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Where Should Company Loyalty End?

An Anonymous CTO asks: "Currently, I work for a small Internet consulting company. We've been trying to find funding for the past year or so, but to no avail, and future prospects are quite dim, despite a recent drastic change in our approach. Morale is at an all time low, with near-incompetent management decisions having effectively worn down even the most dedicated of us. My position is pivotal, though, and even though the upper crust is pretty much a joke, my coworkers are quite talented, which is the crux of the matter -- if I bail ship, the company will likely either fold or have to transform itself immensely, quite probably at the cost of the jobs of my friends. And yet, I have two upcoming job offers that are both well paying and good career moves, and offers don't last forever. Should I stick things out, or should I bail and move on? When it comes to the workplace, where do loyalties end and responsibilities to oneself begin?"

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  1. Duties Owed by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3

    You and your management have reciprocal obligations (ethical and perhaps legal). If management is (a) inept and (b) unsuccessful in raising the capital needed for the business to survive, those two are almost certainly correlated, assuming a receptive business climate, a decent business plan, and half-way intelligent pursuit of funding.

    I had an experience back ~1979 to ~1981 with a startup, and there was no opportunity to raise money because the person who would be the CEO (he had put some up front money in for patent, etc.) was not up to the task of running a real business. But, even at that we got a lot of interest and serious look overs because of neat techno stuff and were told more than once our dumping a couple of real idiots gave the prospective investors a lot of confidence it was possible to work things out. (Then the economy went south for a couple of years...) I suspect that your operation has let too many idiots inside its management, and potential investors can smell that a mile away. Really-it's uncanny how well you can judge people with a little experience, even just on a "walk through and meet the key players" type of visit. You just have to be looking at things from that perspective, and not be seduced by techno whiz-bang stuff. If investors get the notion that you have an entrenched and incompetent management, its all over for you and has been since day one, since they can only require so many changes before too many people get the wind up and things turn really sour and the lawyers get called out. If you have good ideas, good workers, and only a couple of out-of their-league managers to hem in (or castrate), given the recent climate for investing you should have been given a serious look over by someone. Times are tightening.

    VERDICT: move on if you legally can, make things as gentle on friends as you can if you do go. There is no future where you are, and I suspect your question itself is proof of this. (I'm sorry I wasted the two years way back when, especially when I knew at the time that there were personalities that would make investors hesitant, and while a "lateral arabesque" was in progress with our problem person the economy dipped and our opportunity went unfulfilled.)

  2. Requirements by Chris+Johnson · · Score: 4
    The management _needs_ to be competent. This doesn't mean they need to be _nice_, just competent. They could go through personnel with an axe and still be in the right if they are saddled with a lot of genuinely useless people. They could also be way in the wrong if they do this more or less at random, or get in the way a lot.

    That said, their loyalty to their employees is quite another question. That is more to do with _how_ they handle things. So the resulting combinations could be:

    • competent and loyal: can tell good work from bad, will expend _great_ effort to deal with employees who are having problems and for that reason can work with some of the more difficult personalities who might be capable of great things but are also tough to manage
    • incompetent and loyal: expect a lot of guilt, but don't expect the company to actually make money. This is a 'go out of business holding hands' situation. How important is that loyalty to you? Does the person have contacts or is there some other reason you'd want to go down with the ship but not breaking faith with that key person? It may also be possible to use this loyalty to you by trying to offer reality checks- they might be taken, at least temporarily. This isn't the most common situation.
    • competent and disloyal: think corporation. You are a cog in a machine. When you wear out you're discarded. You may be able to get paid well as long as you're around- though there's going to be a limit, don't expect 'reward', expect to be chiseled for every penny and possibly have to fight to be paid, because this type of person is not on your side. They are your enemy but you gotta deal with them. If you can't tolerate continual treachery you might want to bail EVEN THOUGH the company is likely to be reasonably successful: you'll get ulcers because your worst fears are true and you know it. How much are you getting to tolerate this? Also, only certain types of work thrive under this sort of management. Creative work or inventive work gets distorted: think 'microsoft bob' as what happens to it. You can't really do great creative work if you are constantly watching your back: the paranoia will severely limit what you're willing to attempt, because failure is a sign of weakness and signs of weakness will get you 'culled'.
    • incompetent and disloyal: blech. Leave, already: this organisation is doomed. You have to have at least one or the other. If you have both incompetent _and_ disloyal there's a good chance 'criminal' is mixed up in there too, and you could be overlooking embezzling or pricefixing or a whole host of other behaviors that really are no indication of a successful company- they can be like the coat of paint slapped onto the undercarriage of a car to hide the rust. If you stick around with a place that is managed by 'incompetent and disloyal' expect to be surprised by the sudden catastrophic failure of the business, because you're probably not seeing the whole picture- everything is 'spun' to make it look right.

