What he should say is that tablet fever will pass among the manufacturers. They're the only ones putting out a thousand different tablets that nobody wants. The iPad is selling well. People want the iPad. Nobody is interested in a bunch of half-assed clones that - even if they have some technical improvements - don't have the ecosystem to support them long term and therefore be a relevant purchase.
Being self-effacing is one thing, I guess, but in my experience, the stereotypical "be a jerk" thing really yields the best results. I've been the nice guy. The thoughtful guy. The self-effacing humorous guy. The guy who shows up on time, keeps his word, says nice things, and calls you regularly. Fine enough.
But the girls I often ignored, sometimes treated dismissively, and kept less frequent contact with and put less effort into the things we men are supposedly supposed to put effort into . . . were the ones who were always calling me back, wanting to go out, wanting to hook up, and wanting to spend more time with me. I experimented with this enough to feel certain that the cliche was really true. If you're looking to be someone's meal ticket, be Mister Attention Modern Age Purse Carrying Man. If you want someone to think about you when you're not around and break other dates when they have a chance to come spend time with you and bang your brains out, be a bit of an asshole.
For all you know, you may have had lots of women try to initiate things. Maybe you were just oblivious to it. I've been completely oblivious to such things many times in my life. It's rather easy to dismiss what are clear signals from someone as something other than what they are. Especially since it doesn't happen to men nearly as often as to women. But it *does* still happen.
However, on a website. I don't know. I don't think I could bring myself to give a damn enough to talk to some random stranger just on a website. If I met a girl at a bar, I'd sit and have a drink and a nice chat. Some complete stranger over the internet wanting to have some sort of conversation (and eventually meaningful conversations, if they want to get to know me or something) . . . just seems aggravating and annoying.
But maybe that just comes with age. I know I was more talkative as a youth. After a certain age, you have said everything there is to say enough times that you don't want to say them anymore and you'd just rather not have those conversations, because it's exhausting.
I think most men tend not to have too many requirements. The only requirements are something along the lines of "not incredibly stupid, not a prude, and is cute". The specifics on "cute" are not definite. "We know it when we see it", is about all.
I've never judged a woman based on her education, career, religion, what kind of car she drives, how big her home is, whether she lives alone or with parents or roommates or anything else. And neither do most men. We just care if you're kinda cute. On the other hand, there are plenty of people like my friend who has a whole mental checklist of necessary requirements before she'll consider a guy. Such as being at least 6'2", or she won't even give them a second though. I've never known a guy who cared about such things.
Frankly, however, people waste far too much time and energy giving a fuck. Do your own thing and focus on your own interests and careers. There's no necessity to pair up or breed. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, at least you have spent your time and energy improving YOUR life and not wasting it trying to become intertwined with someone else's (and being bombarded with misery in the result, like all the people I know who are divorced or in shitty marriages or have to deal with alimony and child support or crazy drama and endless streams of other bullshit).
What do you expect from a former Psychology Today editor and someone who posts stories on Mashable? It's all about entertainment and catering to the lowest common denominator. It's as panderingly stupid as this radio station I heard tonight, where between every song, the DJs talk with a random caller about "being a single parent" and it was called "single parent night". It was so exciting to hear lame people talk about child support between shitty soccer mom songs.
I find it amusing that it's basically a site full of desperate people taking the desperate action of signing up for a site to find relationships with other desperate people taking the same desperate action all the while everyone pretending toward each other that they're not desperate and that they're all well-rounded, well-off, intelligent, thoughtful, self-effacing, professional, well-educated, attractive, outgoing people who of course are just trolling for relationships on a dating site, because they're just so awesome. Or something.
I don't deal with a lot of people in my line of work, so I can see how online might be an appealing option to open yourself up to meeting more people than you would otherwise encounter. On the other hand, I'd rather remain alone than date people I met online on a dating site.
I would never sign up for such a service, because the last thing I'm looking for is someone that is so desperate that they're signing up for online dating services. Don't get me wrong - I don't dismiss people who meet online and then draw up a relationship in real life. However, going online specifically to put yourself on a shelf with a sign that says "please date me; I'm so lonely and have to pair up so I can be like everyone else" seems kind of . . . blech.
I think people are going a little overboard. Slashdot was fantastic in its prime, but Rob leaving has pretty much zero impact, as far as I'm concerned. It has been *years* since the byline mattered on submissions. It felt, to me, that Slashdot lost its personality years ago. Stories are still posted. People still comment. But the soul has been gone for ages.
I have to say, it has me considering the same thing. I wonder about others? After all, I can't really see myself spending the rest of my life (or even just another fourteen years) posting crap on slashdot. Maybe this is a catalyst for many of us to move on? I dunno . . . Slashdot is still the only place I bother to go on an almost daily basis.
I still remember in the beginning of my career, when a colleague came over and showed me this website that he went to every day. A site that a short while later became Slashdot. A site that I read often and, eventually (though far too late to have a cool UID, damn it!) created an account on. It's strange that Slashdot has pretty much been part of my life for my entire career and that it has maintained its ready place in my regular "hangouts" after all this time. Even despite the complaints and failures, it has still had a pull that none of these other linkbaits from Digg after could manage.
