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An anonymous reader writes: Next year will be the start of my 10th year as a software developer. For the last nice years I've worked for a variety of companies, large and small, on projects of varying sizes. During my career, I have noticed that many of the older software developers are burnt out. They would rather do their 9-5, get paid, and go home. They have little, if any, passion left, and I constantly wonder how they became this way. This contradicts my way of thinking; I consider myself to have some level of passion for what I do, and I enjoy going home knowing I made some kind of difference.

Needless to say, I think I am starting to see the effects of complacency. In my current job, I have a development manager who is difficult to deal with on a technical level. He possesses little technical knowledge of basic JavaEE concepts, nor has kept up on any programming in the last 10 years. There is a push from the upper echelon of the business to develop a new, more scalable system, but they don't realize that my manager is the bottleneck. Our team is constantly trying to get him to agree on software industry standards/best practices, but he doesn't get it and often times won't budge. I'm starting to feel the effects of becoming complacent. What is your advice?

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  1. risk something by bugs2squash · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Design a system or an improvement to a system, argue that it should be used. Defend your ideas. Stop depending on your manager to put your ideas forward. That should solve the problem one way or another. You'll either be up to your eyeballs in responsibility for a project or out on the streets pretty rapidly I should think.

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    1. Re:risk something by pspahn · · Score: 5, Insightful

      The last time I did this, I was labeled "toxic".

      Best severance envelope ever.

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  2. Business by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    >Our team is constantly trying to get him to agree on software industry standards/best practices,
    Maybe your team is full of snot-nosed upstarts trying to push the latest fad techniques on him, and he doesn't see things your way.
    Maybe not. But I'm only hearing one side of the story.

    If your way really is better, maybe it's better to have him replaced.

    1. Re:Business by gestalt_n_pepper · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Yeah, here's the thing about being complacent.

      If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Software isn't always better because it's new. Procedures either. I'm not about to have anybody use Ruby, just because some 20-something new hire things it's cool. And while I like Agile, I know that it works only because the team meets every day, forces them to track real progress vs estimates, measures what's happening in real time and basically keeps their eye on the ball. Stuff I was doing about a decade before the word, "agile" existed.

      So, color me unimpressed by Powershell, Agile, objective C, json and Azure. These technologies are neat and sometimes useful, but ONLY if they solve a problem and/or IMPROVE something - a test many new technologies fail, pathetically (e.g. 100 lines of powershell to do what one line of "NET USE xxxx" does).

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    2. Re:Business by spaceyhackerlady · · Score: 5, Insightful

      Umm... JSON is a pretty significant force behind modern Web design. Without it, the Web would still be a pretty static place.

      Judging by the number of broken web sites I've seen lately, we could use a bit more staticness and a bit less dynamicness. :-}

      ...laura

    3. Re:Business by serviscope_minor · · Score: 4, Insightful

      Judging by the number of broken web sites I've seen lately, we could use a bit more staticness and a bit less dynamicness

      And a good deal faster too. It seems to be very fashionable now to use heaps of mandatory JS to serve up what in the end amounts to some text with a few images and perhaps a link or two. In other words exactly what HTML was designed to do, except it used 20M of JS libraries, hogs the CPU for a few minutes to render and is otherwise horrid.

      But hey, it uses a different font to the default.

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    4. Re:Business by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I'm 55, 25yrs experience, I've been the boss and don't want to do it again, I work my contracted 8hrs because my employer is a mega-corp, not a charity. I may look burnt out to a 20-something but I certainly don't feel it. My main gig is looking after the large cvs repository and automated build process I was hired to build ~10yrs ago. I've learned a whole bunch of scripting languages and tools in those 10yrs and forgotten a whole lot more. I make a comfortable living being the grumpy old fart sitting on the code repository, my pay is roughly twice the national full time average but still 10's of thousands less per annum than in the the late 90's.

      Over the years I've observed that workload is like used disk space, it rapidly expands to fill the available hours. If you habitually work 12-16hr days when paid for 8 it becomes an expectation to the point where the boss will sometimes complain if you cut back to the contracted 8. If you work 8 and occasionally stay back to put out a serious fire, you are invariably thanked for the extra effort (and won't burn out so quickly). Doesn't matter who the boss is, this almost universal behaviour seems to be one of those strange social quirks we humans posses. Basically if you act like a "whore" people will (subconsciously) treat you like one.

