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Child-Suitable Alternatives To Passwords?

An anonymous reader writes "Two months ago I donated my old PC to my little sister, who is 7 — I had promised she would get her own computer as soon as she can read and write properly. I then proceeded to answer her questions about how it works, as far as she inquired, and tried to let her make some choices when installing Debian (she can already use GNOME). As I explained password protection and encryption to her, I was pleasantly surprised when she insisted on protection measures being as strong as possible, so that no one else can screw with her computer. She knows that my younger brother has to endure strict parental control software that was installed on his machine without his consent. The significant problem is that she cannot permanently memorize abstract passwords, even if they are her own creation. I talked with a teacher who assured me that this is common at her age. My parents would probably be able to guess non-abstract passwords. What mechanism of identifying herself does the Slashdot crowd suggest?"

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  1. Pictures by Aliencow · · Score: 4, Interesting

    I guess picking the right pictures in a list in the proper order would be a good idea....I think I saw something like that posted on slashdot in the last year.

    1. Re:Pictures by pipatron · · Score: 3, Funny

      This is to keep the parents out of the computer, not the other way around.

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    2. Re:Pictures by KublaiKhan · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Yes, and I'm questioning two aspects of that:

      Why the parents need to be kept out, and why the AC thinks that any password will keep out parents who presumably have physical access to the system.

      If the parents are taking an interest in keeping young children safe, then by all means let 'em.

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    3. Re:Pictures by Atlantis-Rising · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Is it not, after all, a fundamental not only on Slashdot but of security in general that any security can be broken if you have physical access to the boxen?

      In any case, I think as a primary corollary to your first question, one really needs to ask whether this is a decision that the submitter should be making with his sister. It seems to me, that with all of the talk on Slashdot about 'we must blame the parents who do not take care of their children', this is a decision the parents need to make with their daughter (or that she needs to make alone and can then argue with them afterwards about).

      It seems like a ripe situation for family conflict when the (brother, presumably) interposes himself as he is doing here.

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    4. Re:Pictures by cHiphead · · Score: 5, Insightful

      You nailed it.

      As a parent, there's no way in a hell a 7 year old will have a lock down to keep mom and dad out, no responsible parent will allow such a thing, and the machine gets taken away if such a practice is put into place.

      When your 18, go right ahead and make the 53 ch4R@ct3R password to lock your machine up, until then, accept the fact that you are the child and we are the parent, and you don't get root access or personal and private encryption, you ask the IT department (dad).

      Cheers.

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    5. Re:Pictures by KublaiKhan · · Score: 4, Insightful

      The parents are, however, legally responsible for the child's actions. As such, it is entirely reasonable for them to have unfettered access to the child's person and effects.

      Children don't -get- privacy from their parents, unless the parents should choose to give it to them. A family is not a democracy--it is a dictatorship.

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    6. Re:Pictures by Tony+Hoyle · · Score: 2, Interesting

      18? Hell, you can have a child of your own and get married at 16.

      You need to revise your scales a bit. I'd say by the time they're old enough to want privacy they're old enough to need it.. 11 or 12 maybe.

      Or would you also routinely read your childs diary until they're 18?

    7. Re:Pictures by Tony+Hoyle · · Score: 5, Insightful

      hell, no wonder so many kids get screwed up and run away at 16.

      A family is most definately *not* a dictatorship. It's a family, which has its own dynamic. Respecting the rights of the child (one of those rights is the right to privacy btw.) is fundamental to a healthy functioning family. In turn they should respect your wish to know what they're doing - but not every detail (and you will never find that out anyway).

    8. Re:Pictures by KublaiKhan · · Score: 3, Informative

      Legally, it is a dictatorship--the parents are responsible for the actions of the children, after all, and (within certain basic restrictions) whatever they choose to do is allowed.

      Privacy is not a guaranteed right for children.

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    9. Re:Pictures by Tony+Hoyle · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Responsibility of the parent doesn't make it a dictatorship, legally or otherwise.

      I'm shocked that anyone would even think that. A child with no freedom and no room to grow would turn out to be a basket case. I'd wager social services would get involved at some point.

    10. Re:Pictures by thynk · · Score: 3, Insightful

      I totally agree with you here. I have 3 children who use the computer(s) in my house, and I made it VERY clear that they have no reasonable right to expect privacy. I will read their email, read their IMs and view their screen with vnc whenever I feel the need to. I own the computer, I own the networking equipment and pay for the connection(s) to the internet. Just with their cells phones, I own them and can check txt messages, pictures, etc any time I wish. Anytime they feel that their privacy is being violated, I tell them they are free to hand back over the phones and are free to discontinue use of the computers. I have passwords to all their email accounts, both the ones I host on my domain and their yahoo and MSN accounts.

      Now, don't get me wrong, i don't monitor every email all the time, nor do I sniff their network traffic all the time. I DO trust them online, they have earned my trust (to get a myspace account, my daughter had to write a 2 page paper on internet stalkers and how to avoid them). However, if I see a change in behavior they don't care to discuss with me, I have EVERY right and the responsibility to find out what's wrong in any way that I need to.

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    11. Re:Pictures by fishbowl · · Score: 5, Insightful


      "As a parent, there's no way in a hell a 7 year old will have a lock down to keep mom and dad out, no responsible parent will allow such a thing, and the machine gets taken away if such a practice is put into place."

      I did not understand that point of view at 7, and I do not agree with it a 40-something.

      It seems to go without saying that children are not entitled to privacy from their parents. I say it is up to the individual parent. Many parents DO respect their children enough to give them privacy. Some consider doing otherwise to be a form of abuse.

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    12. Re:Pictures by j_166 · · Score: 2, Funny

      I think you're going about this the wrong way. All you need to do is rig the computer with a kilo of C4 so that when any key on the keyboard is pressed, it explodes, taking anything the child may have wanted to keep private with it.

      The child of course uses a 2nd wireless keyboard to access the box. That one is coated with Iocane, a powerful neurotoxin which the child has spent the last several years ingesting in small quantities to build up a sufficient immunity.

    13. Re:Pictures by Urza9814 · · Score: 3, Insightful

      So I guess you're saying I, as a 16 year old, have no right to my 47 character password... (yes, I do actually have a 47 character random password for rare use.)

      I do agree that 7 years old is a bit young for that, but in my case, it's my computer, I paid for it, I can do what I want with it...as is the case here. It's her computer, let her do what she wants. How is she gonna learn anything if the whole system is locked down? I would not be a future computer science major if my parents controlled everything I did on the computer. The main reason I know as much as I do about computers (enough to let me take and easily pass 300 level college courses while still in high school) is from trying to get away from that kind of control. ...ok, maybe you're right. Let the parents install security software, and teach her how to get around it.

    14. Re:Pictures by KublaiKhan · · Score: 2, Insightful

      I'd think that locking them out would be a decent indication for when they're ready to be less supervised--once they can crack the lockout, then it'd be time to sit down and talk about taking it off--and the responsibilities they would have to be aware of. Make 'em sign an AUP at that point, and then you can just keep hold of the root password for when you need to fix something.

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    15. Re:Pictures by nahdude812 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      If the computer isn't connected to the net (and they aren't able to load inappropriate stuff their friend gave them on a thumb drive), then I don't need access to it. Likewise with a journal. No one ever got kidnapped, raped, and murdered by someone they met by writing in a private journal, and material which the child isn't emotionally and developmentally ready for never spontaneously appeared in it.

      Plug it in to the net, or notice little Bobby or Susy loading up stuff on it that you don't recognize from friends, then you bet it's time to want to know what's going on. Kids aren't adults, they don't get the same level of privacy from their parents that adults do, nor should they.

      Parents need involvement in their kids lives, it's the way that they shape and mold their kids into functional balanced adults, as well as protect them from dangers the kid doesn't realize exist or doesn't believe in. It's the mark of a good parent, and it's something that's lacking in too many parents.

