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How Do Americans Define Online Harassment? (theverge.com)

An anonymous reader quotes a report from The Verge: According to a new Pew Research Center survey, defining online harassment is just as complicated for the average American user as it is for huge social media companies -- and the line gets even more fuzzy when gender or race come into the picture. The survey polled 4,151 respondents on various scenarios and asked them whether each one crossed the threshold for online harassment. In one hypothetical, a private disagreement between a man and his friend David is forwarded to a third party and posted online, which escalates to David receiving "unkind" messages, "vulgar" messages, and eventually being doxxed and threatened. When asked whether or not David was harassed, 89 percent of respondents agreed that he was. However, opinions on exactly when the harassment began varied widely: 5 percent considered it harassment when David offends his friend; 48 percent said it's when the friend forwards the conversation; 54 percent said it's when the conversation is shared publicly. Others agreed it crossed the line when David received the unkind messages (72 percent), the vulgar messages (82 percent), is doxxed (85 percent), and threatened (85 percent). There was little difference in responses by gender.

Questions regarding sexual harassment, perhaps unsurprisingly, are more divisive -- especially between men and women. In a second example, a woman named Julie receives "vulgar messages" about her looks and sexual behavior after posting on social media about a controversial issue. Women were about three times more likely than men (24 percent vs. 9 percent) to label it online harassment when Julie's post is shared by a popular blogger with thousands of followers. Fifty percent of women vs. 35 percent of men consider it harassment when Julie starts getting unkind messages. When it comes to vulgar messages, threats, or Julie's photo being edited to include sexual imagery, 8 out of 10 men consider it harassment, as opposed to 9 out of 10 women.

There's also a curious division between acknowledging something as harassment and believing that action should be taken by social media platforms. In the case of sexual harassment, for example, 43 percent of respondents considered the unkind messages harassment -- yet only 20 percent thought the social media platform should intervene. In a scenario where a woman's picture is edited to include sexual imagery, 84 percent called it harassment, but only 71 percent thought platforms should step in. The same can be said of an example involving racial harassment. Although 82 percent of respondents called messages with racial slurs and insults harassment, only 57 percent thought the platform should step in; the same goes for the person having their picture edited to include racially insensitive images (80 percent vs. 57 percent) and threats (82 percent vs. 67 percent). In both cases, respondents' gender is not provided.

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  1. Not black and white issue by gurps_npc · · Score: 2, Insightful

    This response if fairly typical of anything that isn't a clear black and white issue.

    1) Man opens stranger's purse and takes $50 = theft.
    2) Same, but is his 15 year old daughter's purse without permission, is it theft?
    3) Same but daughter had broken a $50 bottle of wine, is it theft?
    4) Man opens wife's purse (no permission) and takes $50 to buy food and does not tell her after the fact - is it theft?
    5) Same but does tell her after the fact, is it theft?.
    6) Same thing but he puts in a check for $50 and takes her $50 in cash is it theft?

    Obviously, everyone says 1 is theft, and not many people are going to call #6 theft, but the stuff in between is not black and white. Some will call it theft, others will not.

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    1. Re:Not black and white issue by ShanghaiBill · · Score: 5, Funny

      In all instances there was no asking of permission to take anothers money.

      This is gender specific. My wife can take money from my wallet without permission, because my money is "ours". But the money in her wallet is "hers".

    2. Re:Not black and white issue by Baron_Yam · · Score: 1

      1) Theft

      2) Wrong, but not theft (as presumably the daughter is a minor dependent and doesn't have property rights)

      3) Still wrong, but still not theft (as presumably the daughter is a minor dependent and doesn't have property rights). Possibly a well-intentioned lesson in paying for your mistakes, but I personally would handle it differently.

      4) Wrong, but not theft (what is purchased is irrelevant) - martial assets are shared assets. Unless there's an agreement otherwise, that money in the purse is just as much his as hers. And so is the purse.

      5) See #4

      6) See #4, though honestly this would sound more like, "Honey I needed cash and put the cheque in there as a reminder I raided your purse for it".

      It's all pretty black and white to me... as long as you aren't foolish enough to equate 'right' with 'legal'.