    I've worked for pretty much all of the above. In some cases I've seen combinations- I worked at a pizza joint when I was younger that contained the extremes- main management was competent and loyal, but at times they had assistant managers who were worse, including one who was incompetent _and_ disloyal (and as a result continually paranoid). I've worked with semicompetent and loyal, and semicompetent and disloyal. The former was when a business was taking on too much- I walked and remained on good terms with the people- the latter was when I bailed out a business by putting a lot of work in, and they ended up replicating the same situation that'd got them in trouble before, setting up one person to entirely depend on and cutting loose all the loyal people who had bailed them out. In that case I walked and keep an element of reserve- waiting for if I need to bail them out again, only my prices have gone up :)

    The spectrum across those two variables should tell you everything you need to know :)

  3. Karma repair kit by emil · · Score: 3

    Karma Repair Kit, Items 1-4

    1. Get enough food to eat, and eat it.
    2. Find a place to sleep where it is quiet, and sleep there.
    3. Reduce intellectual and emotional noise until you reach the silence of yourself, and listen to it.

    -Richard Brautigan

  4. My two cents. by MAXOMENOS · · Score: 3
    Your problem is familiar to me, as I've run into it before. I take personal pride in my work and I'd like to know that it's contributing to the long-term prosperity of a group of people. I'm presently in a position where this is very much the case. In my previous position, this turned out to be very much not the case. Using that criterion, I'd say take one of the other offers.

    You also listed loyalty to your co-workers as a criterion. You work with a group of very talented people. If I were you, I'd tell them to start looking for work elsewhere, and then jump ship. Even if they have kids and debts, if they're talented, they'll find better prospects someplace else.

    Despite talk of a recession, the high tech job market is still good. Companies are still struggling to fill positions. The implication is that there's no reason to stick with a job that sucks. Obviously if the economic picture changes, then this implication could no longer be true; but right now, your best option is to jump ship. Life is too short for relationships that suck, and that includes jobs that suck.

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  5. Loyalty is lost by PureFiction · · Score: 3

    At one time companies were loyal to their employees. They valued their contributions, saw them as more them numbers and assets, and life was good. Employees were loyal to their employers in return. It was a mututally benificial relationship

    Things have changed, and loyalty was lost in the cold cogs of business and profit.

    Today, the only one you should be loyal to is yourself. Businesses that cannot create an environment conducive to employee needs are not fit to be in business.

    Get the hell out of there and let a functional businesses which will value and utilize your skills benifit. Your on a sinking ship. Get out while the getting is good.

  6. Jump ship by Evro · · Score: 4
    Your kids should take priority over your friends (or their kids). Also, the company you described sounded doomed anyway (barring a miracle, of course; low morale is not a great motivator). If the company folds and the job offers are no longer there, then what are you going to do?

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  7. Heh... while we're about it by GC · · Score: 3

    The three soldiers returning home from war were hungry. When they saw the village ahead their spirits lifted - they were sure the villagers would give them a meal. But when they got there, they found the doors locked and the windows closed. After many years of war, the villagers were short of food, and hoarded what they had.
    Undetered, the soldiers boiled a pot of water and carefully placed three stones into it. The amazed villagers came out to watch.
    "This is stone soup." the soldiers explained. "Is that all you put in it?" asked the villagers. "Absolutely - although some say it tastes even better with a few carrots..." a villager ran off, returning in no time with a basket of carrots from his hoard.
    A couple of minutes later, the villagers again asked "Is that it?"
    "Well," said the soldiers, "a couple of potatoes give it body." Off ran another villager.
    Over the next hour, the soldiers listed more ingredients that would enhance the soup: beef, leeks, salt, and herbs. Each time a different villager would run off to raid their personal stores.
    Eventually they had produced a large pot of steaming soup. The soldiers removed the stones, and they sat down with the entire village to enjoy the first squire meal any of them had eaten in months.

