I actually find that many geeks are very understanding and considerate. Therefore many girls end wanting them as friends, not as lovers.
This isn't a geek-specific problem. Plenty of men complain that they are "too nice," and as a result, inappropriate lover material. Though this certainly happens, it strikes me as something of a media cliche. It seems like plenty of romantic comedies have this kind of notion at their heart.
As for the reason, I think it's just that the gender roles that have built up over time are still something people look to. Women frequently want men to be "men." My interpretation of the "too nice" line is "too boring." There's a fine line between nice and submissive. She needs to feel that there are things you'll stand your ground on. It's not that women don't appreciate being treated well, it's just that there are other things which are more important to initial attraction.
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I actually find that many geeks are very understanding and considerate. Therefore many girls end wanting them as friends, not as lovers.
This isn't a geek-specific problem. Plenty of men complain that they are "too nice," and as a result, inappropriate lover material. Though this certainly happens, it strikes me as something of a media cliche. It seems like plenty of romantic comedies have this kind of notion at their heart.
As for the reason, I think it's just that the gender roles that have built up over time are still something people look to. Women frequently want men to be "men." My interpretation of the "too nice" line is "too boring." There's a fine line between nice and submissive. She needs to feel that there are things you'll stand your ground on. It's not that women don't appreciate being treated well, it's just that there are other things which are more important to initial attraction.
You know, what's really interesting is that Homer also says, "Nobody snuggles with Max Power. . . you strap in and feel the G's!"
This gives a whole new meaning to that, I believe.
Doesn't it seem odd that people would be able to figure out where AltaVista was, but not Yahoo?
Hmm.