    3. Re:Not black and white issue by mentil · · Score: 2

      That's the thing about social sciences: every probe into a problem seems to raise more questions than it answers. It's like meteorology minus the incontrovertible facts.

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    4. Re:Not black and white issue by Narcocide · · Score: 1, Funny

      Modding me down is harassment.

    5. Re:Not black and white issue by Opportunist · · Score: 1

      2) Yes. Taking something from somebody else without consent or legal title is theft. That the money once was most likely his is irrelevant, unless you want to concede that you're ok with your boss withdrawing money from your bank account because he was the one who once owned that money.
      3) Yes. He may of course demand the money from her for compensation or even withhold any money she is supposed to get from him for various reasons, but simply taking money is theft. Unless, again, you're ok with me going to your bank account and taking what I consider mine when you hit my car with yours.
      4) Yes. What he wants to buy with the money is irrelevant. Taking something from somebody else without their consent is theft.
      5) Yes, In this particular case the wife will most likely agree that it was done with her implicit consent, at least if she agrees with the purchase, at least if your relationship is on good terms this is probably the one scenario with the least chance of fallout.
      6) Yes. Again, would you be ok with me taking money from you and giving you an IOU? Actually, if your relationship is already at the point where you feel it's necessary to put a check into your wife's purse when you take money, it's WORSE than 5). In a functioning relationship, something like this most certainly isn't necessary.

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    6. Re:Not black and white issue by Opportunist · · Score: 2

      To quote my lawyer, I go to court to get an executable title, not to be right.

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    7. Re:Not black and white issue by Opportunist · · Score: 1

      That last one is the one that most likely will result in a legal battle. In what kind of relationship that is still at least kinda-sorta working do you feel obliged to write your SO a check for money owed?

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    8. Re:Not black and white issue by serviscope_minor · · Score: 4, Insightful

      This is gender specific.

      No, it's *you* specific. Don't presume to speak for the rest of my or her gender.

      Either me or my wife could take money from each other's wallet without permission because the money is ours. Neither of us do without asking unless there's really some pressing need.

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    9. Re:Not black and white issue by AmiMoJo · · Score: 2

      I know you are probably joking... But just in case, that sounds like a textbook abusive relationship.

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    10. Re:Not black and white issue by DaveV1.0 · · Score: 1

      4) Man opens wife's purse (no permission) and takes $50 to buy food and does not tell her after the fact - is it theft?

      4) Wrong, but not theft (what is purchased is irrelevant) - martial assets are shared assets. Unless there's an agreement otherwise, that money in the purse is just as much his as hers. And so is the purse.

      I'm not sure you understand what you just did. You claimed that the money is a shared asset but it was wrong to take the shared asset to buy food. You need to rethink that. If the money is a shared asset then it both of theirs regardless of where it resides. As a shared asset, he has a right to take and spend it regardless of whether it is in the bank, his wallet, or her purse, just like she does.

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    11. Re:Not black and white issue by DaveV1.0 · · Score: 1

      Really? Minor children do not have any legal assets. The parent controls all the assets whether given by the parent or earned by the child. If you need $50.00 and you know you child has $50.00 in his or her piggy bank, you as the parent have an absolute right to take it and it is not theft. You sound like so many teens who have been raised to think they actually own the things their parents let them have.

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    12. Re: Not black and white issue by TimMD909 · · Score: 1

      A woman acting submissive (or domineering) in exchange for money sounds like prostitution to me... Do not want.

    13. Re:Not black and white issue by Baron_Yam · · Score: 1

      >I'm not sure you understand what you just did. You claimed that the money is a shared asset but it was wrong to take the shared asset to buy food.

      I understand exactly what I wrote; I respect my spouse's right to property even if the law doesn't.

      If I need money from her purse, I'll ASK her first.

    14. Re:Not black and white issue by iamgnat · · Score: 1

      I'm not sure you understand what you just did. You claimed that the money is a shared asset but it was wrong to take the shared asset to buy food. You need to rethink that. If the money is a shared asset then it both of theirs regardless of where it resides. As a shared asset, he has a right to take and spend it regardless of whether it is in the bank, his wallet, or her purse, just like she does.