    From "The Pragmatic Programmer", Hunt & Thomas.

    Worth thinking about...

  8. This happened to me once by _Spirit · · Score: 3

    I used to work for a company as CTO. It was a startup (not dotcom but in the IS field) founded by two ppl I know. One worked in the company, the other was a "silent" partner. We were doing great, work was pouring in, we were hiring like crazy. We were even starting to make a profit. Our only problem was funding. We needed to make some big investments in real estate and hard/software, and to compensate for some losses we made when we just started.

    My boss was working on that and making good progress when disaster struck: my boss had a bad accident.
    After this the "silent" partner stepped in and ... (can you say PHB ?). He managed to blow any chance of funding out of the water. He offended clients and prospective investors with amazing cluelesness.

    I was in the spot you are in today.

    The Logistics manager and I might have been able to straighten things out or at least keep things running for a while, till our boss had recovered from his injuries. (At the time we effectively ran day to day operations) I felt I owed it to my boss to be loyal because he had been good for me, giving me the opportunity to do a high level job which no other company would have given anyone with my resume at that time. In the meantime the silent partner was making this awful hard. He wouldn't listen to any of our suggestions, make very bad mistakes, he wouldn't even listen to our boss when he went to visit him in the hospital.

    Finally I got together with the logistics manager (a close friend of mine) and we talked long and hard about this. We had a good relationship with the ppl in accounting so we were aware of the financial situation (This made our course of action much easier, because we knew what we were up against). We decided that:

    - Our original boss deserved our loyalty.
    - Our new boss did not
    - Some things in our company were going wrong but they were fixable. I.e. the company could survive. (this was crucial, we were going to put in a lot energy and sweat, we needed to know this)
    - The new boss had to take his shares and stay home. (This guy could lose clients just by picking up the phone and striking up a "pleasant conversation")

    Once we figured this out we put together a rescue plan for the company and a realistic scenario of what would happen if we wouldn't start fixing things. We put it on our new bosses desk. I then had to leave the country for two weeks (a long overdue vacation)

    When I got back our plan was in the same place on our new bosses desk as before I left. He hadn't spoken about the plan to our logistics manager. I had one final talk with my old boss and left. The company went down two weeks later with quite a lot of money down the drain.

    My feelings now:
    I hate what happened to a good idea, and a nice company to work for. I hate that my old boss ended up well in debt.
    I never regretted leaving, because there was nothing we could have done without the support from our new boss.

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  9. Nope, it was spell-checked... by Pengo · · Score: 5

    Grammar was correct as well. Could not of been Taco.


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  10. Warn the good folks there, then bail by scotpurl · · Score: 4

    Warn the good folks there that you're going to bail -- then do it. Make sure you get their email addresses, and tell them that you'd like to keep them in mind when you land your next job.

    Loyalty is a good thing. It's part of who you are. It's part of a strong code of ethics. And sine it's part of the ethics, you know when unethical behaviour by management (sinking the company) perfectly justifies ethical behaviour by you (e.g., bailing, and now!).

  11. Work is not a friendly place by Shotgun · · Score: 4

    I see companies all the the time starting programs to make work more social. Here this:

    Work is not a place to make friends.

    It may happen that you'll make friends with coworkers, and that's nice, but should not be expected. Work is not a social club. If you don't believe me, spend half of tomorrow playing board games with your 'friends' and see how long it is before your boss tells you the same thing.

    If these people are friends, they'll be your friends after you work elsewhere. If the only thing making them friends is the coincidence that you are forced together by a mutual need to put bread on the table, I would rather classify them as aquaintances.

    I left IBM for various reasons, but I still have friends there. One in particular is afraid to leave because everyone likes her there. She is underpaid and overworked. She can easily do much better elsewhere, but she doesn't want to lose her "friends". It's dumb and I've told her so.

