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Any Suggestions For a Meaningful Geeky Wedding Band?

Posted by Soulskill on from the how-about-a-glow-in-the-dark-uranium-ring? dept.

mbutala writes "I am getting close to popping the question, and I've been racking my brain for an idea for a cool and unique wedding band. I've been thinking of contacting a company that can (possibly) fabricate a ring from pure Iridium (Ir) or a nearly pure alloy. It is the most corrosion-resistant metal known — it cannot be dissolved in aqua regia like gold or platinum. Iridium is extremely rare on Earth, and the high concentration of it at the K-T boundary in the Earth's crust is what suggests a meteor took out the dinosaurs. I am positive that the symbolism of the permanence of Iridium, the reminder that we are star-stuff, and the fact that the ring would be one-of-a-kind would really strike a chord with my girlfriend. It's a really geeky idea, so I thought I would run it past you all — what do you think? Any other ideas?"

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  1. It's her day so... by Gavin+Scott · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Just don't make the mistake of thining that any part of the wedding process (past the proposal) is about you :)

    The short answer is "whatever she wants".

    G.

    1. Re:It's her day so... by bughunter · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Also, make sure that it's sized properly. She ain't gonna be able to get it resized at Zales.

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    2. Re:It's her day so... by HazyRigby · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Every woman dreams of the perfect "fairy princes" wedding. Even the ones that say otherwise have that dream.

      How silly. No, every woman does not dream of that. I got married in Vegas to avoid such a (to me) preposterous display, and I've never regretted it for a moment. I wore jeans. It took about fifteen minutes.

    3. Re:It's her day so... by bhima · · Score: 4, Insightful

      other people who have already been married

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    4. Re:It's her day so... by Carthag · · Score: 5, Insightful

      My parents got married at town hall during lunch break and didn't get rings until 20 years later. True love doesn't give a shit about retarded money showers.

    5. Re:It's her day so... by gazita123 · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Unless the groom dreams of having a fairytale wedding, it is really just a matter of helping your wife to have something she dreams of. If that happens to be a long and drawn out day, then that is how it goes. It let's you build up points so that when, later on, you want something that she doesn't see the point of, you can just point at the scrapbook of the wedding.

    6. Re:It's her day so... by Uther_Dark · · Score: 5, Insightful

      That is EXACTLY what MY wife said, until the day drew near, then it was: "I just want something simple, OOH and invitations, OOH and a big cake, OOH and this dress, OOH and you can wear this.."etc..etc...etc.. We ended up keeping it VERY simple, and haven't regretted it yet.

    7. Re:It's her day so... by UncleTogie · · Score: 5, Insightful

      When you consider who traditionally pays for the wedding, it's not too surprising it's all about their little girl...

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    8. Re:It's her day so... by n3tcat · · Score: 4, Insightful

      If you're marrying a horrible bitch I guess.

      If the wedding is somehow all about her, imagine what a discussion about laundry will be 10 years from now.

      It's a trade off, you short-sighted "idiot". Sometimes things are all about her. Sometimes they are all about you. Not everything in a marriage is about both of you. There will always be a give and take. What you said speaks volumes about your ability to give anyone else the attention they want without them considering what you want for even a day.

    9. Re:It's her day so... by Carthag · · Score: 4, Insightful

      You misunderstood (and I was a bit sharp in my rhetoric anyway).

      I'd never marry a woman for whom even a 5 thousand dollar wedding was a requirement. That's ridiculous, and might be a dealbreaker for me.

      The wedding is not about me, and it's not about her. It's about us, our love, our family, and our friends. There's no need for a whole bunch of bullshit surrounding it. See also my other post, that's how you do it.

    10. Re:It's her day so... by Awptimus+Prime · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I remember the observation that something that would bend or distort a titanium ring would propably do horrible things to your hands if you didn't have that ring on in the first place.

      I would be willing to go out on a limb and say the majority of jewelery being cut off digits is more likely due to tissue swelling, from things like diabetes or allergic reactions.

      In response to getting a "geeky" band, someone needs to get a reality check. Traditionally, the man is not supposed to have any choice in band selection, except choosing which credit card to pull out when it comes time to pay.

      It's also taking a big chance, as both parties will probably be quite a bit more mature in a few years, and probably regret not getting something with lasting value, such as platinum or a finer grade of gold. You can get a spectacular platinum band for men, for about $700, and a woman's set for less than $3k. Good ones feel like some metal of the gods due to the massive weight for such a small piece. Not enough to get make your finger tired, but enough to surprise people who have only held gold.

