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Nerds Make Better Lovers
ultimabaka writes "The New York Daily News, fine bastion of reporting that it is, released an article today discussing the rise of nerd popularity among women in general, and famous women in particular. Detail is given into the dating exploits of Christina Aguilera and Elin Nordegren (nerdy Tiger Woods' supermodel squeeze), among a bunch of regular Janes. Apparently being a nerd is now in?"
My thoughts exactly. At 6'2 180lbs he's hardly a little guy.
And except that he hasn't got a bad-boy image, and seems a genuinely nice-guy with some actual talent
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Try (good_breadwinner + good_hair + muscles) or in Java style, (goodBreadwinner + goodHair + muscles).
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Ah... here it is (Programming in Visual Basic
So, no, that's not even valid VB variable naming
FWIW, to get back on topic, I've almost gotten a girl BECAUSE I'm a geek (and she most definitely wasn't, FWIW). Then, I try to get the girl with a few geek qualities (but not a geek), and... that didn't work. At least she's a good friend... </rant>
might want to brush up on your history--the Romans didn't manage to conquer Scotland
don't tell me you haven't yet figured out that for things to be very enjoyable for the majority of women (there are exceptions, but they are few and far between) you *do* need to use your fingers (in the manner implied) while you use the other parts you mentioned. Not to mention that having dexterous fingers is definitely an asset in 'warming things up' before 'progressing' to said parts.
-- the cake is a lie
Actually this is a difference between men and women, this is not a difference between geeks and non-geeks. When men talk about their problems, they tend to do it in order to come up with concrete solutions to the problem. Women view it more as a means of clearing the air and putting things on the table; she wants you to listen not give advice. It's just a difference in the way that men and women communicate [this statement is based on the norm, there are exceptions and it is not the case with everything but there are indeed psycological studies to back this up].
Odd, given that I am 5'9" and 140lbs and am considered "skinny" since I have a 29" waist. I guess 5" and 40lbs more and I could be a fat ass. Schweet.
I'm 6'1" and 155 pounds, and I'm skinny as hell. 6'2" and 180 pounds isn't really that big. I definetely don't have a 300 lb bench, either. I top off at around 150 if I don't want to hurt myself (and that's like once or twice, not really what I lift if I want get a work out and not leave myself injured.)
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Things I wish I had really figured out earlier:
... couple days in the hospital disabused me of that notion). Do limit beer, bread, pasta, potatoes, and sugared candy though. Rum and Diet Coke can become the standard substitute for beer, and chicken on the Foreman grill can replace random microwave food amazingly well.
1) Don't stink. Yes, I know you can't tell. Nerd types have had enough cool things happen (code compiled, game beaten, etc) while utterly reeking that we lose the automatic association between hygiene and effective living. I'm serious, everyone else has it, we don't. So just accept:
a) In the morning, you must:
i: Shower. Soap everywhere. It's better to annoy people with longer showers than to annoy them with too short ones. A shower radio can help (this one has MP3 and a mirror for shaving!).
ii: Brush your teeth and use Listerine. At least occasionally floss.
iii: Put on underarm deodorant. I recommend antiperspirant gels. If you have recurring, serious problems anywhere you sweat alot -- it's fungus, and it needs to die. Tinactin works. If you're out in public, and realize your underarms stink -- squeeze teabags under your armpits in the bathroom. Works well (thank you, worse case scenario guide to sex and dating). Oh, those new body sprays (Axe, etc) may be budget cologne, but reactions to them ain't bad. Don't wear too much of it, though, and no it's not a replacement for a shower.
iv: Wear clean clothes. Your pants and your jacket are the only thing you can re-wear. Everything else goes in the biohazard pile.
b) After school or after work, if you're going out anywhere you need to impress anyone, you are generally expected to do all the above again. Annoying, sure. But even if you don't stink by dinner, you may start ripening by bedtime.
c) Your clothes must fit. Baggy is vastly better than too tight. Can't emphasize this enough. Wear a belt; people really hate seeing asscrack. Don't wear corporate tech t-shirts you got at a trade show, except for Google. They're an exception that proves the rule. Speaking of clothes, no visible pit stains, and if it's ever really, really stunk -- it needs to be washed in hot water, generally with bleach, or the bacteria and fungi that eat your sweat will be primed and ready to excrete the stuff that actually stinks. This is the idea behind undershirts and underwear, by the way. The bleach and hot water make your colored stuff fade.