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  12. Priorities by michaela · · Score: 3
    1. Do what's best for you. Take care of yourself because everything else stems from that.
    2. Take care of your family.
    3. Help your friends.
    4. Save the world.

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    That is all.
  13. Loyalty to your employer? by JoeWalsh · · Score: 3

    When it comes to the workplace, where do loyalties end and responsibilities to oneself begin?"

    Companies, just like people, only deserve the loyalty that they've earned. If they've earned your loyalty (for example, through treating you better than you would be treated elsewhere), then take that into consideration. But if not, then there's no reason to be loyal to them. Look for a better job and leave as soon as you land one.

    1. Re:Loyalty to your employer? by Kingfox · · Score: 3

      Exactly the way I feel about this as well.

      My girlfriend works in an environment where her boss treats her and her co-workers very poorly, and the working conditions are quite poor. Yet she feels a loyalty to her position and will stay until the 'lull period' in her job's cycle. Personally, I think giving them anything more then the standard two weeks notice is doing them a favor they don't deserve.

      I, on the other hand, have a great boss who treats me and my co-workers quite well in just about every way imaginable. Even though I could make more money elsewhere, and am struggling to make ends meet at times, it's hard for me to consider abandoning him... though I regret I may have to. Working for a good company that treats you right makes all the difference in the world, and can be a rare thing it seems.

  14. Re:Bail by slickwillie · · Score: 4

    I agree - bail now.

    When it comes to the workplace, where do loyalties end and responsibilities to oneself begin?

    How much loyalty does your company have in you? My bet is they would sack your ass in a hearbeat.

  15. Not always the case by Nile · · Score: 3
    I'm in a similar position. I work for a small consulting company that recently took a turn for the worse and am now faced with the prospect of giving up my "seniority" as employee #3 to take a job at another company.


    I've received offers from clients that there is a job available for me should I want to take it. I haven't updated my resume in 5 years and have never sent it out to anyone...but if you work in the right field, people will come looking for you.


    If I take this job it would be the second I've gotten without a single interview. In my first job I was recruited by a member of my study group from grad school.


    I think actually working with someone for a month (either as a consultant or a partner on educational/open source projects) is a much better indicator of future performance than any 1 or 2 days of interviewing.

  16. Pot. Kettle. Black. by volpe · · Score: 3

    >Grammar was correct as well. Could not of been Taco.

    You mean, "Could not HAVE been Taco", right?

  17. Loyalty Appreciated but Look out for the Family by Milican · · Score: 3

    Well your loyalty to your friends and your company is admirable. However, you probably have a family to think of as well and they should be at the top of your list when making these decisions. You should draw a mental line in the sand. When the company crosses that. Give your two weeks.. you may wanna give your friends a little advanced notice, but be careful with this. No need to follow the Titanic down and start drawing unemployment because you missed good oportunities. Thats my two cents.

    JOhn

  18. Speaking as one of those 'management' people.... by iceT · · Score: 4

    ...that you all seem to love to hate, maybe I can toss a different opinion into the mix, rather than all the 'bail, they're idiots' advice that seems to be common...

    Have you discussed your dissatisfaction with your management? Have you come up with any ideas that might help the company get over this 'hump'?

    Everyone seems to think that Managers are these 'super-people' that can conquer any problem, if they only put their mind to it... when in reality, they are just guys/gals like anyone else, trying to leverage their experience and ideas to keep a company moving... there is no 'magic forumla' to running a company. It is also a lot easier to find fault, than provide solutions.... The most important thing is that, without a doubt, everything these people do is with the purist of intentions: keep/grow the business. They may not make the same choices you would, but their heart is usually in the right place...

    As for what to do, rather than discuss this with a VERY large group of STRANGERS, discuss it with your management. See what kind of people they REALLY are. See if they really want to make things good/better. Then make your decision.

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  19. What makes you think we can answer that? by Tridus · · Score: 5

    Nobody here can answer a question like that.

    First of all, the real question isn't loyalty to the company. From the way you write it, it sounds like loyalty to those non-moronic co-workers, some of which may even be friends? Your not sounding worried about the company itself, you sound worried about them. Those are people. Thats an admirable trait.

    Some questions you can ask yourself would include things like:

    - Can I take some of them with me, and get them out of here into a better place?