      As for scratching, gold will scratches and dings with ease. Jewelers who want to liquidate gold or platinum will change their story about which is best depending on what they need to get rid of that week. Meanwhile, both will likely need repair or polishing at some point in the future. A fine example is my father's wedding band, which he never serviced after 30 years, it's gold, but looks like someone wire-brushed it with a grinder at this point.

      Gold will also let go of diamonds a lot easier than platinum. Thus giving the jeweler a higher probability of stone resets and/or new stone sales over the life of the customer.

    11. Re:It's her day so... by darkpixel2k · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Also, keep in mind that fingers do get larger during the normal course of life, so you will need to resize it anyway at some point in the future.

      As a former EMT who has had to cut rings off people's fingers because of damage, swelling, etc...get something that can be cut by a normal ring cutter, or come to terms with the possibility of losing your finger.

      If you get something that is much stronger than Gold, we can't cut it off if there's a problem. It will act like a tourniquet and cut off all blood flow. ...then you lose your finger.

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    12. Re:It's her day so... by F.Prefect · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Geez, spoken like a (15-year-old) single person. The wedding is all about her because, unlike the man, she has quite likely been thinking about her wedding ever since she played wedding with her Barbies. When I got married I was quite content with the idea that, even though I was a major player in the wedding, everybody was focussed on my bride. That's simply the way things are. Most guys who get married care about being married, not so much the getting married part. Girls also care deeply about the being married part, but the getting married part is much higher on their list of important events than it is for guys.

      Someday you'll grow up and realize that this is a pretty much universal truth that reflects not one bit on how selfish the girl might be.

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  2. Re:Save your money by pcsnow · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I agree. My wife was so pleased that we did something different, well a little different, titanium. You might consider asking her in a very vague/hypothecal sort of way if she were to some day consider being married if she feels strongly about what sort of ring she would like or could she be pleased if someone might just surprise her. I think some girls like to be surprised and like being a little unique, but others would stomp on you if you gave them something other than what they have wanted all their fecund life.

  3. Posting on Slashdot? by Zencyde · · Score: 4, Insightful

    If she's a geek, she's reading this. You probably shouldn't be posting such a question on Slashdot. Not to mention that this sort of thing comes from the heart. Do yourself a favor and disregard everything here. Go with what your gut tells you, not ours.

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  4. Re:Or you could make it yourself. by h4rm0ny · · Score: 5, Insightful


    All I'll add to that, is if he's found a girl who will value his imagination, willingness to put all that effort, throught and dilligence in, more than she values waving some diamonds with no intrinsic value at her friends and having them wave their own back (sometimes with a concealed snide reference to it not being worth as much their diamonds), then he should under no circumstances ever let this girl go. She's more valuable than any precious metal or gemstone.

    Good luck to the submitter!

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  5. Re:Guaranteed success by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    If you people are seriously marrying women with the intention of being doormats your entire lives, you will be a miserable, pathetic wretch long before she ruins you in the divorce.

    Any marriage based on "yes dear, yes dear" over and over again is an eternity in HELL. If you care even an ounce about yourself, you won't do turn into "that guy".

  6. Are you sure she wants a geeky band? by maunleon · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Girls are girls first, and geeks second. I would say that even the geekiest girls have dreamed of traditional weddings, and would much rather have tradition over trends and geekiness.

    Just my $0.02. Do come back and tell us how it went.

  7. Look at the "wedding" section in the magazines by Joce640k · · Score: 4, Insightful

    It's far bigger then all the others....

    Weddings and wedding magazines are porn for the average girl (and her mother).

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  8. Re:Guaranteed success by Lumpy · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Bingo. Most guys marry ranting and raving self centered bitches. Good god, if she is not your absolute best friend first and the woman you adore with all your heart second, your marriage will either be a living hell or not last long. (Note you both better be very closely sexually matched as well. If you like it a LOT and she does not, you will NOT be happy in a short few months when she stops putting out.)

    My wife is my absolute best friend. we do everything together because we want to. many of our married friends are freaked out about it but then I see them in very unstable and unhealthy relationships. (One has his wife lying to him all the time)

    If she is not your best friend, YOU DO NOT MARRY HER.

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