Holy cow, a guy who really knows his stuff. I salute you.
Pitocin can cause the baby's heart to not fluctuate how it's supposed to during labor, and that's when they want to do the emergency c-section. Cervadil (what they use to ripen the cervix when they induce) says on the insert that comes in the box "Not intended for use to augment labor", and has a long laundry list of side effects.
If at all possible, do NOT get induced. Only get induced if there is a real medical reason for it. There's a 50% chance of c-section if you get induced (which then dr's want to only give you c-sections later because of the chance of hemmorage). Not to mention if the placenta on future pregnancies decides to attach to the c-section area, you either have a hugely problematic pregnancy or you have a miscarriage. And there's more to it than that, but suffice it to say you don't want a c-section unless you really have to have it.
The woman can't move around while on the epidural, so the baby has the greater chance of not being able to move into the correct position... resulting in a c-section.
Even with midwives in a hospital, you have to choose them wisely. A lot of OBs have CNM's in their practice not because they're pro-midwife but because midwives bring in clients. The CNMs have to follow what the OB wants and even they can be pushy with the interventions. I give a CNM in a hospital one thumb up, but a home birth two thumbs up.
Also, some good childbirth classes are a huge plus. Not the crap classes they give at the hospital ("... and then you get your epidural!"). Ones geared towards natural childbirth that are 6-8 weeks long, give a lot of ways to manage labor pains (it just takes concentration, it's not THAT hard, I've done it once before and it was a long labor with a 9 lb baby). They also give tips for a successful breastfeeding relationship, and post-pregnancy care.
Unless it's from deterioration. I haven't really explored the idea much because we never used a crib with our daughter. She has a toddler bed with a new crib mattress in it but I'm not worried about SIDS in an 18 mo old.
There's one theory that says that SIDS is caused by fumes from the mattress, and a New Zealand company invented some sort of mattress wrap (sorry I don't have the link) that supposedly there were NO cases of SIDS with babies on mattresses wrapped in this stuff.
Therefore the theory is that if the baby is sleeping on the back, then they aren't inhaling the fumes. I don't know if there's merit to that idea, but it's an interesting thought.
SIDS is also a rather generic term that they use, "Sudden Infant Death Syndrome", if they don't know the cause of the baby's death.
Also of note is that SIDS is virtually unheard of in countries where the infants routinely sleep with their parents (and they laugh like you're insane if you suggest that the parent might roll over on or smother the baby), as well as in countries where they don't use standard mattresses, but mattresses stuffed with natural materials.
That's completely false, I don't know where you got that information. There's a reason why "cot death" is called "cot death". Try this link which is a bit more knowledgeable about the subject, and not some reporter that dismisses cosleeping based on hearsay.
Then you call it daycare and not a babysitter. My daycare is a friend who just watches her own son and my daughter (and the baby I'm due with, after he's born and I return to work that is). She also takes the kids to the zoo and stuff. You can't watch them all the time. Plus it's at her house, and I wouldn't want even a friend installing cameras at my house. A babysitter watching your kid for a couple hours in the evening, at your house, they don't generally take the baby out for activities. So it's safe to assume that they want an evening out, rather than an every day thing.
After you have a baby, your sleep patterns totally change. I realize co-sleeping isn't for everyone (it's risky for smokers, as well as if you have a waterbed, for example). I used to not be able to be woken... period... then I had a baby and if she's sleeping in the next room, the littlest whimper, and I hear it and jump out of bed. Most people have some sense while they're sleeping, otherwise they'd fall out of bed... you know where the edge of the bed is, despite your tossing and turning. Plus, they make bed sidecars, so the baby can have his/her own area, but the baby's within arm's reach.
You co-sleep until they can roll over on their own (that's when risk of SIDS goes down considerably). I slept with my daughter in the crook of my arm (lying in bed of course) for about the first 6 months. Not to mention I didn't have to get up out of bed to breastfeed her. She's 21 months and transitioned great to a toddler bed a couple months ago.
True, baby monitors make a ton of static noise when they're on. I'd always have mine up so loud I could hear the baby breathing. Then I got smart and just started cosleeping, and we slept so much better until she started crawling in her sleep. (She has her own toddler bed now and loves sleeping in it).
Unless your bedroom is on the other side of the house, just keep the baby's door open, your door open, and you'll hear the baby cry. The only time I use my baby monitor now is if my daughter's napping in her room (upstairs) and I'm in the basement, so I can hear her when she wakes up.
To effectively spy on the babysitter you'd have to have cameras all over the house. If you're that paranoid about the babysitter, then don't have a babysitter. Babies go to sleep at 8 (if you have a regular schedule), that's plenty of quiet time with the wife before you have to go to bed. Rent a movie and sit and snuggle on the couch.
