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Social Networks Force Barilla Chairman To Apologize For His Anti-gay Remarks

ifchairscouldtalk writes "Pasta maker Barilla is in hot water over its chairman's anti-gay comments. Guido Barilla said his brand would 'never feature gays in ads' because Barilla does not agree with them. He added, '[if gay people] like our pasta and our advertising, they'll eat our pasta, if they don't like it then they will not eat it and they will eat another brand.' Vehement protest worldwide calling for a boycott of Barilla products via Twitter and Facebook forced the chairman to apologize with a video on Facebook."

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  1. It figures! by jaycvollmer · · Score: 5, Funny

    Pasta-maker CEO in hot water? Is his name Al Dente?

  2. FFS by geek · · Score: 4, Insightful

    The guy is entitled to his opinion and to run the company as he wishes. If you don't like it don't buy it. Enough with the stupid fucking boycotts that are nothing but attempts at silencing free speech.

    And wtf does a pasta makers stance on gays have to do with slashdot anyway? Can we stop pushing an agenda yet?

    1. Re:FFS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Choosing where I spend my money is violating someone else's free speech? What the fuck, dude?!?

    2. Re: FFS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      If he is allowed to run he company as he wishes, he should be prepared to deal with the backlash when spouting out such homophobic responses. If you are the chairman of a company you must keep in mind your public image because you are not just representing yourself when you speak out like this. Especially, if you are talking about your companies products.

    3. Re:FFS by gl4ss · · Score: 4, Insightful

      so you agree with if you don't like it don't buy it but disagree with boycotts? what the fuck?

      though I'm more worried why the fuck someone is even listening what the fuck some pasta maker guy says. all their adverts are basically the same anyways, some family making food or just macro shots of spaghetti. if they changed to a gay couple fencing with spaghettis.. it might be brilliant marketing.

      but also why the fuck is this on slashdot...

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    4. Re:FFS by Mr.+Slippery · · Score: 5, Insightful

      If you don't like it don't buy it. Enough with the stupid fucking boycotts that are nothing but attempts at silencing free speech.

      You're not making any sense. A boycott is nothing but a large group of people saying "we don't like it, so we're not buying it." Boycotts (and buycotts) are an exercise in free speech and free markets. It is antiboycott laws (such as the blatantly unconstitutional one the U.S. has to squash criticism of Israel) that are attempts at silencing free speech.

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    5. Re:FFS by sandytaru · · Score: 4, Insightful

      He's entitled to his personal opinion. But a CEO is a very public position, and they're being paid to represent not just themselves, but also their company. For as much money as those guys make, you'd think they'd learn to separate their private opinions from their public company representation. The correct way to position this would have been: "I don't like gay people. Marketing hasn't come up with a good commercial to feature gay people, and maybe they never will. But they can still eat our pasta if they want."

      Shucks, if someone wanted to pay me five million dollars a year, I'd learn to keep my mouth shut.

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    6. Re:FFS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

      The story is about the power of social networks, not about a pasta maker's stance on gays.

    7. Re:FFS by bmo · · Score: 5, Insightful

      The guy is entitled to his opinion and to run the company as he wishes

      The instant you decide one person's money is less than another's, you've become bad at business.

      The converse of this is when you decide to give away too many freebies to your "friends" which is also bad business.

      I've personally seen businesses go under because of shit like this.

      He deserves this and your defense of this is idiotic.

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    8. Re:FFS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Informative

      The people pushing the gay agenda are as rabid as any religious group. Be gay if you want. I'm all about personal freedom. Just stop trying to make the rest of the world gay, too. Tolerance != acceptance.

    9. Re:FFS by bmo · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Enough with the stupid fucking boycotts that are nothing but attempts at silencing free speech.

      Furthermore, free speech does not mean to be free from criticism.

      You are entirely free to say dumb things. Other people are free to say those things are dumb.

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    10. Re: FFS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Interesting

      How is disagreeing with someone a sign of fear (phobia)?

    11. Re:FFS by Tom · · Score: 3, Insightful

      but also why the fuck is this on slashdot...

      Because it's on these new cool social networks that only geeks know about and ... uh, what? It's not 2005 anymore? Really?

      Ok, I have no idea. Slow news day? Some editor found it funny? Misclick? Cat video scared the editors in hitting "accept" on three random submissions? Wrong moon phase?

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    12. Re:FFS by Arancaytar · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Enough with the stupid fucking boycotts that are nothing but attempts at silencing free speech.

      Boycotts are free speech, genius.

    13. Re:FFS by wjcofkc · · Score: 5, Insightful

      but also why the fuck is this on slashdot...