      No, they are correct. Just because it's a shared asset and you have the right to use it does not mean it is the correct thing to do. You CAN take the money and you will NOT be charged with theft (assuming you are not legally separated), but it's still a pretty shitty thing to do.

      Now in contrast, unless there is a problematic pattern, the wife getting too bent out of shape over a one time event also falls into the right but wrong category too.

      As they said, "right" and "legal" are two totally different things. Plenty of things are right, but illegal. Plenty of things are legal, but not right. Most of the original list comes down to "just because he can, doesn't mean he should".

    15. Re:Not black and white issue by iamgnat · · Score: 1

      That last one is the one that most likely will result in a legal battle.

      Just what sort of legal battle do you think it would result in? That in itself is not remotely enough to justify a divorce. The police/prosecutor will laugh at you. You could probably find a low life lawyer to help you file a civil suit, but really?

      In what kind of relationship that is still at least kinda-sorta working do you feel obliged to write your SO a check for money owed?

      In what type of relationship do you feel it's Ok to casually invade someone else's personal space without so much as a "hey, I need to grab $50"? While most of the original list is technically legal, I'd say there are some serious relationship issues going on...

    16. Re:Not black and white issue by DaveV1.0 · · Score: 1

      That's not entirely correct (at least in the US). Minor children own their own money.

      Assertion without evidence. I suggest you look at case law to see that you are wrong.

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    17. Re:Not black and white issue by Opportunist · · Score: 1

      Personal space? It's not like he grabbed her by the pussy, it's money. I don't know where you keep yours, but close friends can at any time take a 50 out of my wallet as long as they tell me and put it give in due time.

      This might be one of the reason why I pick and choose friends very carefully...

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    18. Re:Not black and white issue by cascadingstylesheet · · Score: 2

      This is gender specific.

      No, it's *you* specific. Don't presume to speak for the rest of my or her gender.

      Right, because he just invented/imagined very common gender dynamics, lol Nobody else ever noticed it or joked about it before.

    19. Re:Not black and white issue by iamgnat · · Score: 1

      Personal space?

      Yes personal space. Even though in most cases everything in a marriage is shared equally there is still the concept of personal space and "mine vs theirs". While not legally binding, they are still critical to being able to live in the same house together.

      I don't know where you keep yours, but close friends can at any time take a 50 out of my wallet as long as they tell me

      and put it give in due time.

      And that is the key part left out of items 2-5 in the original list.

      I completely agree with you that in a good relationship, grabbing some cash from your partner is a non-issue. The expectation, however, is that it's a good relationship so that the one doing the grabbing is going to hold up their part of the social contract and let the other know. In that context, there is neither anything wrong with or illegal about taking the money.

    20. Re:Not black and white issue by houghi · · Score: 1

      It is just that with you it is never pressed and with her it always. is. Got it.

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    21. Re:Not black and white issue by networkBoy · · Score: 1

      methinks you're the outlier here...
      kudos to you and your wife for being equal BTW.

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    22. Re:Not black and white issue by networkBoy · · Score: 2

      that sure as shit was my ex's and my relationship.
      In fact, once it became clear she was having an affair and was blowing my earnings on said affair I started taking all my OT pay out in cash and hoarding it... She equivocated that action to theft, even though it was my earnings going to me.

      She *still* thinks she's entitled to my earnings, 5 years on.

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    23. Re:Not black and white issue by networkBoy · · Score: 1

      Grabbing cash out of my wallet without asking will *always* be an issue.
      Partner, spouse, anything. Once it's in my wallet it's expected to be there. I don't spot check my wallet before heading out, and if I had $100 in there, I expect it to still be there. (This is the personal space issue).

      That said, my close friends, and family also know there is a drawer in my house with a bank bag. Take what you need, put it back later, it's all good. There is a mix of bill sizes, some assorted gift cards, and a roll of quarters in there at all times.

      If you're heading to europe, grab the Euros before you go so you don't need to exchange at the airport.

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    24. Re:Not black and white issue by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

      Actually wives don't necessarily have their own property separate form their husband's.
      Margarine includes full mutual ownership of all assets by default. That's how a housewife can get the house in a divorce, or sell a cheating husband's car for revenge.

