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Re:Wow.This is one of the reasons that evolutionism is bad (in addition to being wrong).
You are not insignificant. Those fossils are what's insignificant.
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Re:The grass is always greener...The problem is that all the most-attractive women are their most-attractive *right now*. And most people seem to look back on their late-teens/early 20s most-fondly where sex is concerned. Those are the years for which I've *already* missed out, completely. I can't have those years back, no matter how hard I wish or how much money I spend
Hey, I'm in the same boat. I'm right where you are. But put yourself in the place of a 47-year-old virgin. Can you imagine the feelings of missed sexual opportunities? This man wrote an essay on singles and sexuality that I think you should read. He also wrote one for help on handling the pressures of being single. He writes as a Christian, but his experiences are common to people of all stripes. His writings are very down-to-earth and helpful.
Perhaps even more than sex, that's who I'm after -- somebody who genuinely cares about me and thinks the world of me. I've never, in my entire life, had that experience, not even for a moment.
When I read this, it almost made me tear up. I think there are many people in your situation. My heart breaks for you, MfN. I pray very sincerely that God will send someone into your life who "thinks the world of you." Someone who looks into your soul and sees all your faults and mistakes; who sees you in all your geeky awkwardness; and still has hearts glittering in her eyes at the thought of being with you. Also, I pray that you should have friends, besides the one you have, who genuinely care about you.
It's said that you can choose your friends (or spouse), but you can't choose your family. There's something really special about a stranger who didn't grow up in your household coming to love you more than they love anyone else. The best feeling in the world is to be loved!
How will you know when it's love?
- Love is patient - calmly enduring problems
- Love is kind - considering others first
- Love is not jealous - not upset when date gives attention to others
- Love does not brag - does not try to impress others
- Love is not arrogant - not conceited or cocky
- Love does not act unbecomingly - not rude or disrespectful
- Love does not seek its own - not selfish
- Love cannot be provoked - does not get angry or lose one's temper
- Love keeps no record of wrongs - not resentful, forgives easily and sincerely
- Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness - does not have fun doing wrong
- Love rejoices in truth - has fun doing right
- Love bears all things - supportive, encouraging during troubles
MfN, you should go to places and groups where the people seem to care about each other. And then, make yourself be someone who shows concern for other people. Relationships have to be nurtured. The best way to pique someone's interest in you is for you to demonstrate that you care about them. Some things you can do: Give compliments or affirmations, make a point of spending regular time with them, buy gifts, and do things for them without expectation of anything in return. You may want to check out the popular books The Five Love Languages or The Love Languages of God by Gary Chapman.
MfN, may God bless you and show you love.
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Re:The grass is always greener...The problem is that all the most-attractive women are their most-attractive *right now*. And most people seem to look back on their late-teens/early 20s most-fondly where sex is concerned. Those are the years for which I've *already* missed out, completely. I can't have those years back, no matter how hard I wish or how much money I spend
Hey, I'm in the same boat. I'm right where you are. But put yourself in the place of a 47-year-old virgin. Can you imagine the feelings of missed sexual opportunities? This man wrote an essay on singles and sexuality that I think you should read. He also wrote one for help on handling the pressures of being single. He writes as a Christian, but his experiences are common to people of all stripes. His writings are very down-to-earth and helpful.
Perhaps even more than sex, that's who I'm after -- somebody who genuinely cares about me and thinks the world of me. I've never, in my entire life, had that experience, not even for a moment.
When I read this, it almost made me tear up. I think there are many people in your situation. My heart breaks for you, MfN. I pray very sincerely that God will send someone into your life who "thinks the world of you." Someone who looks into your soul and sees all your faults and mistakes; who sees you in all your geeky awkwardness; and still has hearts glittering in her eyes at the thought of being with you. Also, I pray that you should have friends, besides the one you have, who genuinely care about you.
It's said that you can choose your friends (or spouse), but you can't choose your family. There's something really special about a stranger who didn't grow up in your household coming to love you more than they love anyone else. The best feeling in the world is to be loved!
How will you know when it's love?
- Love is patient - calmly enduring problems
- Love is kind - considering others first
- Love is not jealous - not upset when date gives attention to others
- Love does not brag - does not try to impress others
- Love is not arrogant - not conceited or cocky
- Love does not act unbecomingly - not rude or disrespectful
- Love does not seek its own - not selfish
- Love cannot be provoked - does not get angry or lose one's temper
- Love keeps no record of wrongs - not resentful, forgives easily and sincerely
- Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness - does not have fun doing wrong
- Love rejoices in truth - has fun doing right
- Love bears all things - supportive, encouraging during troubles
MfN, you should go to places and groups where the people seem to care about each other. And then, make yourself be someone who shows concern for other people. Relationships have to be nurtured. The best way to pique someone's interest in you is for you to demonstrate that you care about them. Some things you can do: Give compliments or affirmations, make a point of spending regular time with them, buy gifts, and do things for them without expectation of anything in return. You may want to check out the popular books The Five Love Languages or The Love Languages of God by Gary Chapman.
MfN, may God bless you and show you love.
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Re:We do what we do not want to doIf you were to read the first few chapters of Genesis, you would understand Christianity's take on sex and sin a little better. Leviticus has a lot to say on sex, too.
God did not create the body evil. Man caused a curse of evil to fall over everything on earth when he first sinned. Man continues to make the body evil when he sins with it and against it, like through the use of pornography.