    16. Re:Pictures by AtomicSnarl · · Score: 3, Informative
      As opposed to:

      I watched my daughter enter the password -- she typed "minniemickydonaldpluto."

      I said, "Wow, darling, that's a really big password!"

      She replied, "Well, they said it had to be at least four characters..."

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    17. Re:Pictures by Rei · · Score: 4, Informative

      If you have access *and you know what you're doing*. I get the impression that the parents don't. As for whether the submitter should be doing it, if the parents are the type who install cybernanny software on their kids computers, I say go for it.

      Anyways, as for passwords: what about acronym passwords? I love them because they're so easy to memorize, yet end up quite random. Have your sister think of a phrase -- for example, "Mom and Dad, leave me alone!" -- and then make an acronym out of it, like "MaD,lma!"

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    18. Re:Pictures by sricetx · · Score: 2, Informative

      "I did not understand that point of view at 7, and I do not agree with it a 40-something."


      What you are not understanding, and should as a 40-something, is that parents are legally responsible for their children (speaking about the USA here). To not know what your child is doing online could get you as a parent sued or in serious trouble with the law. Parents need to know what their children are doing, for both the kid's sake and their own.

    19. Re:Pictures by Planesdragon · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Hah, I don't remember a single point in time I hadn't r00t on all boxes in my home, and I always had at least one computer at home since I was three.

      Either you're young enough that you're not a parent (i.e., that "computer when you were 3" was a Windows 95 machine) or you're old enough that the computer you had at home had no real user account control.

      TODAY, with the internet everywhere, control of a household computer is as important as control of a household medicine cabinet or control of the family car. You might trust a teenager with it, but if you're stupid enough to trust a seven year old with it you should have your children taken away.

    20. Re:Pictures by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Responsibility of the parent doesn't make it a dictatorship, legally or otherwise.

      Of course it does. Did you bother to think this through?

      It does not make rational sense to hold someone legally accountable for something they cannot control. If the child breaks the law online, the parent is held legally accountable. Therefore, the parent must have control over what the child does online.

      This applies to other aspects of life as well.

      Furthermore...from any realistic perspective...freedom requires competence. Children are not "free" to drink alcohol because they are too emotionally and intellectually immature to make wise decisions about alcohol consumption. Their brains are not developed enough, and they do not have enough life experiences yet. They are simply too stupid to know how much is too much. So they don't get any. Once they have grown up a bit that isn't a problem any more, so they become free.

      A wise parent won't make the cut off at a specific age, but it is outright obvious that a 7 year old is too immature to roam about unmonitored in an Internet full of predators of every type. Perhaps a 16 year old is. Perhaps that will vary from child to child. In either case the parent is still legally responsible, so the parent is within his/her rights to give as much or as little privacy as he/she deems appropriate.

      Let me ask you this....whenever the government tries to pass laws to "protect the children" on the Internet, do you start insisting that keeping kids safe is the parents responsibility? I sure hope so, because it is. People who spout the sort of tripe you are spouting give the government the justification it needs to keep passing these laws...obviously....parents like you aren't doing their job.

      Get real.

    21. Re:Pictures by bendodge · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Why does a parent having absolute authority imply no freedom? I highly doubt you've raised any children (at least, the kind that can keep out of jail).

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    22. Re:Pictures by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I agree; that's a parental decision. I wouldn't let my daughter (especially back when she was anywhere near 7 years old) use a computer that I wouldn't have access to.

      I'm not saying I would use that access. I'm suggesting that 7 is too young to need it.

      Side note--I thought we all agreed 5 years ago that 'boxen' was stupid.

    23. Re:Pictures by hobbit · · Score: 3, Funny

      Yeah, but to get "r00t" on your ZX81, all you had to do was switch it on...

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    24. Re:Pictures by ultranova · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I wish I could attribute sarcasm to your post, but it is obvious you're being serious. And it's obvious you know nothing about children or the raising thereof.

      I neither know or care anything about rising children. I will learn if I ever have any. I simply answered the question "why the parents need to be kept out"; since the summary gave me the impression that the it is the child who wants a "parent-proof" PC, I took this question to mean "why would a child want to keep its parents out".

      You are seeing moral judgements where there is none, merely an attempt to see the world through someone elses - the kids, in this case - eyes while attempting to solve an interesting problem: how to secure a computer against an attacker who has physical access to both it and the onwer. Since the rest of your post proceeds from this flawed assumption, commenting on it further would be pointless.

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    25. Re:Pictures by encoderer · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Exactly.

      I had "root" access to each of my computers as a child. The first was handed down to me from my dad when I was 9 or so and it was exclusively my toy, kept in my bedroom.

      Of course, this was 1992, and it was an IBM XT (and later a PS2, err.. an *IBM* PS2). Aside from word processing and the few games that worked on a monochrome monitor there wasn't much you could do with it.

      Now-a-days?

      No way.

      I cautioned my parents not to let my THIRTEEN y/o sister have a PC in her bedroom, let alone a seven year old!

      Can anybody here think of ONE good reason for a 2nd grader to have privacy like this?

    26. Re:Pictures by PCM2 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      If you have access *and you know what you're doing*. I get the impression that the parents don't. As for whether the submitter should be doing it, if the parents are the type who install cybernanny software on their kids computers, I say go for it.

      Uh ... wait. "Cybernanny" software for high schoolers, yeah, I can see where that's the wrong approach. But what's the problem installing it on a computer for a seven-year-old? There really is a lot of really foul stuff on the Web, and stumbling on it by accident isn't uncommon. Why allow the child's experience to be colored by that?

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    27. Re:Pictures by iwein · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Being a parent myself I would be very happy to have kids smart enough to keep a computer sort of secured against me. The fact that the sister decided to want security on her own makes her old enough by my standards. As a parent I wouldn't be too concerned anyway, I can physically check what my child is doing and if I strongly disagree I still have control over the power supply. Since the computer is used I guess that fancy tech like a fingerprint swipe is out of the question. Maybe you can get voice recognition working? That is pretty hard to crack if you don't let yourself be recorded (same as a password actually ;)). You could also find a way to store the password in a way that your sister is able to decipher. (write it down in the wrong order or something). This is not as secure, but it should work fine as security by obscurity against the average unsuspecting parent.

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  2. Fingerprint Reader? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Would a fingerprint reader be suitable?

    1. Re:Fingerprint Reader? by youngerpants · · Score: 4, Insightful
      A fingerprint reader wouldn't work. Fingerprint reader software (such as the wonderfully open source ThinkFinger) map out a fingerprint by locating easily identifiable marks, such as swirls or dead-ends, and map their proximity to other easily identifiable marks. As this girl is seven its fair to assume that in a few more years her fingers will be twice their current size.



      The fingerprint will be the same, but scaled up so all proximity will be lost.

    2. Re:Fingerprint Reader? by GNU(slash)Nickname · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Fingerprint reader software (such as the wonderfully open source ThinkFinger) map out a fingerprint by locating easily identifiable marks, such as swirls or dead-ends, and map their proximity to other easily identifiable marks. As this girl is seven its fair to assume that in a few more years her fingers will be twice their current size.


      The fingerprint will be the same, but scaled up so all proximity will be lost.

      All that may be true, but it doesn't prevent them from simply re-enrolling her fingerprints every year or so as she grows.
    3. Re:Fingerprint Reader? by snowraver1 · · Score: 4, Informative

      Wow... Are we talking about the DoD here or a 7 year old girl's computer... IMO a seven year old does not require digital privacy in thier home.

      That being said just use a sticky note hidden somewhere or something. Or use a non-abstract password, like her favourite food, or least favourite food. How long would it take you to guess "fudgeicle"?

      And, it's already been mentioned that the parents persumabally have physical access to the computer, and if they have the know-how and confidence to install some sort of parental control into a linux distro, then the password is not going to be a problem for them to bypass.