That's a terrible device. A newborn that cries always has a reason to cry. Even being lonely is a good reason for a newborn. (and once they're out of the newborn stage, they're too big for that cradle, so we're talking newborns here).
My brother and I are actually going back and forth on that idea. He's an aspiring movie maker and just published his first movie on DVD: Pizza the Movie. (which is a good movie, btw).
Anyway, I think that he should have the movie where people can download it to watch it. I think then people would watch it and then buy the DVD (since that's what people do with hollywood flicks, they enjoy it so want to own it to watch whenever). He thinks that's crazy and only offers the DVD for sale, saying that people would prefer the DVD since you actually own it, there's special features, and all that.
(but it's his movie and his money so he wins that argument by default, even though I still don't agree):-)
They probably cringe at the idea, because then one person pays $20/mo for the service and burns copies onto CDs or DVDs and lends them out to all his/her friends, who then can watch them without paying for the service.
(of course they'd try implementing some proprietary software scheme, but those always get cracked sooner or later)
I dunno about you, but that'd be a damn good deterrent for not wanting to end up in prison. You'd think some of these crooks would think of that before doing crimes.
I can't tell the difference between wines. I can't tell the difference between flower-smelling perfumes. Or the taste difference between tomatoes. Or beer. (And it's not my sense of smell or taste either).
For me to be able to tell the difference, they'd have to be VASTLY different (one wine being extremely sweet, another wine being extremely bitter). Because I don't eat, drink, or use the products on a daily basis, I have no need to practice telling the difference between them.
I'm sure that although the tribespeople couldn't tell the difference between 4 and 5, they most definitely would be able to tell the difference between 4 and 20. And for something they don't do on a daily basis, that's not too bad.
My 19 mo old daughter understands the concept of "all gone". A plate with nothing on it where there used to be something that was eaten... "ga gaw!"
So maybe they didn't have 0 as a number that goes between 1 and -1. But I fail to believe that they didn't understand that if you have 3 berries and you eat all 3, that they won't understand that there are none left.
That's pretty much what i was going to say. My daughter used to push things away that she didn't want, at younger than 6 months, and even younger than that, if they don't want to nurse, they won't take the nipple into their mouth.
Although it would be nice if I didn't have to hear "no!" all the time (she's 19 months and in the terrible twos), even if I never taught her that word, she'd still find a way to refuse to do what I want her to do.
I agree, I've heard that Ohio's "midwest" and I've heard people say Colorado's "midwest" and Ohio's in the east. I have no idea. NYC might be 9 hrs from Ohio but Buffalo is only 2 hrs from the NE corner of Ohio so it's not like they're that far apart, really.
My best success in getting people to understand where I'm from without saying that I live right by NYC, is to ask if they know where the southernmost point of Canada is, and we're right across the lake. People seem to at least know the shape of the US/Canada border. (abroad that is).
My main original point was that you hear constantly that Americans have terrible geography skills, and that foreigners (non-Americans) have great geography skills. I think there's Americans with decent geography skills and foreigners with decent geography skills, but likewise there's plenty of both with terrible geography skills! They act like foreigners know all 50 states and capitals while Americans don't know the Pacific Ocean, but more often the foreigners know the big touristy places (not even Washington DC all that often!) and I think it's myth that Americans are all terrible at geography, because I don't know ANYONE who doesn't know where the Pacific Ocean is.
What American high schoolers are these? I've never met one that couldn't identify our state. Or the Pacific Ocean for that matter. They must be taking their polls in Wyoming or one of the other rectangular states.
Depends on when their "junior high" was... the USSR was still one country back when i was in jr high. There was still more than 13 then, but that would account for some of them.
But you talk to a Texan and they act like El Paso to Dallas is right next door... short lil drive right there. And Dallas to Houston? "Sure, that's not that far!" ("only" 4 hours). Ask me if I want to drive to Washington DC (which is somewhere between 9-12 hours, I don't remember) and I'd say "hell no, I'm flying. That's too damn far".
A bit off topic but I discovered a couple years ago that there are now 5 oceans and not the 4 that we all learned in school. I mentioned this tidbit to people and they had no idea either. Apparently a few years ago (2000 I think) they added the Southern Ocean to the list, demarking it officially as its own ocean and not bits and pieces of the other oceans.
Surely you're joking. I have a friend who lives in Surrey. And I do know how to pronounce the -shire names. What difference does that make though? I don't expect any non-American to know where Columbus OH is even though it's the capital of the state.
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Holy cow, a guy who really knows his stuff. I salute you.
Pitocin can cause the baby's heart to not fluctuate how it's supposed to during labor, and that's when they want to do the emergency c-section. Cervadil (what they use to ripen the cervix when they induce) says on the insert that comes in the box "Not intended for use to augment labor", and has a long laundry list of side effects.