      Because an equal amount of the nerd community relative to the rest of society is gay. That makes this news that matters to many nerds. But truly that is not quite enough to justify this being on slashdot. This is also an example of technology pushing social change further than it has ever been able to go by itself. So we have: 1. nerds 2. news that matters very much to many nerds 3. a news story that matters to a lot of nerds that is firmly based in technology as an example of how it is rapidly reshaping society.

      That's why it's on slashdot, it fits the bill.

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    14. Re:FFS by phantomfive · · Score: 3, Insightful

      This is also an example of technology pushing social change further than it has ever been able to go by itself.

      Ineffective boycotts are farther than technology has ever gone? No, we've had ineffective boycotts long before then. Remember when Chic-fil-a closed because of the boycott? Neither do I.

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    15. Re:FFS by Zero__Kelvin · · Score: 3, Funny

      I know I'm not considering purchasing Italy any more, that's for sure!

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    16. Re: FFS by Poorcku · · Score: 2, Insightful

      It is one of the most obscene and vulgar uses of a non-scientific term. Not only it isn't a valid scientific construct (Homophobia is not listed in any version of DSM and/or ICD) but it masquerades as one (since it has the suffix -phobia) which makes it even more dangerous. It implies a disorder when there is none making your "opponent" defending his ideas from an untenable position. The one who came up with this idea is a genius and should go to hell.

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    17. Re: FFS by Samantha+Wright · · Score: 3, Insightful

      The -phobia suffix has been used to demarcate prejudices since long, long before the DSM was even conceived of. "Gallophobia" (fear/hate of the Gallic people, i.e. the French) dates back to 1840 at the latest. You are mistaken to presume it necessarily implies a disorder, or any sort of academic authority.

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    18. Re:FFS by artor3 · · Score: 3, Insightful

      What constructive dialog are you talking about?

      Some liberals were pissed that the owner was a homophobe. Some conservatives rallied to support the homophobe just to spite the liberals. Some asshole mayor tried to ban Chik-fil-a from his town. And then nothing happened.

      The only thing to come out of it was that Americans were left hating their neighbors slightly more than they did before.

    19. Re: FFS by Poorcku · · Score: 2, Insightful

      Usually these kinds of "phobias" are described as fear, prejudice, hatred, discrimination, or hostility towards the object of the "phobia".

      But our Barilla guy did not any show any of these: disapproval was all it took to get labeled. I call shenanigans. And as a psychologist I am terribly upset by the lack of harsh positioning on the APA's side. While they disapprove of liberal use of clinical terminology they do not do anything more.

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    20. Re: FFS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Interesting

      If he is allowed to run he company as he wishes, he should be prepared to deal with the backlash when spouting out such homophobic responses. If you are the chairman of a company you must keep in mind your public image because you are not just representing yourself when you speak out like this. Especially, if you are talking about your companies products.

      He is NOT homophobic is he decides for whatever reason (religion i suspect) that he doesn't want his company to promote a lifestyle he doesn't agree with. He didn't say gay people could not buy his pasta or that gay people should be put in pasta free concentration camps. He didn't even tell gay people to not be gay. He just said he didn't want gay people advertising his product. His company, his right to do that. He did not take away anyone's freedom. As if who you have sex with is some kind of protected civil liberty.

    21. Re:FFS by AlphaWolf_HK · · Score: 3, Insightful

      The thing with this is there's a difference between a boycott, and then threatening them, their customers, sponsors, partners, etc with physical violence. All too often the later is what ends up happening. That cupcake business for example didn't stop because they had no customers, they had to stop because they were in fear for their lives. That is where the freedom of speech comes in.

      Somebody cracking a gay joke or not wanting to put a gay themed ad out doesn't deserve that kind of thing. Even if you don't agree, the first amendment does.

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    22. Re: FFS by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Technically, he didn't spout a homophobic response. His original response was to the question of whether or not they would target gays in commercials by showing gay couples to which he responded no. He further responded if gays liked his pasta they would buy it, if not they would buy somebody elses. He didn't see the need to treat gays as a separate demographic when dealing with pasta (do gays really have different pasta needs then non-gays?) It is the media that has turned this around into an anti-gay thing.

    23. Re:FFS by Zirbert · · Score: 3, Insightful

      If you are a photographer, you cannot be forced or coerced to take photographs of somebody's wedding. That is your choice (the same would not be true, if you were a doctor, though). Purchasing health insurance is also a personal decision and who you decide to purchase it from does not violate anybody else's rights.

      OTOH, if you are a photographer, and other people disagree with your decision on which weddings you chose to photograph or not, they are free to choose other photographers and there isn't anything you can do about that, either, as it is their right to do so.

