I'm a woman and I've worked for the last 7 years in CIS. But it took me many years to figure out that I wanted to do that and that I had a talent for it.
My father is in CIS, and my mother is a housewife/ex-teacher. My brother went into CIS right away. Guess what I was heavily steered toward? Teaching-- a poorly-paid, stressful profession that I showed no talent for but which happens to be traditionally female.The alternative? At one point, my mom suggested that I just "be a mom".
There are huge pressures of tradition and expectation that determine what professions kids decide to pursue. To just say that men "want to do CIS more than women" is absurd. Kids want to do what their parents and teachers want them to do. Kids expect to do what their parents and teachers expect them to do.
I have accepted a counteroffer twice with good results. However, both times it was the following situation: I had just recently been hired as a contractor and had only been working there for a month or less. I told my company about the other offer, and in both cases their response was to offer me a raise and also a permanent salaried position. Since either job was pretty much still an unknown quantity, I went for the counteroffer, and it worked out fine.
But since I'd so recently been a jobseeker, they didn't know if I'd continued looking after they hired me or if the other offer was just a late result coming in from my previous search. So my "loyalty" was not a factor. This may have made it slightly less risky for them, and for me.
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I'm a woman and I've worked for the last 7 years in CIS. But it took me many years to figure out that I wanted to do that and that I had a talent for it.
My father is in CIS, and my mother is a housewife/ex-teacher. My brother went into CIS right away. Guess what I was heavily steered toward? Teaching-- a poorly-paid, stressful profession that I showed no talent for but which happens to be traditionally female.The alternative? At one point, my mom suggested that I just "be a mom".
There are huge pressures of tradition and expectation that determine what professions kids decide to pursue. To just say that men "want to do CIS more than women" is absurd. Kids want to do what their parents and teachers want them to do. Kids expect to do what their parents and teachers expect them to do.
I have accepted a counteroffer twice with good results. However, both times it was the following situation: I had just recently been hired as a contractor and had only been working there for a month or less. I told my company about the other offer, and in both cases their response was to offer me a raise and also a permanent salaried position. Since either job was pretty much still an unknown quantity, I went for the counteroffer, and it worked out fine. But since I'd so recently been a jobseeker, they didn't know if I'd continued looking after they hired me or if the other offer was just a late result coming in from my previous search. So my "loyalty" was not a factor. This may have made it slightly less risky for them, and for me.