If at all possible, do NOT get induced. Only get induced if there is a real medical reason for it. There's a 50% chance of c-section if you get induced (which then dr's want to only give you c-sections later because of the chance of hemmorage). Not to mention if the placenta on future pregnancies decides to attach to the c-section area, you either have a hugely problematic pregnancy or you have a miscarriage. And there's more to it than that, but suffice it to say you don't want a c-section unless you really have to have it.
The woman can't move around while on the epidural, so the baby has the greater chance of not being able to move into the correct position... resulting in a c-section.
Even with midwives in a hospital, you have to choose them wisely. A lot of OBs have CNM's in their practice not because they're pro-midwife but because midwives bring in clients. The CNMs have to follow what the OB wants and even they can be pushy with the interventions. I give a CNM in a hospital one thumb up, but a home birth two thumbs up.
Also, some good childbirth classes are a huge plus. Not the crap classes they give at the hospital ("... and then you get your epidural!"). Ones geared towards natural childbirth that are 6-8 weeks long, give a lot of ways to manage labor pains (it just takes concentration, it's not THAT hard, I've done it once before and it was a long labor with a 9 lb baby). They also give tips for a successful breastfeeding relationship, and post-pregnancy care.
Unless it's from deterioration. I haven't really explored the idea much because we never used a crib with our daughter. She has a toddler bed with a new crib mattress in it but I'm not worried about SIDS in an 18 mo old.
There's one theory that says that SIDS is caused by fumes from the mattress, and a New Zealand company invented some sort of mattress wrap (sorry I don't have the link) that supposedly there were NO cases of SIDS with babies on mattresses wrapped in this stuff.
Therefore the theory is that if the baby is sleeping on the back, then they aren't inhaling the fumes. I don't know if there's merit to that idea, but it's an interesting thought.
SIDS is also a rather generic term that they use, "Sudden Infant Death Syndrome", if they don't know the cause of the baby's death.
Also of note is that SIDS is virtually unheard of in countries where the infants routinely sleep with their parents (and they laugh like you're insane if you suggest that the parent might roll over on or smother the baby), as well as in countries where they don't use standard mattresses, but mattresses stuffed with natural materials.
That's completely false, I don't know where you got that information. There's a reason why "cot death" is called "cot death". Try this link which is a bit more knowledgeable about the subject, and not some reporter that dismisses cosleeping based on hearsay.
http://www.drjaygordon.com/ap/cosleeping.htm
Then you call it daycare and not a babysitter. My daycare is a friend who just watches her own son and my daughter (and the baby I'm due with, after he's born and I return to work that is). She also takes the kids to the zoo and stuff. You can't watch them all the time. Plus it's at her house, and I wouldn't want even a friend installing cameras at my house. A babysitter watching your kid for a couple hours in the evening, at your house, they don't generally take the baby out for activities. So it's safe to assume that they want an evening out, rather than an every day thing.
After you have a baby, your sleep patterns totally change. I realize co-sleeping isn't for everyone (it's risky for smokers, as well as if you have a waterbed, for example). I used to not be able to be woken... period... then I had a baby and if she's sleeping in the next room, the littlest whimper, and I hear it and jump out of bed. Most people have some sense while they're sleeping, otherwise they'd fall out of bed... you know where the edge of the bed is, despite your tossing and turning. Plus, they make bed sidecars, so the baby can have his/her own area, but the baby's within arm's reach.
You co-sleep until they can roll over on their own (that's when risk of SIDS goes down considerably). I slept with my daughter in the crook of my arm (lying in bed of course) for about the first 6 months. Not to mention I didn't have to get up out of bed to breastfeed her. She's 21 months and transitioned great to a toddler bed a couple months ago.
That is, if you trust a gadget to work how it's supposed to. Even the electric doors on our minivan don't always open when I want them to.
True, baby monitors make a ton of static noise when they're on. I'd always have mine up so loud I could hear the baby breathing. Then I got smart and just started cosleeping, and we slept so much better until she started crawling in her sleep. (She has her own toddler bed now and loves sleeping in it).
Unless your bedroom is on the other side of the house, just keep the baby's door open, your door open, and you'll hear the baby cry. The only time I use my baby monitor now is if my daughter's napping in her room (upstairs) and I'm in the basement, so I can hear her when she wakes up.
To effectively spy on the babysitter you'd have to have cameras all over the house. If you're that paranoid about the babysitter, then don't have a babysitter. Babies go to sleep at 8 (if you have a regular schedule), that's plenty of quiet time with the wife before you have to go to bed. Rent a movie and sit and snuggle on the couch.
That's a terrible device. A newborn that cries always has a reason to cry. Even being lonely is a good reason for a newborn. (and once they're out of the newborn stage, they're too big for that cradle, so we're talking newborns here).
My brother and I are actually going back and forth on that idea. He's an aspiring movie maker and just published his first movie on DVD: Pizza the Movie. (which is a good movie, btw).
