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Psychologist: Porn and Video Game Addiction Are Leading To 'Masculinity Crisis'
HughPickens.com writes: Philip Zimbardo is a prominent psychologist from Stanford, most notable for leading the notorious Stanford prison experiment. He has published new research findings based on the lives of 20,000 young men, and his conclusion is stark: there is a developing "masculinity crisis" caused by addiction to video games and pornography. "Our focus is on young men who play video games to excess, and do it in social isolation — they are alone in their room," says Zimbardo. "It begins to change brain function. It begins to change the reward center of the brain, and produces a kind of excitement and addiction. What I'm saying is — boys' brains are becoming digitally rewired."
As an example, Zimbardo uses this quote from one young man: "When I'm in class, I'll wish I was playing World of Warcraft. When I'm with a girl, I'll wish I was watching pornography, because I'll never get rejected." Zimbardo doesn't think there's a specific time threshold at which playing video games goes from being acceptable to excessive. He says it varies by individual, and is more based on a "psychological change in mindset." To fight the problem, he suggest families need to track how much time is being spent on video games compared to other activities. "He also called for better sex education in schools — which should focus not only on biology and safety, but also on emotions, physical contact and romantic relationships."
As an example, Zimbardo uses this quote from one young man: "When I'm in class, I'll wish I was playing World of Warcraft. When I'm with a girl, I'll wish I was watching pornography, because I'll never get rejected." Zimbardo doesn't think there's a specific time threshold at which playing video games goes from being acceptable to excessive. He says it varies by individual, and is more based on a "psychological change in mindset." To fight the problem, he suggest families need to track how much time is being spent on video games compared to other activities. "He also called for better sex education in schools — which should focus not only on biology and safety, but also on emotions, physical contact and romantic relationships."
Anytime someone uses the SJW phrase I immediately discount them as being neck beards. SJW needs to be the new Godwin rule. The first person to use it loses the argument by default. You can't debate anyone logically who uses that phrase.
Only the State obtains its revenue by coercion. - Murray Rothbard
Get real. The real world imposes limits on who you can be, and it should. For example, if "expression of yourself as who you are" means murdering innocent people, then no, you don't have a right to be that.
If expressing yourself means women don't want you, that's great. Be single. If you wan't women, you will have to change your behaviors in ways that make you attractive to them. That is totally reasonable and also how things should work.
Expressing yourself without making any compromise for the benefit of those that have to put up with you, and pounding your fist and demanding that women should love you and spend their time with you anyway, is ridiculously entitled.
Dude, I just turned 40. I married at 27, divorced at 32. While the remainder of my 30's haven't been a whirlwind of women, I've NEVER lacked for a date on a Friday night if I wanted one. I'd say the age distribution was probably a 40/60 split between women in their 20's and women in their 30's. And I'm not a great looking guy - pushing 280 lbs on a "skinny" day, shave maybe once a week, and have all the fashion sense of a blind circus freak.
What gets them interested? The women I've dated have usually professed admiration for:
1) the fact that I have a decent, stable job;
2) the fact that I have a place of my own, that I demonstrated some measure of competency in keeping clean and in working order;
3) the fact that I'm generally able to make them laugh
4) the fact that I'm willing and able to *listen* and not try to just solve all their problems in an effort to get them to shut the fuck up;
5) the fact that I've had a few jobs, lived a few different places, and travelled a bit, so I have some fun stories to share;
6) the fact that I'm reasonably well read, and keep up with what's going on in the world;
7) the fact that I'm *really* good with and love being around kids;
Also, I eat pussy like a champ. So there's also that.
Given that you use "single mom" as a pejorative, I'm guessing you're of the "oh god, i don't want spawn to deal with," outlook, which is probably the number one deal breaker for you there. LOTS of women under the age of 40 are very interested in having kids - maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but "at some point," and if you demonstrate your disinterest (or lack of fitness) as a potential baby daddy, then you immediately are going to get ruled out of any sort of "maybe this is someting long term," situation.
The other thing I get from your post is that you sound extremely arrogant - "you'd think *I* would be a hot commodity, and the women would just swoon at my feet, but NO, the bitches refuse me!" - and yes, you probably have your sights set WAY too high. Accept the fact that you're a "not completely ugly, middle-class guy," and accept that that means you probably rate women you sniff at now and consider "average looking." Spend a little time getting to know those "average looking" women, though, and you might find some real amazing people under that "average" surface.
Or, you can keep playing video games like an overgrown man-child, and masturbating yourself to sleep every night. Your choice, really.