    - If I stay, am I just prolonging the inevitable, or can I actually save this place?

    - Can they find better jobs easily if I leave, or are they going to be more or less fucked?

    - How much do I really care about what happens to them?

    My *advice* would be to sit down and quietly think about it (or pace, or whatever you do that helps you think). If you can take several of them with you, you could be doing them a huge favor, as well as yourself at the same time. If not, will your staying really make a difference, or will it just make it take that much longer for the incompetitant management to drive the company straight into the ground?

    As I said, nobody can really answer this question for you, because it depends too much on what kind of person you are. Some people would do anything to protect their friends, others arent. Look at if you care. If you do care, look at how much good you can do in each situation, and try to pick the best one that you can live with doing.

    Hopefully some of the posts in this thread get you thinking, maybe that will help you find the answers your looking for.

    Good luck!

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  20. Re:Speaking as one of those 'management' people... by highcaffeine · · Score: 5

    Not that I disagree with you personally, I have to take issue with two of your comments.

    First, you make mention of how "everyone seems to think that managers are these 'super-people'..." (emphasis not mine). While I definitely cannot speak for everyone, as you seem to be able to, I know I can speak for myself and many of the people I work with and have worked with in that past, when I say that this is hardly true. I know that managers are just 'regular people', and far more often than not, they are the ones who don't have the knowledge to actually do the work, but do have the belief that they can tell others how the work is to be done.

    Only once in my entire career have I known a manager who truly understood the work/projects he was managing. Unfortunely, he was not one of my managers, but a friend's. He was an excellent programmer who had filled a managerial position on the project he was working on after the previous manager was promoted to higher levels. After a year he couldn't take dealing with management above him anymore and left for a startup company. Instead of being replaced by one of the other programmers who were equally skilled, a non-programmer was sent over to manage the project. Within two months, all but one member of the staff on the project had left the company in disgust. My friend has tried to weather the new manager as best as he can, but is now pursuing offers from other companies. He will be the last of the pre-new-manager staff to leave, causing a 100% turnover in under six months.

    What triggered the ridiculous turnover was what I have begun to realize is typical of many managers who have no true understanding of what they're really managing. Promises were constantly made to other departments and higher level management with no consulting of his staff, ridiculous deadlines were constantly imposed, staff members were constantly being shuffled around in the project to meet each new far-fetched promise being made, and despite their efforts, staff members were never allowed to participate in any of the discussions that led to new promises and deadlines.

    The new manager didn't care at all about how much damage he was doing to morale, how disillusioned his employees were becoming with all the changes in direction and having no input into anything, nor did he listen when his employees were trying to tell him things were not working out very well. His sole concern was looking good to other managers and the higher levels by committing to anything they asked him for.

    Along the same vein, I also have to take issue with another point you make about managers: "without a doubt, everything these people do is with the purist of intentions". With the experiences my friends and I have had, this made me laugh out loud.

    I have yet to meet a single manager myself whose intentions were not riddled with self-promotion, ego, blind ambition, and a total lack of respect for the fact that he/she is screwed without the blood, sweat and tears of his/her employees -- or a combination thereof.

    There are most certainly good managers out there, and even some outstanding ones. You may well be one of those managers (largely because you don't sound like any manager I've ever known personally), but my experiences have always been with managers whose total lack of knowledge in their field has never hindered their outlandish promises, their expectations founded in crack-induced hallucinations, and their purely selfish and political motives aimed at bettering their own personal image at any cost to their employees.

    If you can honestly say that you have never made a promise for a deadline or a project or anything else to another manager or higher up without first consulting with your employees, considering at full weight their input, and have never let creep in any ulterior motive (i.e. "if I promise them this feature and work my guys hard enough so they get it done, I'll look great and may get that promotion"), then I would love to know if you're hiring. If so, and if I'm competent and interested in the field in which you'll be hiring, I will file an application and send my resume very shortly.

    My basic point is that you can't assume this guy's managers are as well-intentioned as you seem to be (and I truly would commend you on an excellent job if you've avoided the pitfalls I'm so apt to gripe about). While my optimistic side would have me believe that maybe I've just been unlucky with managers and that one day maybe I'll meet a manager that is competent and does truly have only good intentions for the employees and the company, that hope is quickly drowned out by two things. First, I'm not an optimist. Second, I see the same things happening to many of my friends and fellow programmers on an all too frequent basis.