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    4. Re:Fingerprint Reader? by KillerBob · · Score: 5, Informative

      A fingerprint reader wouldn't work. Fingerprint reader software (such as the wonderfully open source ThinkFinger) map out a fingerprint by locating easily identifiable marks, such as swirls or dead-ends, and map their proximity to other easily identifiable marks. As this girl is seven its fair to assume that in a few more years her fingers will be twice their current size.

      The fingerprint will be the same, but scaled up so all proximity will be lost.


      The fingerprint readers we use in our computers at work read by proportional distance, not physical distance. If you define the distance between two key points at opposite ends of the finger as a distance of 100% and an angle of 0 degrees, the rest of the points are defined using those terms. So Point C may be at 23 degrees left, 15% distance, point D may be 16 degrees right, 4% distance, etc.

      In that case, the fact that the finger grows larger over time makes no distance, because the points it's measuring are still in the same position, proportionally, just with a different scalar multiplier.
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    5. Re:Fingerprint Reader? by thanatos_x · · Score: 3, Insightful

      The reader posting this seems to be a bit naive on passwords, and 7 year olds.

      In kindergarten I had to memorize my phone number and address. A phone number is a fairly random 7 digit code. A zip code is 5 more random digits. There is no reason to assume she couldn't memorize a 7 character string; even 5 digits worth of numbers is far more than sufficient to stop any manual attempts to guess the password.

      Furthermore, even if she uses a common thing plus 1 number the search space is sufficiently large that it is quite unlikely that the parents would guess it. Beyond this she could write it down on a slip of paper and hide it in a book. Not the most secure, but it'll still take a fair bit of effort to get it.

      This excuses several things, such as..

      1. The child shouldn't have such access to a computer. It's just not a smart idea.
      2. The parents are parents. The child is a child. Passwords have little effect when they say "you can't use the computer until we have the password" or "no sweets unless we get the password." Seriously, in terms of challenges it's trivial on both sides - the parents either can't crack the password regardless of complexity, or they can crack any password because they have physical access to the machine and the knowhow. The child can't withhold the password if the parents get serious about it, or she can, but she loses the benefit of the computer entirely.

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    6. Re:Fingerprint Reader? by SQLGuru · · Score: 3, Insightful

      And as a little kid with an "owwie" on her finger covered up by a Strawberry Shortcake bandage, she's now unable to access her computer. Congrats.

      Layne

    7. Re:Fingerprint Reader? by Mr.+Jaggers · · Score: 4, Funny

      So, the first time that happens, you walk over with her, and retrain it for her thumb. BIG DEAL. Until she cuts her thumb, then you help her train it for the other thumb, etc.

      If you have a fingerless daughter, train it to her toes (and retrain as above, when Strawberry Shortcake makes her rounds amongst the little piggies).

      If you have a fingerless, toeless daughter who wants to use the computer anyway, for fucks sake, memorize her password for her, you heartless clod!

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  3. passphrase by moderatorrater · · Score: 4, Informative

    Teach her to use passphrases, something like 'My favorite food is steak'. This is something that's easy for her to remember and also hard to break just from the sheer size of the password. When she's old enough, she'll figure out how to make hard passwords on her own; just give her a few suggestions about capitalization, numbers and symbols.

    1. Re:passphrase by RDW · · Score: 2, Insightful

      How about:

      mybigbrotherissuchageek

      or

      nowicantalktocreepsonlinewithoutmyparentsknowing

      ?

      Why on earth does a kid of this age need a secure password?

    2. Re:Passphrase by jdoff · · Score: 4, Funny

      You are so grounded!

      Dad

    3. Re:passphrase by Culture20 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Memory... a seven year old's is quite fluid. "My favorite food is steak" might morph into "My favorite food is ice cream" or "I like steak" or "I like eating" or "I like my little pony". Passphrases might be easier than g%jP22094jmqqlDMSk, but they're still memory-based.

    4. Re:passphrase by CarpetShark · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Why on earth does a kid of this age need a secure password?


      Every login account on an internet-connected computer needs a secure password.
    5. Re:passphrase by smitty97 · · Score: 5, Funny

      g%jP22094jmqqlDMSk Hey! That the combination on my luggage!
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  4. Fingerprint? by ThinkingInBinary · · Score: 2, Insightful

    A fingerprint seems like a reasonable idea. If she's just trying to keep other family members off of it, rubber-hose cryptanalysis is unlikely to become a problem, and she's highly unlikely to forget her fingers anywhere.

    1. Re:Fingerprint? by meringuoid · · Score: 5, Funny
      A fingerprint seems like a reasonable idea. If she's just trying to keep other family members off of it, rubber-hose cryptanalysis is unlikely to become a problem

      You were an only child, right?

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    2. Re:Fingerprint? by Panaflex · · Score: 3, Informative

      For all those people who haven't worked in biometric security - let it be known now and forever: Reading children's fingerprints is usually fraught with failure. Children often have very, very soft skin that often doesn't read on scanners(flattens against the glass). Also - their lines are typically much closer together which often confuses reader software, or goes beyond the dpi of the scanner.

      Fingerprint + Children = bad combo.

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    3. Re:Fingerprint? by mcpkaaos · · Score: 3, Funny

      Fingerprint + Children = bad combo.

      Especially when considering the Finger Paint and Booger factors.

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  5. Shape by Ami+Ganguli · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Have her make a pattern on the keyboard that she can remember. I've actually had a number of PIN codes that I didn't actually remember apart from the pattern they make on the numeric keypad.

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    1. Re:Shape by coldcell · · Score: 3, Interesting
      This method of remembering a password as a rhythmic/spatial pattern rather than an actual representation of symbols helped me easily create and recall huge passphrases, complete with non-alphanumeric characters. It probably helped that I'm naturally inclined to tap out rhythms with my fingers anyway, but I could see a 7 year old being taught a secure passphrase this way (much like learning a piano melody).

      Of course, I ran into the main problem with this the day my keyboard broke; I went and got a cheap replacement, plugged it in, and couldn't "play" my password properly.

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  6. Strange quote... by Foolicious · · Score: 4, Interesting

    My parents would probably be able to guess non-abstract passwords. I find this interesting. Is the goal to set up a machine for a 7-year-old that parents cannot access? If so, I personally think this is silly. I do admit I RTFS very quickly and perhaps missed something.
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    1. Re:Strange quote... by Harmonious+Botch · · Score: 4, Insightful

      My parents would probably be able to guess non-abstract passwords. And exactly why is this a problem? If your parents are totally and completely incompetent, go to child protective services now, for you have more important issues than passwords.
      Otherwise, quit undermining your parents and let them raise your sister. You can contribute if you want by teaching her about computers, but do it in assistance to your parents, not in opposition.
    2. Re:Strange quote... by Imagix · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I noticed the same thing. Also the quote how the brother had to "endure" parental control software. We're talking about a 7-year old. There should be parental supervision, education, and monitoring.

    3. Re:Strange quote... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Funny

      Don;t be so rough on the poster. I know when I was 7, I would have hated for my parents to find my porn collection.

    4. Re:Strange quote... by eln · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I agree. At that age, her dealings with computers (particularly computers with Internet access) should be closely monitored by her parents. She should set up a password and be instructed not to tell other people what it is in order to get her into the habit of good security practices, but her parents should nevertheless know the password (or some other way to access the computer).

      Of course, my son is 8 and he's only allowed to use the computer in the living room, and we can easily see what he's doing on it at all times. Kids are already going to obsess about keeping things from their parents when they're teenagers, there's no reason to start building that barrier when they're only 7.

    5. Re:Strange quote... by moderatorrater · · Score: 4, Insightful

      This can be solved by giving the parents the root password and letting the girl keep a secret password. That makes it so that she gets the feeling of privacy and, for the most part, the reality of privacy while still allowing the parents to do and see whatever they want on the computer.

    6. Re:Strange quote... by syphaxplh · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Thank you to all who have pointed out that perhaps locking the parents out is not a sensible goal. While I think it is good for a child this age to understand the concepts of security and privacy, I don't think that it is reasonable for a minor to expect her own little private computing world, free of parental control. There should be some semblance of openness and trust in a healthy household, particularly between parents and their children.