When a person trusts in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, he is born again, this time of the spirit, rather than of the flesh. Paul says, "if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" The old inclination was toward sin, but our new inclination, after being born in the Spirit, is toward righteousness. We will not be able to shed our old inclination completely until we shed our bodies, our earthsuits. Then, our spirits can live in purity with no hidrance of the fallen world.
Absolutely, the body is a beautiful thing. Fire and water are also beautiful things. They can be used for good or evil. There are proper ways to handle and display the body, and there are improper ways.
We do not hate the body. In fact, a Christian belief is that the body of a born-again believer is a temple where the Holy Spirit dwells. The body is to be sanctified and kept holy because God is holy. So, the Christian view of the body is much higher than that of the non-Christian who uses it only for his own self-serving pleasure.
Christianity holds that sex is a beautiful thing. You should read the Song of Songs (in the Old Testament). Read Genesis chapter 2. The problem is that most sex in the media is non-marital. But even if it were marital, sex should be done privately. Nor should it be filmed or simulated and displayed for the world to see. Sex is something to be shared between only the married man and woman engaged in it in a private place.
Sex is like fire. You have to be very careful with it. Encircle the fire with rocks (protective rules). Rake away any material that could burn (people you could have sex with) but should not be burned (it is not wise to have sex with them). Have a pail of water ready in case the fire gets out of control (use your brain when lust starts leading you to do stupid things). It's wonderful, helpful, and gratifying when it's kept in safe bounds. The mysterious powers of sexuality have yet to be fully understood, but we know that, when misused, it causes profound damage to relationships, personal happiness and productivity, families, and even society and the state (if a common trend).
The logical fallacy of trying to do "good acts" with an "evil body" just blows my mind.
There's nothing fallacious about it. It's not much different than an obese person who's trying to lose wait. He craves foods that are unhealthy, but he tries to abstain. When he sees commercials advertising these bad foods, he gets upset. Whether the issue is pornography/immoral sex or unhealthy foods, the person who abstains is greatly rewarded with a better life. The person who fails to abstain has fun for a little while, but later regrets it when he ends up a fat slob with AIDS and no self-esteem.
I'm not saying that we should censor the display of foods in the media. Pornography is a much bigger deal. See the link in my sig.
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Re:I've never understood why sex is taboo in the U
Sex isn't taboo, per se. Immoral sex is. Explanation
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We do what we do not want to doThe problem with the Puritanical morality of the US right now is that it's insincere. People claim to be "offended" by things because it's in style, not because they are actually offended.
It's called temptation. There are things we know are bad for us, but we do them anyway because of our base impulses. This is all the more reason that public nudity is so infuriating to people who want to be pure. Christians are human. Nude breasts are stimulating to nearly all men. But outside of private relations with your spouse, it's displeasing to God.
The Apostle Paul addressed the issue of struggling with sin in Romans, chapter 7 (NLT paraphrase):
14 The law is good, then. The trouble is not with the law but with me, because I am sold into slavery, with sin as my master. 15 I don't understand myself at all, for I really want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead, I do the very thing I hate. 16 I know perfectly well that what I am doing is wrong, and my bad conscience shows that I agree that the law is good. 17 But I can't help myself, because it is sin inside me that makes me do these evil things.
My Godly self wants porn out of my face because my sinful self does want it. Here's a good Christian perspective on pornography and sexual addiction.18 I know I am rotten through and through so far as my old sinful nature is concerned. No matter which way I turn, I can't make myself do right. I want to, but I can't. 19 When I want to do good, I don't. And when I try not to do wrong, I do it anyway. 20 But if I am doing what I don't want to do, I am not really the one doing it; the sin within me is doing it.
21 It seems to be a fact of life that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. 22 I love God's law with all my heart. 23 But there is another law at work within me that is at war with my mind. This law wins the fight and makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. 24 Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin? 25 Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God's law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.
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We do what we do not want to doThe problem with the Puritanical morality of the US right now is that it's insincere. People claim to be "offended" by things because it's in style, not because they are actually offended.
It's called temptation. There are things we know are bad for us, but we do them anyway because of our base impulses. This is all the more reason that public nudity is so infuriating to people who want to be pure. Christians are human. Nude breasts are stimulating to nearly all men. But outside of private relations with your spouse, it's displeasing to God.
The Apostle Paul addressed the issue of struggling with sin in Romans, chapter 7 (NLT paraphrase):
14 The law is good, then. The trouble is not with the law but with me, because I am sold into slavery, with sin as my master. 15 I don't understand myself at all, for I really want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead, I do the very thing I hate. 16 I know perfectly well that what I am doing is wrong, and my bad conscience shows that I agree that the law is good. 17 But I can't help myself, because it is sin inside me that makes me do these evil things.
My Godly self wants porn out of my face because my sinful self does want it. Here's a good Christian perspective on pornography and sexual addiction.18 I know I am rotten through and through so far as my old sinful nature is concerned. No matter which way I turn, I can't make myself do right. I want to, but I can't. 19 When I want to do good, I don't. And when I try not to do wrong, I do it anyway. 20 But if I am doing what I don't want to do, I am not really the one doing it; the sin within me is doing it.
21 It seems to be a fact of life that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. 22 I love God's law with all my heart. 23 But there is another law at work within me that is at war with my mind. This law wins the fight and makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. 24 Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin? 25 Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God's law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.