  21. If the company sucks... by Greyfox · · Score: 3

    Leave them. They won't show you any loyalty, you don't owe them any.

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  22. Bail by doublem · · Score: 5

    Jump Ship. There is NO reason for you to stay with a dying company. Give your friends good references. Feel no guilt. You'll be kicking yourself for losing those job offers whent the comany does fold.

    http://www.matthewmiller.net

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  23. Ethics versus Loyalty by Logic+Bomb · · Score: 4

    I think the important thing is what's ethical when considering issues of corporate loyalty. It is unethical to jump ship in order to get money for bringing trade-secret-type information to a competitor. It is unethical to make a false committment to a company's project and then (barring an extremely good reason, of course) bail when they are depending on you to do what you said you would. It is certainly ethical to watch out for your personal welfare and leave a failing company.

  24. Responsibilities... by Spoing · · Score: 5

    Management is responsible for staffing concerns, not you.

    If you are so pivital to the project, then it's management's problem not yours.

    If the company is doing so poorly, then the decision will be made for you within the year even if you do nothing.

    Leave. Stay. Either way, be honest and remember what you are responsible for and what is out of your control.

    Jumping immediately to another interesting company is a really good way to keep your spirits up. If you can bring some of the good people with you, go for it. They'll appreciate it because they know that you aren't responsible for them but will deeply appreciate it. Good for building loyalty and/or friendships.

    From what you wrote, you've already made up your mind -- probably a few moments before pressing the submit button.

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  25. Talented techies... by SquadBoy · · Score: 3

    and by that I include coders and us admin types should have no problem in this economy finding jobs. It sounds to be like the end has come. I would take another offer, the good talented people will be ok and in a perfect world the bad ones would be out of work but they will most likely find jobs also.

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  26. The bagel theory of software by 20000hitpoints · · Score: 4

    I can't even understand why there is even a CONCEPT of company loyalty. What are you being loyal to? What are you even talking about? Throughout the ages, human beings have been loyal to things like religious causes, their nation or ethnic group, their families... where it actually MEANT something. Who has ever heard of being loyal to a company? Think about it -- what does a company stand for? Making money. Selling widgets. Commerce. That's it, it's totally shallow. If you really believed in what you were doing, you wouldn't try to make any money from it, you would be running a NON PROFIT ORGANIZATION!

    The dot com thing and the startup cult mentality thing have gotten people so confused they don't even remember that it's JUST A JOB. And by the way, that's why you shouldn't go to work with your friends.

    I think the problem is that your typical Ivy League educated kid jumps right out of school and into one of these dot com cults and thinks it a way of life or a belief system. Get some perspective. I worked for years at delis and as a secretary and whatever before I went back to school and got a batchelors in Comp Sci. Now I've got a different job that pays more money. But it's still not that different from when I went to work every day to serve bagels to somebody. It's hard to believe in bagels. I guess it's a little easier to fool yourself into thinking you believe in software.

    "Loyalty"? Give me a break.

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  27. Re:Bail by Coz · · Score: 3
    Agreed. If your buddies are good folks, they can find good jobs. Let them know you're heading out - be up front and honest, even if management asks you to "keep it quiet" so they can panic and bail first.

    It's hard to make choices that affect your friends, but you're all adults. The only thing you can do by sticking with a sinking ship is add to the body count.

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  28. The Big Rocks by blueforce · · Score: 5

    A philosophy professor stood before his class and had some items in front of him. When class began, wordlessly he picked up a large empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks - rocks about 2" in diameter. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The students laughed. The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. "Now," said the professor, "I want you to recognize that this is your life. The rocks are the important things - your family, your partner, your health, and your children - anything that is so important to you that if it were lost, you would be devastated. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else. The small stuff." "If you put the sand into the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your energy and your time on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. TAKE YOUR PARTNER OUT DANCING. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal." "Take care of the rocks first - the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

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  29. Company Loyalty is sometimes earner by Ergo2000 · · Score: 3

    The easy answer is that your #1 priority should be yourself. Of course that doesn't always mean running to the first position with the highest paycheque (indeed many of the people who ran to dot coms are realizing that first hand), but you do need to put yourself first and foremost.