      As marrages include mutual consent it's also on pretty solid moral ground that a person has the right to appropriate their spouses possessions provided they don't have reason to suspect their spouse would object if asked.

    25. Re:Not black and white issue by david_thornley · · Score: 1

      Not all assets have shared ownership in a marriage. I've got some assets in my name only. (They're "transfer on death" to my wife, of course, but they're hers only over my dead body.)

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    26. Re:Not black and white issue by david_thornley · · Score: 1

      Said wife may have had uses for that $50, and taking it might inconvenience her considerably. There are situations in which not having a specific sum of cash on me could be very awkward.

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    27. Re:Not black and white issue by david_thornley · · Score: 1

      Got a case to look at?

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    28. Re:Not black and white issue by serviscope_minor · · Score: 1

      Nobody else ever noticed it or joked about it before.

      Whenever I see a shitty, toxic stereotype here I'm going to speak out against it.

      Otherwise it's just women, eh fellas, amirite?

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    29. Re:Not black and white issue by serviscope_minor · · Score: 1

      It is just that with you it is never pressed and with her it always. is. Got it.

      Got what? I have no idea how that relates to my post.

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  2. We will never have a definition of harassment... by Tehrasha · · Score: 1, Insightful

    ..as long as the 'victim' gets to decide what it is.

  3. There is harassed and HARASSED by rtb61 · · Score: 4, Interesting

    That difference in expression is clear, there is harassed and HARASSED. So a fly buzzing around your head harasses you, you would not call the police to shoot that fly off your head, especially absolutely not American Law Enforcers who would empty a whole magazine at your head to shoot that fly. Lots of stuff is harassing behaviour, but only some stuff is actually criminal. First question to be asked, is can you simply avoid that harassment, walk away, block someone on the internet, simply avoid the place where harassment occurs. If you can not avoid it and it comes to you, then that ads a capital, like Harassment. Next up is how harmful is the actual harassment, what does it actual entail, harassing someone by walking up to them and beating them versus just shouting at them, obviously add in direct physical contact and that is actual HARASSMENT.

    Then there are question of one versus many. One person acts and you ignore it but tens of thousands act and that is harassing but individually still not harassment, that tends to be the flip side of gaining the public eye. Seek to or accidentally gain the public eye and you could become exposed to group harassment, which is still only minor from their perspective, still individual and subdued but from yours, major, because yeah, that public eye thing is a nasty place, you can lose just as readily as you can win. So avoid the public eye, you you want to avoid public harassment, which upon an individual basis is not actually harassment.

    The onus is always on the individual to avoid harassment because there are places where it 'WILL' occur in real life or on the internet, whether it be flies or people. A measure of sensible response is required, especially for digital harassment where people reach for it, pull it down, get it from the internet and download it into their lives. Simply stop that and the harassment becomes non-existent. Actively seek the harassment, pursue and inflame it, makes you the perpetrator not the victim. Target a group, harassing a group so they harass you back, means you are not the victim you are the perpetrator.

    It must be in your face, inescapable and have a physical nature either in threat or action. Keep in mind criminals feel harassed by the criminal justice system, the police actually do actively harass them, the courts set out to and functionally do harass them and correctional services harass them to reform them. The most harassing entity on the planet is the various third arm of government, the judiciary. So always beware, which harassment is the greater and is the action balanced.

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    1. Re:There is harassed and HARASSED by AmiMoJo · · Score: 2

      People with a lot of followers online also have some responsibly to avoid harassing people, even if unintentionally. For example, often when some YouTuber makes a video about some random tweet or Facebook post, the result is that some of their hundreds of thousands of viewers will go and harass the author.

      Obviously there is a balance between legitimate criticism and discussion, and the actions of a relative few. But the reality is that most of these videos are just rage-bait, there to make some easy cash from a ten minute unscripted rant to camera. With power comes responsibly and all that.

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    2. Re:There is harassed and HARASSED by Hal_Porter · · Score: 1

      I bet it makes you feel powerful knowing your followers devotion to you is so fanatical you can barely keep them from attacking your enemies.