    7. Re:Strange quote... by bugnuts · · Score: 4, Insightful

      There should be parental supervision, education, and monitoring. Why? Two reasons. First, parents are completely responsible for their child's safety. That includes things like giving out her name, address, even state to strangers. Perhaps it's a surprise that children... even kids twice her age, do not tend to use good judgement.

      That judgement is learned, generally through the parents. And yes, you'll see lots of adults using their parents' poor judgement.

      The second reason is that it helps prevent parent ignorance. If the parents participate in her "computer experience" they will become experienced, too. The younger kid had to endure safe-surf software because the parents didn't want to surf with the kid.

      What gets me is that a 7-yo actually feels the need to hide things from her parents. This can be from watching her brother and deciding his frustration was bad, or it could be because she doesn't trust them so much.
    8. Re:Strange quote... by pla · · Score: 2, Insightful

      If your parents are totally and completely incompetent

      "Unable to grasp how to admin a computer" doesn't necessarily mean "incompetent to raise a child".

      Most kids have a much better understanding of modern technology than their parents (and I suspect that has always held true). She may legitimately worry that, in their laughable attempts to snoop on her activity, they'll actually cause some damage. The very fact that the FP involves her brother giving her a computer rather than her parents would tend to support this view.



      quit undermining your parents and let them raise your sister.

      I can tell by your tone that you won't agree with this, but like it or not, kids have a right to privacy. You can either honor that and perhaps they'll come to you when they have a real problem, or you can have them do the same things behind your back and consider you the "enemy" and the last person to go to when in trouble.

      It always amazes me how selectively people forget their own childhood when they become parents - They seem to remember all the crap they pulled and want to lock the little bastards in their rooms until age 18, without remembering that when their own parents tried to do so, it provided the motivation to learn to pick locks.

    9. Re:Strange quote... by Dhrakar · · Score: 2, Insightful

      As the parent of 2 children, I need to disagree with you on one big point: No. Kids do not have a right to privacy. Period. It is my responsibility as their parent to guide them and protect them and a big part of this is knowing what they are up to. I allow my daughter (12) to access the internet, but not to do IM or join 'social' sites. I also maintain the admin account on her computer (OS X). For my son (8) I allow him access to our LAN (for printing and multiplayer WCIII with his sister and I) but do not allow him access to the internet from his own system. To get to the internet he has to use my computer (in his own account).
          Rather than trying to find ways around parental involvement, I think that the original poster needs to work _with_ his parents. Help them to set up the Linux computer for his sister and let them know how it is not susceptible to the same issues as a Windows box. Also, show them how to safely check up on the things that they are probably concerned about (eg; browser history, email addresses, etc.). This way _all_ of you can come out ahead and there is much more trust in the family.

    10. Re:Strange quote... by Peter+Cooper · · Score: 3, Insightful

      There is a giant leap between "kids have a right to privacy" and "kids need to be monitored 24/7." Kids have a right not to be under constant interrogation and inspection by their parents, but not a right to privacy when the parent thinks it's necessary to inspect what the child has been doing. That's just parenting common sense.

    11. Re:Strange quote... by cptdondo · · Score: 2, Insightful

      So.... You force your child to give up something they want to keep private. If they don't comply, you take away something they like.

      And what exactly are you teaching your child? Might makes right? Parents don't respect their own kids? Kids' opinions and feelings don't matter? Powerful people have the right to control less powerful people?

      Great lessons, those.

      It's much harder to foster respect and open communications. It's called being a parent, not a bully and control freak.

    12. Re:Strange quote... by Lijemo · · Score: 4, Insightful

      What gets me is that a 7-yo actually feels the need to hide things from her parents. This can be from watching her brother and deciding his frustration was bad, or it could be because she doesn't trust them so much.

      Or it can just be for the same reason that kids like having a "secret hideout" or "secret clubs" or whatever. Like everyone else, they like space --whether physical or conceptual-- that is their own.

      Children, even that young, DO need a certain amount of privacy. But that's too young to be having privacy from parents in connection with her interactions with the outside world, and her interactions with the random & anonymous people that she'll meet there.

      And being in her own room gives a very dangerous illusion of complete safety-- she would probably want parents present when wandering through a large, bustling crowd of unfamiliar grown-ups, but she's far less likely to recognize any danger when she's alone in her house with her parents in the next room.

      If this computer is not connected to the internet, then sure, let her have a password that keeps her parents out of the computer. It's like having a room with a door that closes, or a diary that no one else is allowed to read.

      But if it's attached to the Internet? That's another story. Her parents NEED to be involved.

    13. Re:Strange quote... by dpninerSLASH · · Score: 3, Insightful

      This can be solved by giving the parents the root password and letting the girl keep a secret password. That makes it so that she gets the feeling of privacy and, for the most part, the reality of privacy while still allowing the parents to do and see whatever they want on the computer.

      That's a slippery slope. A seven-year-old child should be entitled to the kind of privacy necessary to protect their dignity (in other words, the same privacy to which any human is entitled) and keep them safe. Sending the message that it's acceptable to do things on a computer that the parents won't know about (whether or not that is true) is extending far too much discretion to someone who lacks the maturity to make wise decisions.

      A computer is a (potential) gateway into the worlds of people who would knowingly do harm to a child for their own gratification, and children often times lack the experience to know when they are being manipulated into compromising positions.

    14. Re:Strange quote... by Glonoinha · · Score: 4, Funny

      I can just see the little seven year old explaining to her parents ...

      It's not about trust. It's about accountability. See, I trust you guys, but lets face it - sometimes things happen and we all want to be able to have every person be accountable for their actions. So I'm just going to lock this bad boy down with a digital key long enough to choke a horse.

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    15. Re:Strange quote... by n1k0lai · · Score: 2, Funny

      Never give parents a root password, they're noobs!

  7. None by SoupGuru · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Why on earth should a 7 year old be able maintain privacy on a computer that can serve as a portal to many nasty things?

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  8. at age 7 by Tsiangkun · · Score: 4, Insightful

    I would suggest the parents have the root password, and their child can ask them to reset her password when she forgets.

    Parents guessing the password of a seven year old is ridiculous, is this a serious question ?

    1. Re:at age 7 by Actually,+I+do+RTFA · · Score: 3, Insightful

      You have no right to privacy from your parents while you live under their roof, eat their food, and depend on their money. Privacy, if you have it, is a privilege. Get over it. Especially at age 7.

      I agree with the sentiment, but am appalled by the logic. Privacy is an inherit human right, not a privledge. However, we allow parents to exercise those rights on behalf of the child, because the child cannot be trusted to do so yet. It has nothing to do with the costs of food/shelter/clothing, and a 20-year-old unable to secure funds (e.g. all their money was going to tuition) would certainly have an expectation of privacy.

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  9. Why keep her parents off exactly ? by garett_spencley · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Seriously, she's 7?!

    I have two daughters around the same age. They share a computer that we gave them for xmas. They have their own accounts, with their own passwords and my wife and I maintain the Administrator account. I could not fathom them having an Internet-accessible computer without us having full control over it.

    Am I missing the point ? Because when I read:

    "My parents would probably be able to guess non-abstract passwords"

    it sounds to me like you're trying to keep a 7 year-old's parents off of a computer she uses when they have every right (and reason / responsibility in this day in age) to know what their young child is doing on a computer.

    Of course I am all for teaching kids how to be security conscious and protect their private data. But it's a fine balance. Parents need to keep themselves in the loop in order to, you know, be effective parents.

  10. Use a book by Actually,+I+do+RTFA · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Have her take a favorite book, start at a random page (or first page if she only needs to keep family members off.) Read the first letter of each page for 10 pages.

    On a different topic, you said one thing that shocked me:

    She knows that my younger brother has to endure strict parental control software that was installed on his machine without his consent.

