This is what qualifies as "amazing" to you"? Sigh.
I'd go with "cool" that we're seeing this kind of thing built into OSes now, but there's nothing amazing about it. The technology is simple backup/restore functionality, moved into "the cloud".
Well, I admit the thumb drive part may confuse people, but it really is a moot step anyway. The video message part is well within reach of probably everyone you know. Phones/iPod Touches can take videos and mail them, or upload them to YouTube. Most laptops have webcams built in, and if you visit YouTube you can record and upload a video direct from the site.
Of course working in IT support, I know some people do call for help way before they should - one person in particular often asks for help and then figures it out herself while she's asking the question - but I know for a fact that even the simplest of people can upload videos to YouTube. I have seen some of their video responses. I wish that I had not.
I completely agree with all of that. That sounds exactly how marriage should be.
Like I've implied elsewhere, I think the change has been a result of people growing up expecting their lives to be like the fairy tales in the movies with happily-ever-afters and soul mates that you mentioned. That resulted in a culture of depression when life didn't quite work out that way.. and that itself is leading to music, TV shows and movies where things are a lot bleaker.. which doesn't really help to make people any happier either.
Fair enough, but my posts have been speaking for all the geeks that have mod points so far, apparently.
I did actually think that I'd get a lot of troll or flamebait mods, as I have a tendency to have extreme opinions - and there are always exceptions to general rules, people with world-views that you can't even begin to understand - but that hasn't happened to any of my posts on this page yet.
Maybe tonight though. I often seem to get downmodded overnight - apparently my opinions often clash with the responsible American worker who only browses Slashdot in the evenings, or something along those lines:p
Like I've said elsewhere, the party part is fine. Of course you should celebrate. Your families will also want to celebrate because they're gaining new members and family ties. Your friends, well, they might actually want to commiserate, because when people get married you tend to see way less of them in my experience (unless you're married yourself - married people seem to form little dinner party cliques).
But anyway, I realised a few years ago that even in a typical boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, it's more important to enjoy each day with your partner rather than be too caught up with ideas of the future or even the past. I'd rather think of every day as special, corny as that is. A wedding signifies an important commitment, but the day itself is not the thing that matters. I'm not sure why a wedding day should be happier than the day that the other person already accepted your proposal for example, as you already know how much you love each other by then. And in the end, beyond the party, it doesn't even really matter to your friends that you've made this commitment to each other either - it's a contract between the two of you, nobody else.
So your logic here is that any 25-30 year old woman who lives her life in the same state of mind as a 3 year old is automatically not a bimbo?;)
I know the baby thing is a biological urge, and the whole wedding thing is pushed from a very young age by Disney movies and the like, but anyone who lets themselves get carried away by urges and societal pressure is going to get a shock when they have to deal with a real relationship and find out that it's not the fairy tale they were hoping for.
I don't think there's any problem with wanting to achieve life goals that you've had for a long time, or even anything wrong with acting like a kid sometimes by the way. I do however think weddings are quite silly, as you say. Why you'd want to get yourself into another decade or so of debt (when you compare the price of a wedding to how much less interest you'd have to pay on a mortgage for example) just to have a more gaudy celebration is beyond me.
Well you could get pre-made cards, but if you're going to the effort of making cards, why aren't you also customising them? The last invitation I received was hand made. The only reply option was a phone number, so I just texted the groom and he said that he'd pass on the response.
Well, all my relatives have email, even my 80 year old grandpa. My great aunts and uncles on the other side too. Anyone that I'd be inviting to a wedding has internet access. If there were anyone who didn't, of course snailmail invitations would be made. That's no reason to use the lowest common denominator for everyone.
Indeed. Haven't you ever met any of those? Poor you.
It's not the sentiment that is the problem, it's the "do it this way, because that's how it's done" part. The type of bimbo who dreams about a massive wedding with everyone fawning over her and her dress, is not the type that geeks are attracted to spending the rest of their life with. She might make a fun girlfriend for a few weeks, but you will get bored of her very quickly.
If you're the one sending out the invitations then snailmail is fine sure, it does add a quaint touch if that's what you care about. But to expect everyone to snailmail back their responses when there are far more sensible options available is just bizarre when we have much more efficient communications methods available.