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    3. Re:There is harassed and HARASSED by Grieviant · · Score: 1

      So people should dial down or outright suppress their criticisms because a possibility exists that some of their more overzealous followers will harass the target of that criticism? Sounds good Amimojo, I'll be waiting for you to decry the next witch hunt initiated by a professional SJW with many followers. Waiting. Patiently.

  4. Re:We will never have a definition of harassment.. by sound+vision · · Score: 2

    So, let's pretend you are writing the definition for harassment for a social media site - or any context of your choosing. What is the definition?

  5. Re:We will never have a definition of harassment.. by BKX · · Score: 2

    Let's just use a basic "dictionary" definition. Harassment is contacting another person after being asked to stop. One caveat is that politicians cannot ask people to stop contacting them regarding political issues. Another is that people can't ask the general public not to contact them regarding their conduct or speech made in public. To be clear, one has to ask for the particular contact to cease, and then have the contact continue for it to be harassment. Also, harassment can only exist on a person-to-person basis. That is, asking person A and person B to stop contacting you about X does not obligate person C. You cannot blanket tell people to leave you alone about certain topics. You must ask each individual person to stop. Also, the content with which they are contacted is not material.

  6. Doesn't get any easier by Snotnose · · Score: 1

    When I do it, it's playing around. When you do it it's OMFG PRISON 4 LIFE!

  7. I'd look to tort law. by jcr · · Score: 1

    Specifically, the "reasonable person" standard. If someone makes threats of harm that a reasonable person would consider credible, then punishment is appropriate.

    As for who should decide whether a threat rises to that level, that's what juries are for.

    -jcr

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  8. Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by Kunedog · · Score: 4, Insightful

    This response if fairly typical of anything that isn't a clear black and white issue.

    Even then, it's a mistake to assume good faith. Sites like Twitter and Facebook, and the media who one-sidedly covers "harassment," are attempting to outright redefine terms, and it's not out of confusion.

    Disagreement is now harrassment.
    Mockery is now hate speech.
    Offense is now trauma.
    Criticism is now abuse.
    Compelling criticism is now violence.
    Anyone who talks about subjects the MSM wants to suppress is now a troll.
    Anyone at random is a racist/sexist/white supremacist/nazi/etc if they say so.

    The use of this alarmist (and usually, simply wrong) language is ubiquitous and deliberate. It's all a pretense to justify a disproportionate censorial "response," especially when they know no response is warranted at all.

    1. Re: Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by Reverend+Green · · Score: 2

      Cool thing is, these dirty language tricks used to be really effective. But now they've been really overused by the bigmedia and other establishment apologists. So everyone is onto the trick, and it doesn't work anymore.

    2. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by RedK · · Score: 3, Insightful

      It's the perpetual victim culture of the alt-right that is trying to redefine everything as harassment

      Uh ?

      Pretty sure that started from the likes of the "Literally whos" of Gamergate, and thus is an left/marxist/feminist thing. Anita Sarkeesian claiming anyone making a response video to her was harassement ring any bells to you ?

      You're rewriting history. Or just attempting to deny the left is responsible for this clusterfuck of "everything is sexist/racist/homophobic" and "anyone who says otherwise is harassing me!"

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      Anonymous Coward on Monday August 04, @06:49PM
    3. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by DaveV1.0 · · Score: 1

      Nice how you call pointing out deliberately alarmist behavior is deliberately alarmist. You are proving you are the exact kind of person GP is talking about.

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    4. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by AmiMoJo · · Score: 1

      Anita Sarkeesian claiming anyone making a response video to her was harassement ring any bells to you ?

      No, because it's fake news. Gamergaters saved archived copies of every post, every tweet she ever made, so come on, give us the link where she says that. Prove your claim RedK.

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    5. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by BrandonGinn · · Score: 1

      man, when did this become about political alignment

    6. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by DaveV1.0 · · Score: 3, Insightful

      Alt-right? No. It is the left. You know, the people who redefined "unintended drunken hook up" as rape? Oh, wait, YOU are on the left so you probably call all alt-right people Nazis while praising someone being hit with a baseball bat for saying something you don't like because free speech is bad. And, when someone doesn't agree with you, you special one of a kind snowflake, you say things like "The alt-right is responsible for what my and my friends have been doing for 30 years."