    She's 7. I don't know how old your younger brother is, but at some age, it is a reasonable thing for a parent to do. It cannot suppliment for parenting, but it can be handy to insist on a website whitelist, or 2-hour cutoff.

    Seven-year-olds shouldn't have the full rights of adults.

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  11. Why are you trying to undermine your parents? by fredrated · · Score: 4, Insightful

    With phrases like "She knows that my younger brother has to endure strict parental control software that was installed on his machine without his consent" and "My parents would probably be able to guess non-abstract passwords" you are clearly trying to undermine your parents. I know that children, though you don't give your age, usually think that they know better than their parents, but guess what: it isn't usually true! I hope that your parents are smart enough to take your sisters computer away if you succeed in locking them out.

  12. To Deal With Size Limitations (Variant on Phrase) by eldavojohn · · Score: 4, Insightful
    Naturally as humans, we are very capable of memorizing lyrics, poems, quotes & the like from our favorite media. I've suggested this before and I'll suggest it again. Pick something that your little sister loves, like pokemon, Harry Pothead, Celine Dion or whatever the devil kids are watching/reading/listening to these days. And simply have her pick the most memorable quote or verse from that thing. Then you simply strip down to the first letters of each word (punctuation and capitalization included) and you have something that is easily memorized but fairly random.

    For instance, in high school I listened to Tomorrow Never Knows off of the Revolver record by The Beatles nonstop. Since I know every lyric of that song, I might pick the opening line:

    Turn off your mind, relax and flow downstream Which would render the password:

    Toym,rafd Not a bad password, in my opinion. You could do the same with the opening line of a book, quote from a movie, TV show or even a line from a poem. All of these things are very memorable and produce hard to break passwords.
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  13. Private key on a USB stick by jjon · · Score: 2, Informative

    That way she has a token that she can easily carry with her (or hide in her room) that will identify her. Bonus points for using a USB key that is brightly coloured or is otherwise aesthetically child-friendly.

    Alternatively, consider fingerprints - this may actually have quite poor security, but in this case it's probably good enough. And the privacy issues don't apply in this case (she _wants_ the security and her fingerprint will only be stored on her own PC). The other known problem is that some people don't have usable prints, but this is something you can check.

  14. Use a passphrase... by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Funny

    ...like, "My parents are responsible for me." Or, "I live under their roof, so I play by their rules." Or, "My brother is an asshat."

    And yes, I'm a parent.

  15. The real question by WatersOfOblivion · · Score: 2

    I think that this case might be a little silly because the parents should have root/Administrator access and the child should have a user account, but there is a real question here: how can someone who isn't able remember a password identify themselves to a computer? For example, in a situation where all of the students at an elementary school have individual accounts. First graders cannot be expected to remember a password, but they do have an expectation of privacy. Or maybe the case of someone who has had a traumatic brain injury and suffers from severe memory loss. Despite the framing, the core question I think still stands.

  16. how irresponsible by tfiedler · · Score: 2, Interesting

    So basically you want to subvert the ability of your parents' to exert their moral and legal responsibility to raise their daughter by allowing a 7 year old child, one who is not capable of something so requisite as remembering a significantly complex password? Your little sister has no business having unfettered access and control over her computer, and consequently, her online experience. You are irresponsible, probably due to considerably immaturity, and should refrain from interferring with your parents' raising their daughter.

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  17. out of curiosity... by Harin_Teb · · Score: 2, Interesting

    What parental control software IS there for Debian?

    one of the main reasons I haven't switched to Linux is the (at least percieved) lack of parental control software...

  18. Easy, use a pattern by JoeShmoe · · Score: 3, Interesting


    I would say the majority of non-computer users have trouble remembering really strong passwords (ones that make use of a mixture of letters and numbers and punctuation marks). I find the solution is to rely on muscle memory.

    Pick a column on the keyboard and press every key along that line. For example 4rfv. Now hold down the shift key and repeat it. $RFV. So the password is 4rfv$RFV which is relatively strong for most uses but is a snap and simple to remember.

    The only caveat is that it's not a password that you can type while someone is watching but then...really nobody should be watching when you type any password. Although, pressing the shift key can be pretty subtle.

    Other patterns like squares or crosses work as well.

    - JoeShmoe
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  19. Keyboard patterns by kieran · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Something like 3ed4rf5tg (try typing it) or sxdcfvgb should do the trick. Starting with the first letter of her name might help.

  20. Re:To Deal With Size Limitations (Variant on Phras by DamienRBlack · · Score: 2, Funny

    Thanks for your password, I've taken the liberty of moving all the money for your bank accounts to mine.

  21. RFID! Embedded! In Her skull! by rueger · · Score: 2, Funny

    Holy mother of God - what, besides WebKinz do you think your daughter is likely to be up to? And if your Linux box won't run that and Bild-a-Bear properly then she won't like it anyhow.

    She's seven years old! Let her pick a password that's easy for her to recall. The important thing is that she's accustomed to passwords etc, not that she understands cryptographic science.

  22. Misplaced Loyalty by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Interesting

    "...I was pleasantly surprised when she insisted on protection measures being as strong as possible, so that no one else can screw with her computer. She knows that my younger brother has to endure strict parental control software that was installed on his machine without his consent."

    This has me a little baffled, but probably for lack of context. I'll assume that formal legal gaurdians or parents are the agents initiating the installation of the parental control software. If not, ignore the rest.

    The concern seems to be that a 7 year old girl should be able to successfully thwart any attempt to protect her by the "screwing" of her computer in spite of what might be a legitimate act by those charged with her care to protect her as a child. If she were 18 (maybe even 16), that's one thing, but taking direct action to eliminate protective policies over a young child from someone who is clearly not the parent or guardian steps over a number of lines, both legal and ethical.

    Whether or not you agree with "strict" policies that govern a child that is not your own, it just isn't your decision to make. The fact that it is a computer makes no relevant difference.

    Maybe the conversation would more appropriately be with those that are liable and charged with her care rather than trying to subvert it.

  23. Easy. by jellomizer · · Score: 2, Interesting

    All you need is the following.
    A seporate USB Keyboard a numberpad extenstion can work
    A Lathe.
    A Wooden Dowle.
    A wooden box or sheet metal.
    A drill with a bit the same size as the dowel.

    Ok take apart the USB Number Pad rewire it so all the keys are in a straight line.
    Take the woden dowle on the lathe and cut impressions for all the keys.
    Cut out different sections from the lathed dowle so when spun over they keyboard it presses the keys in a unique fassion. Put the modified keyboard in the box and drill a hole in it just above the keyboard for her to put the Dowle key in. and hook it up to the computer. And have her keep the key. That whay when it asks for a password she just needs to put the key in and turn it. And it will type the password.

    This may sound a bit extream but the instructions are easer then say getting Ubentu to Run in Parallels.

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  24. Anonymous Child? by PalmKiller · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Quit posting crap articles like this...this is obviously about a 14 year old boy that thinks his sister needs security from his clueless parents.

    1. Re:Anonymous Child? by TourDirector1108 · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Actually, I'm not sure the sister exists. I think what we've got here is a 14 year old boy that wants to foil his parents for something super-secure for his own use, and the innocent little sister is a great tool to use...

  25. nice one, some suggestions by emj · · Score: 3, Informative

    PAM USB auth.. Then you can take the smallest USB flashdrive you can find. Then build it into something fluffy and big.

  26. Re:same reason you should by crmarvin42 · · Score: 2, Informative

    Casual discovery by accident with out further access is completely different from the volumes and types of smut available online. I've got no problem with the girl having an account and a password, but the idea of my daughter having access to the internet without me being able to monitor what she does scares the crap out of me. I didn't tell my parents anything but when they got concerned they were able to toss my room and find anything they didn't think I was mature enough for. It's much harder to toss a computer account that you don't have the password for. It's akin to giving you 7 year old a solid door and deadbolt system to their room without keeping a copy of the key for your self. It's just plain stupid.