Sometimes, I like to go back and read random headlines on Slashdot from years ago. Back when we even paid attention to the byline of a post. Back when people knew why Roblimo was Roblimo. So much has changed around us and this same group of strange geeks has been along for the ride. In this same time, I also ran my own project that started shortly after Slashdot and that I just finally shut off this past year. Experienced the same surprising scaling issues when this thing I did for kicks took off, like Slashdot did. It was a huge experience that consumed most of my life and I, too, experienced the delayed closure. The feeling that it was time to move on, but this nagging hesitance to do so. This feeling that it had been such a part of my life (as Slashdot has been Rob's) that I was almost obligated to continue it and maintain it. And yet, cutting the cord and stepping away has been such a breath of fresh air. Such a release. I can only imagine this must feel much the same way.
Best wishes ahead and all, but I have to say that in light of yesterday's news, maybe this could have been postponed another week to have come across a little less "whacky".
The best thing you can do for children is weed out the ones who don't want to learn. Instead of being forced to coddle and care for the troublemakers consuming 90% of attention and being violent and disruptive in class and don't want to be there, ditch them and focus on the kids who want to be there and can benefit from the attention that would otherwise be wasted on daycare for some moron's thug kids.
Let those parents find another place for those kids so they can get something catered to them without impacting the rest of the kids.
I obviously don't agree with this stupid new law, but I find the picking and choosing of when it's a violation of rights to be rather hypocritical.
I'm sure these same schools also have all sorts of dress codes that prevent students from exercising their constitutional right to free speech while at school or attending school functions. Yet, it's suddenly a constitutional free speech issue when it comes to helping put state sanctioned child molesters in touch with the students they spend their days preying on.
Aside from that, I can't help but wonder who in the hell wants to friend their teachers on a social network. Even if I can tolerate you until the school bell rings at 3pm or 4pm, that doesn't mean I ever want to have anything to do with you outside of class. You're a teacher; not my buddy.
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By that logic, they should be seizing servers and shutting down services of the guy's ISP.
Fuck like a child if you wish.
What he should say is that tablet fever will pass among the manufacturers. They're the only ones putting out a thousand different tablets that nobody wants. The iPad is selling well. People want the iPad. Nobody is interested in a bunch of half-assed clones that - even if they have some technical improvements - don't have the ecosystem to support them long term and therefore be a relevant purchase.
Being self-effacing is one thing, I guess, but in my experience, the stereotypical "be a jerk" thing really yields the best results. I've been the nice guy. The thoughtful guy. The self-effacing humorous guy. The guy who shows up on time, keeps his word, says nice things, and calls you regularly. Fine enough.
But the girls I often ignored, sometimes treated dismissively, and kept less frequent contact with and put less effort into the things we men are supposedly supposed to put effort into . . . were the ones who were always calling me back, wanting to go out, wanting to hook up, and wanting to spend more time with me. I experimented with this enough to feel certain that the cliche was really true. If you're looking to be someone's meal ticket, be Mister Attention Modern Age Purse Carrying Man. If you want someone to think about you when you're not around and break other dates when they have a chance to come spend time with you and bang your brains out, be a bit of an asshole.
For all you know, you may have had lots of women try to initiate things. Maybe you were just oblivious to it. I've been completely oblivious to such things many times in my life. It's rather easy to dismiss what are clear signals from someone as something other than what they are. Especially since it doesn't happen to men nearly as often as to women. But it *does* still happen.
However, on a website. I don't know. I don't think I could bring myself to give a damn enough to talk to some random stranger just on a website. If I met a girl at a bar, I'd sit and have a drink and a nice chat. Some complete stranger over the internet wanting to have some sort of conversation (and eventually meaningful conversations, if they want to get to know me or something) . . . just seems aggravating and annoying.
But maybe that just comes with age. I know I was more talkative as a youth. After a certain age, you have said everything there is to say enough times that you don't want to say them anymore and you'd just rather not have those conversations, because it's exhausting.
That's an awful lot of bullshit.
I think most men tend not to have too many requirements. The only requirements are something along the lines of "not incredibly stupid, not a prude, and is cute". The specifics on "cute" are not definite. "We know it when we see it", is about all.
I've never judged a woman based on her education, career, religion, what kind of car she drives, how big her home is, whether she lives alone or with parents or roommates or anything else. And neither do most men. We just care if you're kinda cute. On the other hand, there are plenty of people like my friend who has a whole mental checklist of necessary requirements before she'll consider a guy. Such as being at least 6'2", or she won't even give them a second though. I've never known a guy who cared about such things.
Frankly, however, people waste far too much time and energy giving a fuck. Do your own thing and focus on your own interests and careers. There's no necessity to pair up or breed. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, at least you have spent your time and energy improving YOUR life and not wasting it trying to become intertwined with someone else's (and being bombarded with misery in the result, like all the people I know who are divorced or in shitty marriages or have to deal with alimony and child support or crazy drama and endless streams of other bullshit).