If I was the one doing the inviting I'd have no problem putting effort in - you can still do that even online. One guy here said that he made a site for people to reply on and specify their food preferences. It would take a lot more than just a minute to design and build if you actually put some effort into the aesthetics, though obviously it would waste a whole lot less time than making physical cards. It makes responding really simple and instantaneous for the invitees, which people no doubt would appreciate.
If it's a geek bride, probably not. They tend to have brains and realise that there are more important things than imagining a day of attention seeking. It's bizarre to me to place so much importance on the act of getting married before you even know who you're going to be marrying
If you fall in love with someone and want to commit the rest of your life to them, then by all means daydream about your wedding day - but it's insane to place so much emphasis on the wedding itself when you've not even met someone you want to marry. In fact it makes it more likely you'll get married just so that you can carry out your fantasy wedding.
The day itself is not important, what is important is the lifetime commitment that it signifies. If people put as much effort into keeping their marriages going as they did for the average wedding, then maybe less would end in divorce.
Wow, I'm trolling hard today.. but I can't help it when it comes to this type of groupthink.
It wasn't big or formal - there were less than 20 of us including the bride and groom. We just had fun being together all weekend, with maybe 5 minutes of ceremony.
That's awesome. The website would probably impress the non-geeks (especially if you put a little effort into making the design classy), and the overall concept would impress the geeks.
Hmm yep, I had the idea that Outlaw Star was made before Cowboy Bebop, but I saw in a forum earlier today the sentiment I expressed above, and assumed I was mistaken. Should have checked.
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Actually, Blackberrys have been doing it for a while too.
This is what qualifies as "amazing" to you"? Sigh.
I'd go with "cool" that we're seeing this kind of thing built into OSes now, but there's nothing amazing about it. The technology is simple backup/restore functionality, moved into "the cloud".
I know. That's why I hid some AIDS in there.
I declare January 29th, "No More Trumped Up Lame Ass Days Day". Also, it's my sister's birthday.
I didn't say it was a valid concept, I just said that people do it! People are stupid. :p
I haven't seen it mentioned in your posts, so I thought I'd point out the NorthKorea account is the same guy.
we're going to have to decide what % of the population is going to be permanently unemployed.
That dere would be the jenetically soopeerier ones - owin to all the fuckin that they be havin time for.
Well, I admit the thumb drive part may confuse people, but it really is a moot step anyway. The video message part is well within reach of probably everyone you know. Phones/iPod Touches can take videos and mail them, or upload them to YouTube. Most laptops have webcams built in, and if you visit YouTube you can record and upload a video direct from the site.
Of course working in IT support, I know some people do call for help way before they should - one person in particular often asks for help and then figures it out herself while she's asking the question - but I know for a fact that even the simplest of people can upload videos to YouTube. I have seen some of their video responses. I wish that I had not.
I completely agree with all of that. That sounds exactly how marriage should be.
Like I've implied elsewhere, I think the change has been a result of people growing up expecting their lives to be like the fairy tales in the movies with happily-ever-afters and soul mates that you mentioned. That resulted in a culture of depression when life didn't quite work out that way.. and that itself is leading to music, TV shows and movies where things are a lot bleaker.. which doesn't really help to make people any happier either.
Fair enough, but my posts have been speaking for all the geeks that have mod points so far, apparently.
I did actually think that I'd get a lot of troll or flamebait mods, as I have a tendency to have extreme opinions - and there are always exceptions to general rules, people with world-views that you can't even begin to understand - but that hasn't happened to any of my posts on this page yet.
Maybe tonight though. I often seem to get downmodded overnight - apparently my opinions often clash with the responsible American worker who only browses Slashdot in the evenings, or something along those lines :p
Hmm.. you've not visited YouTube recently it seems.
I'm not sure if I can actually recommend that you do make such a visit.. but it would certainly be educational.
Cool. Apologies if my comments were insulting, I guess that has proven me wrong :)
Like I've said elsewhere, the party part is fine. Of course you should celebrate. Your families will also want to celebrate because they're gaining new members and family ties. Your friends, well, they might actually want to commiserate, because when people get married you tend to see way less of them in my experience (unless you're married yourself - married people seem to form little dinner party cliques).
