundamental level - and nothing compares." This is entirly false. I have lived though rape I have survived though many indignaties and I can tell you there are worse things. Since you will scoff the woman I loved that cheated on me did so with my friend of 9 years. That was a violation far worse than anything I felt before since of after including being raped. It is a crime, it is painful in every way but there are worse things. During your story you say "Imagine feeling the penetration (anal in your case)" Does this mean that you believe your gender innocent of everything in this realm?
It seems that you insult the ideas and thought of the person that you have coined as "Frat Boy" when you in fact know nothing of what it is like to be raped or Tortured to death. So perhaps before you decide that I am a typical Male fool that does not know what he is talking about perhaps you should get some perspective. Ask yourself from the outside would you rather listen to you friend cry at night or would you rather make certain to keep the flowers on her grave nice and neat? To gain any other perspective you would need to be raped and I hope you never have that happen. I considered post this AC but I decided that to say what I wanted to you I had to do so with you knowing who I am.
Ok the Fema-Nazi can be a little annoying at times if you choose to try to challenge them. As for your comments that you have never met a Feminist that was not been abused by men at some point, you are looking in the wrong place. I know alot of them very personally and well they are quite normal. Also look at the feminist arguements. Women DO make less for the same work as men, I will grant you that this division is decreasing but it still to this day exists, also look at how things were 20 years ago. I will agree with you however that sometimes White Males (They need not be Christian or Concservative)are unfairly blamed for things becuase of the past. As to your idea to be gay to escape the scurge of women, you must be on CRACK. There is not reason to turn away from a large group of people due to a few bad experiances. There are horror stories out there about any group. You are choosing to believe in a few stories about the worst of people. Most people are not rapist, murders or the boggie man. The world is full of mostly decent people but yes there are a few wackos out there. This however does not mean that you need to run a background check just to get to know someone. As for meeting them in real life after chatting on the internet. A few simple precautions would stop things like this from happening. Do not invite them to say with you hotels are a little expensive at times but hey better safe than sorry. I recently moved and if I waited 3 to 5 years before calling someone a friend I would incredible lonely. The point is that you are paranoid. Bad things can happen even to good people but that is no reason to shape your life around a few stories.
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First I would like to say that what happened to you is a horrible thing and that in no way do I condon what happened. Now on to the important part of things. I will tell you so you need not ask I am a man but by your stadards I have every right to comment on this. I was raped once and I must say I thought I was horrible I was mortified the entire time it happened. I was tied down but I was not beaten just stripped and forced to have sex. It was a woman that did this to me no gender is free from rapist. It was somthing that hurt me and my pride alot. It did for a time cause me to be warry of people but I did get over it. Size does not alwyas make the difference who can rape the other. The woman that raped me was smaller than me in fact.
The reason I am posting is not to add to your logic or reasoning but to defend the "frat boy". From the start you seem to miss his entire point he never says rape is in any way acceptable under any circumstances he deplores it but he is right Rape is not as bad as what can happen. I will agree dealing with rape is difficult but IT CAN BE DELT WITH There are many groups which focus on aid women who survive rape. As for rather dying if you feel that way you are a fool and you might as well end things. Many bad things happen in life and well I have been taken to the cleaners many times but I still go on. I lead a fairly normal and happy life even though I have had some terrible things happen to me. As for the way you move on this arguement you first tell a terrible painstacking story of a woman who was raped. Where as anyone reading this would agree that this was terrible it does nothing to further your arguements. I mean I could sit here and describe what it would be like to be torturted to death but that would make my arguement any more believable it would just pull on a person emotions. After you tell this terrible stroy that might bring a tear you go on to say that most women would preferr death? I hate to say this but are all your friends really that weak willed? Rape is not an end to things just a bad thing that can happen in life. I found out the woman I loved was cheating on my and that hurt alot worse than being raped but at niether time did I wish someone had just killed me. You end you story with a line about "Imagine living everyday in fear of what might happen that night." There are many horrible awful things that you could imagine if you let yourself and there are many things that cause people sadness but to let something rule your life is your mistake not the rapist. Make no mistake what they did is wrong but if you let that take over your life and destroy you then IT IS YOUR OWN FAULT Though this entire story you lead the reader to believe that it is you that went thought this but then you say "but the number of times I hear her cry at night makes me believe that I am better informed than most." Which tells us you have never experianced this only heard about it? And yet you feel that you can end this by telling the Frat boy "The unknowing have no right to rationalize it." To this I HOW DARE YOU, you sit there on your pedistal and tell of one person for there personal thought and tell him he has no right to rationalize because he has not been raped but yet you who have not been raped has every right to tell him he is wrong? I understand hearing a close friend cry can be hard but if you think that makes you an expert or even allows you to understand what happens then you are lying to others and yourself. As far as the conclusions you draw about rape go I would agree with all of them until you say "It is a violation on the most fundamental level - and nothing compares." This is entirly false. I have lived though rape I have survived though many indignaties and I can tell you there are worse things. Since you will scoff the woman I loved that cheated on me did so with my friend of 9 years. That was a violation far worse than anything I felt before since of after including being raped. It is a crime, it is painful in every way but there are worse things. During your story you say "Imagine feeling the penetration (anal in your case)" Does this mean that you believe your gender innocent of everything in this realm?
It seems that you insult the ideas and thought of the person that you have coined as "Frat Boy" when you in fact know nothing of what it is like to be raped or Tortured to death. So perhaps before you decide that I am a typical Male fool that does not know what he is talking about perhaps you should get some perspective. Ask yourself from the outside would you rather listen to you friend cry at night or would you rather make certain to keep the flowers on her grave nice and neat? To gain any other perspective you would need to be raped and I hope you never have that happen. I considered post this AC but I decided that to say what I wanted to you I had to do so with you knowing who I am.
Ok the Fema-Nazi can be a little annoying at times if you choose to try to challenge them. As for your comments that you have never met a Feminist that was not been abused by men at some point, you are looking in the wrong place. I know alot of them very personally and well they are quite normal. Also look at the feminist arguements. Women DO make less for the same work as men, I will grant you that this division is decreasing but it still to this day exists, also look at how things were 20 years ago. I will agree with you however that sometimes White Males (They need not be Christian or Concservative)are unfairly blamed for things becuase of the past. As to your idea to be gay to escape the scurge of women, you must be on CRACK. There is not reason to turn away from a large group of people due to a few bad experiances. There are horror stories out there about any group. You are choosing to believe in a few stories about the worst of people. Most people are not rapist, murders or the boggie man. The world is full of mostly decent people but yes there are a few wackos out there. This however does not mean that you need to run a background check just to get to know someone. As for meeting them in real life after chatting on the internet. A few simple precautions would stop things like this from happening. Do not invite them to say with you hotels are a little expensive at times but hey better safe than sorry. I recently moved and if I waited 3 to 5 years before calling someone a friend I would incredible lonely. The point is that you are paranoid. Bad things can happen even to good people but that is no reason to shape your life around a few stories.