What do you expect from a former Psychology Today editor and someone who posts stories on Mashable? It's all about entertainment and catering to the lowest common denominator. It's as panderingly stupid as this radio station I heard tonight, where between every song, the DJs talk with a random caller about "being a single parent" and it was called "single parent night". It was so exciting to hear lame people talk about child support between shitty soccer mom songs.
I find it amusing that it's basically a site full of desperate people taking the desperate action of signing up for a site to find relationships with other desperate people taking the same desperate action all the while everyone pretending toward each other that they're not desperate and that they're all well-rounded, well-off, intelligent, thoughtful, self-effacing, professional, well-educated, attractive, outgoing people who of course are just trolling for relationships on a dating site, because they're just so awesome. Or something.
I don't deal with a lot of people in my line of work, so I can see how online might be an appealing option to open yourself up to meeting more people than you would otherwise encounter. On the other hand, I'd rather remain alone than date people I met online on a dating site.
I would never sign up for such a service, because the last thing I'm looking for is someone that is so desperate that they're signing up for online dating services. Don't get me wrong - I don't dismiss people who meet online and then draw up a relationship in real life. However, going online specifically to put yourself on a shelf with a sign that says "please date me; I'm so lonely and have to pair up so I can be like everyone else" seems kind of . . . blech.
I think people are going a little overboard. Slashdot was fantastic in its prime, but Rob leaving has pretty much zero impact, as far as I'm concerned. It has been *years* since the byline mattered on submissions. It felt, to me, that Slashdot lost its personality years ago. Stories are still posted. People still comment. But the soul has been gone for ages.
Indeed. I occasionally lament that I waited so long before creating an account.
I have to say, it has me considering the same thing. I wonder about others? After all, I can't really see myself spending the rest of my life (or even just another fourteen years) posting crap on slashdot. Maybe this is a catalyst for many of us to move on? I dunno . . . Slashdot is still the only place I bother to go on an almost daily basis.
Slashdot was really at its prime around the Hellmouth days.
We need to continue our strengths. Being a platform where old guys can bitch about kids these days.
I still remember in the beginning of my career, when a colleague came over and showed me this website that he went to every day. A site that a short while later became Slashdot. A site that I read often and, eventually (though far too late to have a cool UID, damn it!) created an account on. It's strange that Slashdot has pretty much been part of my life for my entire career and that it has maintained its ready place in my regular "hangouts" after all this time. Even despite the complaints and failures, it has still had a pull that none of these other linkbaits from Digg after could manage.
Sometimes, I like to go back and read random headlines on Slashdot from years ago. Back when we even paid attention to the byline of a post. Back when people knew why Roblimo was Roblimo. So much has changed around us and this same group of strange geeks has been along for the ride. In this same time, I also ran my own project that started shortly after Slashdot and that I just finally shut off this past year. Experienced the same surprising scaling issues when this thing I did for kicks took off, like Slashdot did. It was a huge experience that consumed most of my life and I, too, experienced the delayed closure. The feeling that it was time to move on, but this nagging hesitance to do so. This feeling that it had been such a part of my life (as Slashdot has been Rob's) that I was almost obligated to continue it and maintain it. And yet, cutting the cord and stepping away has been such a breath of fresh air. Such a release. I can only imagine this must feel much the same way.
Best wishes ahead and all, but I have to say that in light of yesterday's news, maybe this could have been postponed another week to have come across a little less "whacky".
The timing of this is awfully douchey.
Really? I bought Witcher 2 and it required that you login/register via the launch client to prove you own the game.
The best thing you can do for children is weed out the ones who don't want to learn. Instead of being forced to coddle and care for the troublemakers consuming 90% of attention and being violent and disruptive in class and don't want to be there, ditch them and focus on the kids who want to be there and can benefit from the attention that would otherwise be wasted on daycare for some moron's thug kids.
Let those parents find another place for those kids so they can get something catered to them without impacting the rest of the kids.
For adults, school is mostly a place where they can send their children for twelve years of free day care paid for by their fellow taxpayers.
More accurately, you have to train the slaves young, so they will be less likely to question or disobey when they're older.
I obviously don't agree with this stupid new law, but I find the picking and choosing of when it's a violation of rights to be rather hypocritical.
I'm sure these same schools also have all sorts of dress codes that prevent students from exercising their constitutional right to free speech while at school or attending school functions. Yet, it's suddenly a constitutional free speech issue when it comes to helping put state sanctioned child molesters in touch with the students they spend their days preying on.
Aside from that, I can't help but wonder who in the hell wants to friend their teachers on a social network. Even if I can tolerate you until the school bell rings at 3pm or 4pm, that doesn't mean I ever want to have anything to do with you outside of class. You're a teacher; not my buddy.
Not to mention all the little bookstore that were driven out of business BECAUSE BORDERS OR B&N MOVED IN DOWN THE FUCKING STREET.
So no more physical book stores. Who cares? There aren't really physical music stores, either. *shrug*
Old dinosaurs make so much noise before they finally give up and die.
Why do you want a commercial business facilitating the payment of YOUR taxes? Isn't that YOUR business?