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  27. Re:failure at parenting by wvmarle · · Score: 2, Insightful

    you need privacy even as a child, it's not like a parent has direct access to a childs brain. There are secrets that you should be able to keep. A strong password is not necessary for this - and anyway, a password has no use to an attacker with physical access to a computer. Unless heavy encryption comes into play.
    But then still, a child may need privacy, but the parents need to have a way to access it. Whether they should do it or not, that is another discussion. You are talking about a seven-year-old here. They need parental supervision, and a certain degree of control. Clear limits within where to operate. Keeping things secret as a child from their parents is one thing; completely undermining parents' controls is another. And with that I am not talking about the software based "parental controls".
    Surely as the computer in question will be exposed to the internet, a decent password is required. But why all the effort of keeping everything inaccessible to the parents? That is going too far.
  28. Re:biometrics by Wandering+Wombat · · Score: 2, Funny

    Shear fact? This is a password for a computer, not a pair of scissors...

    Oh, I get it! Your spelling mistakes are a form of security! If you don't have the exact right level of literacy, your computer won't let you post. Ho ho, very clever!

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  29. Bad parent in the making by richardtallent · · Score: 3, Insightful

    You need to stay the hell out of your parent's business.

    When you have a 7-year-old, feel free to lock yourself out of their PC.

  30. Child-Suitable Alternative To Car Keys? by Shuh · · Score: 5, Funny

    I have a seven-year-old child who needs to drive around town in a car, but has problems getting the keys. Is there anyone on Slashdot who has suggestions on how to open, start, and operate a car without keys and otherwise make it so easy even a seven-year-old can do it? Thanks! Signed, A Responsible Human Being

  31. Re:To Deal With Size Limitations (Variant on Phras by Thuktun · · Score: 4, Funny

    "provides a simple solution we ordinarily remember? done!"

  32. Secure from creeps but not parents by OneMHz · · Score: 2, Insightful

    I think a secure password is good, but do you really want to shield your little sister from your parents' protection? If she can't remember a good password, do you really think she's cognitively developed enough to discern between someone who wants to be friends and someone who's gonna end up on "To Catch a Predator"? Your ideals of personal freedom don't quite apply the same to someone that young. I would want to know what my child was exposed to. That either means a) only supervised use of the computer, b) some software that prevents things I decide are objectionable from being accessed. Personally, I'm not a fan of using computers/TV as baby sitters, so I'd go with option a. However, if computer use is supervised, what's the point of protecting it from the parents?

  33. "This is MINE" by FrameRotBlues · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Who ever hinted that it was a portal to many nasty things? Maybe all that's on it is her favorite Carmen Sandiego games, and she wants a password so her 9-year-old brother can't play her games, or install his games on her computer? It might not even have an ethernet cable attached to it.

    Ownership can be complicated when it comes to siblings, and sibling rivalry. I can totally understand her wanting to have her "space", in a sense, that only she can get to. Didn't you ever have a fort, and only let in friends who knew the secret password, or a lock with a secret combination? It implies ownership and control, and that's an age where you start to understand it and work with it.

  34. Nuts. by Blimey85 · · Score: 2, Insightful

    A seven year old with an actually secure computer that not even her parents can gain access to. That's just nuts. And why wait until she can read and write to give her a computer? I can half understand the reading part but writing? She could have been learning to type while learning to write and there is a ton of software for young folks that don't require either skill. Edutainment that uses pictures and colors rather than words. But why lock out the parents? That's pretty troubling.

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  35. I have a secret :) by Scrameustache · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Why the parents need to be kept out Because all little girls want a diary with a lock and key.
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    1. Re:I have a secret :) by KublaiKhan · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Diaries aren't connected to the internet.

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  36. Kids do what adults do--they write them down. by HikingStick · · Score: 5, Informative

    I was shocked a number of years ago when I was moving some furniture so the floors could get cleaned behind the beds. There, under my (then) five year old's mattress, was a complete list of all of my (and my wife's) passwords. He had everything (from multiple machines): power-on passwords, logon passwords, email account passwords, merchant passwords--even our online banking passwords!

    [No, they were not all the same. Some of them were quite complex, too, like 'ni*45FPN!ng'. I got to play "change-the-password" for a few hours that evening.]

    I asked him how he got them: he shoulder-surfed us for every one of them. The reason he had them? He wanted to sneak down to the computer at 3 in the morning and play Spooky Castle.

    That scared the snot out of me. Now, I know he may not be the typical kid, but it just goes to show that you really can't be too careful with your passwords.

    As to the boy, I started encouraging him to use his powers for good. I teach network administration at an area college, so I started bringing him with when I had to configure the lab. He caught on quick, and was a huge help. He's just over 11 now, and while he's still one of the most tech savvy kids in the house, he has little interest in PCs (that might be a good thing). He'd rather spend time outdoors (even when it's thirty below zero) or with his pet cockatiel.

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  37. Re:As the parent of two grown women... by FrameRotBlues · · Score: 2, Interesting

    Who said anything about the internet? He only said it's a box running Debian... it might not even have an ethernet cable attached to it. Maybe she just wants to keep her Carmen Sandiego games protected from everybody else.

    I mentioned it in an earlier post that this is an age where children are learning about control and ownership - secret passwords to let people into their "fort", a lockbox for their "precious jewels" with a key that only they have... sibling rivalry can be a big deal, and kids need their space, whether it's a room or a computer.

  38. cat's in the cradle by Scrameustache · · Score: 5, Insightful

    When your 18, go right ahead and make the 53 ch4R@ct3R password to lock your machine up, until then, accept the fact that you are the child and we are the parent, and you don't get root access or personal and private encryption And after they're 18, you don't get regular phone calls or visits, nor talks about their lives. You'll have denied them privacy for as long as it was legally possible for you to force that upon them, and the pendulum will swing back in full force, reacting to your actions with equal force in the opposite direction.
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    1. Re:cat's in the cradle by Actually,+I+do+RTFA · · Score: 5, Insightful

      And after they're 18, you don't get regular phone calls or visits, nor talks about their lives. You'll have denied them privacy for as long as it was legally possible for you to force that upon them, and the pendulum will swing back in full force, reacting to your actions with equal force in the opposite direction.

      Bullshit.

      If you're open about it, then the idea that there is automatic resentment is just bullshit. Seven-year-olds shouldn't get unresticted and expecially not unmonitored access to the internet. Should the kid be able to keep a private journal, sure. Electronically? Maybe, I don't know about that. Should the parents know who the kid is e-mailing, hell yes. Should the parent read e-mails to the friends, once they have been identified? Well, that's where you get into trust issues. When the kid is seven, yes. When the kid is sixteen, probably not.

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    2. Re:cat's in the cradle by Digital_Quartz · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I can just envision the police phone call:

      "Ma'am, do you have any idea who might have kidnapped your daughter? Has she been talking to anyone new lately? Has she had any new friends come by the house?"

      "*sob* I don't know! She uses blowfish!"

      You're legally responsible for your children until they reach the age of majority, and the only way you can possibly do that is to have some clue what your children are doing.

    3. Re:cat's in the cradle by penguin_dance · · Score: 4, Interesting

      And after they're 18, you don't get regular phone calls or visits, nor talks about their lives. You'll have denied them privacy for as long as it was legally possible for you to force that upon them, and the pendulum will swing back in full force, reacting to your actions with equal force in the opposite direction.

      Maybe...until they have their own kids. But mostly that's crap. Children expect boundries...and they will keep pushing you until you establish some. Because, when there's no barriers, there's also nothing protecting you either. They may grouse at the time, but they will respect reasonable restrictions.

      Boundries are the foundation that allows the now 16 year-old daughter to tell her boyfriend, "We can go in my room, but mom/dad will freak if I close the door."

      I've got to wonder what this precocious 7 year-old wants to look at or do that she thinks is going to be foiled by her parents!

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    4. Re:cat's in the cradle by ZeroConcept · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Perhaps he was talking about your emotional age?