      Besides, I didn't go to uni so that I could earn the same HOURLY rate as the factory shift work I was leaving behind.

  3. Never had passion in the first place by ranton · · Score: 2, Insightful

    I find it just as likely that these workers never had passion in the first place. They were knowlegeable of the current trends right out of college because they spent the last four years learning them. But as soon as they left college the learning stopped. It wasn't noticeable for the first 5-10 years, but as the industry shifts it starts to become more obvious.

    Everyone I know who was passionate about this industry in college has stayed passonate today (almost 15 years later). Some have switched to the business side and have become passionate there instead, but that internal drive is still there.

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  4. Find new problems to solve by alphazulu0 · · Score: 3, Insightful

    At its core, programming is about solving problems. But solving the same problem over and over is mind-numbing. Seek out interesting/challenging problems to solve and you'll stay engaged and passionate.

    az0

  5. Here's why by jeremylichtman · · Score: 4, Insightful

    To stay on top as a developer, you need to learn new things every single day. As one gets older, that becomes harder - and for many people it eventually becomes more work than its worth. At that point a clock starts ticking. Three years...five years...at some point somebody who doesn't learn something new about software every single day will get out of date. The other thing is something my dad warned me about decades ago - as one gets older, there's a good chance that people problems become more interesting that software problems. If that's the case, then lack of enthusiasm probably equates to boredom - and again, the clock starts ticking.

  6. 2 options by greywire · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Use your passion to either:

    A) Leave.

    B) Or take over.

    Well of course there's a third option: stay and have your soul crushed. But who would choose that?

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  7. Truly an unanswerable question by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    "I'm young and enthusiastic, and can't understand how older people aren't as young and enthusiastic as me."

  8. Embrace the burnout by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 5, Insightful

    Accept the burnout with open arms. Embrace it. Know it and love it. Take your other 16 hours per day and do things that profit you instead of your task masters.

  9. Not necessary complacent... by ageoffri · · Score: 5, Insightful

    I've got almost 20 years in IT, mostly in various aspects of security. I don't consider myself complacent at all, but at the same time I'd much rather work the 9-5 M-F then put in lots of hours. In my 20's I thought that the more hours you worked, the more it showed the company that you were valuable. Sure I got top ratings but I was only focused on my career. These days I consider it a source of pride that my overtime for last year was less than 10%. I'd rather spend time with my wife, with my friends, doing things that are fun. I stopped working to work and now work to enjoy life. I'm so much happier and the hours I put in our more productive, after about 10 hours pretty much everyone is better off calling it a day.

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    1. Re:Not necessary complacent... by Jason+Levine · · Score: 5, Insightful

      I grew up watching my father leave for work at 5am, come home at 6pm with a stack of work, do work at nights, and do more work on the weekends. His excuse was that his bosses saw him producing a certain level of output and he needed to keep it up. He's retired now. Do you know what all that extra work got him? Laid off when someone else with better connections wanted his job.

      When I first started my job, I made it clear that I wasn't going to do this. I'm willing to remote in if there's a problem that can't wait until morning, but that's the exception, not the rule. I get into work at 8am, leave at 4:30pm, and stop thinking about work the minute I leave the doors. Granted, I love what I do - web development - so I'll often freelance or work on my own stuff on the side, but that's my choice. I'll also put that stuff on the side to teach my boys how to ride their bikes or to watch Doctor Who with them.

      I enjoy my job, but part of what keeps me enjoying it is that I don't let it take over my life.

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    2. Re:Not necessary complacent... by egranlund · · Score: 4, Insightful

      I don't consider myself complacent at all, but at the same time I'd much rather work the 9-5 M-F then put in lots of hours.

      Yeah, I don't think working 9-5 is a sign of "losing your passion", it's a sign that you get your work done and go home to do other things your passionate about.

      If anything, working a ton of hours is just a sign that you're either: going to burn out in a year once it catches up with you, that you're more worried about looking like you're "dedicated", or that you're just screwing around most of the day and need to work long hours to finish the stuff you're getting paid for.