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    7. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by DaveV1.0 · · Score: 1, Offtopic

      By the way, my sig is from years ago when that exact behavior started here on Slashdot. Your UID is old enough you should remember when it started.

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    8. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by pipingguy · · Score: 1

      It's social media social engineering.

    9. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by RedK · · Score: 3, Interesting

      Ever watch the UN video ? "It's the daily grind of you suck, you're a liar". The liar bit is criticism that comes up often, since she in facts lies a lot in her videos. Keep living in your bubble though and ignoring and warping facts. You're no better than anyone else who slandered gamers. The facts are the facts. Sarkeesian, Quinn, Wu often used the harassement card to try to stifle any criticism of their very awful actions and to try to peddle their snake oil. And with their shrieks, it made it hard to discuss any actual ethics conflicts in the gaming press, like the GamejournosPro list. Yes it was about ethics. You don't promote the game of someone you're sleeping with without disclosing said conflict of interest. Leave it to journalists to lie about people trying to reform journalism though. If you're smart, you know the actual truth, not this narrative you keep peddling.

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      Anonymous Coward on Monday August 04, @06:49PM
    10. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by david_thornley · · Score: 2

      Speaking as a leftist...you don't know what you're talking about. Go out and meet some of us sometime, in person.

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    11. Re:Escalation of Terms to Justify Censorship by AmiMoJo · · Score: 1

      So your logic is that because she complains about people calling her a liar without justification, she must be a liar...

      Sounds like heads I win, tails you lose.

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  9. Two Harassments by mentil · · Score: 1

    One man's scrutiny and accountability is another man's harassment. Someone getting publicly called out for something they did can be called harassment.
    It doesn't help that there are two unequal definitions of 'harassment': 1) Someone doing the harassing, multiple times to one person.
    2) Someone being harassed, once, by many people.
    The end result might be the same, as a person ends up being harassed multiple times. However, in the case of #2, no individual could be necessarily said to be committing harassment on their own. Therefore, the question of "is it harassment" could be evaluated from either end. Ones more likely to be harassed (minorities) are more likely to consider from the 'receiving' point of view, whereas ones frequently cited as harassers are more likely to consider from the 'sending' point of view.

    I imagine the 'should social media providers deal with harassment' belief tracks closely to personal beliefs about how to deal with bullying. I predict that those who believe you should sock 'em in the jaw are less likely to believe the websites should step in, whereas those who advocate going to an authority to resolve the situation are more likely to.

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  10. Simple by Tablizer · · Score: 1

    1. Talking like the President.

  11. It's a sign of powerlessness by johannesg · · Score: 2, Insightful

    Being so impossibly sensitive to even the most minor slights is a sign of extreme lack of power. A confident, happy, generally enabled individual simply does not feel harassed by minor slights. He will shrug it off without feeling threatened, because he is above that.

    All those "harassed" people you see on the news are incredibly weak, fragile, meaningless, child-like individuals who have figured out a way to amplify their almost non-existent voices to the point where they can drown out everybody else. They have found a kind of power in showing how incredibly hurt they are, and how unfair they are being treated. And since they don't have any kind of perspective, they believe the world should somehow care about that. They are adults with the minds of toddlers, screaming for their immediate need, but without a parent to put an end to their tantrums.

    As more and more people get fed up with hearing about imagined slights and how bad they hurt, a backlash will inevitably come. At that point, a bit of belated growing up will be in order for all those sad, harassed individuals, as they will finally be taught a few fundamental lessons: the world is not about them, their lives are their own responsibility, being insulted is a choice, and a paper-thin skin is neither a good survival trait, nor a good step towards living a happy, productive life.

    1. Re:It's a sign of powerlessness by Actually,+I+do+RTFA · · Score: 1, Insightful

      Or maybe they are actually among the powerless in the world and need our help?

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    2. Re:It's a sign of powerlessness by thinkwaitfast · · Score: 1

      Almost everyone for the last 4.5 billion years has had an almost non-existent voice.