:-)
Anyway, I think that he should have the movie where people can download it to watch it. I think then people would watch it and then buy the DVD (since that's what people do with hollywood flicks, they enjoy it so want to own it to watch whenever). He thinks that's crazy and only offers the DVD for sale, saying that people would prefer the DVD since you actually own it, there's special features, and all that.
(but it's his movie and his money so he wins that argument by default, even though I still don't agree)
They probably cringe at the idea, because then one person pays $20/mo for the service and burns copies onto CDs or DVDs and lends them out to all his/her friends, who then can watch them without paying for the service.
(of course they'd try implementing some proprietary software scheme, but those always get cracked sooner or later)
I dunno about you, but that'd be a damn good deterrent for not wanting to end up in prison. You'd think some of these crooks would think of that before doing crimes.
I can't tell the difference between wines. I can't tell the difference between flower-smelling perfumes. Or the taste difference between tomatoes. Or beer. (And it's not my sense of smell or taste either).
For me to be able to tell the difference, they'd have to be VASTLY different (one wine being extremely sweet, another wine being extremely bitter). Because I don't eat, drink, or use the products on a daily basis, I have no need to practice telling the difference between them.
I'm sure that although the tribespeople couldn't tell the difference between 4 and 5, they most definitely would be able to tell the difference between 4 and 20. And for something they don't do on a daily basis, that's not too bad.
My 19 mo old daughter understands the concept of "all gone". A plate with nothing on it where there used to be something that was eaten... "ga gaw!"
So maybe they didn't have 0 as a number that goes between 1 and -1. But I fail to believe that they didn't understand that if you have 3 berries and you eat all 3, that they won't understand that there are none left.
That's pretty much what i was going to say. My daughter used to push things away that she didn't want, at younger than 6 months, and even younger than that, if they don't want to nurse, they won't take the nipple into their mouth.
Although it would be nice if I didn't have to hear "no!" all the time (she's 19 months and in the terrible twos), even if I never taught her that word, she'd still find a way to refuse to do what I want her to do.
Then I guess the people who don't know where the Pacific Ocean is, only needs to respond, "What Pacific Ocean? There is only one ocean, duh."
But I guess we have to go with what the International Hydrographic Organization says so that everyone can agree on the same imaginary lines.
Or how about those 2 continents stuck together called Europe and Asia, shouldn't that just be 1 continent?
The line between the oceans is about the same as the line between all the countries... invisible.
I agree, I've heard that Ohio's "midwest" and I've heard people say Colorado's "midwest" and Ohio's in the east. I have no idea. NYC might be 9 hrs from Ohio but Buffalo is only 2 hrs from the NE corner of Ohio so it's not like they're that far apart, really.
My best success in getting people to understand where I'm from without saying that I live right by NYC, is to ask if they know where the southernmost point of Canada is, and we're right across the lake. People seem to at least know the shape of the US/Canada border. (abroad that is).
My main original point was that you hear constantly that Americans have terrible geography skills, and that foreigners (non-Americans) have great geography skills. I think there's Americans with decent geography skills and foreigners with decent geography skills, but likewise there's plenty of both with terrible geography skills! They act like foreigners know all 50 states and capitals while Americans don't know the Pacific Ocean, but more often the foreigners know the big touristy places (not even Washington DC all that often!) and I think it's myth that Americans are all terrible at geography, because I don't know ANYONE who doesn't know where the Pacific Ocean is.
Maybe when California falls into the ocean and they all flee to Wyoming's new oceanfront property. (Well, if Idaho and Utah fell in too)
What American high schoolers are these? I've never met one that couldn't identify our state. Or the Pacific Ocean for that matter. They must be taking their polls in Wyoming or one of the other rectangular states.
Depends on when their "junior high" was... the USSR was still one country back when i was in jr high. There was still more than 13 then, but that would account for some of them.
But you talk to a Texan and they act like El Paso to Dallas is right next door... short lil drive right there. And Dallas to Houston? "Sure, that's not that far!" ("only" 4 hours). Ask me if I want to drive to Washington DC (which is somewhere between 9-12 hours, I don't remember) and I'd say "hell no, I'm flying. That's too damn far".
Same reason it's important to know where the Pacific Ocean is. Ghana is just as far away from me as the Pacific Ocean is.
A bit off topic but I discovered a couple years ago that there are now 5 oceans and not the 4 that we all learned in school. I mentioned this tidbit to people and they had no idea either. Apparently a few years ago (2000 I think) they added the Southern Ocean to the list, demarking it officially as its own ocean and not bits and pieces of the other oceans.
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http://www.cia.gov/cia/publications/factbook/ge
Surely you're joking. I have a friend who lives in Surrey. And I do know how to pronounce the -shire names. What difference does that make though? I don't expect any non-American to know where Columbus OH is even though it's the capital of the state.