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Re:I dunno...
I thought the president is already suffering from dementia.
I am not trying to troll.Of course you are trolling. Trump's mental status is not a question here, he's just fine in that regard.
...etc... Trump's mental status is just fine.Anyone who can't see his NPD is digging their head in a hole.
Granted, NPD is not dementia, but it is a mental disorder. As our first mentally challenged President, DJT, is struggling, but he is still winning, Bigly.
We're all winning so much, we can't stand it anymore.
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Hotline numbers and other resources
US: 1-800-273-8255 is a 24/7 suicide prevention hotline, which also advises people dealing with a suicidal loved one or friend.
http://www.suicide.org/interna...
For US active duty military and veterans:
Veteran's Crisis Line:
1800-273-8255
Press 1
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For LGBT teenagers and young adults, http://www.thetrevorproject.or.... They also have a hotline number, 866-488-7386.
If you're a friend or bystander, these are relevant.
Suicide threats on social media:
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Re:environment, choices, and geneticsOoookay? You're one of those people who like to demand "proof" in exhausting detail in any internet discussion, aren't you. Try plugging "schizophrenia hereditary" into any search engine, such as Google. Here are the first three results:
Further down the page, the US government weighs in:
Some of those links include actual cites from scientific studies, by the way. I'm not going to bother locating physical copies of those journals and don't have a pubmed subscription, but you're welcome to look them up if you'd like.
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Holiday, vacation, take some time off
Take a break, holiday or vacation just get away from it all and don't bring your computers with you. The break needs to be for a min of a week and perferably longer.
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Re:Appeal to His Original Priorities
I think at least for me depression plays a large part of why I get addicted to things and loose focus on "normal life". Games give nice instant rewards which are like fast food, they fill you up for a little time but don't really keep you full for longer times.
It's really tempting to dive in to a game which you know thoroughly because you're guaranteed to get the feeling of achievement. Repeating that same pattern hundreds of times is ok, because you know that you're getting your fix. Depression is like an overall theme in my addiction, but being manic and obsessive compulsive are feelings which I can relate to also. "I have to finish this level", "I'm entitled to play this game", "I'm feeling down, I know _the game_ will cheer me up".
Luckily my addictions haven't ruined my life. I have a fairly normal life. I live with my great (and understanding) girlfriend, I have a great job (with a really good salary), I know a lot of people, I go out, I exercise. Even though I have these things to support me, it's still very tempting and very easy to slip in to the manic "I need my fix"-mode.
People have posted really good advices here, I'll repeat the ones which might work for me:
1. First you should read about addiction. That way you'll know which are the points you should tell your friend: symptoms being the most important. These will make it more clear for him (and everybody else you might need to talk to) that why there might be a problem. Possible treatments are also important, but these depend totally on what is suitable for your friend. These articles seemed to be ok starting points:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/gambling_addiction.htm
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/internet_cybersex_addiction.htm
2. Raise the issue up with your friend. Have a serious talk with him. Even though he might deny the problem totally, that might make him think about the issue.
3. Offer your help to him. Take him out on Friday, help him back to a regular schedule, give him something else to do.
4. Don't pressure him. Too much. Addiction is a very personal thing and a very hard thing to admit to yourself and even harder to admit to others. I know I that will probably never admit directly that I have addiction issues, because I have "things in control". It's not a lie, but it's not 100% truth. Friendly helping, firm guidance and absolute support are needed if your friend comes out from his shell and asks for anything.Good luck and thanks for being a caring friend.
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Re:Appeal to His Original Priorities
I think at least for me depression plays a large part of why I get addicted to things and loose focus on "normal life". Games give nice instant rewards which are like fast food, they fill you up for a little time but don't really keep you full for longer times.
It's really tempting to dive in to a game which you know thoroughly because you're guaranteed to get the feeling of achievement. Repeating that same pattern hundreds of times is ok, because you know that you're getting your fix. Depression is like an overall theme in my addiction, but being manic and obsessive compulsive are feelings which I can relate to also. "I have to finish this level", "I'm entitled to play this game", "I'm feeling down, I know _the game_ will cheer me up".
Luckily my addictions haven't ruined my life. I have a fairly normal life. I live with my great (and understanding) girlfriend, I have a great job (with a really good salary), I know a lot of people, I go out, I exercise. Even though I have these things to support me, it's still very tempting and very easy to slip in to the manic "I need my fix"-mode.
People have posted really good advices here, I'll repeat the ones which might work for me:
1. First you should read about addiction. That way you'll know which are the points you should tell your friend: symptoms being the most important. These will make it more clear for him (and everybody else you might need to talk to) that why there might be a problem. Possible treatments are also important, but these depend totally on what is suitable for your friend. These articles seemed to be ok starting points:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/gambling_addiction.htm
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/internet_cybersex_addiction.htm
2. Raise the issue up with your friend. Have a serious talk with him. Even though he might deny the problem totally, that might make him think about the issue.