  10. Get a (New) Job by Tau+Neutrino · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Speaking from my personal experience (which is my only qualification to speak at all), keeping a steady stream of new and different jobs does the trick. I've been programming professionally for thirty-five years. I've never had a gig that lasted more than three. Some are "permanent", some contracts, some on-site, some remote. Many of them have great promise at the start ("I could retire with this job"), but something always changes. The project is finished, or cancelled, the company goes broke, or sees a major shift in direction, management changes and has different priorities than before. Some times it just doesn't work out.

    But the end result is that I'm in no danger of becoming complacent. There's always new stuff to learn, new projects to pursue. I'm still having fun.

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  11. Grow the fuck up by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Those "burnt out" developers you don't want to become have learnt not to be exploited. Simply continue to do the best job you can in the time you have WITHOUT sacrificing all your personal time and WITHOUT becoming embroiled in some petty power play because there's no reward for working yourself to death.

  12. Instead of advice, I have a question. by Lilith's+Heart-shape · · Score: 2, Insightful

    What's it like to be a sucker who lets his bosses exploit his passion for computing for profit? You see, I'm one of those older programmers who keeps up in order to stay "employable", but has no passion for the work. I only do it because it pays better than cleaning toilets, and I'm good at it.

  13. Adapt or go crazy. Simple as that. by pla · · Score: 3, Insightful

    I constantly wonder how they became this way.

    Someday, you will get a project with physically (or at least, mathematically) impossible requirements. You will, rightly, point this out. You will end up needing to doing it anyway.

    This won't happen just once. Over the course of your career, you will literally lose count of the number of such requests.

    You therefore have two choices - Stop caring, or have an aneurysm from frustration and rage.

    Note, however, that you don't need to lose your love of coding. You just need to learn to accept, with a calm and detached indifference, that your paycheck requires you to write defective-by-design code. If it helps, you can make little games out of it - As one of my personal favorites, I write the code to function correctly and then, as the last step before showing something to the user, I throw it all away and replace the results with the requested garbage.

  14. Complacency or fatigue? by westlake · · Score: 3, Insightful

    I think I am starting to see the effects of complacency.

    Aren't you confusing complacency with fatigue? Passion with commitment? There is a price to be paid for the adrenalin high.

  15. Re:Leave by Anrego · · Score: 4, Insightful

    Totally agree.

    If you've got 10 years experience, that puts you in your prime. You've got the experience to be valuable, but are still affordable. I assume you're also at a point in your life where you can afford a little financial risk. It's time to use this to get into a job that you will enjoy and has the kind of work culture you want.

    A lot of people out of school take the first gig that's willing to hire them. Some by random chance end up loving the job, others learn to accept it but gradually burn out. You sound like the second type. Time for a change.

  16. Wage slave by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 2, Insightful

    You are a sucker if you are a wage slave and have no significant equity in the company you are working for, and still spend your extra time working for free. Take actual control of your life instead of showing blind passion and loyalty to an institution that doesn't give a fuck about you. The programmers leaving at 5 are smarter than you because unlike you, they know they are slaves.

  17. Re:Change Jobs by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 3, Insightful

    Here are the things to watch out for when scouting a new company
    1. Do they have an extended set of job classifications that do NOT require that you become a manager?
    2. Is the HR department adversarial to the development staff?
    3. Are development managers allowed to continue with technical skill development?
    4. Are Human Resources and paper-pushing provided as a service, or are they your masters?

    I have worked for companies that are designed to support the retention and successful use of technical staff
    These companies work to either allow people to continue their careers through an extended set of technical positions, or allow you to remain technical as a manager
    Some companies wanted to have their management come from the technical team, if they are smart, they provide HR and paper-pushing as a service to those managers to keep them from becoming stale and worthless

    Most companies do not do this, they force people into management, then strangle their skill set by forcing them to become jibber-jabbering paper pushers who are more centered on sucking up to some exec to get their budget passed than learning the new set of tools their team should be using