Regarding wardrobe issues -- girls do like shopping with guys (Ken doll, they're not paying, get to be useful, etc), but you actually can't say things like "I dunno, whatever." Feedback is necessary, even if you don't actually know or care. So say things like, "Bring me two or three things, and I'll tell you which is my favorite of them." You actually get to be honest here -- she'll like all three, this ain't the SAT -- but be confident in whatever you answer, and frankly, it doesn't matter that much so answer quickly.
Shoes matter an absurd amount. Exercise shoes (Nike, Reebok) are only to be worn during exercise.
Regarding diet and exercise -- Atkins does work, but alot of people do end up sick (I was the biggest defender of the program
Exercise, it sucks, I know, they lie. But there's a trick: GBA/PSP while pedaling on a stationary bike works shockingly well, especially while playing an RPG.
If you've got some cash, getting a recumbent exercise bike and plopping it in front of your PS2/Xbox works really well too. Just link gaming to pedaling, and your body will think it's enjoying pedaling while your mind is enjoying the game. Weird, but it happens.
Just remember -- exercise is indeed boring, but it's a lot better than eight hours a day of hard labor.
d) This won't fix everything. There's a world of social learning you need to do. You can't learn the social elements from a Slashdot post (though I
Hate to ruin your glory, but it's not a new joke.
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You can find various other incarnations of it out there.
So, anyway, I was sitting in my usual bar, using the WiFi I had set up for them, and drinking Guinness.
Along came a lady.
She was attracted to me for some reason (she thinks I'm really cute), she bought me drinks, she ASKED ME OUT, and we've been together for nearly a year now.
Oh, did I mention she is really hot, sexy, smart, creative, and more than fifteen years younger than I am? Has more formal education than I, earns more money?
There's hope for you, my fellow geeks!
OUT OF MOM'S BASEMENT AND INTO THE STREETS!
That was funnier the first time I saw it elsewhere. But hey, they copied it from somewhere so why shouldn't you?
Trolls lurk everywhere. Mod them down.
There's a difference between introversion and shyness. I'm an introvert. I'm not shy. I can go to a party, make friends, go out and play. I just find it generally tiring to do so, and find it energizing to spend time in more intimate settings. Someone who suffers from shyness may, in fact, very much want to socialize with others, but has a kind of social deficit or block against doing so fluently.
A shy person may, in fact, really be an extrovert at heart, but be unable to act on it. One can deal with the shyness by treating it as a cognitive-behavioral problem, and one can still be introverted and have a healthy social (and romantic) life, just as many extroverts can get the benefits of time by themselves, although eventually they will feel drained if they do not get some social input.
The energy issue is distinct from the question of inhibition.
there are even romance novels about nerds, so my wife informs me. Something about "Nerd in shining armor by Vicki Lewis Thompson".
Stop signs are only Suggestions
The entire article reeked of the assumption that geeks are men.
At least bother to state "male geeks" if that's what you're going to talk about.
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Is it the nerdliness, or just the bank account? Hot chicks hooking up with ugly rich guys is nothing new.
You might gain it just the same way as you did at work. What you need is the experience of success. Do not wait for the one big success. Make small steps, they are more likely to be successful. A few suggestions:
Do this for a while. This alone will not get you a girl friend, but it will make you more confident. You are now a handsome guy who receives smiles from complete strangers. Congratulations, you have mastered level 1. Ready for new challenges?
Again, do this for a while. This alone will not get you a girl friend, but it will make you more confident. You are now a handsome guy who receives smiles from complete strangers, starts conversations with them, and has a couple of female friends. Implicitly, you also gained some knowledge on what turns women on and what doesn't. Congratulations, you have
It's actually a skit by the Dead Alewives, which was featured on Dr. Demento YEARS before the 'Summoner movie' came around.
The skit is better, the whole thing is supposed to be a warning about D&D, 'Satan's Game'.
I remember hearing it for the first time while driving from Oklahoma City to Wichita to catch the train to Chicago...
(Hmm...reading that back...Too geeky, even for me AND this article...must make sure to click post anonymously.)
You need to brush up on yours, theres forts and whatnot near aberdeen, and they mapped the Orkneys.
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**TODO** Steal someone elses sig.