      Ahh, if only that were true:

      http://www.businessinsider.com/new-mexico-court-ruling-on-gay-weddings-2013-8

      SANTA FE, N.M. (AP) — A commercial photography business owned by opponents of same-sex marriage violated New Mexico's anti-discrimination law by refusing to take pictures of a gay couple's commitment ceremony, the state's highest court ruled Thursday....Justice Richard Bosson wrote that the business owners "have to channel their conduct, not their beliefs, so as to leave space for other Americans who believe something different."

    24. Re: FFS by ShieldW0lf · · Score: 2, Insightful

      How is disagreeing with someone a sign of fear (phobia)?

      Disagreement is taking an opposing intellectual position. Homophobia, like other forms of bigotry, is not an intellectual position.

      It is not necessarily a fear -- it is often misleading to attempt to figure out the meaning of a word by looking at its to etymology.

      Homosexuals reject procreation. That's not an intellectual position to take. People have both a civic and moral duty to procreate. A culture based around sustaining enough population to maintain itself through immigration is a) parasitic, b) evil and c) fundamentally self destructive.

      The social contract where you get to relax and let the young people take care of things when you're old and tired relies on everyone paying into the system. Not with money. With babies. Nothing else will do, there's nothing else you can create that will fill the gap left behind if you don't make those babies.

      If you don't pay in, but you take out, you're a thief. It really doesn't matter if you like babies or not, or if you like members of the opposite sex or not. People don't like going to work, but they do it because it's necessary for it to be done.

      People like to act as though this was an issue of prejudice, but it isn't.

      Believing that gay people are weak and unfit to do hard work is prejudicial, and thus, irrational. Some gay people are very strong, and you won't know until you investigate.

      Believing that gay people don't hold up their part of the social contract that makes it possible for us to survive when we grow old, however, is NOT prejudicial. When they tell you they're gay, you don't need to investigate further. You know they're not doing it.

      Opposing the normalization of homosexuality is a rational act.

      Promoting it to young people in an effort to sway them to embrace it has the same effect as attempting to persuade them to take drugs that will sterilize them. It's an attempt to do them harm.

      You know what else is irrational?

      Idealism carried too far.

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    25. Re: FFS by Sardaukar86 · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Homosexuals reject procreation. That's not an intellectual position to take. People have both a civic and moral duty to procreate.

      If that is your genuine feeling then please allow me to offer a hearty "fuck you". Who the fucking hell are you to tell me I have a moral and civic duty to procreate?

      Given the shithole we're busily making out of our little planet Earth, I see it as my moral and civic duty to NOT procreate.

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    26. Re: FFS by Yosho · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Homosexuals reject procreation. That's not an intellectual position to take. People have both a civic and moral duty to procreate. A culture based around sustaining enough population to maintain itself through immigration is a) parasitic, b) evil and c) fundamentally self destructive.

      The social contract where you get to relax and let the young people take care of things when you're old and tired relies on everyone paying into the system. Not with money. With babies. Nothing else will do, there's nothing else you can create that will fill the gap left behind if you don't make those babies.

      Hahahah. Wow. Seriously, this is hilarious. I would think you're a troll, but you seem so level-headed about it, and you sound a lot like some Objectivists I've talked to.

      Homosexuals don't "reject procreation" at all. They are attracted to members of the same sex. That's it. They don't "reject procreation" any more than heterosexual couples that use birth control. Gay men and lesbian women are still perfectly fertile and capable of having children -- and sometimes they do! Sometimes they also like to adopt and care for orphaned children. I don't know if you've looked at an orphanage or adoption agency recently, but there is no shortage of children whose parents either could not or would not take care of them. Do you feel the same way about heterosexual couples who don't have more than two children? They're not doing their job to overpopulate the world!

      It seems like you think being homosexual is some kind of choice. There's no such thing as "promoting" it. People don't suddenly decide that being gay is cool and switch who they're attracted to. The only thing that not being prejudiced against gay people will do is make people who are already gay happier. The only consequence of people "embracing" their homosexuality is that they won't hate themselves because of people telling them they're evil.

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    27. Re:FFS by raju1kabir · · Score: 2

      A wise man once said, "I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it." These boycotts run opposite that spirit.

      No they don't. They don't take away anyone's right to say anything.

      What they may do, however, is affect the consequences of saying things that upset people.

      And, critically, they make it possible for people with little or no voice to react in some way to high-profile speakers who have large audiences.

      That's an improvement in my book.