    Look out for the warning signs and avoid those companies like a plague

  18. 9-5 isn't always "burnt out" by ErichTheRed · · Score: 4, Insightful

    As the dad of two young kids, just finding time to work, spend a reasonable amount of time being there for them, doing the daily chores around the house and (maybe) sleeping is a miracle some days. Older people who work 9-5 and have families want to keep them. Especially if their spouse/partner also works, there's _never_ enough time to do anything. I used to be able to do whatever crazy crunch project (I'm in systems engineering, not development, but it's not that dissimilar.) Now, I'm finding that there really has to be a justification for spending the extra effort. It is a trade off - even if I wanted to, which I don't, I couldn't go work for a startup and pull back to back 90 hour weeks. Being a dad and doing it right is a massive time commitment. Whenever I hear about anyone who is having a kid soon, I frankly tell them that they need to go and do everything they wanted to do in the next few months...because sometimes it seems like there's zero free time. And when you do have downtime, you're so wiped out that you can't do anything other than crash.

    That said, as one gets older and more experienced, they're less likely to make the mistakes that require the constant 90 hour weeks. And what you may see as burnout may just be people getting wise to the fact that it's not worth slaving over a job. You owe it to the company to work hard while you're there, I grant you that. But people who have lives outside of work really need that work/life split that everyone keeps trying to get rid of. My strategy for dealing with this is as follows -- I know I have to keep my skills at least somewhat fresh in case I'm unexpectedly unemployed. So I try to add myself to just about anything new at work (and usually succeed.) That covers a lot of the skill building. And yes, I do have to spend a fair amount of time reading and tinkering outside of work, but that's been severely curtailed. I think it'll get better once the kiddies can do more things for themselves, but for now it's a real challenge.

  19. Some Perspective is in Order by luis_a_espinal · · Score: 3, Insightful
    Sources - 18 years of experience doing all kind of stuff, Java, C, C++, DevOps, Enterprisey stuff, Embedded, for commercial and defense sectors. 45 years old, married, two little kids and going back to grad school a third time.

    Next year will be the start of my 10th year as a software developer. For the last nice years I've worked for a variety of companies, large and small, on projects of varying sizes. During my career, I have noticed that many of the older software developers are burnt out. They would rather do their 9-5, get paid, and go home.

    Family does that. Specially kids. I need to be home early to be with them, read to them, help them eat, clean themselves, let them see me (and feel and understand I actually give a shit). When I was single I would work at any hour. Not anymore. That does not mean, however, that my work is strictly 9-5. I wake up at 5AM to get myself ready, log in, do some work, then get ready (and help my wife get my kids ready). Then I log back to work via VPN from 9 to 10, sometimes going to bed till midnight... with just 5 hours to go sleep to start again.

    I easily make 55a week just like that. More if I do work on weekends. But 9-5 is the strict window I use to be in the office.

    A lot of 9-5'ers are like that, and in addition to all that, we see the same shit repeating itself again and again, from one employer to the next. So what you call "lack of passion" might actually be work-related pragmatism combined with some physical exhaustion and simply the necessary notgiveashitis gene kicking off to save your brain from dying after witnessing the same inane shit rendering itself at work for the millionth time.

    The passion is there, is just that we move it out of work and into other things, like family and career (which is distinct from work.)

    They have little, if any, passion left, and I constantly wonder how they became this way.

    Life. Life will happen and will change your perspective and priorities. YOU. WILL. SEE.

    This contradicts my way of thinking; I consider myself to have some level of passion for what I do, and I enjoy going home knowing I made some kind of difference.

    But that is the thing. You are projecting. How do you know that other people are not made some kind of difference? They are likely making a difference *somewhere else*.

    Also, as we get older we become more efficient with our time. I can do a lot more know with less time than what I could do when I had 10 years of experience (and certainly much more when I started my career.) We burn a lot of hours thinking it is necessary, we do not know how to prioritize or say no to crazy demands. We freak out, and we go into a professional-related frenzy, willing to burn the midnight oil to compensate for a lot of things.

    We have a lot of energy when we start. But energy is not necessarily passion. And not all forms of professional passions are constructive. As we get older, family or not, we learn to pick our battles and seek out the lowest hanging fruits, the 20% that make up the 80%. It is then when we begin to be true engineers, not just berserker hackers.