    5. Re:cat's in the cradle by q-the-impaler · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Interesting that you titled your post 'Cat's in the Cradle'. The Harry Chapin song that I assume you are referring to is about a boy who resents his father for not being active in his son's childhood. I assume you were focused on the part where the son grows up and, in turn, does not make time for his own father. You missed the big picture.

      Just thought I'd point out that your oversight in your title extends to your oversight in the importance of good parenting. Children need to earn privacy so they can respect the responsibilities it comes with later in life. Obviously you give them more and more privacy to practice with the older they get, but a seven year old cannot possibly be ready for that kind of responsibility yet.

      In fact, the lack of structure you suggest will probably cause the exact thing you tried to avoid: a bratty kid who gets what he (she in this case) wants. I'm sure you are going to argue that you were referring to the extremeness of the GPs comment (i.e. no privacy at all until 18) but you know you'll be missing the point.

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    6. Re:cat's in the cradle by cuantar · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Easy solution: the computer doesn't get 'net access. There's no reason an unplugged box shouldn't be as private as the child wants it to be; computers are no more dangerous than a pen and paper. Problems only occur when children don't take proper precautions online. There's no reason, in 2008, that a child should not have unfettered access to his/her own system, including root.

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    7. Re:cat's in the cradle by sumdumass · · Score: 4, Interesting

      Bull shit. Children don't posses the ability to accurately reason. This is one reason why the age of consent is 18 in most places. Sure, some children mature faster then others and some think they have but it doesn't apply universally to them.

      If you ask people 20 years after their teens, they will most likely say they didn't know as much as they thought they knew at that time. Most kids find a point in their teens when they think they know it all. Later they realize that if they knew what they know now, back then, they would have done quite a few things different.

      It sounds like you can't make a definitive statement on your parents snooping either. IF you as you claim, didn't do anything wrong, how would you know that Dad was looking at your browsing history or cookies? He wouldn't tell you because you did nothing he objected to. He could have been reading your email and all and you just turned out to be a good kid regardless. Again, you wouldn't know unless you did something wrong that he felt like dealing with. And even then, he might have dealt with it in an unrelated way so you wouldn't put two and two together. After all, why expose the ways he found out about what you were doing that was "bad" and lose that ability in the future?

      The primary role of a parent is to make you into the best person you can be and give you the opportunity to do this within their means. This might be subject to interpretation but it would require them to know something about you. Just because you couldn't catch them checking up on you doesn't mean they didn't from time to time.

    8. Re:cat's in the cradle by cadeon · · Score: 3, Funny

      Bull shit. Children don't posses the ability to accurately reason.

      You're limiting that statement to just children?

    9. Re:cat's in the cradle by encoderer · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Absolutely.

      An unplugged box is fine.

      Load up a few games. Show them how to use a Paint-like program and a word processor.

      Teach them the value of money by giving allowance that they can chose to spend on a new game (and which one to pick!) or something else they may like.

      Teach them the value of caring for things by waiting a bit to fix whatever they (potentially) break.

      With the amount of educational software, and the fact that innate computer skills are already a requirement in the workforce (let alone 15 years from now when this girl will begin her career), a computer can be a valuable tool for a child.

    10. Re:cat's in the cradle by mikael_j · · Score: 3, Insightful
      Boundries are the foundation that allows the now 16 year-old daughter to tell her boyfriend, "We can go in my room, but mom/dad will freak if I close the door."

      Because it would be oh so horrible and the baby jesus would cry if they kissed or god forbid, had sex? I'm sorry to tell you this but your arbitrary moral standards don't apply to everyone.

      Also, my parents rarely set boundaries for me as a kid, instead they told me why it was a bad idea to do whatever it was I wanted to do, after the age of 13 or so they would just tell me I could do whatever I wanted but if I did something they had taught me not to do then I was on my own, but maybe raising your children to take responsibility isn't very popular these days?

      /Mikael

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    11. Re:cat's in the cradle by swordgeek · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Bollocks. Kids are FAR more likely to ignore their parents as adults if they weren't given any restrictions or limits. Lack of caring or outright abuse will alienate kids, NOT actual parenting.

      There is no reason a seven-year-old needs absolute privacy from her parents combined with internet access; to the contrary, it's a dangerous and potentially harmful scenario, and it is a parent's primary job to deal with such things. (And no, I'm not advocating a 'padded room' solution to childcare.)

      Let's be clear here: privacy for dependents is not absolute. (In fact, privacy is seldom an absolute for anyone, but that's another issue.) Privacy for a seven-year-old should NOT be the same as it is for a 16-year-old or a college student. If your seven-year-old says "I'm going out for a while.", do you ask them where? With who? What time they'll be home? Do you let them go? When they're 16, you can expect different degrees of answer from them, and correspondingly give them more freedom (=privacy). When they're 21, your questions are less of a protective nature, and more concern/interest.

      Explaining why they don't have absolute freedom and privacy is a big part of the challenge of being a parent. Kids can be raised (more or less) rationally, and if your reasoning is rational, they'll often go along (although not always, and not always without complaining). Unfortunately, making good decisions for good adult reasons doesn't always translate well to the age of the child. Explaining to a seven-year -old about online pedophiles, credit scams, phishing, and so forth is tough when she hasn't reached puberty or had a net worth more than ten bucks. You can simplify a fair bit, but there are some explanations that ultimately have to wait until she's older. "Because I said so" can actually be the right answer sometimes.

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    12. Re:cat's in the cradle by encoderer · · Score: 2, Insightful

      "My parents never snooped or prodded into what I was doing"

      Or they were just very careful about it.

      To borrow some phrasing... anybody can snoop. To snoop without anybody knowing they were snooped on, THAT'S the goal.

    13. Re:cat's in the cradle by Blkdeath · · Score: 2, Interesting

      Oh, I don't know. My daughter is four now, but when she's a teenager, if she's smart enough to both get root and keep me out of it and encrypt all her network traffic more power to her.

      Yes, but does that mean she'll be smart enough to choose not to go meet that really cool girl that's friends with her online?

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    14. Re:cat's in the cradle by velinion · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Seems to me that enabling router logging while allowing a closed system would take care of the above. Ability to privately use the computer for keeping a journal or whatever, but ability for the parents to monitor internet activity.

      Besides, with physical access to the computer, a parent can simply boot into single user mode, unless there is also a BIOS, LILO, or GRUB password.

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    15. Re:cat's in the cradle by TheMCP · · Score: 5, Insightful

      When I was 5, my family moved to a new house in which I for the first time had a lock on my bedroom door. I didn't really care about it, but my father for some reason was very uptight about it and made a big deal about telling me that I was never, ever to lock my door.

      When I was 7 or 8, I went into my room one day and closed the door, and didn't notice that the lock accidentally jiggled itself to locked. (The knobs were cheap junk and the locks were overly loose, so this happened occasionally.) My father tried to come into my room moments later, and flew into a rage when he found the door locked. He refused to believe me that I had not intentionally locked the door, and as punishment he removed the door from my bedroom - for two years.

      I never forgave him for that. It was very traumatic for me. I couldn't bring myself to even speak to him for months afterward, and when he asked me to do any household chores my only reply was "when do I get my door back?". I felt nothing toward him but angry resentment for the next 10 or 12 years.

      You are not in a position to judge another family's personal interactions with regard to privacy. You don't know the people involved or their histories or their opinions. If the kid, at age 7, is already sufficiently bothered by whatever her parents did to her young brother's computer, and her elder brother is sufficiently bothered by it to try to prevent his parents from doing it to hers, maybe they're actually unreasonable nutjobs. It's not our place to judge.

      I spoke with a young woman once whose parents placed such draconian restrictions on her computer use in her teen years (severe time restrictions, IM buddy list restrictions, email restrictions, web filtering, and the software sends frequent reports to the parents with screenshots) that it actually interfered with her school work (the computer would lock her out before she could finish typing her homework), not to mention her social life (her friends had difficulty communicating with her, since her phone usage was highly restricted and parental monitored too). When they attempted to send her off to college with a laptop with their draconian control software still installed and just as restrictive as ever, she told them where to shove it and left. I'd be surprised if she ever speaks to them again.