    3. Re:It's a sign of powerlessness by pipingguy · · Score: 1

      "They have found a kind of power in showing how incredibly hurt they are"

      And seek to call in powerful entities (governments, revenge gangs) to punish those who have "hurt" them.

      "Can I have some muscle over here?"

    4. Re:It's a sign of powerlessness by david_thornley · · Score: 1

      You seem to consider all harassment short of physical harassment or threats of same as trivial. You assume that people can shrug off insults if they like. Learning to do that took me over fifty years.

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  12. Some aren't black and white issues by n329619 · · Score: 1

    But that example of yours is pretty black and white.

    no offensive to the brown, pale, yellow or blue issues. /joke

    I can go from 1) to 6) as quick as I could and the judgement would be the same, it depends on what the owner thinks ( the person who's getting $50 taken away). If the owner thinks it's theft, then it's theft. The only except is 2) where it's not theft if the purse is still indirectly owned by the father. Even though her purse is in her control, it can still be owned by the father, just like when you give an iPhone to the kids.

    Unfortunately applying the same concept for the online harassment, then it becomes a mess (not black and white issue) because this is emotional harassment. With it's none physical nature, the victim can say anything online is harassment, anywhere from mistype to flat out call someone a b**** can end up being a form of harassment.

    So for this topic, I'll draw the line at when online harassment becomes physical, then it's harassment if the victim say so. Until then, it's not a harassment I would put it 'legally'. That's not saying the social media shouldn't do something about it to reduce emotional harassment like banning assholes and remove sensitive words based on the user base. After all, it's their platform on their server. They have the complete right to keep a healthy user base.

    1. Re:Some aren't black and white issues by tehcyder · · Score: 1

      So for this topic, I'll draw the line at when online harassment becomes physical, then it's harassment

      Well since by definition online harassment isn't physical, that's just a cute way of saying there's no such thing as online harassment.

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    2. Re:Some aren't black and white issues by iamgnat · · Score: 1

      it depends on what the owner thinks

      The offended party's opinion makes no difference (as it should not). Theft has a legal definition and just because I feel something is theft does not make it so. Except for the first example the rest all have some explicit or implicit legal access to the money in question. That doesn't make it right to take the money without asking, but it makes it legally NOT theft.

      Our legal system is already a big enough mess as it is. Allowing people to define laws based on how they feel at any given time is NOT the direction we want to go.

  13. And more importantly by Threni · · Score: 1

    how do they spell it?

  14. chase that ambulance by Reverend+Green · · Score: 2, Funny

    I feel harassed by this article. The Slashdot editors are constantly microaggressing me. Their pattern of abuse has created a toxic work environment, because I often read slashdot while working.

    Where do I sign up to join the lawsuit?

  15. Muh feels... by Karmashock · · Score: 1

    How do "Americans" see Online harassment?... that is controversial. We are of many minds on this so I'll just say how I see it.

    I'm entirely happy to go after people that actually cause material harm to other people... especially if unprovoked.

    If there is no evident material damage to someone, then I immediately take the situation less seriously.
    If two people get into a fight.. both absent some investigation have some presumptive fault. If people cry foul I'm going to want an explanation as to why a given party is at fault rather than the opposing party. Oft as not, I find the person complaining to be no less at fault than the supposed aggressor.

    We're talking about ONLINE harassment. This means almost always literally facebook and twitter... basically nothing else of consequence. We read these stories in the newspaper and it is always some child or childlike adult that gets into a flame war with people that don't like them. Then rather than breaking off contact, they instead demand that X or Y be removed from a very public space as if a disagreement gives someone the right to make someone else go away. People enter these spaces and generally connect with people that they don't know. Some of those people will not like you. When this is expressed, this is often misrepresented as harassment. Disagreement is also often misrepresented as harassment. I also notice that people cry wolf on harassment to get a dog pile on someone they don't like. Its stuff that everyone has lots of experience with from kindergarten to old age. People do this sort of thing. Its nothing new or mysterious.

    This harassment talk has the potential and sometimes the intent to justify censorship. It is also sometimes used to empower bullies and harassers that use group opinion manipulation to create witch trials etc.