3. Offer your help to him. Take him out on Friday, help him back to a regular schedule, give him something else to do.
4. Don't pressure him. Too much. Addiction is a very personal thing and a very hard thing to admit to yourself and even harder to admit to others. I know I that will probably never admit directly that I have addiction issues, because I have "things in control". It's not a lie, but it's not 100% truth. Friendly helping, firm guidance and absolute support are needed if your friend comes out from his shell and asks for anything.Good luck and thanks for being a caring friend.
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Are you freakin' insane!?!?Absolutely, we need to ensure that our children grow up with a realistic understanding of reality. They need to understand the rules at play in the world. There are evil people and everything from extremely horrid atrocities to simple childhood cruelties happen. Sh%*t happens. They should be taught how to deal with this reality and be given the mechanisms and tools to negotiate through and live a happy well-adjusted life in spite of the minefield that is our predominantly selfish world. There is however, to your very point, plenty of emotional distress to go around in day to day life just dealing with the crap expounded on above. We owe it to our children to prepare them for this and not to try to hide it, downplay it or somehow shelter them from it. I would in no way shield my kids from the reality of the world around them.
BUT DAMMIT I WILL DECIDE WHEN AND HOW MY 2 CHILDREN LEARN THIS! NOT YOU! NOT SOME ROGUE TEACHER!
Preventing unconscionable acts like this is not over protecting our children. Yes, children will face times of emotional distress andThey are children -they will quickly learn and know how to react and they will become stronger and stronger (if you have a family shaping those conflicts correctly, of course)
But this atrocity is not simply emotional distress or conflict it is NOT indicative of the type of emotional distress and situations that people face regularly as a part of life. This is a cruel subjection of children to a emotionally and psychologically TRAUMATIC experience.
You want to see what kind of damage this insanity, that you seem eager to justify, can do? Go and talk to the kids that were at Columbine. For that matter, why don't you look up and see what effect any of these school shootings have had? And pay close attention to those that occurred at elementary schools. And before you go and cite some post in this thread where 'Joe Bob' says that something similar didn't have any effect on him in no way precludes it from having a dramatic effect on others. Do just a tad bit of research before you open your mouth and utter uninformed and possibly damaging opinions. Skim over this article on emotional and psychological trauma. Read the common elements of a traumatic situation: 1) it was unexpected 2)the person was unprepared 3) there was nothing the person could do to prevent it from happening. A key here is that it doesn't have to be real threat to life but is perceived to be real. Look at the table of effects that this can have.
Are you advocating subjecting children to this? Or did you just knee jerk and spew a poorly thought out opinion taking an easily agreed to premise of not sheltering children from reality and using it completely inappropriately?
And if you want to be so arrogant as to challenge this material or these concepts surrounding the impact of traumatic events I'll be happy to introduce you to a couple war buddies that will set you straight. Or a couple professors I know in the Psych department who practiced child psychology for several years prior to teaching. I'm sure they could quickly point you to plenty of sound research (i.e. not baseless opinions) on this topic in addition to their own observations.
PREPARING my child for these situations is different from intentionally CREATING a NEEDLESS traumatic experience!! Why in hell would I purposefully traumatize them in a calculated way?!?! That's just sick, wrong and stupid.
This is a SCHOOL where I expect that teachers behave ETHICALLY and follow the mandate they have been given. They are there to provide knowledge and understanding of the world around them. And at times this means teaching students to be prepared for dangerous situations. But fire drills, tornado drills (historically bomb drills) are not used to scare the sh*&t out of the kids but to give them the practice at doing the things that will redu -
Re:Great!
First off, there no real disease of adhd.
You are a complete fool. My mother is a teacher of learning-disabled kids, and she says there is a very precise set of symptoms which are associated with ADD & ADHD kids (she can "diagnose" kids as or more accurately than a lot of the school psychologists, just by working with them for a few hours).
She's also read a lot of medical research to find out anything that might help her teach them, and there are definite differences in the way that the brains of such kids process information (as shown by brain activity scanning). Even a quick Google yields this.
There might be SOME kids who are just naturally active & are incorrectly misdiagnosed with ADD & ADHD, but anyone who writes off the entire phenomenon as a scam is a moron.
As to whether drugs are necessary or not, it depends on whether you want these kids to grow up to be functioning adults or not.
Historically, these kids could probably still make a living by working here or there under supervision, but in today's society they've got to at least be able to read, write a little & do basic math to get along - and they can't even pick up THAT much unless they can focus long enough for the information to settle into their brains. Once they've got the long-term info in their brain, then they can decide whether or not to keep taking the meds - but without those drugs, trying to get them to remember anything is a fool's exercise.
If this method of biofeedback can handle mild cases of ADD & ADHD without requiring the use of drugs, then great - more power to'em. For the really severe cases though, you're going to have to med the kids just so you can explain the damn controls of the videogame to them or else they'll just mash buttons, get upset & probably end up throwing something at the screen.