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Rules for Teenage Internet Access?

Kent Brewster writes "Despite dire warnings, we've gone ahead and put computers with Internet access into our adolescent (11, 12, and 15-year-old) childrens' rooms. We've got a nebulous set of rules, which include several like these: Keep the door open when you're on the computer. Don't quickly exit from everything when we walk past. Don't ever lie to us about what you're doing. Unfortunately we've had instances where all of these rules - especially that last one - have been broken, so now we are looking at getting more specific. We'd be very interested in hearing from both sides of the fence: parents with Net-connected progeny, and those who are chafing under their rule. Parents, once you're past making the huge mistake of actually letting the kids have computers in their rooms, what's a reasonable set of guidlines? Non-parents, what are the rules that chap your hide the worst? Do they actually make a difference in your behavior, or do you just sneak past them anyway? Finally, and this is sort of a meta-question from an exasperated dad, does everybody lie about what they're doing on the Internet?"

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  1. Re:Double Standard by jimmy_dean · · Score: 1, Troll

    Wow, I almost agreed with you except at the very end...you just couldn't resist a cheap shot against God huh? Nice...try and get a clue. Children, teens and even moreso adults, need guidance. No one who is a normal biologically sounds person can resist such a temptation as having a computer in their room and not looking at porn. Even if they don't seek it out, with all of the pop-up advertising and dirty spam emails...you're bound to come face to face with the choice. And no amount of education will overcome nature. I agree education is good but it's a blanket statement and sheer ignorance to say it can be the end all cure towards people doing bad things. And yes looking at porn on the net is a bad thing.

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  2. Re:Trust them by Anonymous Coward · · Score: -1, Troll

    too bad they break your stupid fucking rules all the time without you knowing ...

  3. Re:Pornography is *evil*? by oneishy · · Score: 0, Troll

    Yes, pornography is evil. Not only now but it always has been and always will be.

  4. What is it with adults.... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: -1, Troll

    ...that all of a sudden become prudes when they hit 35 and have kids? How do you think you yourself MADE those kids? That's right, by getting down and dirty with your wife. Yes, sex, intercourse, FUCKING, whatever you want to call it. Whether she spread her legs and you got in bewteen them, or the got on her knees and you mounted her like a horse, or she was sliding up and down your dick like it was a hobby horse, your cock had to be inside her pussy.

    As to why he's looking at those women, it's because most women AREN'T LIKE THAT!!!! He ain't getting any, that's why he's looking.

  5. Re:Double Standard by be-fan · · Score: 0, Troll

    And yes looking at porn on the net is a bad thing.
    >>>>>>>>>>
    Statements like that are the reason people can't resist cheap shots against God.

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  6. Don't negotiate by Lord+Kano · · Score: 0, Troll

    It's that simple. You must let the child know.

    1. I run shit around here!
    2. I can invade your privacy at any time I choose.
    3. I won't invade your privacy unless you give me a reason to.
    4. You don't have to agree with everything that I say, but you do have to obey.
    5. If you think I'm mistaken, you can talk to me and I'll consider changing my mind.
    6. Decisions have consequences. Break my rules and you'll face my punishment.

    If your child(ren) has (have) broken every rule that you set for them to use the internet in their room, revoke it. Take it away. I'm sorry if this next part sounds harsh, but YOU ARE THE FUCKING PARENT! You are the one who runs shit in your house! You don't need me to tell you this.

    Put your foot down. It's not that complicated.

    LK

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    1. Re:Don't negotiate by Anonymous Coward · · Score: -1, Troll

      Parents like you are the reason why children go mad and go on shooting rampages and/or commit suicide.

      Get over your Hitler complex and apply common sense, not draconianisn, to raising teenagers.

    2. Re:Don't negotiate by Anonymous Coward · · Score: -1, Troll

      People like you are the reason why teen pregnancy rates increase.

      Huh? Please explain before slandering my character any more.

      You are not your child's friend

      I pray to God that your kids dont get their hands on any guns. If thats how you treat them, you become their worst enemy.

      Sure, one day your children can grow into some of the best friends you ever had

      Treat them with love and respect, not as hardened criminals, if you want kids to love you back.

      Children are not born with common sense

      Common sense is learned. If you never give your kids the oppritunity to shine then you are doing them a total disservice.

      Give them an oppritunity. If you raise them right, you might actually be surprised as to what they grow into.

      It is the job of the parent to keep them from doing something damaging to themselves while they learn.

      At some point (hopefully not too long after they become teenagers) you are going to have to let them out on their own. They are never going to learn how to deal with the pressures and problems of real life once they leave your supervision for good if you keep them sheltered all of their life.

      I am not suggesting that 7 year olds should be given free reign on the internet. What I am saying is that if you are continuing to treat 14 and 15 year olds like 7 year olds, you are restricting intellectual and social growth.

      Teach them the proper values of what is right and what is wrong and once they can demonstrate that, then you need to let them free.

      BTW, yes, I know it's you again. I see that you still are devastated by our last encounter.


      Excuse me? What in the heck are you talking about? Who do you think I am ?

  7. Re:Privacy Invading Software by Molina+the+Bofh · · Score: 1, Troll

    Out of curiosity, are you a fanatical religious moron ?

    And yes, I know my karma will be blown with this message.

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  8. Re:Trust them by Anonymous Coward · · Score: -1, Troll

    You had me until the porno comment. Nice try. Now go back to surfing porn. Umm. We believe you. har har. And if you really are a 13 yr old who feels so dirty about human sexuality as to be unable to bring yourself to look at the human form, well, you need help getting out of whatever cult you are in. And make no mistake about it: Christianity is a cult.

  9. Re:Now look here by User8201 · · Score: 0, Troll

    Jesus Christ, you sound like one snoopy bastard. Imagine when you were young if you heard a click because your Dad picked up the phone to tape record everything. He might not say anything but what the hell.

    I think you're snooping and "protecting them" is just an excuse of yours to make you feel better. Do you easedrop your wife when she talks to her friends through e-mails? Jesus!

  10. Re:Heh by Anonymous Coward · · Score: -1, Troll

    wow you surely are one of the biggest fags on this site. I feel sorry for a son that is stuck with a gay dad like you.

  11. Re:Childs Internet Access by trotski · · Score: 1, Troll

    Newsflash: you can't make a boy turn out gay.

    I can't stand politically correct bullshit like this. Of course you can make your kid turn out gay. Simply get him into thinking that sex with women is wrong... he'll just turn those urges some other way.

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  12. Re:Now look here by tkjtkj · · Score: 0, Troll

    So, you teach 'deception' and 'invasion of privacy' to your kids? You'd lie with no hesitation? wtf are you!

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  13. Re:Now look here by black+mariah · · Score: 0, Troll

    Your average overbearing controlling psycho parent that thinks everyone and everything should suck their cock for they are the true Alpha and Omega of the cosmos. Haven't you ever met these dudes before?

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