    Having said that I would like to take issue with a lot of other messages basically saying screw da man! While loyalty is a word that means very little to most people, often it is earned. There are companies out there that go the extra mile to make their employees happy. There are companies that put their employees first and in periods of downturn they eat losses to avoid sending people out packing. There are companies where the owners are working by far the longest hours and making by far the least. To read the hilariously ironic comments of want-to-be socialists (which Slashdot is unfortunately packed full of) portraying all employers as evil borg entities is frightening. Companies are nothing more than collections of people acting as a unit. Sure sure the world is going to hell in a handbasket and all those evil corporations are out to steal your lunch... Grrrr.

    There are far too many idiots on the planet.

  30. Easy answer. by abe+ferlman · · Score: 5
    Where should company loyalty end?

    5PM or your conscience, whichever intervenes first.

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  31. Cool by atrowe · · Score: 5

    You can replace "An Anonymous CTO" with "CmdrTaco" and the article still makes sense. Try it yourself!

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  32. Re:Ambivalence by deebaine · · Score: 4

    I don't necessarily agree. My partner and I have been working to open and then running a company since July. In that time, we each have had at least two job offers that I would consider genuine (and other pie-in-the-sky type flights of fancy). Many techies I know routinely get offers from people with whom they interact outside the company; suppliers, contractors, etc. who try to steal them away from their present job. If this particular CTO has been doing his job well and has done the requisite networking for his company, then I'm mildly surprised that he's only gotten two offers.

  33. Bail while you have a cup! by lrichardson · · Score: 4
    You'll be kicking yourself for losing those job offers whent the comany does fold.

    I've dealt with HR, mostly on the basis of interviewing potentials, and one fairly important point revolves around "Where do you work now?"" and, to a lesser extent, "Why do you want to switch jobs."

    I've had the unfortunate experience of being 'downsized', and the even more ridiculous experience of being on the losing side of an internal political war (of which I had no part, and joined 1/2 way through). In the first case, I was surprised, and had a heck of a time getting a new job - the HR belief is that if you were laid off, _obviously_ you weren't good. There is some recognition that this isn't always the case, but most HR types aren't the brightest candles in the marquee. The second time, I already had a job lined up, left on a Friday, started up elsewhere on the Monday. The new job was not necessarily ideal, but it seriously helped with both the cash flow, and with getting the next job ("I currently work at xxx." and "I'm looking for something more challenging than web design.").

    No trite answer will help you resolve your problem, but company loyalty is a rather mythical item in this day and age. Your primary responsibility is to yourself (and any family). Loyalty is a desirable trait, but blind loyalty can get you into trouble.

    I left one company for a bunch of reasons - one of which was I picked up more and more responsibilities, ended up the sole person capable of supporting several systems, and still being treated as dirt. Yes, they were royally screwed by my leaving, despite my best efforts at a painless transition. Part of the 'loyalty' thing is that it works two ways. If they show zero reason for you to be loyal, then don't. It's that simple. Incompetent management is one of the best indicators that they're not worth your time.

  34. Why Company Loyalty is Stupid. by cosmosis · · Score: 5

    The economy has never been about companies - its about people . A companies sole reason for exisiting is to act as an adhoc convenience for people to act in concert to produce products and services for other people. The sad part is, the incompetent people at the top have lied to us over the years by promoting the good of the company over that of the people employed by it. Not because they have any company loyalty themselves (thats why CEO's are always bailing), but because keeping the company afloat keeps them employed long enough to gather millions in salaries and stock options. Once they are vested, they bail too.

    Which brings me to why I think the current trend in capitalism towards the survival of the corporarations over all other goals is a very bad trend for everyone. The economy exists to bring the state of humanity to higher and higher degrees of prosperity and wealth for everyone. Or at least that should be its goal. Instead, what you have happeing, are larger and larger merged corporations becomeing wealthier and more prosperous, further dividing the haves from the have nots.

  35. To thine own self be true. by human+bean · · Score: 5
    Been there, although it was the late seventies. Simple answer: If things have gone to the point where one person can have such an effect on an entire company, then that company has already passed the point of no return.