    Needless to say, I think I am starting to see the effects of complacency. In my current job,

    Unless you are developing the ultimate shit, or have a wonderful work experience with your managers, or are developing your own business, never, ever, be passionate about your job. Be passionate about your career, but not your job. Your job is the conduct by which you make money using your career. Display work ethics, and be willing to go the extra mile when needed. But don't confuse that with passion. That's just work ethics, which we should all display.

    I have a development manager who is difficult to deal with on a technical level. He possesses little technical knowledge of basic JavaEE concepts, nor has kept up on any programming in the la

  20. Re:Change Jobs by KingMotley · · Score: 3, Insightful

    And this is exactly what you don't want.

    First, the managers don't need to know a lot of the technical details beyond an overview, and they need to be able to trust their developers to give them good information, and listen when they give advice. Any company that tries to have their managers both retain top notch technical skills using the latest technologies AND be a competent manager is doing it WRONG.

  21. here you go... by buddyglass · · Score: 1, Insightful
    Let me fix that for you:

    Next year will be the start of my 10th year as a software developer. For the last nine years I've worked for a variety of companies, large and small, on projects of varying sizes. During my career, I have noticed that many of the older software developers prioritize activities other than software development. They would rather do their 9-5, get paid, and go home. They have little, if any, desire to code for the sake of coding left, and I constantly wonder how they became this way. This contradicts my way of thinking; I have rationalized my obsession by calling it passion for what I do, and I enjoy going home self-importantly believing I made some kind of difference.

    Needless to say, I think I am starting to see the effects of having a crappy manager. In my current job, I have a development manager who is difficult to deal with on a technical level. He possesses little technical knowledge of basic JavaEE concepts, nor has kept up on any programming in the last 10 years. There is a push from the upper echelon of the business to develop a new, more scalable system, but they don't realize that my manager is the bottleneck. Our team is constantly trying to get him to agree on software industry standards/best practices, but he doesn't get it and often times won't budge. I'm starting to feel the effects of having a crappy manager. What is your advice?

    My advice?

    1. Try to have some perspective. It's not "complacency" when someone wants to spend time with his family instead of working overtime without pay.
    2. Recognize that your manager's problem isn't so much complacency as it is an exaggerated opinion of his own technical competency. He thinks he knows and understands more than he actually does, hence his steadfast refusal to consider the possibility that his team's ideas are actually better than his own.
    3. Consider the possibility, however remote, that you may be the one with an exaggerated opinion of your own technical competency and that, just maybe, your manager's vision for the project actually has some advantages. You may end up concluding that this possibility is extremely unlikely; if so, that's fine.
    4. Since your manager sounds like kind of a jerk starting looking for another job. If your skills and/or credentials are such that finding another job is difficult then start the process of acquiring new skills and/or credentials so you won't have that problem in the future.

  22. Re:Change Jobs by lgw · · Score: 3, Insightful

    I have found that asking the following about a potential workplace is a remarkably good predictor of the entire work culture and acceptability for devs:
    * What version control tool is used
    * What bug tracking system is used
    * What technological measures are in place to prevent anyone breaking the build, with no need to back out changes
    * What automated testing infrastructure is in place, and are new check-ins automatically sanity-checked immediately

    You can really learn a lot from the tools used. Are the tools in place those that devs would choose, or some horrible crap sold to management by a good sales guy? Did projects to make dev life better by automating the programmer workflow get funded, or get blocked? How short-sighted is management when it comes to productivity?

    Software dev as an industry is out of the downturn. Demand is way ahead of supply right now, mostly because devs still think there's no point in looking. Well, times have changed, and a dev has a lot of "pricing power" right now. E.g., my team has quite a few open positions, no one with experience seems to be looking, and we're definitely not going to lose anyone qualified we actually manage to find due to being cheap!

    Most companies do not do this, they force people into management,

    Sign of an engineering field that hasn't matured yet. Most big companies do have engineering promotion paths all the way up to VP-equivalent now, so that's something, but you still don't see as many devs in paygrades equivalent to senior management as you see senior dev managers. They're not really taking that career path as seriously as high-tech "real engineering" jobs yet. But, yeah, at least find a place that has a non-management paygrade above the one you're applying for!