      If the parents in the situation this Slashdot discussion is about feel that their 7 year old shouldn't be using the computer the brother gave her, they can ask him to take it back, they can put it in storage, they can ask their daughter to show them her emails and buddy lists and web favorites now and then, or they can put it in a family room so they can see what their daughter is doing with it. If they don't do these things, that's their parenting choice.

      Meanwhile, we could be having an interesting discussion of how to create decent passwords for people (like children) who are unable to remember arbitrary strings. I've met adults with the same problem, so it's not a moot question.

    16. Re:cat's in the cradle by cHiphead · · Score: 4, Funny

      i told my 5 year old my battlenet password on warcraft 3 just to test the waters, the next day, I walk into the computer room and he's on bnet playing tower defense maps. That passwd is now changed b/c he will try to login with it (even when my machine is locked he will try that one).

      W.T.F.

      Kids can remember passwords, maybe not strong passwords, but words and letters are easy enough. I've seen it first hand.

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    17. Re:cat's in the cradle by iamacat · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Where exactly did you pick number 18 from? Do you simply want to exercise your control as long as legally allowed? Do you believe government knows your child better than you and should be allowed to set the age of maturity that would be considered ridiculous for most of recorded human history?

    18. Re:cat's in the cradle by MacDork · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I can just envision the police phone call:

      Me too....

      Ma'am, we'd like to congratulate your child on helping us catch our 13th child predator this year. She's a real wizard with netstat, tcpdump, traceroute, and whois. We think she's very well equipped for the challenges she'll face in her very bright future.

      *beaming with pride* And to think it all started with that Debian install, a little blowfish, and encouragement!

      Obviously, when fabricating completely fictional scenarios, you're a glass half empty kind of person.

      You're legally responsible for your children until they reach the age of majority, and the only way you can possibly do that is to have some clue what your children are doing.

      Go ahead and shelter your kids if you like. Mine will be no strangers to the knowledge and skills they'll need to be well rounded people. Rather than take responsibility away from them, I'll teach them how to handle it.

    19. Re:cat's in the cradle by pcmanjon · · Score: 3, Insightful

      "Yes, but does that mean she'll be smart enough to choose not to go meet that really cool girl that's friends with her online?"

      When I was around 15-16 I met strangers off the internet. I never got raped, or taken advantage of. What's with all the paranoia against strangers? The world is dangerous but I'd hope your kid has enough judgement of character to judge people. The better they can take responsibility as kids, the better they can do it as adults.

      The main stream media blows strangers up into big bad things, and label just about everyone as a rapist, or potential killer. Lay off the news.

  39. bullshit indeed, reading comprehension much? by Scrameustache · · Score: 2, Insightful

    And after they're 18, you don't get regular phone calls or visits, nor talks about their lives. You'll have denied them privacy for as long as it was legally possible for you to force that upon them, and the pendulum will swing back in full force, reacting to your actions with equal force in the opposite direction.

    Bullshit.

    If you're open about it, then the idea that there is automatic resentment is just bullshit.

    If you're open towards them they will react to your actions with equal force in the opposite direction by being just as open towards you.
    If you make yourself the dictator of the house, however...
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    1. Re:bullshit indeed, reading comprehension much? by jdavidb · · Score: 3, Insightful

      He comprehended you just fine. My question is, what color is the sky on your world?

    2. Re:bullshit indeed, reading comprehension much? by Scrameustache · · Score: 2, Insightful

      He comprehended you just fine. No he didn't understand my point at all: I say "be a despot and see what it gets you", he replies "bullshit, if you're not a despot..."

      If I say "2+2=4", and he replies "Bullshit, 2-3 does not equal 4...", he's neither understanding, nor participating in a meaningful way in the conversation. He's just making empty arguments for the sake of conflict.
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  40. Re:That's a terrible password by kat_skan · · Score: 2, Funny

    Hey, it was good enough to prevent you from replying using his account, at least.

  41. Re:Parents should also read by richpoore · · Score: 2, Interesting

    Abuse is the one area a child does need help overstepping their parents. However, if the child is being abused, you should be going to the authorities or someone who can help with that. If the parents are looking out to protect her, which it sounds like that's maybe the case, then they should know what a 7 year old is doing. I noticed a point of if the computer isn't connected to the network then maybe there less need for protection but if there's no abuse and she's still under her parent's authority, what is the problem?

  42. Re:To Deal With Size Limitations (Variant on Phras by hcmtnbiker · · Score: 2, Funny

    Why use 'password' when you can just use '12345' coincidentally that's the same combination i have on my luggage.

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  43. Brutal Parenting by plnrtrvlr · · Score: 2, Insightful

    I've been reading all the posts, and for the most part I agree with the "I wouldn't dream of giving my daughter unfettered access but I think that it needs to be a communication/trust thing." I have 2 daughters, 10 and 12, and for the most part, they do what they want online, and my method of "checking" was to teach them a long time ago, don't hide things, it will only make me more curious what you're up to.... and then when I find something I don't like them seeing, talk to them about it without freaking out on them. so far, it's worked... But there's something haunting me with the way the poster posed his questions that leads me to wonder if the parents are practicing some rather brutal parenting methods. I grew up with a mother who used everything in my life as a cudgel to beat me with -as if growing up a geek wasn't difficult enough! It may be that the brother is simply trying to give his sister some breathing room -though I think the attempt is misguided. If the parenting skills in that house are so bad that he feels he can better educate and protect his sister than his parents can, then child protective services might be more appropriate than a debian box.

  44. Try this out: by Upaut · · Score: 2, Interesting

    I have two solutions if your little ones are paranoid about being spied on. Either give them a knoppix disk and a thumbdrive to keep all their important files with them at all times, or give them total control over their machine...

    Like: http://www.achatz.nl/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=3&products_id=38

    It might not be the best and fastest, but its damn good... Give it enough time, code, and wire, your girl could do most anything.... Build a chip for sd cards for storage... Figuring some way to connect to the world wide web.... It'll be like getting a UGO into the grand prix and winning... And in this case, less is more... You still need to spell, and the most of the memory included is in the users brain... Nothing like building your own machine to give a sense of accomplishment...

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  45. Dude... She's 7 fer Chrissakes! by ElPistolero · · Score: 2, Insightful

    While I commend her in being so geeky and security conscious at such a young age, her parents *should* and absolutely, positively *have to* be able to monitor and limit the time she spends on the computer and the activities she can perform there. It is an absolute no-no to allow a kid the use of a computer unsupervised. Find an adequate authentication mechanism (Lunix should have some kind of pictogram thing or graphical thingumabob to allow her in without much head banging on her side and still keep the computer secure while giving her parents full access to the machine to oversee her time on it)

    Anyhoo, my 2 cents.

  46. What kind of fscked up parent by EmbeddedJanitor · · Score: 2, Insightful
    lets a 7 year old kid play around on the internet by themselves?

    Parents: the internet is not a nanny.

    How about getting the kid to play with playdough, building blocks etc. Studies show much more educational benefit for this playing with building blocks than on a computer.

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  47. Yeah, Parent Here by pippadaisy · · Score: 2, Insightful

    I can assure you if "older brother" gave "7-year-old sister" a laptop all set up and locked me out with passwords? I'd be sure to take the thing outside in front of both of them and drive over it repeatedly with my soccer mom van. Just to prove a point.

    Way to set up a lifelong family schism before she's even 10. They are the parents, older brother. You aren't. And no 7-year-old should have unfettered web access. Are you also going to take the time to explain the fisting video she stumbles upon when she misspells a URL and ends up at the wrong web site?

    Of course, I think parents who rely on nanny software instead of their own parenting skills are lazy and clueless. But since older brother obviously feels that he will be a far better parent than his sister currently has, maybe his time would be better off spent actually having a kid of his own and re-evaluating that policy with his own kid.