    No management (unless thier heads are where the sun don't shine) would allow this, purely from the point of treating that one critical employee as a person, much less from the reliability angle.

    Bite the bullet and get it over with quickly. Your coworkers will thank you later. Life goes on. Even the darkest day finally ends.

    Also, be creative. Plan. Take their curricula vitae with you. Keep the cream, and spread the rest around. Your new employers may thank you, and so might your employee friends.

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  36. Bail, and take some with you... by TWX_the_Linux_Zealot · · Score: 4

    If you go, and if once you are comfortable, take some with you! Where I work at, four or five people (at one time even more) had all come from one other company. They were good at working together, now the only thing holding them all back is the management *grin*. It can work, and if the current place is dying, and if you like the coworkers, do what is best all around, save your neck, then try to save theirs.

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  37. One Solution - an Option Party! by LauraLolly · · Score: 5
    About ten years ago, a friend at a hardware startup had a similar problem - he solved it by quietly telling five people to meet him at his place on Saturday afternoon - bring your families and your resumes, along with information about possible places to work and live. He had a couple of computers and printers so they could update resumes and search for some information. (Yes, Virginia, you could search with your computer before the World Wide Web was World Wide.)

    They held a strategy session that afternoon. Some of the spouses/siggy o's had great ideas on the search, so everybody took time to watch the kids, and circulate around. Six hours later, everybody had a great resume, a plan for their own personal dream job, and better friendships.

    They also each had five copies of everybody's resumes, including family resumes. This search was decided on as a community venture. At the end of the interview, if the interviewer asked if they knew of anybody with x skill, they pulled out a buddy resume from their portfolio.

    Some people left right away, while others still worked. Within three weeks everybody was at a better job. (This was in much tougher times than these.) Some people had found jobs with other people.

    This has since been done with another friend who rented the back two rooms of a restaurant. They all had better jobs within three weeks, again. Don't do this with people you don't trust. Do make sure you involve the families. Do have fun.

  38. My experience with a startup..... by freelance+ninja · · Score: 3

    The company that I currently work for is in the EXACT same situation that you're company is in. In fact, the developers working next to me are taking bets as to whether or not you are the CTO of our company (who is out of the office today).

    I know what it's like when morale is bad, and it's very easy to get excited about working for a new company. If you really play as pivotal a role as you say you do, then this is not a decision that anyone will be able to answer execept for you. In fact, I would go so far as to say that there really is no correct decision that can be made, because there is a downside to either one. On the other hand, there is no wrong answer because of the obvious advantages to either solution.

    The tech market isn't doing so good right now and a lot of companies are finding it difficult to stay afloat, especially startup companies. The situation that I am in is that we have funding to stay alive for a few more months, by which time our product will be out. I really believe that the product fills a niche, so I'm going to stick with it solely based on my belief in what I'm doing. As CTO of a consulting firm, you might not have the advantage of believing in a single product like I do.

    Some people say that it really depends on how loyal the company is to you. I disagree with this, because unless someone has worked for a company that is going under, they don't realize how unimportant loyalty can be. Just the fact that they are going out of business feels like a slap in your face. It's not an easy decision to make, but if you feel this guilty about leaving, then you have a tough road ahead if you do actually decide to bail. I would stay with them for as long as possible until every last smidgen of hope was gone. The tech market might not be doing to wel,l but there are plenty of jobs out there. "Job offers don't last forever", but other jobs do exist.

    The advantage of working for a startup company is usually the laid back atmosphere, and the ability to make a huge difference as an individual. The disadvantages are a lack of money, and a lack of stability. You probably knew this when you accepted the position as CTO. Just because the going got tough, doesn't mean that you have to get going. Stick it out as long as you can. The longer you stay, the more information you will have, and the better the decision you will be able to make.

    "Vote for Matt Diez"

  39. Ambivalence by OlympicSponsor · · Score: 4

    "And yet, I have two upcoming job offers that are both well paying and good career moves, and offers don't last forever."

    Why do you have offers coming in? Did you put your resume out? Surely you must have at least interviewed with them.

    I suspect you've already made the decision to leave and want us to provide some conscience-salving justifications for it.
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