    I want a hard standard for this... and the standards are simple:
    Did you provoke a negative reaction?
    Are you interacting with open groups where anyone on planet earth can talk to you?
    Is it hard to demonstrate any material damage to yourself or anyone else?
    Can you end the "harassment" simply by backing out of a community or ignoring a given person?

    I want to encourage healthy communities with rational reasonable people... but that's an idealistic aspiration that probably won't happen. At the end of the day, all I need is for people not take themselves more seriously than is reasonable and not draw the collective action of the community to deal with stuff that is a waste of our time.

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  16. Re:We will never have a definition of harassment.. by Opportunist · · Score: 2

    Harassment is the unwanted continuation of contact after being asked to stop. Some special cases apply for certain groups of people in certain professions (like politicians that have to deal with constituents that ask inconvenient questions or celebrities that have to deal with reporters doing the same) or certain circumstances (people having to deal with collection agencies that want their money), but that's pretty much the base line.

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  17. Re:While you're at it by Opportunist · · Score: 1, Insightful

    That's non-white trans male, you racist, misogynist cis-scum!

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  18. Re:While you're at it by Opportunist · · Score: 1

    Put it on the pile behind me, I'll ignore later.

    I think there's still some room for some new labels I could get between "commie bastard" and "alt-right nazi".

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  19. Re:When I go to Amazon by Opportunist · · Score: 1

    Search for pliers, I dare you!

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  20. Re:We will never have a definition of harassment.. by slashrio · · Score: 1

    How about 'feeling triggered'?

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  21. In today's environment by oldgraybeard · · Score: 1

    Anyone voicing any opinion they don't agree with ;)

  22. Moderation -1, 100% Troll by DontBeAMoran · · Score: 1

    I'm being harassed!

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    1. Re:Moderation -1, 100% Troll by Falos · · Score: 1

      This is fine.

      DontBeAMoran, you are ugly and smell bad.

      I have harassed you. So. Fucking. What.

      By all means, make the definition broad. Historically, the word "harassment" has been pretty easy to qualify. This also means the word isn't worth shit.

      Problem is social justice bullies trying to drag it up, probably not stopping until it's an attention-grenade more overused than "rape" tack-ons, or worse yet is groups using it to advance their agendas, e.g. take down competitors, silence critics/detractors.

      A review talks shit about Juicero? Raw water? I'M BEING HARASSED INTERNET TOXICITY oh review's gone

  23. Re:We will never have a definition of harassment.. by networkBoy · · Score: 1

    Sure.
    The difference between harassment and feeling triggered is easy.

    Did the alleged harasser know of the triggers for the victim and use that to effect said triggering? Then it's harassment.

    Did the alleged harasser not know of the triggers for the victim and purely accidently hit them? Then it's unfortunate and maybe deserves a polite social apology, but it is *not* harassment.

    I have a couple PTSD/GAD triggers, and they *suck*. One of them is being called into a 1:1 or 2:1 meeting with no agenda or indication of what the meeting is about, and where the other person(s) are direct management. Does that mean my boss is harassing me when she says "let's go talk"? I mean my heart starts to race and I feel the adrenal response hit, but seriously? It's business. Sucks for me.
    If she knew that I had been assaulted previously at a prior job by a south african former apartheid cop and lit into in a 2:1 meeting that started with "you little fuck" and didn't stop for a half hour*, all while my direct manager did virtually nothing and then called meetings in such a way as to intentionally put me back there every day? Yeah that would be harassment.

    * yup, I was young and stupid at the time, so I sat there and took it.
    This was all because I was asked to do something by my direct manager that this other manager didn't like. The bad: I trigger super bad at meetings with two managers present. The good: If anyone ever tries that again I'll pull out my phone and video them, then sue for hostile work environment; possibly with a detour for a police report for assault.
    The really good: Karma got this asshole. Last I heard he was suffering from cirrhosis of the liver and severe gout.

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  24. grow a backbone already by Anonymous Coward · · Score: 1

    When shall we crucify the god of public opinion?

  25. Re:We will never have a definition of harassment.. by slashrio · · Score: 1

    Of course karma gets them.
    Karma always (read: mostly) works.
    I've seen a few telling but undisclosable examples of that myself...

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