Yes I too am a computer geek with a literary geek wife. We've been married for a few years now. In fact we celebrated our 8th anniversary just yesterday.
There are basically three rules to keeping a successful marriage of equals.
1. Communication - I know it's a cliche, but it's true. Make sure you're open, honest, and most of all empathic with your wife. You can't just go headlong into a decision without consulting her. She needs to make half the decision. If you both do not come to a consensus then do not take the actions that the decision dictates.
2. Share the duties - This really is a non-issue if this is a marriage of equals, but this is quite important to remember. I'm not saying schedule who cooks dinner on which day, but if chores need to be done at home, take the initiative, write a list and tackle them together. If you see a sink full of dishes, wash them. If you see the garbage overflowing, take it out. I Usually take my kids to school in the morning, while my wife comes home earlier to help take care of them at the end of the day. Don't make her feel like she is the domesticator of your home. Make it both your home by sharing in the responsibility.
3. Keep the fun alive - Know her interests and support her in them. Allow her to do the same with you. Don't take things to seriously, otherwise life itself will be a chore. My wife recently has taken up golf, though I've never hit a round of golf in my life, and never had any interest in it, going out with her to practice driving was actually quite fun. Be spontaneously loving. bring her some flowers once in a while for no apparent reason. Give her a surprise vacation (though this may be a little hard to do, 'cause if she may need to schedule some time off of work). Make her feel like she is the only person in your life who really means anything to you. She'll definitely respond in kind.
This really is true for most marriages, but I find that in marriages of equals, this is especially true. Not only does your life run smoother, but you're both a lot happier.
Ok,
So does this mean that in order to have Children, I need to pay royalty to a number (or all) of these firms/universities?
Oops, did I say that out loud?
Unfortuantely not adding comments doesn't add to job security, just makes your code all the more disposable.
At least after they can your butt you'll have something that connects your work to the company when you add comments for the next developer to follow and save.
No comments will simply cause the next developer in line to do a block delete and rewrite.
Forget IDE's Emacs (Or Xemacs if you prefer) does a wonderful job or tabbifying code to look good on any text editor. I've been using it for 12 years now and swear by it over any other editor no matter which OS I'm working on.
Comments are tabbed to the correct place and and are easily visible with syntax highlighting.
I've tried using other editors to get stuff done, and keep returning to the good ol' Xemacs.
Just my $0.02
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Yes I too am a computer geek with a literary geek wife. We've been married for a few years now. In fact we celebrated our 8th anniversary just yesterday. There are basically three rules to keeping a successful marriage of equals. 1. Communication - I know it's a cliche, but it's true. Make sure you're open, honest, and most of all empathic with your wife. You can't just go headlong into a decision without consulting her. She needs to make half the decision. If you both do not come to a consensus then do not take the actions that the decision dictates. 2. Share the duties - This really is a non-issue if this is a marriage of equals, but this is quite important to remember. I'm not saying schedule who cooks dinner on which day, but if chores need to be done at home, take the initiative, write a list and tackle them together. If you see a sink full of dishes, wash them. If you see the garbage overflowing, take it out. I Usually take my kids to school in the morning, while my wife comes home earlier to help take care of them at the end of the day. Don't make her feel like she is the domesticator of your home. Make it both your home by sharing in the responsibility. 3. Keep the fun alive - Know her interests and support her in them. Allow her to do the same with you. Don't take things to seriously, otherwise life itself will be a chore. My wife recently has taken up golf, though I've never hit a round of golf in my life, and never had any interest in it, going out with her to practice driving was actually quite fun. Be spontaneously loving. bring her some flowers once in a while for no apparent reason. Give her a surprise vacation (though this may be a little hard to do, 'cause if she may need to schedule some time off of work). Make her feel like she is the only person in your life who really means anything to you. She'll definitely respond in kind. This really is true for most marriages, but I find that in marriages of equals, this is especially true. Not only does your life run smoother, but you're both a lot happier.
Ok, So does this mean that in order to have Children, I need to pay royalty to a number (or all) of these firms/universities? Oops, did I say that out loud?
Unfortuantely not adding comments doesn't add to job security, just makes your code all the more disposable. At least after they can your butt you'll have something that connects your work to the company when you add comments for the next developer to follow and save. No comments will simply cause the next developer in line to do a block delete and rewrite.
Forget IDE's Emacs (Or Xemacs if you prefer) does a wonderful job or tabbifying code to look good on any text editor. I've been using it for 12 years now and swear by it over any other editor no matter which OS I'm working on. Comments are tabbed to the correct place and and are easily visible with syntax highlighting. I've tried using other editors to get stuff done, and keep returning to the good ol' Xemacs. Just my $0.02