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  23. Re:For many it's not burnout but disillusion by TapeCutter · · Score: 4, Insightful

    I mostly agree but I would say that a good engineer provides (and meets) a deadline of his own making. Good managers have clear business plans but they can't create them if software systems randomly pop out of the basement shouting "surprise". The most overlooked and underrated skill for a "professional" engineer is business administration skills (and vica-versa with PHB's). Someone who speaks both languages is far more useful than someone who speaks only his native tongue.

    Yeah it's easy to become disillusioned, if you don't have the political clout to organise your own work and "lead by example" to meet their vague goals, then get it or get out. If you do have some influence then vague, numerous, and ever changing management goals are your best weapon against the idiocracy, simply pick the brain farts that give you license to do TheRightThing(tm) and politely deflect the others.

    *you - the royal version.

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  24. My passion is as high as always ... by Qbertino · · Score: 3, Insightful

    My passion is as high as always, only the world has changed and I've become wiser. Mind you, I've still broken my personal record in job-switching in the last 2 years, despite being in my mid-40ies. If anything, with age I've become *more* nimble but less anoyingly eager - at least on the outside.

    Here's some advice:
    1.) Switch your job. Don't worry, you'll live. And if only it is to find out that you had the best job in the world. Ok them, *now* you know. Look for the next one like that. Sometimes a bit of jobhopping is required to find out what you want and what you don't want. Pratice job-hopping and interviewing. Not to make it a habit, but to get used to looking until you've found a place where you are valued. Going freelance is a variant to that. If you're scared of going freelance even though you'd like to: Go freelance! Again: You'll live. And you'll never look back at your old life with anything other than pitty.

    2.) More experienced people in our field - like me - would rather do nothing than work with a shitty team unwilling to learn or toil away on something that can't work or only will work with extreme stress and effort, because someone in sales or PM wasn't listening and didn't do his homework. Contrary to my younger colleagues, I, like most other experienced in our field, smell a projekt doomed to fail from 10 miles away. They might think I'm not passionate or that I'm complacent. Until three weeks later they've wasted 50hrs trying to get something to work that simply can't under the given circumstances. When the project finally runs against the wall and the crew and the problem has everyones attention, the boss turns to me. I say: "We need A,B and C. Otherwise this won't work. End of Story." Optionally, depending on the situation, I add in ".... As I said 3 months ago.". Sidenote: I allways *did* say it 3 months ago, but sometimes it's wiser not to rub it in. Also a thing experieced devs have learned.

    Then we get what we need - which usually is simply a phone number of someone who we need to talk to and the mandate to do freely as we will, as long it stays within budget and solves the problem. Then I fix the problem by working a few hours of overtime - which I do gladly, because I, at this point, don't have to deal with any bullshit and I feel like getting something done. Just happened again yesterday, btw. Stayed till half past eight and did all the scaffolding and on monday morning finally everybody is going to hush and listen how we're going to do the last fixes.

    3.) There's life beyond computers. I ditched my internet connection at home. Capped mobile data and Inet caffees are enough for regular E-Mail or getting your surfing fix inbetween. I've got enough of that at work, and I try not to spend 12 hours at the keyboard each day as I used to. It's lost its exitement. Mind you, I still pick up new stuff each day and make technology decisions 5 times a week at a minimum - but I've gotten way better and faster at dropping ideas. I try not to run in circles on the web anymore. I'm slowly building my Idea Immune System, and try to avoid getting all worked up within minutes about every new tech-fad that comes along. I've also got other things to do before I grow old. When my joints start aching, then I can go back to surfing and trying new web-toolkits 24/7, until then I want to get better at things I'm not that good at yet. Meeting women, cooking (moving away from fast-food), martial arts, exercising, traveling, dancing and perhaps even going back to playing guitar.

    You should think about stuff like that too.

    My general advice on this is:
    You should at least have one regular thing in your life that fulfills you with deep inner satisfaction that has nothing to do with your job or other parts of your life. That can be a religion, any form or art or some outdoor activity or something along those lines. It should be that you can say to yourself: OK, even if I lose my job tomorrow, go broke, have my wife running away and my house burn to the ground, there's still that thing I can do that is fun and gives my life true meaning.

    Hope I could help.
    Good luck.

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