      Otherwise, under your system, the rich and powerful can say anything they want into their microphones, and everyone else has to just sit there and shut up and listen.

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    28. Re:FFS by raju1kabir · · Score: 2

      Social and/or business consequences, yes. Legal consequences, no, as I've already made clear.

      How would you envision a world in which there were no consequences for speaking?

      And what would be the point of opening your mouth in such a world?

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    29. Re:FFS by phantomfive · · Score: 2

      The purpose of the boycott is to use social pressure to get them to stop talking. If people say, "I won't listen to you anymore," that is one thing.

      If the goal is to get them to stop talking, and that is your goal, then once again, you are among the few people I hate.

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  3. Re:Facebook? by game+kid · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Seriously, Slashdot should continue adding "(PDF warning)" to PDF links, and add "(Facebook warning)" in the same fashion to fb links.

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  4. Re:He just sold a hell of a lot of pasta by Yosho · · Score: 2

    Well, you're right that "phobia" isn't really the best term. They're not scared, they're just assholes. "Bigot" might be a better term, but it's not quite as specific as "homophobic" is.

    But for that matter, homosexuality isn't really deviancy; you don't have to indulge in it, just don't discriminate against it; and you can call anybody anything you want thanks to free speech.

    Not liking pasta, now that's deviancy.

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  5. Where can I buy their products in US ? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Funny

    I want to support someone normal.

    1. Re:Where can I buy their products in US ? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Informative

      I will be sure to buy only Barilla pasta from now on.
      He has his opinion and that's all, after-all it is his business.
      Why should eveyone bow to whatever gays say.
      Because of their constant bull shit I went from being open minded to not supporting them.
      I think they should shut the fuck up and let other's have their opinions.

  6. Re:Who knew pasta was so important? by PPH · · Score: 2

    Who does he think he is? A Hollywood actor?

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  7. Re:Old people by Nightlight3 · · Score: 4, Interesting

    Each generation is brainwashed into a different Matrix. 'Founding Fathers' and other great men until 1960s would by today's brainwashing be denounced as racist, sexist homophobes. Kids of tomorrow may denounce you as a hateful old polygamophobe, pedophilophobe, zoophilophobe, necrophilophobe, fetishphobe, toesuckingphobe, kleptophobe.... And then you too will wonder, what the heck is wrong with these kids, while they will insist that you vet your public speaking with younger, more enlightened folks before making a fool out of yourself. Having lived in a communist country as it flipped into its exact opposite, then not long after that it flipped back, you wouldn't believe how quickly and how thoroughly the tune in schools and media changes the dominant mythology to its complete opposite. Once you experience it, you can't take any of them very seriously.

    Of course, not all Matrices are created equal. Since each Matrix is a computational process, working out yet another provisional solution to the social harmonization puzzle, you can't know which is a good and which a poor solution until some time time has passed and the latest experimental solution had a chance to get tested under variety of conditions. As the old book taught, you will know them by their fruits.

  8. Re:Cashing in on the Chick-fil-A effect by Nidi62 · · Score: 2

    On a lighter note with chick-fil-a profits at an all time high what does this chairman have to fear but fear itself?

    Apples to oranges. Dry pasta is pretty much indistinguishable between brands when cooked. Chik-fil-a has pretty much no competitor in the South in regards to their core product (you can tell a difference between a chikfila sandwich and its equivalent from, say McDonalds). There is much more loyalty to brands in the fast food industry than there is in pasta. There is also the fact that a CEOs personal belief really doesn't matter all that much. People have other overriding concerns: for example I have no problem with gays or gay marriage, but I like chikfila so I buy it (not too often though as I try to stay away from fast food) and if I need pasta and it is on sale, I will probably buy Barilla if it is cheapest. I don't care what the CEOs think about gay marriage, or their preference regarding boxers or briefs or hell, even women's underwear, who am I to judge? Because none of that really matters.

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  9. Re:Facebook? by mcgrew · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Seriously, Slashdot should... add "(Facebook warning)" in the same fashion to fb links.

    Your browser doesn't show the URL of a link you hover over?

  10. Re:He just sold a hell of a lot of pasta by mcgrew · · Score: 2

    Well, you're right that "phobia" isn't really the best term. They're not scared, they're just assholes.

    Wikipedia says "A phobia (from the Greek: ÏÏOEÎÎÏ, Phobos, meaning "fear" or "morbid fear") is, when used in the context of clinical psychology, a type of anxiety disorder". Most homophobes aren't afraid of homosexuals, but they are disturbed by them which makes "homophobe" a perfectly fitting description.