But anyway, I realised a few years ago that even in a typical boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, it's more important to enjoy each day with your partner rather than be too caught up with ideas of the future or even the past. I'd rather think of every day as special, corny as that is. A wedding signifies an important commitment, but the day itself is not the thing that matters. I'm not sure why a wedding day should be happier than the day that the other person already accepted your proposal for example, as you already know how much you love each other by then. And in the end, beyond the party, it doesn't even really matter to your friends that you've made this commitment to each other either - it's a contract between the two of you, nobody else.
So your logic here is that any 25-30 year old woman who lives her life in the same state of mind as a 3 year old is automatically not a bimbo? ;)
I know the baby thing is a biological urge, and the whole wedding thing is pushed from a very young age by Disney movies and the like, but anyone who lets themselves get carried away by urges and societal pressure is going to get a shock when they have to deal with a real relationship and find out that it's not the fairy tale they were hoping for.
I don't think there's any problem with wanting to achieve life goals that you've had for a long time, or even anything wrong with acting like a kid sometimes by the way. I do however think weddings are quite silly, as you say. Why you'd want to get yourself into another decade or so of debt (when you compare the price of a wedding to how much less interest you'd have to pay on a mortgage for example) just to have a more gaudy celebration is beyond me.
Well you could get pre-made cards, but if you're going to the effort of making cards, why aren't you also customising them? The last invitation I received was hand made. The only reply option was a phone number, so I just texted the groom and he said that he'd pass on the response.
Well, all my relatives have email, even my 80 year old grandpa. My great aunts and uncles on the other side too. Anyone that I'd be inviting to a wedding has internet access. If there were anyone who didn't, of course snailmail invitations would be made. That's no reason to use the lowest common denominator for everyone.
Indeed. Haven't you ever met any of those? Poor you.
It's not the sentiment that is the problem, it's the "do it this way, because that's how it's done" part. The type of bimbo who dreams about a massive wedding with everyone fawning over her and her dress, is not the type that geeks are attracted to spending the rest of their life with. She might make a fun girlfriend for a few weeks, but you will get bored of her very quickly.
If you're the one sending out the invitations then snailmail is fine sure, it does add a quaint touch if that's what you care about. But to expect everyone to snailmail back their responses when there are far more sensible options available is just bizarre when we have much more efficient communications methods available.
If I was the one doing the inviting I'd have no problem putting effort in - you can still do that even online. One guy here said that he made a site for people to reply on and specify their food preferences. It would take a lot more than just a minute to design and build if you actually put some effort into the aesthetics, though obviously it would waste a whole lot less time than making physical cards. It makes responding really simple and instantaneous for the invitees, which people no doubt would appreciate.
If it's a geek bride, probably not. They tend to have brains and realise that there are more important things than imagining a day of attention seeking. It's bizarre to me to place so much importance on the act of getting married before you even know who you're going to be marrying
If you fall in love with someone and want to commit the rest of your life to them, then by all means daydream about your wedding day - but it's insane to place so much emphasis on the wedding itself when you've not even met someone you want to marry. In fact it makes it more likely you'll get married just so that you can carry out your fantasy wedding.
The day itself is not important, what is important is the lifetime commitment that it signifies. If people put as much effort into keeping their marriages going as they did for the average wedding, then maybe less would end in divorce.
Wow, I'm trolling hard today.. but I can't help it when it comes to this type of groupthink.
It wasn't big or formal - there were less than 20 of us including the bride and groom. We just had fun being together all weekend, with maybe 5 minutes of ceremony.
That's awesome. The website would probably impress the non-geeks (especially if you put a little effort into making the design classy), and the overall concept would impress the geeks.
Exactly. My favourite wedding was my uncle's - we hired out a small mansion/hotel for a weekend and just had a family get together :)
Even better!
As long as you could respond via email or even Facebook, I'd think anything was cool. I hate sending letters or making calls.
You might as well classify people by their choice in beverages.
People do that all the time.
Hmm yep, I had the idea that Outlaw Star was made before Cowboy Bebop, but I saw in a forum earlier today the sentiment I expressed above, and assumed I was mistaken. Should have checked.