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Coping Strategies for Women in IT
Ian Lamont writes "Female workers are losing ground in the IT profession, reports Computerworld, citing statistics which show a sharp drop in the number of female CS grads since the 1980s, and a decline in the percentage of women in the IT profession since 2001. According to the article, causes include pervasive stereotypes and the locker-room atmosphere found in some IT shops — attitudes which some readers may recognize from the comments in a Slashdot thread last week. The IT professionals interviewed in the Computerworld article discuss a variety of strategies for coping. They range from trying to 'out-boy the boys' to watching what you say, as one Sun Microsystems executive describes:'It's not unusual to be the only woman at a meeting, she says, and because of that, there's often a tendency to remain silent unless you think you have something really remarkable to say. "As one member of a small group, you feel you have no right to be mediocre ... You're not just representing yourself; you're representing [females] with a capital F.'"
FWIW I've seen exactly what you've seen as well and do my damnedest not to participate in making a bad environment.
Honestly though I don't really care if someone in the I/T field is male or female as long as they can do the job. The moment they prove to me to be an idiot, regardless of gender, I have to start looking at them with a more critical eye. And I have met women who treat that as if they were being singled out when they truly aren't.
"Bah!" - Dogbert
I'm not exactly sure what you mean by some of your comments, but let me run my experience by you and tell me if this is what you mean.
I'm 38. I was raised to treat everybody equally. I don't trash talk others, and I paid the women who worked for me equally to the men. I gave nobody special favors, and I was nice to everybody.
But I've noticed that women just a few years older than me seemed incapable of believing that my statements in the last paragraph were true. They were mean, never smiled, treated me like a child, expected special treatment when their kids were sick, and so on. My policy was that if your kid was sick, you could take a sick day once a month. Any more than that, you had to make it up or lose the pay. I thought it was pretty generous, and it was the same for the guys too.
But what I got was a bunch of angry women treating me like I was Hitler, because they had to take care of their sick kids for more than a day a month. Excuse me, but I am not Hitler because you can't work it out with your husband that you *share* responsibility for the brat. If your husband makes you clean house, cook dinner, earn a paycheck, stay home with the kids, and suck his dick, it's not MY fault.
I'm not oppressing you, and it won't kill you to smile, tell jokes, and just quit scowling at every man in the office.
Is that what you meant?
No weapon in the arsenals of the world is so formidable as the will and moral courage of free men.-Ronald Reagan
Here is a little bit of Truth the left doesn't want you to know.
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from: http://drhelen.blogspot.com/2007/08/double-standa
Here's some interesting news I read in the Star Tribune. In big cities, it seems that women's paychecks are outpacing men's:
The study by Queens College demographer Andrew A. Beveridge shows that all women from ages 21 to 30 living in New York City and working full time made 117 percent of men's wages, or a median wage of $35,653, and even more in Dallas, 120 percent. Nationwide, that group of women made much less: 89 percent of the average full-time pay for men. The findings were first reported in Gotham Gazette, published online by the Citizens Union Foundation.
The bad news for men?
Though the analysis showed women making strides, it also showed that men were in some ways moving backward. Among all men -- including those with college degrees -- real wages, adjusted for inflation, have declined since 1970. And among full-time workers with advanced degrees, wages for men increased only marginally even as they soared for women. Nationally, men's wages in general declined while women's remained the same.
The article quickly puts a kibosh on the good news for women by stating:
Typically, women have fallen further behind men in earnings as they get older. That is because some women stop working altogether, work only part time or encounter a glass ceiling in promotions and raises.
Well, if you stop working or work only part time, of course you don't make as much money--duh. What I find amusing or ridiculous--take your pick--is that many women's groups think women should make as much as men even if they have a family, don't work or work part-time. This is nothing but a sense of entitlement. And if women are single and working full time in the cities, then decide to have a family and move to small towns and work part-time or not at all, of course their wages will go down. That is called a trade-off, not necessarily discrimination.
If men's wages are declining, is this ever called discrimination? No, of couse not. Does anyone care about the reasons that men's wages declined while women's stayed the same? No, probably not. What I find interesting or perhaps hypocritical is that if women earn more than men, the reasons given are justified--smugly, women are seen as go-getters who have advanced degrees with the gumption to move to the big city to avoid the country bumpkins. But if men earn more, it is often because of rampant gender discrimation and not because of particular circumstances that would cause one to earn more such as working harder and longer hours, going where the opportunities are ripe etc. If women start to pull away from men in the earning department, I wonder if we will see any interest in helping men to increase their earnings? I won't hold my breath.
Two years ago, I decided to get my pointy-haired-boss on and go to business school. I elected to go to the only all-female MBA program in the country. Why? Because the biggest weakness I had was that I did not know how to deal with *women* in the work environment, and my boss was (and still is) a woman.
It's not easy to be in IT regardless of your gender. If you dislike foul language, well, good luck--I've thrown my share of f-bombs around when firmwide printing dies or the HVAC springs a leak and pours water through my servers and switches. Do you hate being around people who are angry? Heaven forbid you ever answer a support call. Do you like a complete night's sleep every night? Well, don't take a job that touches a data center or users who work in different time zones (don't have kids, either).
Because of IT's difficulty, we behave differently. We have a harder edge, but we laugh more as well. The jokes might be off-color or at someone's expense, but without the laugh, there's no pressure valve. Most of us drink fairly heavily, because we don't have much downtime and enjoy the relaxant effect of EtOH. Now, I don't know if we behave differently because we are predominantly male, or if we have different pressures, but most of us do behave this way.
Now add in technology's complexity, and you have a complicated situation. Most folks are in IT because we think (or at least used to think!) that technology is really cool. Not everyone does so. And, frankly, little boys are socialized to think technology=cool much more than little girls are. We are a product of our upbringing to some extent.
So how do I make IT work for women? For anyone? It's a question of alignment. If who you want to be aligns with your work environment, then stay. If something has to change and you can change it, do so and stay. If not, leave your job, or leave the industry, if you have the freedom to do so. If you do not have the freedom? Well, have a drink...
Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily this is not difficult. -Whitton
Oh come on.
Men and Women never have affairs in the workplace.
They follow the examples of our fine congressmen and senators.
And it helps that women never wear V-neck shirts that show off cleavage and then complain when we look at it. And they never wear shirts that expose their midriff either. And they never wear skirts slit up the side to mid-thigh. Guys of course wear revealing pants and those racy polo shirts (if not sheer dress shirts and jacket with tie).
And they never ogle that cute bodybuilder guy or talk about him at the coffee bar like he was an object- or at least they stop once a guy comes around the corner.
Because women are perfect and focused on work.
Women never get married and then suddenly quit a job as a low-level manager and guys do all the time because they want to be house husbands and raise the kids.
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