    Personally, I don't want anyone shoving their sexuality in my face, whether homo or hetero. Your sexuality is none of my fucking business and I don't want to hear about it unless you're a lesbian and I'm hitting on you; I don't want to be offensive and it would be offensive of me to knowingly hit on a lesbian.

    "Bigot" might be a better term
    Webster's:

    Full Definition of BIGOT
    : a person who is obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance

    "Bigot" is a perfect description.

  11. Re:Facebook? by metlin · · Score: 4, Informative

    Not on mobile devices.

  12. Gay community takes themselves down a notch? by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Interesting

    Firstly, why are Barilla's remarks considered anti-gay? I don't feel they are. His position is that if you like his pasta, gay or not, you are free to buy it.

    Secondly, there is no universal "book of law" that states Barilla's beliefs & values must reflect anybody or everybody else's. Hypocrisy abounds. The fervor of gay community elements have reached shrieking "reverse discrimination" pitches.

    Thirdly, Barilla owes nothing to the gay community. He makes pasta. I think if he doesn't want to feature homosexuality as a cornerstone to a freaking pasta advertisement, that should be his choice. Why should he be forced politicize pasta?

    1. Re:Gay community takes themselves down a notch? by UnknownSoldier · · Score: 2

      Exactly.

      Can we mod the article as: -1, Overblown Knee-Jerk Reaction

      Who gives a shit about the *opinion* of some businessman.

  13. Re:Apologies... by ozydingo · · Score: 2

    Sometimes apologies don't mean shit. It's far more important to know what people really believe.

    Which is one of the reasons I did/do not support this boycott. Best I could tell, he expressed his opinion, but wasn't or isn't actively trying to suppress gay rights. If we boycott companies for honestly stating opinions, as is my read of this situation (please inform me of any more relevant details, however), then we don't change their opinions, we just change what they say. Everybody loses.

  14. Re:Cashing in on the Chick-fil-A effect by ozydingo · · Score: 2

    I guarantee you that if you by any pasta, or really any product at all, you're supporting someone whose views you don't agree with.

  15. Mountain out of a molehill by Solandri · · Score: 4, Informative

    Snopes actually has a pretty good summary of the situation. The guy supports gay rights and gay marriage. He is, however, against adoption by gay parents (because it involves a person who has no choice in the matter). He wants advertisements for his pasta to focus on families, and since his beliefs (and biology) prohibit gay parents from having kids, they cannot appear in his ads.

    1. Re:Mountain out of a molehill by Yosho · · Score: 2, Insightful

      He is, however, against adoption by gay parents (because it involves a person who has no choice in the matter).

      That prompts the question, why isn't he against adoption by heterosexual parents?

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    2. Re:Mountain out of a molehill by AmiMoJo · · Score: 2

      Implicit in that argument is that there is a reason why a child might not want to be adopted by gay parents.

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  16. Re:I've always wanted... by Zirbert · · Score: 2

    ...to find a way to boycott the boycotters. "Fine, it's your right to boycott Barilla (or Florida or whatever the cause du jour is) but fuck you, we're all going to boycott YOUR business because of it. That's MY right."

    The problem is that the most enthusiastic and noisiest boycotters tend not to do anything economically productive that could be boycotted in return.

    I can't cite the exact source or wording offhand, but P.J. O'Rourke, when asked why liberal causes can generally bring out more marchers, ralliers, and volunteers activists than conservative ones, said, "Because we have jobs."

  17. But that's not what is happening here by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Interesting

    The pasta company said it happily serves gays, sells to gays, etc (no anti-gay anything) but that the corporate image is of a traditional family sitting down to a home-cooked (cooked by a mom, no less) meal... and that gays in the ads would be inconsistent with that corporate image (which it would). Corporate images are very important parts of marketing plans (think KFC and "the Colonel") the image does not have to be logical, rational, etc (Budweiser frogs?) but it is important for branding that it be consistent.

    Ahh, but OH NO! the uber-tolerant left finds this completely INTOLERABLE!!!!

    Under the rules of "tolerance" we may all think what we think and believe what we believe and live as we wish to live... unless we disagree with them and their ever-mutating, evolving standards. The moment somebody says something that can be in some way twisted into so-called "hate speech", these paragons of peace, love and tolerance HATE him. Off with his head! Destroy his business! His right to freedom ends anywhere their rhetorical fists choose to fly. They refuse to acknowledge his right to market to average families with the images of average families. By this standard, gays should be banned from using gay imagery to market products to gays (by not using straights, they are being HATERS!)

    The extreme dishonesty and duplicity of the left on cultural issues is tiresome and juvenile... it's where you end up when the focus of your life is on what's between your legs (see: gay pride parade)